Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relationships

[ArsenalCannon357]

One of the things that outted a couple of my friends on was the fact that most women these days are SINGLE "BY CHOICE"..

The other was that ..more women have no clue on what they want in a relationship and have no idea how to treat a man but they know how they want to be treated..

I'm getting closer to 30 and It looks like a minefield out there for Brothers. Some of the mindset of these women are amazing

 

[Autobot8655]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

One of the things that outted a couple of my friends on was the fact that most women these days are SINGLE "BY CHOICE"..

The other was that ..more women have no clue on what they want in a relationship and have no idea how to treat a man but they know how they want to be treated..

I'm getting closer to 30 and It looks like a minefield out there for Brothers. Some of the mindset of these women are amazing

You are half right

Thats what brothas dont get.

Black relationship issues are caused by both women and men.

This blaming the women bullshit...is just that...bullshit.

Both American black men and women have been screwed.

The sad shit is that we consistently blame each other.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

You are half right

Thats what brothas dont get.

Black relationship issues are caused by both women and men.

This blaming the women bullshit...is just that...bullshit.

Both American black men and women have been screwed.

The sad shit is that we consistently blame each other.

I'm just going by myself as a man.. I understand a lot of women catch hell too...but as I stated I see more of them putting themselves in that situation by dealing with dudes they know are not good for them...now who's fault is that?

 

[Cannibal]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Another woman bashing thread. Cool. Niggas don't need to take any blame whatsoever we are the perfect specimens, women though...damaged goods, confused, broken. Tsk tsk tsk.

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Another woman bashing thread. Cool. Niggas don't need to take any blame whatsoever we are the perfect specimens, women though...damaged goods, confused, broken. Tsk tsk tsk.

I said I understand women catch it to man...READING IS FUNDAMENTAL

 

[Deacs]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

It requires both sides to have accountability of their faults in not only the choices and why they choose that man or woman, but their actions in the relationship as it begins to dissolve. And all those side chair and YouTube therapists are horrible on that accord in their lives.

Both sides do a poor job of it

 

[Dirty Hubcaps]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Another woman bashing thread. Cool. Niggas don't need to take any blame whatsoever we are the perfect specimens, women though...damaged goods, confused, broken. Tsk tsk tsk.

you masculine feminist dudes are hilarious. "another woman bashing thread" as if the idea of holding black women accountable is out of line, MEANWHILE you have entire television networks, movies & magazines devoted to doing the exact same thing for women but on a much grander scale than a porn board? dafukkouttahere. go ahead & defend ebony sister mother earth if you want to but dont come in here with that holier than thou bullshit as if they dont do the same thing. i do agree that in order to have a healthy dialogue solutions need to be put forth not just bitching but that doesnt happen without having an uncensored conversation

 

[kwazdog]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Another woman bashing thread. Cool. Niggas don't need to take any blame whatsoever we are the perfect specimens, women though...damaged goods, confused, broken. Tsk tsk tsk.

We need to start the change by logging off of this bitch, overly lusting after these hoes, spend more time with our families and stop jacking off to porn. I've come to realize that most of us on here are just as much a part of the problem as the women we complain about. it's all about personal revolution/change. The more we (men and women) focus on what best for our bodies, minds and souls as individuals the closer we get to complaining less about others. For example this could be as simple a getting a job and stop being a "bum" or quitting your job as President of a corporation to follow your dreams, Loosing weight, stop smoking, etc depends on the individual. The more we exhibit self love for ourselves as individuals the more the overall picture of the "state" of black men an women will improve in our communities. Unfortunately change will not come quickly because "the change" must take place on and individual level.

 

[ShortyCumStain]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Another woman bashing thread. Cool. Niggas don't need to take any blame whatsoever we are the perfect specimens, women though...damaged goods, confused, broken. Tsk tsk tsk.

So, um...where's da woman bashing bein' done at???

 

[freshnclean]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

You are half right

Thats what brothas dont get.

Black relationship issues are caused by both women and men.

