Life is Interesting: You ever just sit back and think...

[MzKittyDelicious]

Life is Interesting: You ever just sit back and think about where u
are in life?

I was sitting over here having a mental review/ checkup on my life and
I got to thinking about how when I was in high school I had my life
all planned out. My plan was to party, go to college and graduate... then be
married by 26 and pregnant with my first child in that same year.

Teachers and Church members used to warn my mother to keep a close eye
on me because I might get out of hand. I had people saying I would be
the one knocked up. *shrugs* I guess because I developed at an early age.

Who would of thought I would be not married, never been pregnant, and
a career woman?! I mean forget what the fuck all the bad shit people
wished on me... Besides graduating from college, I am tripping that none of my plans came into action.

I mean, I'm not saying I've had a bad life... I am actually really
blessed, hell I am in God's favor... but this life is not the one I
had originally planned for myself.

*shrugs* I guess having a plan is better then no plan....


Anyways the topic is... think back to your very first time... lolll
j/k naw seriously is this the life you had planned for yourself back
in grade school?! hell, did u even have a plan or did life just
happen? if you had a plan, what was it and if it is different... how so?

 

[SHADOWHUNTA]

CEELO SAID IT BEST "YOU NEED TO GET UP GET OUT GET SOMTHIN'"
WHO WANTS TO LOOK BACK ON THEY LIFE AND WONDER WHAT COULDA BEEN
BEST LIVE YAH LIFE TO THE FULLEST

 

[thismybgolname]

I always assumed by the age of 26 that I would have already had started a company and been bought out by Microsoft.

Graduating from college was never something that I thought about because it was something that I knew I needed to do.

Me with kids, nope.

The reality however is that I'm 26, working for a fortune 500 company, no where near rich nor building anything that a software company would purchase and I have a child.

One of the things that I've come to accept is that I'm only in control of so much and that everything happens for a reason (what doesn't kill you will make you stronger).

I doubt that any of the things that I used to tell myself when I was younger will come not true but they sure didn't come when I wanted them to.

Prime example:

When I graduated from H.S. I wanted to go to Morehouse.

My mom couldn't afford OU let alone Morehouse so I settled for an in state school.

Fast forward to now and I'm moving to Atl where I plan on eventually being able to pay for Morehouse on my own.


May not come when you want but it's always on time.

I wrote a few posts on there being no such thing as a coincidence on my blog, pretty funny how things play out.

 

[Iron]

I am two months shy of two decades of life on this earth.

Sometimes I forget how young I am.

I feel older. I forget that most people my age are in the exact same place as me. Career, education,financially.

I don't know why but I always feel like I'am behind and that i have to rush and catch up or get ahead.

That probably comes from me being such a big procrastinator.



It doesn't help that most of my peers seem to be going backwards when it comes to their level of maturity and education.

Most people are content with just getting by and not wanting to stand out and feel special, in good or bad situations.

People are afraid to be different. I'am tired of meeting the same person over and over again.

and the girls my age...we need different thread for that.

And my family. My god we need another thread for them too.

Lately I've been having an ominous feeling about life.

Not cool.

But I'am satisfied with my life.

I need a bit more motivation to help get me started on some good projects and ideas I've been holding on to.

Having a solid women would definitly help too.

I think back and I have no regrets about life. I wish i could have avoided a few embarrasing moments but who doesn't?

 

[followup]

I am doing a lot of that right now. And also trying to see if I can realize some of the dreams that I thought would never happen. As far as starting businesses and investing and being a little more sexually liberated. I feel like now is the time

(my original comment was short)
I do not think that I am where I expected to be 5 or 10 years ago. I am not married yet, no kids, I don't love my occupation. I am rethinking a lot of the choices I have made in life, and trying to see if I can make some big moves in my life and get back the joy I had 5 or 10 years ago. We'll see

 

[owl]

My life has been such an adventure that it is very difficult to gauge it in terms of success and failure...

I am so much more than I ever thought I could become...

