From the homie -
DamaliXDares
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/DamaliXDares
Ok guys & gals today's topic is very personal and I am curious to
know all of your responses.
I have worked on and off in Corporate America since before I became
an Adult Video Actress in 2003. Several months prior to the year &
half I originally worked in the "porn" biz I quit my corporate
marketing job in order to live my life as I saw fit…NO BOSS telling
me what to do!
One year into the "porn biz" I made the decision to move from Sunny
So Cal to Hot & Steamy Atl. Originally I planned to shoot g/g vids
for Heatwave Video and attend school fulltime. When I first moved to
Atlanta I was overwhelmed with all the stares, guys and girls coming
up to me asking me if I did vids.. interrupting dates, etc. Atlanta
was totally different than LA- home of the stars. It got to a point
where I decided I would leave the industry for good…start
fresh ..attend school…and at some point maybe even get married and
have a kid. You know live the honorable standup life my family
wanted me to live.
At that point I got a job as a manager at Victoria Secret Beauty in
the Lenox Mall…however I still was unable to escape the overwhelming
number of people who came into the store or saw me on a lunch break
that wanted to discuss my "porn career" or share their favorite
scene with me…or ask me how to get into the biz. So I decided to
return to Corporate America. I found a job that paid well offered
tuition reimbursement and excellent benefits.
From the moment I started I hated the job! My immediate supervisor
was a "hater"…you know the older, manipulative, BOSSY, unhappy can't
get a man type of woman. It was trouble from the beginning…..we
constantly bumped heads…she made my life a living hell…basically she
attempted to have me fired because she hated the fact I was so well
received others within the office. But that's what happens when the
HEAD Boss decides to hire a social butterfly…we Soar!
Nonetheless her attempts at getting me fired did not work…and by 6
months into my gig I was promoted…my innovation paid off and I
actually able to create my own position. However I still HATED my
job…by this point the damage was so bad…I just could not get passed
these ill feelings.
But to top it all off…my biggest fear happened…a male manager at my
job made comment that my tattoo looked very familiar. He then went
on to say that he had seen me on the internet but my secret was safe
with him. He then asked me out on a date…lmao
So I begin to wonder in a building of over 500 employees who else
might have recognized me??? For two years I basically went under the
radar.. although I did get interesting stares and some comments
there was nothing serious. Even one of my close friends at work
broke down and told me she happened to have one of my videos at home…
and didn't realize it was me at first….until she heard my laugh..go
figure
But besides this there wasn't much for me to worry about…so I thought
Then one day I started getting all these questions from guys through
out the building working in other departments. One of the guys
confided in me that a new guy I didn't know was going around telling
people that there was a "Porn Star" working at my company. This
idiot even went as far as bringing in a box cover to prove his point
to disbelievers…he even told our Facilities Manager. God only knows
how many people he as actually informed.
Ok so at this is the dilemma…I am torn as to what I should do…I
already hate my job…the human resources manager HATES me because I
went to EEOC on them(long story)…and I am starting to be really
uncomfortable because the stares from the perverted guys in my
office are getting worse…and fools are always trying to
discuss "porn" with me at work. I have spoken to 2 of the guys that
were questioned and I asked that the stop discussing my personal
business in the work place. I also told them that it would be
in "Big Boy's" (guy who brought movie 2 work) best interest to drop
it if he valued his job.
What are your thoughts of "Porn Stars" merging into Corporate
America? Can it work? Why? Why not? Also how should I or another
industry chic handle situations like this?
DamaliXDares
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/DamaliXDares
Ok guys & gals today's topic is very personal and I am curious to
know all of your responses.
I have worked on and off in Corporate America since before I became
an Adult Video Actress in 2003. Several months prior to the year &
half I originally worked in the "porn" biz I quit my corporate
marketing job in order to live my life as I saw fit…NO BOSS telling
me what to do!
One year into the "porn biz" I made the decision to move from Sunny
So Cal to Hot & Steamy Atl. Originally I planned to shoot g/g vids
for Heatwave Video and attend school fulltime. When I first moved to
Atlanta I was overwhelmed with all the stares, guys and girls coming
up to me asking me if I did vids.. interrupting dates, etc. Atlanta
was totally different than LA- home of the stars. It got to a point
where I decided I would leave the industry for good…start
fresh ..attend school…and at some point maybe even get married and
have a kid. You know live the honorable standup life my family
wanted me to live.
At that point I got a job as a manager at Victoria Secret Beauty in
the Lenox Mall…however I still was unable to escape the overwhelming
number of people who came into the store or saw me on a lunch break
that wanted to discuss my "porn career" or share their favorite
scene with me…or ask me how to get into the biz. So I decided to
return to Corporate America. I found a job that paid well offered
tuition reimbursement and excellent benefits.
From the moment I started I hated the job! My immediate supervisor
was a "hater"…you know the older, manipulative, BOSSY, unhappy can't
get a man type of woman. It was trouble from the beginning…..we
constantly bumped heads…she made my life a living hell…basically she
attempted to have me fired because she hated the fact I was so well
received others within the office. But that's what happens when the
HEAD Boss decides to hire a social butterfly…we Soar!
Nonetheless her attempts at getting me fired did not work…and by 6
months into my gig I was promoted…my innovation paid off and I
actually able to create my own position. However I still HATED my
job…by this point the damage was so bad…I just could not get passed
these ill feelings.
But to top it all off…my biggest fear happened…a male manager at my
job made comment that my tattoo looked very familiar. He then went
on to say that he had seen me on the internet but my secret was safe
with him. He then asked me out on a date…lmao
So I begin to wonder in a building of over 500 employees who else
might have recognized me??? For two years I basically went under the
radar.. although I did get interesting stares and some comments
there was nothing serious. Even one of my close friends at work
broke down and told me she happened to have one of my videos at home…
and didn't realize it was me at first….until she heard my laugh..go
figure
But besides this there wasn't much for me to worry about…so I thought
Then one day I started getting all these questions from guys through
out the building working in other departments. One of the guys
confided in me that a new guy I didn't know was going around telling
people that there was a "Porn Star" working at my company. This
idiot even went as far as bringing in a box cover to prove his point
to disbelievers…he even told our Facilities Manager. God only knows
how many people he as actually informed.
Ok so at this is the dilemma…I am torn as to what I should do…I
already hate my job…the human resources manager HATES me because I
went to EEOC on them(long story)…and I am starting to be really
uncomfortable because the stares from the perverted guys in my
office are getting worse…and fools are always trying to
discuss "porn" with me at work. I have spoken to 2 of the guys that
were questioned and I asked that the stop discussing my personal
business in the work place. I also told them that it would be
in "Big Boy's" (guy who brought movie 2 work) best interest to drop
it if he valued his job.
What are your thoughts of "Porn Stars" merging into Corporate
America? Can it work? Why? Why not? Also how should I or another
industry chic handle situations like this?
