Be it physical or mental?
How did you get out of it?
How did you get into it in the first place?
How did you get out of it?
How did you get into it in the first place?
Ladies, have any of you ever been in an abusive relationship?
- Thread starter femmenoire
- Start date
I have never had the misfortune of being in that type of relationship. However, I know for myself it would not end pretty. I can become quite violent when attacked and I can guarantee he'd not look/feel the same after.
I have had only one incident where a guy who I was NOT even seeing tried to grab me because I told him I wasn't interested. I was a lot younger at the time and we were not around any one else. It was a lot nerve racking. And he left my arm a little bruised and I swore I'd muck up anyone that messed with me like that again.
I have had only one incident where a guy who I was NOT even seeing tried to grab me because I told him I wasn't interested. I was a lot younger at the time and we were not around any one else. It was a lot nerve racking. And he left my arm a little bruised and I swore I'd muck up anyone that messed with me like that again.
Physical-Yes, at first he would just yell right into my face like some drill sergant. I mean he would get right to the tip of my nose and yell and when I would try to move away he would follow me and cotinue yelling the same way. Then he started shoving me, next he would do punk stuff like hit me in my back. I am calm person for the most part, but when I snap it is all over. I loose it. One day he tried that mess and clicked and choked him up against the wall, for some reason my dad and brother were stopping through and saw me at the right time. They got me off of him and that fool tried to swing on me in front of my dad and my brother........
I swear on my kids ya'll...My dad, my brother and I kicked his ass and then put him in the my Tracker (that should tell you how long ago this was) and dropped him off in front of the hospital and rolled out.
He was alright, didnt press charges...But whenever I see him to this day he apoligizes to me and tells me he still loves me and my fam.
I am telling ya'll I could right a book about my life.
Mental-??? Give me a little time and I will come back and tell ya'll about that.
I swear on my kids ya'll...My dad, my brother and I kicked his ass and then put him in the my Tracker (that should tell you how long ago this was) and dropped him off in front of the hospital and rolled out.
He was alright, didnt press charges...But whenever I see him to this day he apoligizes to me and tells me he still loves me and my fam.
I am telling ya'll I could right a book about my life.
Mental-??? Give me a little time and I will come back and tell ya'll about that.
Ive been in one and it was when I was really young--18-19. It was a mental/control thing. When I look back on it, there were clear signs, but, those signs appear "cute" in the beginning. For example, someone who always calls and asks WHO WHAT WHERE WHEN WHY and HOW. Or, someone who is overprotective over you especially when it comes to guys you just happen to know. It's a long time ago now so I don't remember exactly everything, but I quickly realized my man at the time was a lil crazy and got out of it.
I was recently in a mentally/emotionally abusive one. How did I get into it? Well he was really really sweet at first. He was a scorpio control freak but would control in very strange ways, doing and saying things to upset me on purpose just to see my reaction(how much i liked him or whatever). I can't tell you the amount of huge wars we had and how many times I tried to get rid of him. The cycle went something like this:
1) he causes a huge fight and terrible things are said back and forth
2) i tell him leave me the fuck alone
3) he accuses me of doing some foul shit that i didn't do
4) i get even madder
5) he waits until he thinks i cooled down usually a few weeks and comes back around oh so sweet, apologetic and begging
5) i forgive him, we discuss not ever going thru that again
6) we have a few blissful and harmonious months
7) cycle repeats again
just finally got rid of him. how? I have just had enough. It also helps that he is a few thousand miles away. He has tried dumb little immature stuff like having mutual friends call me "oh he was asking about you" but I ain't biting.
1) he causes a huge fight and terrible things are said back and forth
2) i tell him leave me the fuck alone
3) he accuses me of doing some foul shit that i didn't do
4) i get even madder
5) he waits until he thinks i cooled down usually a few weeks and comes back around oh so sweet, apologetic and begging
5) i forgive him, we discuss not ever going thru that again
6) we have a few blissful and harmonious months
7) cycle repeats again
just finally got rid of him. how? I have just had enough. It also helps that he is a few thousand miles away. He has tried dumb little immature stuff like having mutual friends call me "oh he was asking about you" but I ain't biting.
Physical-Yes, at first he would just yell right into my face like some drill sergant. I mean he would get right to the tip of my nose and yell and when I would try to move away he would follow me and cotinue yelling the same way. Then he started shoving me, next he would do punk stuff like hit me in my back. I am calm person for the most part, but when I snap it is all over. I loose it. One day he tried that mess and clicked and choked him up against the wall, for some reason my dad and brother were stopping through and saw me at the right time. They got me off of him and that fool tried to swing on me in front of my dad and my brother........
I swear on my kids ya'll...My dad, my brother and I kicked his ass and then put him in the my Tracker (that should tell you how long ago this was) and dropped him off in front of the hospital and rolled out.
He was alright, didnt press charges...But whenever I see him to this day he apoligizes to me and tells me he still loves me and my fam.
I am telling ya'll I could right a book about my life.
Mental-??? Give me a little time and I will come back and tell ya'll about that.
Sorry to know you've had to deal with these type abuses. I've never respected any man that felt the need to abuse a women physically or mentally. To me its always been better to sever the relationship go our seperate ways rather than having to sleep with one eye open.
I was in one for about 2 and a half years. It wasn't ever physical but the fear was there.
I was young and definitely dumb then.
I'm just happy I finally got the sense to leave.
I was young and definitely dumb then.
I'm just happy I finally got the sense to leave.
This is exactly how it was for me! You explained it perfectly
That's sounds rough. I'd like to know how y'all broke the cycle. It takes strength to get out of a foul relationship, but it takes a Queen to stop the next man from abusing you worst than the last.
What changes did you make when you left him in the dirt?
What changes did you make when you left him in the dirt?