This blaming the women bullshit...is just that...bullshit.

Both American black men and women have been screwed.

The sad shit is that we consistently blame each other.

This is very true, both sides are truly fucked up, and dealing with inner demons. Too many men seeking advice from men, and too many women seeking advice from women. Both sexes need to sit at the round table and chop it up. In our community, theres too many people that dont wanna listen, thinking they have all the answers, and no willingness to humble themselves enough to learn about the opposite sex.

I'm just going by myself as a man.. I understand a lot of women catch hell too...but as I stated I see more of them putting themselves in that situation by dealing with dudes they know are not good for them...now who's fault is that?

If a woman is dealing with a dude that is lying thats his fault. If she is a dealing with a dude that she knows aint no good for her, thats all her fault

 

[cnc]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Another woman bashing thread. Cool. Niggas don't need to take any blame whatsoever we are the perfect specimens, women though...damaged goods, confused, broken. Tsk tsk tsk.

 

[True Real Info]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

We need to start the change by logging off of this bitch, overly lusting after these hoes, spend more time with our families and stop jacking off to porn. I've come to realize that most of us on here are just as much a part of the problem as the women we complain about. it's all about personal revolution/change. The more we (men and women) focus on what best for our bodies, minds and souls as individuals the closer we get to complaining less about others. For example this could be as simple a getting a job and stop being a "bum" or quitting your job as President of a corporation to follow your dreams, Loosing weight, stop smoking, etc depends on the individual. The more we exhibit self love for ourselves as individuals the more the overall picture of the "state" of black men an women will improve in our communities. Unfortunately change will not come quickly because "the change" must take place on and individual level.

 

[malaki]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

man canyall niggies quit simping for just one wweek? its layers holiday. NO MORE simp threads in 2010

 

[elchoccolatte]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

The sad shit is that we consistently blame each other.


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[LennyNero1972]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

These mangina ass niggas crack me up. Anyway relationships these days are pretty much fucked. If you are in a good marriage or relationship, cool, but for the most part shit seems to be falling apart.

 

[malaki]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

These mangina ass niggas crack me up. Anyway relationships these days are pretty much fucked. If you are in a good marriage or relationship, cool, but for the most part shit seems to be falling apart.

man id pay ten buuks amon just to hear these simpp tales. this shit is priceless my nifgg. bitchnigga online i tell u nn

 

[Andros the magician]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Did I miss the woman bashing?

 

[cb71109]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

The problem with relationships is power struggle. If a man/woman don't get what they want, majority of the time they are unhappy. Healthy relationships are about compromise for a lovely union. Until men are done being selfish and afrsid to be a human, women will always have shitty choices vice versa.

 

[ron_mexico]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

I would say there are a lot of woman who choose to be single. There are a certain % of woman who feel If you can't provide them with a fantasy lifestyle, then why get married. There are also a certain % who refuse to cater to a man, who detest the idea of submission, yet they are turned off by a compromising man. So they stuck in a limbo of frustration...

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

The problem with relationships is power struggle. If a man/woman don't get what they want, majority of the time they are unhappy. Healthy relationships are about compromise for a lovely union. Until men are done being selfish and afrsid to be a human, women will always have shitty choices vice versa.

exactly

 

[malaki]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Stop simpiang

 

[^SpiderMan^]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

You are half right

Thats what brothas dont get.

Black relationship issues are caused by both women and men.

This blaming the women bullshit...is just that...bullshit.

Both American black men and women have been screwed.

The sad shit is that we consistently blame each other.

YUP...there is a great disconnect between black men and women.We both take blame.

 

[freshnclean]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

The problem with relationships is power struggle. If a man/woman don't get what they want, majority of the time they are unhappy.

The reason most men and women in relationships cant get what they want, is because they dont know what they want. They say they do, but they really dont.

 

[ShortyCumStain]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Another woman bashing thread. Cool. Niggas don't need to take any blame whatsoever we are the perfect specimens, women though...damaged goods, confused, broken. Tsk tsk tsk.

