is it possible to get out of the "Friendzone"?

[Noir]

Alright ... I know you're just starting out in the "game of love" so I wont be too rough on you ... but Noir, Andeyhollawho, Crown&Coke, SuperGenius and myself all told you in that last thread you started that homegirl is playing you and to cut her off (which you said you were gonna do but haven't done obviously)I don't wanna hurt your feelings but she is spending all that time with you cuz you are showing her the attention that homeboy who dissed her isn't .. I mean she is in counselling over another man for crying out loud ... she's treating you like a rebound and you shouldn't stand for that

So when you see her, or she calls you, or she comes to your study hall, or she asks you to dinner, or she wants her feet rubbed or anything else that involves her ... anytime she tries to get at you ... do this

PERIOD

you can close the thread now

CO-SIGN!!!!!

LoneStar, I, Crown&Coke, and numerous others have been giving you some sane advice -- basically pulling back from the girl and stop letting her sweat you so much until she straightens herself out. It is frustrating to give advice, and while you do not have to follow it, but at LEAST MAKE A CHOICE.

1) Either follow the gist of everyone's advice and pull back from her, or

2) Continue doing what you have been doing

At least choose one of the two forks in the road, go down it, and be strong enough to accept the consequences of your actions. No matter what happens, you'll learn from the experience and be a more knowledgeable and better prepared person because of it.

 

[mariano42]

CO-SIGN!!!!!

LoneStar, I, Crown&Coke, and numerous others have been giving you some sane advice -- basically pulling back from the girl and stop letting her sweat you so much until she straightens herself out. It is frustrating to give advice, and while you do not have to follow it, but at LEAST MAKE A CHOICE.

1) Either follow the gist of everyone's advice and pull back from her, or

2) Continue doing what you have been doing

At least choose one of the two forks in the road, go down it, and be strong enough to accept the consequences of your actions. No matter what happens, you'll learn from the experience and be a more knowledgeable and better prepared person because of it.

thankyou.

 

[Eva Hornae]

Yes you can get out of the Friend zone. Currently she is playing the game "Best Of Both Worlds" She has a man that is loving, caring,intelligent, financially stable, and provides emotional support to her.(You) On the other side she has the other guy who does not provide all those things. When the other guy is not doing what she would like she runs to you to fill that void.

Getting out of the friend zone you have to understand how a woman thinks in order to turn the situation around. Most woman are emotional creatures. Some women can't distinguish the difference between emotions and logic. Her emotions tells her that the other guy can change..logic would tell her you are providing everything she desires out of a mate.

Women often justify choosing men on the basis of their "intuition" or "emotions" or because "their body knows." Usually this means she will choose the worst possible guy then will rationalize her decision, or try to "change" him, a process which inevitably leads to years of frustration and worse. In the meantime, the same woman will reject an otherwise decent, witty, responsible, intelligent guy whom if she had given him a chance would have provided one of those loving caring relationships women talk about.

Things to do

Tell her how you feel. Let her know that you understand that she is involved but you would like to explore the opportunity with her if possible. Let her know how special she is to you

STOP TALKING ABOUT THE OTHER GUY----when she brings him up change the subject. When you are with her make it all about you. When she talks about him simply say...while looking into her eyes "I want you to relax. I took you out so that you can escape your problems and feel free for at least a couple of hours."

Stop being available---You have to distance yourself from her. She needs time to compare you to the other guy. Believe me she will compare the two. talking and spending time with him will be like night and day compared to you. Currently she has the best of both worlds so she is having her cake and eating it also.

Use her friends-----her friends are a good way to get in. Her friends have a huge say so in who she talks to. They have the most impression on her

When she calls don't answer or call right back. When she text you don't text right back. Reply on your time. When she ask you to go places with her tell her YOU HAVE A DATEand you will catch up with her another time.

WOW!



*speechless*