Ladies I Need Some Help/Advice For My Mom and Hairstyles/Stylists

[OnSlaught]

I know the title is weird, but I feel bad for my mom right now. As a man I know how it can be to get what you DIDN'T pay for in regards to a haircut. I've walked out plenty of times finding something they fucked up on or sometimes refusing to pay all together because they just did a half ass job because they were rushing to get more heads in the chair.

My question is for a Black lady who is light-skinned in her late 50s (but looks like she is in her early 40s) and has wavy but silky hair (maybe a combination of wavy and curly) what should she do? She finds that when going to most Black hairdressers they try to treat her hair with a hot comb and grease, or make her hair bone straight. Mostly they try to do that cookie-cutter bullshit. When she goes to a White hairdresser they normally freeze up and won't do her hair because they are scared to mess up.

So what should she do? Are there any instructions that she should tell them to do with her hair to have it cut the way she wants and not their cookie-cutter bullshit way? Can she get her hair cut while it's curly without it being straightened?

Her hair texture is something like this and she probably wants a cut like one of these three:

Hey, I don't know. I'm just a guy tryin' to help his mom out...

Thanks in advance and sorry for the novel....

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Go to a Dominican salon,trust me she will love it.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Sounds like her hair may also have a fine texture to it...

How long is her hair is the first question I have?

She can get her hair razor cut so that she doesn't have to deal with having it "straightened" before they cut it...

I would advise going to a salon, like one that uses Aveda products, so it won't weigh down her hair... Do a consultation with a stylist FIRST before allowing them to do anything to your hair. Try the link below to find a salon in your area too

http://www.essence.com/packages/salonnetwork/listing.html

It's the salon finder from Essence.com, so it should be a good start.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Go to a Dominican salon,trust me she will love it.

I don't know if she'll go for that...

Dominican salons usually try and straighten your hair to the tee, taking all texture out of it and it sounds like his mom might be wanting to keep her texture.

Their salons are great for getting you through if you relax you hair, but I wouldn't recommend it for someone who has a curly texture and wants to keep it that way.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Not all of them,I have been to plenty that do well with curly hair. It depends on where you go,not everyone that goes there wants their hair straight.


Also Ons, start asking some women you see on the street who does there hair,if it doesnt make you feel uncomfortable.

I don't know if she'll go for that...

Dominican salons usually try and straighten your hair to the tee, taking all texture out of it and it sounds like his mom might be wanting to keep her texture.

Their salons are great for getting you through if you relax you hair, but I wouldn't recommend it for someone who has a curly texture and wants to keep it that way.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Not all of them,I have been to plenty that do well with curly hair. It depends on where you go,not everyone that goes there wants their hair straight.


Also Ons, start asking some women you see on the street who does there hair,if it doesnt make you feel uncomfortable.

Good points. I know, in New York, they'd try from all angles to get me to relax my hair when I was growing it out natural and just wanted them to wash it and style it

 

[OnSlaught]

Go to a Dominican salon,trust me she will love it.

Shit, if there were any Dominicans in Pittsburgh I'd go to them for my haircut. The best haircuts I received up in Providence, RI were from Dominicans. However, I'm not familiar with them doing women's hair.

Sounds like her hair may also have a fine texture to it...

How long is her hair is the first question I have?

Right now her hair is a bit past shoulder length if not right at shoulder length. She's just really unsatisfied with the hairdressers here. Out of the 13 yrs she's been here, she's only had 2 hair stylists cut her hair the way they wanted, and both have moved away since then.


She can get her hair razor cut so that she doesn't have to deal with having it "straightened" before they cut it...

I would advise going to a salon, like one that uses Aveda products, so it won't weigh down her hair... Do a consultation with a stylist FIRST before allowing them to do anything to your hair. Try the link below to find a salon in your area too

http://www.essence.com/packages/salonnetwork/listing.html

It's the salon finder from Essence.com, so it should be a good start.

I don't know if she'll go for that...

Dominican salons usually try and straighten your hair to the tee, taking all texture out of it and it sounds like his mom might be wanting to keep her texture.

Their salons are great for getting you through if you relax you hair, but I wouldn't recommend it for someone who has a curly texture and wants to keep it that way.

Not all of them,I have been to plenty that do well with curly hair. It depends on where you go,not everyone that goes there wants their hair straight.


Also Ons, start asking some women you see on the street who does there hair,if it doesnt make you feel uncomfortable.

Good points. I know, in New York, they'd try from all angles to get me to relax my hair when I was growing it out natural and just wanted them to wash it and style it

Thanks you all for the suggestions. I gave my mom the websites and address information of the salons from the Essence website.

She said that she wants her hair to look like this:

So I'm gonna print this picture out and have her take it to the hair salon.

Again, thank you guys for the advice. I just want to see my mom happy...

 

[JofromthaNO]

That's nice of you, Ons...

Older black women can have a really difficult time with their hair, as it tends to become more brittle and fine as they age...

My mom has gone through a lot of changes with her hair in the last few years, but once she found a stylist that suited her, it really made all the difference

 

[sean69]

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j/k.

 

[onyxfemme]

A natural hair stylist may also be a good idea for her. I have a friend w/ hair texture like that and the naturalists seem to be the only ones that do right by her.
Side note: Kudos to her on having a son that cares-thats whats up

 

[DeSiRe]

sounds like the stylists shes been seeing suck

she needs to find a stylist that does healthy hair...u can find them in any city...and they use better quality products and dont weigh ur hair down with gel and grease...

they do charge more...but ive been getting my hair done professionally since i was 8 and ive learned with hair care u definatly get what u pay for

your mother could go natural but that would require her to do some research along with finding a stylist that specializes in natural hair

she has options

 

[watchin]

She needs to find someone who knows how to cut and shape curls.

Have her research salons and stylists in her area that specialize in curly hair. Curly hair in all textures and thicknesses. A good place to start is www.naturallycurly.com or www.napturally.com.