Did I miss the woman bashing?

These mangina ass niggas crack me up.

 

[Andros the magician]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

I would say there are a lot of woman who choose to be single. There are a certain % of woman who feel If you can't provide them with a fantasy lifestyle, then why get married. There are also a certain % who refuse to cater to a man, who detest the idea of submission, yet they are turned off by a compromising man. So they stuck in a limbo of frustration...

I've met a few of these. These women usually accept that what they are looking for is not going to happen because the entire picture is unrealistic or they have some conflicting issues.

You know what the problem is? Its actually really simple.

What is the problem? What do black relationships fail? I'm sure my theory can be applied to other races as well but here it is.

Lack of Substance.

Think about it. View this from the eyes of a hobby less, boring, no life person. Say you have a person that gets up and goes to work. They might turn on a black radio station and listen to music as they make the drive. They get to work and do their job. Occasionally they talk about others relationships and what they will be doing that weekend. When they get home, all they watch is music videos, black comedy, and well that's about it.

The weekend comes or if they can't wait, they go to a club looking for the right connection. They meet that person because they look good to them. They don't have any hobbies or substance about them so they don't look for it. Usually the other person is exactly the same way. After a few dates, if that, the two of them ignorantly thrust themselves into a relationship. They have absolutely nothing in common, any hobbies or substances and individuals, and are completely boring but do not realize it.

Time sets in.

This can vary from a day to years. Boredom starts to show its face because they only do four events together. Those events are home life, eating, some dining, and sex. Conflicts start involving all kinds of stuff because there was no dating period or getting to know each other. Not to mention, there is no substance or hobbies between them to really tie the two together. Eventually, one of the two will fall back into the old routine of clubbing or events that involve the opposite sex. Boredom compounded with ongoing problems fed by a new desire for something that is better leads to infidelity.

The relationship ends.

The cycle simply starts over with someone else!

Think I'm wrong? Think of your current relationship, past ones, friends, or family members love life. Do they have any thing in common? Do anything together? Any hobbies? Any likes? Anything they both enjoy other than basic stuff? Did they get to know each other?


Substance.

Its the glue that holds relationships together when all of the initial flare goes away. That along with just taking the time to find out if a woman is a fit for you. After a man has determine what he wants and if can honestly tell himself that he has something to offer a woman.

This is the main reason I crack up when I read posts from young idiots on this forum asking if dating is still done.

 

[geist]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

When we're able to actually discuss this shit in an open forum, without feelings being caught, niggas saying simp shit to get some ass, attention whoring and denial....progress will be made. Until then....

 

[Deacs]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

When we're able to actually discuss this shit in an open forum, without feelings being caught, niggas saying simp shit to get some ass, attention whoring and denial....progress will be made. Until then....

Might as well start, we won't make any progress without the first step. Ifwe are waiting for a sign, good luck, because it won't happen on this board on it's own... Too many damaged psyches

 

[ArsenalCannon357]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

i've met a few of these. These women usually accept that what they are looking for is not going to happen because the entire picture is unrealistic or they have some conflicting issues.

You know what the problem is? Its actually really simple.

What is the problem? What do black relationships fail? I'm sure my theory can be applied to other races as well but here it is.

lack of substance.

think about it. View this from the eyes of a hobby less, boring, no life person. Say you have a person that gets up and goes to work. They might turn on a black radio station and listen to music as they make the drive. They get to work and do their job. Occasionally they talk about others relationships and what they will be doing that weekend. When they get home, all they watch is music videos, black comedy, and well that's about it.