The thing with me is that I have had to fight for every inch and it brought me to a level of awareness and confidence that many may never reach...

But I have to agree with ShadowHunter still, because me reflecting on the past in this aspect is jacking off my ego, and I still have some roads to travel...

 

[Machete]

In grade school I planned on having super powers by age 21. So, no, life didn't work out the way I thought that it would.

 

[Iron]

In grade school I planned on having super powers by age 21. So, no, life didn't work out the way I thought that it would.

For along time I wanted to be first black president.

Looks like someones is about to beat me to it.

 

[bigirl]

I am two months shy of two decades of life on this earth.

you are an old soul for real

 

[Izayoi]

you are an old soul for real

Truly Iron is an old soul- a beautiful one

Life...Plans

Everyday is a big question mark, but career wise I always wanted to love what I do and not live for the weekend and that at least has worked out for me.
My personal life- oh dear- some interesting twists there for sure

My vision of life is ever evolving.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

I am two months shy of two decades of life on this earth.

Sometimes I forget how young I am.

I feel older. I forget that most people my age are in the exact same place as me. Career, education,financially.

I don't know why but I always feel like I'am behind and that i have to rush and catch up or get ahead.

That probably comes from me being such a big procrastinator.



It doesn't help that most of my peers seem to be going backwards when it comes to their level of maturity and education.

Most people are content with just getting by and not wanting to stand out and feel special, in good or bad situations.

People are afraid to be different. I'am tired of meeting the same person over and over again.

and the girls my age...we need different thread for that.

And my family. My god we need another thread for them too.

Lately I've been having an ominous feeling about life.

Not cool.

But I'am satisfied with my life.

I need a bit more motivation to help get me started on some good projects and ideas I've been holding on to.

Having a solid women would definitly help too.

I think back and I have no regrets about life. I wish i could have avoided a few embarrasing moments but who doesn't?

deep

Truly Iron is an old soul- a beautiful one

Life...Plans

Everyday is a big question mark, but career wise I always wanted to love what I do and not live for the weekend and that at least has worked out for me.
My personal life- oh dear- some interesting twists there for sure

My vision of life is ever evolving.

C/S

 

[Iron]

you are an old soul for real

Truly Iron is an old soul- a beautiful one

deep

Making a black man blush.

 

[Mo-Better]

Life is Interesting: You ever just sit back and think about where u
are in life?

I was sitting over here having a mental review/ checkup on my life and
I got to thinking about how when I was in high school I had my life
all planned out. My plan was to party, go to college and graduate... then be
married by 26 and pregnant with my first child in that same year.

Teachers and Church members used to warn my mother to keep a close eye
on me because I might get out of hand. I had people saying I would be
the one knocked up. *shrugs* I guess because I developed at an early age.

Who would of thought I would be not married, never been pregnant, and
a career woman?! I mean forget what the fuck all the bad shit people
wished on me... Besides graduating from college, I am tripping that none of my plans came into action.

I mean, I'm not saying I've had a bad life... I am actually really
blessed, hell I am in God's favor... but this life is not the one I
had originally planned for myself.

*shrugs* I guess having a plan is better then no plan....


Anyways the topic is... think back to your very first time... lolll
j/k naw seriously is this the life you had planned for yourself back
in grade school?! hell, did u even have a plan or did life just
happen? if you had a plan, what was it and if it is different... how so?

I'm not sure we're not related. I remember hearing the same type of talk when I was growing up. Funny how life works out. Out of all my cousins from my generation I was the only one not to have illegal children. I was the one who was supposed to be the big failure.

So yeah at times its fun to sit back and reflect on life. What it is vs. what it could've been. The what if's, the X-factor, no one really knows how their life will turn out. You can take steps in one direction but still there's no guarantee.

