Open marriage: Who's OK With This? Will's wifey is.....

[destrehan]

This curious ass muhfucka ...





Are you familiar with the terminology openmarriagegrown? Just asking ...




Ok, I gots luv fah you followup, but I gotta be fair here, the epistle above seems a bit judgmental as well. I'm just saying ...

stop smilin when you scold a bitch homey. makes em think you aint serious.

 

[Superfly772]

Interesting topic. I for one totally agree with the open marriage rule. I've been doing it for years and it has brought the cheating factor down to almost zero.

I think the biggest thing with cheating is the dishonesty that goes along with it. if your honest about your desires and your partner is too. Then that to me is what keeps it together. if your not lying to your wife about sex, what is there to lie about? ? ? ?

 

[onyxfemme]

Lying before God and my family - blah, those words are lost on me. It's no one's business what I do in my own home. We don't need everyone adding their two cents. If it works for us than that is what we'll do.

It was not my husband's idea at all. I wasn't into women when we first married, but begin to develop those feelings as time went on. I didn't hide or deny it. I immediately told my hubby. We talked about it for months and I made the decision to act on my feelings. She was MY girlfriend at first. After a while, we all became close.

I never ridiculed marriage. I ridiculed insecure women.



Yes. Legally married for several years now.

No other man has or will ever be in this situation.

No children.

Do I believe in an open marriage? Nope...
Do I believe in keeping things spicy?? Yes..
Flirting.....Yes
Men are going to look at other women and women are going to look at men...And some women will look at other women

Having said that who am I to knock what 2 grown consensual(sp?)adults decide on in their home?
They are not hurting anyone and if they like it, well I love it.
It may not work for me and mine but it may work for others.
And if it doesnt work....Then that is the parties that are involved business.

 

[followup]

Ok, I gots luv fah you followup, but I gotta be fair here, the epistle above seems a bit judgmental as well. I'm just saying ...

Well that's where the "J" in ENFJ comes from

Edit: And she called me ugly!

 

[sean69]

stop smilin when you scold a bitch homey. makes em think you aint serious.

Bitch, S.T.F.U.




<--- Not 'smilin'

 

[jucurious]

This curious ass muhfucka ...

i guess i did a good job w/ choosing my handle huh


oh yeah...


don't start w/ me Sean

 

[Mo-Better]

See now you sound like you're trying to justify to yourself why your relationship is o.k. You basically stood up and lied before God & your family about you & your husband being in a monogamous relationship with each other. If it's so great, why do you have to hide it from your family?

I have a feeling that it was your husband who first brought up this "girlfriend" business. Maybe he brought it up as a threesome, you enjoyed the freak session, and then you got convinced that you needed a 3rd person. But I know good and well that when you stood up and took your vows you did not have this 3rd party in mind. You may not have even been friends with this person at that time.

But don't sit here judging faithful, monogamous women because you decided to have a permanent 3 some. I have no problem with polyamory--that's your choice. But don't ridicule marriage.

It seems you have very strong feeling regarding this matter. I however cannot and don't not judge others.

HoneyDewWop has a unique situation which goes against the grain of what most would consider acceptable. However for her this unique situation (presently) is one in which she and the other participants seems happy. How many people can truly say they are happy with their situation at home?

I can't say I condone it however I for one cannot knock and will not knock anothers lifestyle. This situation is unique and it's working for them so I wish them the best.

 

[owl]

It seems you have very strong feeling regarding this matter. I however cannot and don't not judge others.

HoneyDewWop has a unique situation which goes against the grain of what most would consider acceptable. However for her this unique situation (presently) is one in which she and the other participants seems happy. How many people can truly say they are happy with their situation at home?

I can't say I condone it however I for one cannot knock and will not knock anothers lifestyle. This situation is unique and it's working for them so I wish them the best.

True inded, god. It is easy to get comfortable(euphemism for complacent) with our standard of living, or our prescribed standard if we ourselves are not living it. But when we encounter those who chose to be different, our self-righteous nature can be a blind spot to understand what makes even us happy.

