Ive been married for 2 years, and our anniversary is coming up. We are both professional people and started out as friends... Before marriage, I did some pretty wild shit (mainly having sex with other men) but I confessed to all of this before we got married. Dude really had no detrimental reaction--sooo in love,broken heart, but wanting to move on. His attitude was kinda like, we already engaged...and I love you, so let's go on with it. New start. O.k. we jumped the broom. We had premarital counseling and all. I went into the marriage a whole different woman, even decided to have a baby because he wanted one soooo bad--I didn't.(I have an older one from previous relationship.) He is a great father and excellent husband. The problem is I think I've sacrificed too much.
The sex is wack most of the time ( I tell him it's good, like a good wife); he's so tired from trying to be 'the man' on the job that he's too exhausted for any lengthy periods of love-making (more than 1 hour). I decided to quit my 105k job to be a temporary stay-at-home mom for 1 year (we decided its best for the baby); not to mention I moved to another state for his job for 2 years....and while I'm pregnant, I find out that he was in Germany for a 1 week visit with his brother dancing freaky and feeling up on some chicks boobs, which I learned because I finally made him get a lie detector test because of some "friend"/business-partner that he decides to exclude me from. The girl and I exchange words and she stopped talking to him, just like that.
I feel like he used "business" as a tool to try to grow a frienship with this girl--innocent he says. And friends are all good, as long as they acknowledge the spouse. Of course, this was not happening. He would tell me briefly about her, if something happened that day at work, but I found out they were talking more than this, through the same lie detector. The chic and I talked, and she's like, "it wasn't even like that. I got a man". Basically, the chic's low-key trying to tell me that I have a desparate husband (whether it be for acceptance, frienship,wanting a business partner, etc.). I tell him what his "good friend" had told me, now he want to switch it up, like "she was never a 'friend', just my colleague" (looking all pittiful).
I'm kinda looking at separation, but not before I spend some $$$ to look 200% better than I looked before the baby.
Y'all give me your perspective....Am I wrong?? (excuse the typos, if any)
The sex is wack most of the time ( I tell him it's good, like a good wife); he's so tired from trying to be 'the man' on the job that he's too exhausted for any lengthy periods of love-making (more than 1 hour). I decided to quit my 105k job to be a temporary stay-at-home mom for 1 year (we decided its best for the baby); not to mention I moved to another state for his job for 2 years....and while I'm pregnant, I find out that he was in Germany for a 1 week visit with his brother dancing freaky and feeling up on some chicks boobs, which I learned because I finally made him get a lie detector test because of some "friend"/business-partner that he decides to exclude me from. The girl and I exchange words and she stopped talking to him, just like that.
I feel like he used "business" as a tool to try to grow a frienship with this girl--innocent he says. And friends are all good, as long as they acknowledge the spouse. Of course, this was not happening. He would tell me briefly about her, if something happened that day at work, but I found out they were talking more than this, through the same lie detector. The chic and I talked, and she's like, "it wasn't even like that. I got a man". Basically, the chic's low-key trying to tell me that I have a desparate husband (whether it be for acceptance, frienship,wanting a business partner, etc.). I tell him what his "good friend" had told me, now he want to switch it up, like "she was never a 'friend', just my colleague" (looking all pittiful).
I'm kinda looking at separation, but not before I spend some $$$ to look 200% better than I looked before the baby.
Y'all give me your perspective....Am I wrong?? (excuse the typos, if any)
When homegirl told you that he is desperate for any kind of love/attention from a female that should have been a red flag to you that YOU ARE NOT HOLDING YOUR MAN DOWN
And using sex as an excuse to leave a man you describe as a "great father and excellent husband" is just weak ... the lame sex may be coming from the fact that you are not fulfilling his other needs so he is unable to perform great because of that ... there are some people who attribute good sex to good feelings ya know ... in short ... check yaself ... doesn't seem like the fault is only on him
) and I remember her and her husband are both nurses if my memory serves me correctly. She boasted about their material possessions which clued me into thinking that possibly was the main reason as to why they got married in the first place. For one, if she is making $105K a yr, then she most likely wants to compliment that so she can use some of her own money on herself. 
--Again excuse the typos!
Stripper named "Helga"
"Momma was a rolling stone scrap book"
I'm dyin' right now
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