The weekend comes or if they can't wait, they go to a club looking for the right connection. They meet that person because they look good to them. They don't have any hobbies or substance about them so they don't look for it. Usually the other person is exactly the same way. After a few dates, if that, the two of them ignorantly thrust themselves into a relationship. They have absolutely nothing in common, any hobbies or substances and individuals, and are completely boring but do not realize it.

time sets in.

this can vary from a day to years. Boredom starts to show its face because they only do four events together. Those events are home life, eating, some dining, and sex. Conflicts start involving all kinds of stuff because there was no dating period or getting to know each other. Not to mention, there is no substance or hobbies between them to really tie the two together. Eventually, one of the two will fall back into the old routine of clubbing or events that involve the opposite sex. Boredom compounded with ongoing problems fed by a new desire for something that is better leads to infidelity.

the relationship ends.

The cycle simply starts over with someone else!

think i'm wrong? Think of your current relationship, past ones, friends, or family members love life. Do they have any thing in common? Do anything together? Any hobbies? Any likes? Anything they both enjoy other than basic stuff? Did they get to know each other?


substance.

its the glue that holds relationships together when all of the initial flare goes away. That along with just taking the time to find out if a woman is a fit for you. After a man has determine what he wants and if can honestly tell himself that he has something to offer a woman.

This is the main reason i crack up when i read posts from young idiots on this forum asking if dating is still done.

this my man is a solid post !

 

[geist]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

Might as well start, we won't make any progress without the first step. Ifwe are waiting for a sign, good luck, because it won't happen on this board on it's own... Too many damaged psyches

Nah man, I feel you. We've had some good discussions here.

 

[largebillsonlyplease]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

I've met a few of these. These women usually accept that what they are looking for is not going to happen because the entire picture is unrealistic or they have some conflicting issues.

You know what the problem is? Its actually really simple.

What is the problem? What do black relationships fail? I'm sure my theory can be applied to other races as well but here it is.

Lack of Substance.

Think about it. View this from the eyes of a hobby less, boring, no life person. Say you have a person that gets up and goes to work. They might turn on a black radio station and listen to music as they make the drive. They get to work and do their job. Occasionally they talk about others relationships and what they will be doing that weekend. When they get home, all they watch is music videos, black comedy, and well that's about it.

The weekend comes or if they can't wait, they go to a club looking for the right connection. They meet that person because they look good to them. They don't have any hobbies or substance about them so they don't look for it. Usually the other person is exactly the same way. After a few dates, if that, the two of them ignorantly thrust themselves into a relationship. They have absolutely nothing in common, any hobbies or substances and individuals, and are completely boring but do not realize it.

Time sets in.

This can vary from a day to years. Boredom starts to show its face because they only do four events together. Those events are home life, eating, some dining, and sex. Conflicts start involving all kinds of stuff because there was no dating period or getting to know each other. Not to mention, there is no substance or hobbies between them to really tie the two together. Eventually, one of the two will fall back into the old routine of clubbing or events that involve the opposite sex. Boredom compounded with ongoing problems fed by a new desire for something that is better leads to infidelity.

The relationship ends.

The cycle simply starts over with someone else!

Think I'm wrong? Think of your current relationship, past ones, friends, or family members love life. Do they have any thing in common? Do anything together? Any hobbies? Any likes? Anything they both enjoy other than basic stuff? Did they get to know each other?


Substance.

Its the glue that holds relationships together when all of the initial flare goes away. That along with just taking the time to find out if a woman is a fit for you. After a man has determine what he wants and if can honestly tell himself that he has something to offer a woman.

This is the main reason I crack up when I read posts from young idiots on this forum asking if dating is still done.

respected words.......

 

[Glenwood107]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

I've met a few of these. These women usually accept that what they are looking for is not going to happen because the entire picture is unrealistic or they have some conflicting issues.

You know what the problem is? Its actually really simple.

What is the problem? What do black relationships fail? I'm sure my theory can be applied to other races as well but here it is.

Lack of Substance.

Think about it. View this from the eyes of a hobby less, boring, no life person. Say you have a person that gets up and goes to work. They might turn on a black radio station and listen to music as they make the drive. They get to work and do their job. Occasionally they talk about others relationships and what they will be doing that weekend. When they get home, all they watch is music videos, black comedy, and well that's about it.