 

[jucurious]

well well well nice topic

when I was in grammar & high school here were my plans:

career: be a corporate or litigation lawyer at Sullivan & Cromwell & then become a supreme court justice.
personal: move far away from my family (to some loft apartment somewhere metro), get healthy, be in a serious relationship in college and get married while I do my Ph.D. and have kids like 3 yrs later all by the age of like 28

seriously those were my plans. i was one of those kids who wrote down everything and i still have it and still do it

anyway..fastfoward to now
career: I got to college and after doing an internship and some classes I realized that politics calls for too much bull...all the lying, cutting side deals and what not so screw that. I actually got my bachelors in Psych...something I said was STUPID as hell but fell in love with...haha and now I'm pursuing my M.S.W.....and then hopefully my Ph.D. I wont be done will all of this until I'm like 28 or 29. I had to take time out from school to help the family I couldn't stand soo much.
personal: The serious relationship thing didn't work out so that postpones the marriage and kids theory. Also, I live within an hour from my family, and try to help them all the time and I'm still working on the getting healthy part.



so yeah....life has def put some road blocks up and it made me have to postpone things by a couple of years but I'm learning about myself and growing in the process so I can't be mad.

 

[bigirl]

I had a very stressful and traumatic childhood. All I wanted was to be able to do my art, chill and pretty much do what I wanted when and how I wanted. Thats basically what I have been doing so its cool for the most part. I remember when I was looking at colleges and majors I got really depressed. I was like thats all there is? I thought I was going to have to pick the lesser evil from a bunch of things I didn't really like. My choice was psychologist with minor in environmental biology and music theory The best choice I ever made in life was to get my refund on the last day and took the $ and went to Tuscon gem show and invested it in supplies for my art and devoted myself to that. I still haven't even used all those supplies yet and that was 20 years ago and many of them have substantially increased in value as well.

The only thing I really want to change now is that I have lived my whole life flowing with the vibes. Things always work out for me but usually at the last minute. I am used to it but it keeps you on the edge of your seat alot of times. I need to get a little more stability in my life. Then everything will be perfect.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

My plan in grade school was to go to Harvard and eventually become a lawyer. That was all over once I got to high school and realized how long i would have to be in school. lol

At this point I'm a few classes from graduation and engaged to be married. In grade school, I wanted no part of marriage or children. lol. I wanted to be a "playa" Now I can't wait to start life and start a family. Oh and working with children was definitely not my goal but again here I am lol

 

[hawk919]

I had so many different plans for my life

I used to want to work for Marvel Comics, writer/creator or a penciler

Then I wanted to be pro wrestler, even visited a couple of wrestling schools but they was too redneck for me

I went to college and majored in graphic design
dropped out of college
Worked for Delta Airlines and traveled the world (for free)
got married at 24

Just got back in school and working for U.S Airways and American Airlines

Trying get a job in Graphic/Web Design
maybe have some kids
open a Dog Rescue or a kennel on the side

I knew I never wanted to grow up
but I did

 

[MzKittyDelicious]

I am two months shy of two decades of life on this earth.

Sometimes I forget how young I am.

I feel older. I forget that most people my age are in the exact same place as me. Career, education,financially.

I don't know why but I always feel like I'am behind and that i have to rush and catch up or get ahead.

That probably comes from me being such a big procrastinator.



It doesn't help that most of my peers seem to be going backwards when it comes to their level of maturity and education.

Most people are content with just getting by and not wanting to stand out and feel special, in good or bad situations.

People are afraid to be different. I'am tired of meeting the same person over and over again.

and the girls my age...we need different thread for that.

And my family. My god we need another thread for them too.

Lately I've been having an ominous feeling about life.

Not cool.

But I'am satisfied with my life.

I need a bit more motivation to help get me started on some good projects and ideas I've been holding on to.

Having a solid women would definitly help too.

I think back and I have no regrets about life. I wish i could have avoided a few embarrasing moments but who doesn't?

this is really nice...

 

[AlexandMorgan]

When i was young i never took the time to think about my future because i thought when 2000 hit it would be the end of the world. Religion without proper instruction or explanation is a dangerous thing.

I was picked on in school and had low self confidence until i learned to love myself as i am. Now i get from people that i am arrogant.

