Is Black Really Beautiful?

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Is Black Really Beautiful?

Today, due to the impending Thanksgiving holiday in which our school week will end on Tuesday, I decided to show my 7th grade Technology students a movie. The movie, entitled Brother Future, is about a black teenager who does not take his education seriously. He daydreams in class when he should be listening to the teacher and taking in knowledge, he skips school whenever he feels like it, and he steals goods and resells it later to his ever-waiting customers. Well the teenager gets hit by a car and is propelled—not into the future—but back into the 1820s when slavery was in full swing. The purpose of my showing the movie was to help the students identify with the age of the character and his learning that education is a vital component of being successful and is directly connected to the quality of life one will have in the future.

During the film, my students’ eyes were glued on the projection screen, which enlarged the movie to such a degree that it could be viewed from almost any angle in the classroom. My students began to ask me questions about what they were seeing in the movie. For instance, one student said, “Why can’t he tell them he is not going to pick cotton in that field?” Another one said, “If I was back there, I would not do it!” Another asked, “Why does that slave have to go around to the back of his master’s house and not use the front door?” The questions and comments went on throughout the movie, and I answered the questions and joined in the conversations that had sparked many interests about slavery and education, or a lack of Black education, during that time period.

I have a Bachelor of Science degree in Business Administration, and I moved from the corporate world of business to teach—to make a difference. I am not a history teacher—although I do know history facts and can produce a decent answer when questioned. But what astonished me is that my Black students (for the majority of them are Black) did not know many facts at all about the history of our own people. Sure, some students could tell you that they were told that lynching and beatings and unfair treatment took place, but they seemed surprised about many things that were taking place in the movie. So I asked them, “Does your History teacher talk about slavery in your class?” Most of the students said, “No”. “And if the teacher does, it is only just for a few minutes and we move onto something else.”

I realized in that moment that many of Black America is ignorant about where they came from. Some of my students did not even know that Charleston, South Carolina is documented as being the place where the first slaves were brought to when they landed in America.

Later that evening, I came home and read an article by Michael Oluwagemi II on Nigerians In America entitled, Mark My Words . . . Nigeria and Africa Shall Be Free. I thoroughly enjoyed what he had to say, for I know, by personal observation, how much poverty has taken hold of Nigeria. I have never been able to get those images out of my mind—and I do not want to—for it is what holds me to her (Africa) in my heart. I simply love Africa and its people—although I hate to see the suffering of my people. However, I think another type of poverty has taken hold of Black America, and that poverty, to me, is cultural and ancestral ignorance.

I wrote an article entitled Disconnected from the Motherland some time ago, and after today’s experience, I believe Black America is also disconnected from themselves and their own African history. We are failing to teach our children where they came from—never mind going as far back to the Motherland (Africa), let us at least start at the point when our African ancestors were shackled, chained, and brought into Charleston, South Carolina and sold into slavery.

I wondered why we Black Americans changed our ethnicity name from Black to African American. Who thought of that? Did someone say it was politically correct to be named such? When I think about how much Black America do NOT identify with their African brothers and sisters (as a whole), why do we love the name so much then (African American). Are we merely interested in the theory of Africa but not in the identification with it? I am afraid for many that might be the case.

I have noticed that our Black children do not mind being Black as long as their skin color is not TOO BLACK. Most of them will tell you that they do not want to be to dark skinned and cover their mouths in a grin when they say it as if embarrassed by their admission. If you are light skinned, according to them, you are in another class of “blackness” (a better class as far as beauty). On more than one occasion, my students have referred to a dark-skinned person as an African. They forget in that moment, or at least I choose to believe it was not intentional, that my husband is African. I will say something like, “I guess you have forgotten my husband is African!” Then they will say, “Mrs. Daboh we did not mean any harm.” I remind them that some of the most beautiful men and women in this world are Africans, and they come in all shades of colors like we do. If young Blacks feel that way now and hold those prejudices within their own race of people, I wonder how their children, who will be reared by them, will think of a dark-skinned, Black person or an African.

Nigeria and Africa in all their poverty is really just a heart beat away from the ancestral and cultural poverty that Black America suffers. Are we allowing our Black youths to be groomed to believe that “black is not beautiful?” Is the saying, “I’m Black and I’m proud” just a cliché? I am afraid many Blacks do not mind being Black, as long as it is not TOO BLACK.

Will Black America’s poverty stricken attitude against its own culture prevail to the point that we are, not only ashamed of ourselves, but ashamed of where we originated from? In our eyes, is Black really beautiful?


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People will always try to find a way to seperate each other. We all black but dont wanna be too black. I am a dark skinned guy and you get the jokes all the time growing up. Always get asked if you are African just because you dark. It never bothered me much, I could care less. It still matters to some grown ass people tho.​
 
People will always try to find a way to seperate each other. We all black but dont wanna be too black. I am a dark skinned guy and you get the jokes all the time growing up. Always get asked if you are African just because you dark. It never bothered me much, I could care less. It still matters to some grown ass people tho.​

That's the sad part C because then people pass those wounds and attitudes to their children and perpetuate a vicious cycle.

