Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relationships

[Rick Ronson]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Be careful and at least know that the game is rigged so protect yourself at all times.​

 

[Amajorfucup]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

We need to start the change by logging off of this bitch, overly lusting after these hoes, spend more time with our families and stop jacking off to porn. I've come to realize that most of us on here are just as much a part of the problem as the women we complain about. it's all about personal revolution/change. The more we (men and women) focus on what best for our bodies, minds and souls as individuals the closer we get to complaining less about others. For example this could be as simple a getting a job and stop being a "bum" or quitting your job as President of a corporation to follow your dreams, Loosing weight, stop smoking, etc depends on the individual. The more we exhibit self love for ourselves as individuals the more the overall picture of the "state" of black men an women will improve in our communities. Unfortunately change will not come quickly because "the change" must take place on and individual level.

Well said.

 

[Dirty Hubcaps]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

maybe talib kweli needs to click on this thread


Talib Kweli’s Wife Attacks Him During Album Release Party


damn, so even chewstick herbal tea backpack rappers gotta deal with out of pocket women as well, huh? this did make me LOL for real though. and please dont start with that "disagreements are a normal part of relationships" shyt. disagreements are one thing, arguments are another. but launching into a tables, ladders & chairs match at a nicca's album release party is some dysfunctional shyt

 

[SaKem]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

I've met a few of these. These women usually accept that what they are looking for is not going to happen because the entire picture is unrealistic or they have some conflicting issues.

You know what the problem is? Its actually really simple.

What is the problem? What do black relationships fail? I'm sure my theory can be applied to other races as well but here it is.

Lack of Substance.

Think about it. View this from the eyes of a hobby less, boring, no life person. Say you have a person that gets up and goes to work. They might turn on a black radio station and listen to music as they make the drive. They get to work and do their job. Occasionally they talk about others relationships and what they will be doing that weekend. When they get home, all they watch is music videos, black comedy, and well that's about it.

The weekend comes or if they can't wait, they go to a club looking for the right connection. They meet that person because they look good to them. They don't have any hobbies or substance about them so they don't look for it. Usually the other person is exactly the same way. After a few dates, if that, the two of them ignorantly thrust themselves into a relationship. They have absolutely nothing in common, any hobbies or substances and individuals, and are completely boring but do not realize it.

Time sets in.

This can vary from a day to years. Boredom starts to show its face because they only do four events together. Those events are home life, eating, some dining, and sex. Conflicts start involving all kinds of stuff because there was no dating period or getting to know each other. Not to mention, there is no substance or hobbies between them to really tie the two together. Eventually, one of the two will fall back into the old routine of clubbing or events that involve the opposite sex. Boredom compounded with ongoing problems fed by a new desire for something that is better leads to infidelity.

The relationship ends.

The cycle simply starts over with someone else!

Think I'm wrong? Think of your current relationship, past ones, friends, or family members love life. Do they have any thing in common? Do anything together? Any hobbies? Any likes? Anything they both enjoy other than basic stuff? Did they get to know each other?


Substance.

Its the glue that holds relationships together when all of the initial flare goes away. That along with just taking the time to find out if a woman is a fit for you. After a man has determine what he wants and if can honestly tell himself that he has something to offer a woman.

This is the main reason I crack up when I read posts from young idiots on this forum asking if dating is still done.

Black women generally dont like substance, they consider that sqarish. Not all but most.

 

[kinglickk]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

what is the point of a relationship? If a man is capable of doing everything for himself and he is educated with a great job and has no desire to reproduce, why would he invite a woman in to ruin what he has going. Once he can get some female company (PUSSY) when he wants it, what's the point of latching on to some female permanently.

 

[Llano]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

maybe talib kweli needs to click on this thread


Talib Kweli’s Wife Attacks Him During Album Release Party


damn, so even chewstick herbal tea backpack rappers gotta deal with out of pocket women as well, huh? this did make me LOL for real though. and please dont start with that "disagreements are a normal part of relationships" shyt. disagreements are one thing, arguments are another. but launching into a tables, ladders & chairs match at a nicca's album release party is some dysfunctional shyt

Kweli has no one to blame but himself. I'm sure there were plenty of warning signs on this woman before he married her . I guess he thought things would change after marriage....

what is the point of a relationship? If a man is capable of doing everything for himself and he is educated with a great job and has no desire to reproduce, why would he invite a woman in to ruin what he has going. Once he can get some female company (PUSSY) when he wants it, what's the point of latching on to some female permanently.

My friend, you almost described me to a "T". Even though I have a girl, she knows my stance on marriage and having kids. Sometimes it bugs her but I've told her not to let me hold her up if she wants to be married with kids.

The problem is is that both men and women are living in a fantasy rather than reality. We have fat chicks with multiple kids thinking that they're dimes and broke cats thinking that they're Diddy or Lil Wayne. Aside from the obvious issues that involves some flaws in our upbringing, we really need to start being realistic in relationships and state exactly what we want from the jump. Just my 2 cents...

 

[Autobot8655]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

what is the point of a relationship? If a man is capable of doing everything for himself and he is educated with a great job and has no desire to reproduce, why would he invite a woman in to ruin what he has going. Once he can get some female company (PUSSY) when he wants it, what's the point of latching on to some female permanently.

hmmmm thats a hard one

You myopic cats kill me...i swear

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

hmmmm thats a hard one

You myopic cats kill me...i swear

hittem doc

 

[True Real Info]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

its really every person for themselves....everyone is looking for things they cant provide and demanding things they are not compatible with..

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

am i the ONLY ninja who has had good relationships with Black women for 20 years?

i mean yeah, there were a few dumbasses out the bunch but over all its been a positive experience.

 

[True Real Info]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

am i the ONLY ninja who has had good relationships with Black women for 20 years?

i mean yeah, there were a few dumbasses out the bunch but over all its been a positive experience.

no you are not

but what Im seeing is a mixture of:

people who run around not knowing what they truly want and are getting into,having false expectations about themselves and others

idealistic people with no experience

the usual hustlers,simps,hoes and refurbished hoes tryin to get people for what they have...

its a recipe for disaster and the only victims are the kids, or people who get raped

 

[sammyjax]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

am i the ONLY ninja who has had good relationships with Black women for 20 years?

i mean yeah, there were a few dumbasses out the bunch but over all its been a positive experience.

maybe for twenty of em, gramps ...

but me and mine have been together for 11 next month, still love and respect each other and more importantly we still LIKE each other. we spend most of our time laughing and can see that our kid (2 y/o) is a very happy, emotionally healthy little person for getting to see it, which makes us even happier. we've seen people meet, fall in love, get married, fall out of that shit and get divorced several times during our time together.

i don't know if blaming anyone is the right thing to do. if anything, i just realize how rare it is to find someone you are truly compatible with and how important it is to treat the situation right when you do.

i've done it both ways and for real, all that player shit, @ least as it's advertised on bgol, is for the fuggin boids. i've been around the globe, made and blew bread, fucked hoes in palaces...none of that shit compares to everybody's faces lightin up when daddy comes home.

i wish you cats luck.