I spent so much of my time trying to please people and hardly took the time to think about what i wanted for myself. Never got any helpful advice from adults that i cared to listen to so i am now trying to make something for myself.

I wanted to be a historian but that went through the window but if i ever get the chance i will become a teacher because then i could do something which i know i will love.

 

[p5ych3]

Life is Interesting: You ever just sit back
and think about where u are in life?

I was sitting over here having a mental review/ checkup on my life and
I got to thinking about how when I was in high school I had my life
all planned out. My plan was to party, go to college and graduate... then be
married by 26 and pregnant with my first child in that same year.

Teachers and Church members used to warn my mother to keep a close eye
on me because I might get out of hand. I had people saying I would be
the one knocked up. *shrugs* I guess because I developed at an early age.

Who would of thought I would be not married, never been pregnant, and
a career woman?! I mean forget what the fuck all the bad shit people
wished on me... Besides graduating from college, I am tripping that none of my plans came into action.

I mean, I'm not saying I've had a bad life... I am actually really
blessed, hell I am in God's favor... but this life is not the one I
had originally planned for myself.

*shrugs* I guess having a plan is better then no plan....


Anyways the topic is... think back to your very first time... lolll
j/k naw seriously is this the life you had planned for yourself back
in grade school?! hell, did u even have a plan or did life just
happen? if you had a plan, what was it and if it is different... how so?

Bombcherry

I was one of those goofy tunnel vision dudes. I still am which is good in
that when i have a task i focus on it till its done. oblivious to distractions.

I was kicked out of school in the caribbean. spent a year or so drifting thru
jobs. Never thought I would be working in corporate america in the US

I used to say to hell with owning a home. i'll just rent let others take care
of things. Now i'm talking to my brother about buying a house or 2.

I've realized its good to have plans, but life and experience shape the
direction we take. Sometimes opportunity will favor us (i.e. luck) or some
hater will throw a monkey wrench into things. We just have to be open
minded and prepared for such situations.

 

[NICKLEBAGKILLA]

I used to tell people I was gonna be a millionaire by 35.

Growing up, you couldn't tell me I wasn't going to be playing third base for the Mets. Then, I stopped growing. I am the same height now that I was in the 7th grade. 5 ft 8.

Then, I was gonna be a rapper... but Biggie and Jay-Z came along and changed the game and my style wasn't gonna sell...

So I fell back on one of my other passions (photography) and now I'm a photographer in Atlanta...

Still ain't a millionaire though (yet)

 

[SWATLANTA]

1.)8th grade-I wanted to graduate with engineering degree
first two years of college-interned with Georgia Power and found I detested most of the engineers that I was around on a daily basis and switched major
now-work in insurance (underwriting) and real estate and I am seriously contemplating becoming a teacher.


2.)8th grade- Possible career in pro basketball or at least a D-1 scholarship
middle of 11th grade- blew out my knee (ACL and MCL)
now-coaching 14 years olds basketball


3.)8th grade-I'd be married by 28 with three kids, 2 boys and a girl
now-31 and single with no legit prospects on the horizon

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

1.)8th grade-I wanted to graduate with engineering degree
first two years of college-interned with Georgia Power and found I detested most of the engineers that I was around on a daily basis and switched major
now-work in insurance (underwriting) and real estate and I am seriously contemplating becoming a teacher.


2.)8th grade- Possible career in pro basketball or at least a D-1 scholarship
middle of 11th grade- blew out my knee (ACL and MCL)
now-coaching 14 years olds basketball


3.)8th grade-I'd be married by 28 with three kids, 2 boys and a girl
now-31 and single with no legit prospects on the horizon

 

[SWATLANTA]

Let me rephrase that, 31 and single and waiting for Sexy Scorpio to come to Atlanta so we can get this thing started...

 

[black again]

Great topic! Bob Marley said, "Life is one big rode with lots of signs." And if you have a map, at an early age, and stick to it, life can be so much easier. I didn't do that. Didn't plan. Didn't stay on course. I was too busy having fun to do anything like REALISTICALLY plan my life and set goals. The funny thing about life...even if you don't know where you're going, sometimes you find your destination even though you didn't follow your map. That's been me. I've been blessed. Truly. I gotta admit, it's been a helluva ride!