 

[TheIntelCritic]

Like someone else said, why even get married? It just doesn't make sense.

Will Smith has led Jada down a path I am sure Jada had no intention of ever treading. Life is good for Jada, so, to keep it good, Jada just decided to accept the immoral parameters of their relationship.

I'm sure this arrangement was not premeditated prior to Will and Jada getting married. Will cheated, all hell broke loose, and this was the pathetic excuse to topically fix the problem and let the behavior continue. I'm sure Jada is not cool with this shit on the inside. Every time you see her in a photo, she doesn't look happy, but she stays with Will to save face.

I will tell you one thing though, Will Smith thinks this arrangement is all good, but wait until the right nigga hits on Jada. Will is not going to be able to take it, guaranteed.

 

[owl]

Like someone else said, why even get married? It just doesn't make sense.

Will Smith has led Jada down a path I am sure Jada had no intention of ever treading. Life is good for Jada, so, to keep it good, Jada just decided to accept the immoral parameters of their relationship.

I'm sure this arrangement was not premeditated prior to Will and Jada getting married. Will cheated, all hell broke loose, and this was the pathetic excuse to topically fix the problem and let the behavior continue. I'm sure Jada is not cool with this shit on the inside. Every time you see her in a photo, she doesn't look happy, but she stays with Will to save face.

I will tell you one thing though, Will Smith thinks this arrangement is all good, but wait until the right nigga hits on Jada. Will is not going to be able to take it, guaranteed.

Not be surprised by the next man's nuggets, but it is Will we are speakin on....

 

[Blunt]

Like someone else said, why even get married? It just doesn't make sense.

Will Smith has led Jada down a path I am sure Jada had no intention of ever treading. Life is good for Jada, so, to keep it good, Jada just decided to accept the immoral parameters of their relationship.

I'm sure this arrangement was not premeditated prior to Will and Jada getting married. Will cheated, all hell broke loose, and this was the pathetic excuse to topically fix the problem and let the behavior continue. I'm sure Jada is not cool with this shit on the inside. Every time you see her in a photo, she doesn't look happy, but she stays with Will to save face.

I will tell you one thing though, Will Smith thinks this arrangement is all good, but wait until the right nigga hits on Jada. Will is not going to be able to take it, guaranteed.

You're delusional. You just made all that shit up. (God knows why.) There's no reason to believe any of the above is true. The Smiths have no "arrangement."

And some people wonder why I keep reiterating that this is all nonsense. Apparently certain folks are just obsessed with this thing, even though it's obvious now that it's fiction. Amazing.

 

[destrehan]

Bitch, S.T.F.U.




<--- Not 'smilin'

ohhh, you one of DEM niggas. my fault. back to your regularly scheduled simpin.

*backs out of thread*

 

[followup]

Hmmm... If someone says "I have to ask my wife if it's o.k. to have sex with so-and-so, but she'll MOST LIKELY say 'no' ", that means that there is a possibility that she will say yes. Which means the marriage is "open" to having sex with others. Maybe it's not open in the sense of polyamory and having deep meaningful relationships with others, but it's definitely open for sex with others. Seems like this is a semantics thing but Will has said multiple times that he can ask permission to sleep with other women from Jada.

 

[followup]

I never said that I had an open marriage. What I said is that our relationship is based on 100% truth. That, no matter what, there’s never going to be something that I would say or do that I wouldn’t tell her first. And then the interviewer said, well, what if you were with Eva Mendes and you wanted to … I said, well, I would say to my wife—if that situation presented itself—I would say, “Honey, I want to sleep with Eva Mendes, is that OK?” And, you know, SHE'D PROBABLY SAY NO. But the point was, how can you expect to be successful in a relationship if you’re not telling your partner the 100% truth? The fact that the interviewer could take that in the direction he took it showed me where he is in his relationship, you know?

Will Smith reckons it’s healthy to fancy other people when you're married and has no qualms telling his wife when he does.

The actor – who tied the knot with Jada Pinkett Smith 11 years ago – is determined to be honest about how he feels.

