I dont need to watch this to know that there are some good black men out there ... I've never said there werent
Same here. I'm one. My co-workers are (two of them, at least. One of them is a 48 year old no good that I wouldn't hook up with anybody I knew or liked).
The fact is this: When Smokey's mama told him he'd better shop around, it seems Black men took it FAR too literally. Man-whoring is supposed to last until the end of your college years (16-23) then you are supposed to have seen enough to know what you want AND be able to have made yourself "marketable" so that someone worthwhile would want YOU.
Stop Playing
Similar to a person having a hard time adapting to first grade because there are no toys, many Black men have a hard time adapting to the responsibility of a relationship. If you talk to many of them, they will tell you that they plan on man-whoring until their late 30's, maybe 40's, THEN they will settle down. The problem with that is that it is too late. Like a 65 year-old factory working grandmother going to school to get her Master's Degree, who is going to want to hire you when you get done?
The guys have fun doing what they do, playing "the game" that they play and they don't HAVE to stop playing. No one makes them. Females give up the ass still, so there is no reason to stop to get some steady ass because they are getting steady ass-many times from multiple sources.
"Little Johnny, put down those blocks. It's time to learn."
"No!"
Add to all of this the fact that we are told by many of those around us, from our peers to those slightly to a lot older than us that we should get as much ass as we can get. They don't tell us until when. They leave it up to us. And what kid do you know that stops playing on his own, without having to be urged, told or threatened?
It doesn't happen.
So now you have most of the Black men doing exactly that. Playing forever. There are those of us who either know because we were told differently, or realized that there is more to life than man-whoring, settled down and sought out a woman that can encapsulate as many of our needs/wants as possible. Those are the good guys. But we are dwarfed by an extremely large margin to the guys that plan on playing until the batteries die. Until they are the old men at the club and can't pick up any women. Women don't demand it. They give the cows milk away, so there is no need to buy the cow. They will accept eating shit instead of hay. Claim they want hay, but constantly walk past it for the manure.
Where are the good men? They are out there. They are like stars in the sky. There are a lot of stars, but there is much more darkness. Where does the blame lie? On both the men and the women. The women don't force men to be good men, they accept boys pretending to be men, they lie to themselves that the boy will one day become a man, and the men, many of them at least, don't do bettter because they aren't made to put down the toys. Many remain boys, and that, I have to say is a shame.
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@ That last part.