 

[Izayoi]

Great topic! Bob Marley said, "Life is one big rode with lots of signs." And if you have a map, at an early age, and stick to it, life can be so much easier. I didn't do that. Didn't plan. Didn't stay on course. I was too busy having fun to do anything like REALISTICALLY plan my life and set goals. The funny thing about life...even if you don't know where you're going, sometimes you find your destination even though you didn't follow your map. That's been me. I've been blessed. Truly. I gotta admit, it's been a helluva ride!

Lovely, BA!

 

[Crown&Coke]

I used to wanna play in the NBA, that dream ended my senior year of high school.

Then I wanted to be an architect and go to LSU but that didnt work out

Once I got to college, I switched majors a few times and eventually got to the point where I didnt know what I was gonna do, I even considered dropping out

Then switched my major to Sociology, which at first I did just to graduate quick but then really liked it.

Now I am about to graduate and hopefully end up in grad school.

As far as marriage and kids and all that, I never had a plan on that but after a few bad relationships I know what kind of woman I wanna marry, just havent found her yet.​

 

[bigirl]

I would have thought I would have a family by now

 

[Iron]

I would have thought I would have a family by now

Really? You don't seem like the family type.

 

[bigirl]

Really? You don't seem like the family type.

I meant when I was smaller I thought I would have one by now.

 

[Eva Hornae]

Great topic! Bob Marley said, "Life is one big rode with lots of signs." And if you have a map, at an early age, and stick to it, life can be so much easier. I didn't do that. Didn't plan. Didn't stay on course. I was too busy having fun to do anything like REALISTICALLY plan my life and set goals. The funny thing about life...even if you don't know where you're going, sometimes you find your destination even though you didn't follow your map. That's been me. I've been blessed. Truly. I gotta admit, it's been a helluva ride!

real talk bro, real talk!

 

[The Magnificent Butcher]

My life has essentially been a collection of haphazard decisions that rarely happen. I always used to only dip my toe in the waters of life and stuck relatively close to what I actually knew.
I'm from a small town. I always wanted to get a university education and move onto better things. In fact my main goal was to go for Law or Criminal Psychology. After "graduating" (a term little used in the UK) I decided against going to university because I wasn't ready at the time. In fact, my brother caused me to stay home. My brother was a heroin addict at the time. He used to steal my mum's money, sell my shit and have serious bouts of aggression. In short, he was a fucking mess. I stayed to make sure he didn't ruin my mum's life.
So I stayed home. I eventually got myself a mundane customer service job paying moderately well and stuck to it.
Then life changed. I met a woman online (is that an oxymoron?) and we became friends.
Long story short, we got together.
I came to the US and married her. In doing so I have a brand new outlook on life. It's like breaking away from the chains on mundane life has given me a new sense of freedom. I finally feel like myself, I'm in college and working towards one of my two goals...English teacher or Psychologist. It's going to be a hard journey but, for once, I feel I can handle it.
Life is going how I want it to right now. It has its ups and downs, don't get me wrong. There are obstacles to get over but I'm doing so and take it as they come.
I'm also hoping to evolve spiritually. Not through some God (I'm an Atheist) but through self-development. As well as physically exploring the world (I'm hoping to live in China for a year in 2009 or 2010), I'm trying to make myself a better person and seeking a point when I'm truly comfortable with myself.
Life isn't what I expected it to be but I think that's the point. I've rolled with the punches and still turned out ok, I think.