The weekend comes or if they can't wait, they go to a club looking for the right connection. They meet that person because they look good to them. They don't have any hobbies or substance about them so they don't look for it. Usually the other person is exactly the same way. After a few dates, if that, the two of them ignorantly thrust themselves into a relationship. They have absolutely nothing in common, any hobbies or substances and individuals, and are completely boring but do not realize it.

Time sets in.

This can vary from a day to years. Boredom starts to show its face because they only do four events together. Those events are home life, eating, some dining, and sex. Conflicts start involving all kinds of stuff because there was no dating period or getting to know each other. Not to mention, there is no substance or hobbies between them to really tie the two together. Eventually, one of the two will fall back into the old routine of clubbing or events that involve the opposite sex. Boredom compounded with ongoing problems fed by a new desire for something that is better leads to infidelity.

The relationship ends.

The cycle simply starts over with someone else!

Think I'm wrong? Think of your current relationship, past ones, friends, or family members love life. Do they have any thing in common? Do anything together? Any hobbies? Any likes? Anything they both enjoy other than basic stuff? Did they get to know each other?


Substance.

Its the glue that holds relationships together when all of the initial flare goes away. That along with just taking the time to find out if a woman is a fit for you. After a man has determine what he wants and if can honestly tell himself that he has something to offer a woman.

This is the main reason I crack up when I read posts from young idiots on this forum asking if dating is still done.

/ end thread
no more to be said on this topic

 

[Chess005]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

you masculine feminist dudes are hilarious. "another woman bashing thread" as if the idea of holding black women accountable is out of line, MEANWHILE you have entire television networks, movies & magazines devoted to doing the exact same thing for women but on a much grander scale than a porn board? dafukkouttahere. go ahead & defend ebony sister mother earth if you want to but dont come in here with that holier than thou bullshit as if they dont do the same thing. i do agree that in order to have a healthy dialogue solutions need to be put forth not just bitching but that doesnt happen without having an uncensored conversation

truth

 

[JD Walker]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

One of the things that outted a couple of my friends on was the fact that most women these days are SINGLE "BY CHOICE"..

The other was that ..more women have no clue on what they want in a relationship and have no idea how to treat a man but they know how they want to be treated..

I'm getting closer to 30 and It looks like a minefield out there for Brothers. Some of the mindset of these women are amazing

Today's Black woman is not single by choice, they are single because they are not being chosen. 2nd, today's Black woman doesn't know how to treat a man because most of them never grew up with fathers.

As far as I'm concerned, the best advice I give is to not deal with fatherless black bitches or black bitches who never had strong male role models in their homes. Let simps and save-a-ho niggas have'em. ALL the women I currently get a long with had fathers in their lives from 0 to adulthood.

 

[fattmojo1]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

We need to start the change by logging off of this bitch, overly lusting after these hoes, spend more time with our families and stop jacking off to porn. I've come to realize that most of us on here are just as much a part of the problem as the women we complain about. it's all about personal revolution/change. The more we (men and women) focus on what best for our bodies, minds and souls as individuals the closer we get to complaining less about others. For example this could be as simple a getting a job and stop being a "bum" or quitting your job as President of a corporation to follow your dreams, Loosing weight, stop smoking, etc depends on the individual. The more we exhibit self love for ourselves as individuals the more the overall picture of the "state" of black men an women will improve in our communities. Unfortunately change will not come quickly because "the change" must take place on and individual level.

Amen

 

[big pimp]

Re: Just had a discussion with a couple of Friends about the state of black relations

you masculine feminist dudes are hilarious. "another woman bashing thread" as if the idea of holding black women accountable is out of line, meanwhile you have entire television networks, movies & magazines devoted to doing the exact same thing for women but on a much grander scale than a porn board? Dafukkouttahere. Go ahead & defend ebony sister mother earth if you want to but dont come in here with that holier than thou bullshit as if they dont do the same thing. I do agree that in order to have a healthy dialogue solutions need to be put forth not just bitching but that doesnt happen without having an uncensored conversation

c/s.