‘Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people,’ Will explains.

‘So sometimes we have the discussion: “Wow, this or that girl is freaking gorgeous”. I’m not going to say anything to my buddies that’s any different than what I say to my wife.’

And Will, 39, reckons he'll tell Jada - and she'll tell him - if they ever feel the need to have sex with others.

Each will say: 'I’m not going to do it if you don’t approve of it,’ he says.

But Will's not sure what he'd do if one day Jada, 38, confides that she does want to take a lover.

‘I don’t know how I’d feel,’ he confesses. ‘But I know I would react better than if I found out about it afterwards.’

The devoted couple are mum and dad to son Jayden, 10, and daughter Willow, 8.

Will - who is currently starring in Hancock with Charlize Theron - is also dad to son Willard from his first marriage.

We are not in their private life so we don't know if they have or haven't dipped out--and I doubt the would tell a magazine if they did. But clearly they have an understanding that with the other's approval they can sleep with others. These are his own words, not mine and not my imagination...

 

[Blunt]

But clearly they have an understanding that with the other's approval they can sleep with others. These are his own words, not mine and not my imagination...

No THEY DON'T. All Will Smith said (jokingly) was that since he was so HONEST in his marriage he'd probably feel the need to tell his wife if he was ever sexually interested in someone before he did anything. PERIOD. Never said he ever actually did do anything. Never said he ever wanted to. And never said there was any "agreement" to allow him (or her) to do so. Most likely Jada would kick him out on his ass.

Which part of "we have no open marriage" is beyond your understanding? Folks are sick with this. So eager to believe something salacious about a "perfect couple," despite all evidence to the contrary. Better check yourself (and your reading comprehension).

 

[sean69]

ohhh, you one of DEM niggas. my fault. back to your regularly scheduled simpin.

*backs out of thread*

Yeah bitch. Keep walking.

Ol' what in da butt lookin' ass niccu'.

Niccu'.

 

[UnoBetter2]

Yeah all this shit is cool until we start discussing who Jada is or have fucked and then all of a sudden she'll be a HO! Personally I think the don't ask don't tell policy is whats best in this case. What you don't know wont hurt you and everyone is happy, maybe deceived but happy!!

 

[watchin]

Yeah all this shit is cool until we start discussing who Jada is or have fucked and then all of a sudden she'll be a HO! Personally I think the don't ask don't tell policy is whats best in this case. What you don't know wont hurt you and everyone is happy, maybe deceived but happy!!

C/S 100%

 

[Mo-Better]

Yeah all this shit is cool until we start discussing who Jada is or have fucked and then all of a sudden she'll be a HO! Personally I think the don't ask don't tell policy is whats best in this case. What you don't know wont hurt you and everyone is happy, maybe deceived but happy!!

You know what, it's even cool then because its their lives. What we say or think doesn't matter.

As for the "don't ask don't tell policy" that takes them from being up front about what's on their minds to CHEATING!. Explain how cheating can possibly be better than being up front about their intentions. Being dishonest or deceitful never works in relationships.

 

[Blunt]

Hmmm... If someone says "I have to ask my wife if it's o.k. to have sex with so-and-so, but she'll MOST LIKELY say 'no' ", that means that there is a possibility that she will say yes.

No, that just means he's NEVER ASKED such a stupid question of her before and assumes she'll most likely say "go to hell."

Which means the marriage is "open" to having sex with others.

WTF??? You're truly insane.

Seems like this is a semantics thing but Will has said multiple times that he can ask permission to sleep with other women from Jada.

NO, HE HASN'T SAID ANYTHING OF THE SORT!!!!! He said that he's so crazily honest in the relationship that he'd probably be compelled to tell her his every thought regarding another woman, if he ever actually did have such a desire or opportunity. Hasn't ever happened and there's no reason to believe it will. He just used that as an EXAMPLE of how ridiculously honest and trusting their relationship is (and internet idiots picked it up and purposely distorted it into something that it wasn't, like the gossipy fools that they are).