 

[Izayoi]

My life has essentially been a collection of haphazard decisions that rarely happen. I always used to only dip my toe in the waters of life and stuck relatively close to what I actually knew.
I'm from a small town. I always wanted to get a university education and move onto better things. In fact my main goal was to go for Law or Criminal Psychology. After "graduating" (a term little used in the UK) I decided against going to university because I wasn't ready at the time. In fact, my brother caused me to stay home. My brother was a heroin addict at the time. He used to steal my mum's money, sell my shit and have serious bouts of aggression. In short, he was a fucking mess. I stayed to make sure he didn't ruin my mum's life.
So I stayed home. I eventually got myself a mundane customer service job paying moderately well and stuck to it.
Then life changed. I met a woman online (is that an oxymoron?) and we became friends.
Long story short, we got together.
I came to the US and married her. In doing so I have a brand new outlook on life. It's like breaking away from the chains on mundane life has given me a new sense of freedom. I finally feel like myself, I'm in college and working towards one of my two goals...English teacher or Psychologist. It's going to be a hard journey but, for once, I feel I can handle it.
Life is going how I want it to right now. It has its ups and downs, don't get me wrong. There are obstacles to get over but I'm doing so and take it as they come.
I'm also hoping to evolve spiritually. Not through some God (I'm an Atheist) but through self-development. As well as physically exploring the world (I'm hoping to live in China for a year in 2009 or 2010), I'm trying to make myself a better person and seeking a point when I'm truly comfortable with myself.
Life isn't what I expected it to be but I think that's the point. I've rolled with the punches and still turned out ok, I think.

That's a great testimony Mag B Falling in love changes everything one way or the other!

 

[Iron]

My life has essentially been a collection of haphazard decisions that rarely happen. I always used to only dip my toe in the waters of life and stuck relatively close to what I actually knew.
I'm from a small town. I always wanted to get a university education and move onto better things. In fact my main goal was to go for Law or Criminal Psychology. After "graduating" (a term little used in the UK) I decided against going to university because I wasn't ready at the time. In fact, my brother caused me to stay home. My brother was a heroin addict at the time. He used to steal my mum's money, sell my shit and have serious bouts of aggression. In short, he was a fucking mess. I stayed to make sure he didn't ruin my mum's life.
So I stayed home. I eventually got myself a mundane customer service job paying moderately well and stuck to it.
Then life changed. I met a woman online (is that an oxymoron?) and we became friends.
Long story short, we got together.
I came to the US and married her. In doing so I have a brand new outlook on life. It's like breaking away from the chains on mundane life has given me a new sense of freedom. I finally feel like myself, I'm in college and working towards one of my two goals...English teacher or Psychologist. It's going to be a hard journey but, for once, I feel I can handle it.
Life is going how I want it to right now. It has its ups and downs, don't get me wrong. There are obstacles to get over but I'm doing so and take it as they come.
I'm also hoping to evolve spiritually. Not through some God (I'm an Atheist) but through self-development. As well as physically exploring the world (I'm hoping to live in China for a year in 2009 or 2010), I'm trying to make myself a better person and seeking a point when I'm truly comfortable with myself.
Life isn't what I expected it to be but I think that's the point. I've rolled with the punches and still turned out ok, I think.

Damn B'. This is the way to do it. Congrats on breaking those chains.

How's your Mom and brother?

Anybody who's had to live with a family member that's an addict knows how desperate and depressing life can become.

I'am glad you got up and out and started taking care of yourself and enjoying life.

 

[alyric]

Great topic! Bob Marley said, "Life is one big rode with lots of signs." And if you have a map, at an early age, and stick to it, life can be so much easier. I didn't do that. Didn't plan. Didn't stay on course. I was too busy having fun to do anything like REALISTICALLY plan my life and set goals. The funny thing about life...even if you don't know where you're going, sometimes you find your destination even though you didn't follow your map. That's been me. I've been blessed. Truly. I gotta admit, it's been a helluva ride!

My road map was laid out for me ("go to college and be a doctor, lawyer or engineer") but I didn't agree with it. Instead of saying something about it or figuring out what I wanted for myself, I drifted along doing jack shit for about three or four years. Then I found my voice and started speaking some things into existence. I'm still not where I want to be, but to quote the illustrious Martin Lawrence, "i'm a ride this till the wheels fall off"