I think we get so focused on blaming children, but they learned those attitudes from grown folks.
 
That's the sad part C because then people pass those wounds and attitudes to their children and perpetuate a vicious cycle.

I think we get so focused on blaming children, but they learned those attitudes from grown folks.
I once dated a girl that was maybe a brown or caramel color and she swore that she was too dark. And I thought that was the weirdest thing and then I met her mom and her mom was the same way. They went as far as tryin to take some pills and using some kind of cream to lighten their skin. Her sister was dark too and I just cant imagine how she felt in that house.​
 
This is a subject that would be better discussed in the Politics and Topics of the Day board. I will say this, people of African decent with several ancestral generations in the United States are culturally American/European. We have been steeped in European thought, language, culture and morals. This is not all together bad. We have a unique perspective in two worlds. But, we cannot allow an inferiority complex that has been imprinted on our African psyche over centuries of physical subjugation make us look at each other as unattractive or incapable of self governance.

The mis-education of the Black Man is an accurate statement. We must realize that not only have American Blacks been mis-educated, but all people of African decent have been mis-educated.
 
Good post

I once dated a girl that was maybe a brown or caramel color and she swore that she was too dark. And I thought that was the weirdest thing and then I met her mom and her mom was the same way. They went as far as tryin to take some pills and using some kind of cream to lighten their skin. Her sister was dark too and I just cant imagine how she felt in that house.​

This is a large problem with in our society. I remember growing up in the West Indies and because I am "light-skinned" being made to feel by some of the older crowd that I had a better advantage than my darker sistas. The impact of the visual and written media has allowed for a type of brainwashing. Unfortunate but true.

I am comfortable in the skin I was given. Not every one is.

This is a subject that would be better discussed in the Politics and Topics of the Day board. I will say this, people of African decent with several ancestral generations in the United States are culturally American/European. We have been steeped in European thought, language, culture and morals. This is not all together bad. We have a unique perspective in two worlds. But, we cannot allow an inferiority complex that has been imprinted on our African psyche over centuries of physical subjugation make us look at each other as unattractive or incapable of self governance.

The mis-education of the Black Man is an accurate statement. We must realize that not only have American Blacks been mis-educated, but all people of African decent have been mis-educated.

Unfortunately thoughtone society will continue to cause black persons to feel inferior. Unless we educate ourselves and our young brothers and sisters this will NOT change.

The thought just occured to me that I've never seen Colin Powell on SOL. Interesting. :D

j/k... dig the post.

LOL Colin has been brought up before...i think someone said that Condelezza Rice was gonna be used instead. I dunno.
 
To me a persons skin tone has never mattered. We do need to put the labels to rest. To refer to someone as light skinned, black skinned, nappy headed, good hair-bad hair, coconut buster, African and many other terms I refuse to list shows ignorance on a very large scale within our people. We are black people that is something to be proud of, not find fault with.

Even here in the 21st century we still haven't learned to judge people by their character and not their appearance or accents. Its in the same pot of issues that the civil rights movement addressed in the 60s. The difference is now we need to practice what we asked for. We now do it to ourselves.

Great read and I may well join that forum.
 
It's worse than you may imagine, PM. I work in higher education, and I can tell you for a fact that there is a palpable effort to accelerate the "de-intellectualization" of the public historically black colleges in my state. The private ones like Howard and 'Skeegee will probably be okay (if they can stay well funded), but the public ones are screwed. Why? Because the states are saying they are no longer necessary.

What does this have to do with your post? A lot, in that many of the public black HBCUs (like A & T and SC State) were hotbeds for conciousness- Africentric and otherwise. That is dying- I work at one and I see it everyday. I have never been particularly Africentric for a host of reason (we can discuss this via PM if you like), but I am a BIG fan of self consciousness. If you don't know clearly who YOU are, how the fuck can you counter bullshit that paints a deprecating picture of you if you do not know who you are? How many of your students even know who Paul Robeson was- who, even above DuBois, may have been the greatest genius of any color this society ever produced. And even me, who tries to stay steeped in Negro (I love that word!!!) history, is continually amazed at the new cats and kittens I discover that I never knew about- like the poet/professor in the Great Debaters. This is because our history is, at least according to America, an add on. Hence "Black History Month". Now, all due respect to Dr. Wodson, because at the time of its creation a whole month for Negroes was a huge deal. But the history of my people IS American history. How the fuck you gonna understand American- the real American- without reading The Narrative of the Life of Fredrick Douglass- Runaway Slave?

As a Negro intellectual, I can tell you that we as a people at this point in time are not only not very intellectual; we are decidedly ANTI-INTELLECTUAL. But keep on fighting the good fight, PussyMan (love the name, dude). If it was easy, any ordinary motherfucker could do it. We be soldiers, dude, soldiers, and we fight to the last man, woman, child, and cockroach. Don't give up on the little ones, because I can say this without any hesitation: the youth are our only hope. There is something about living in American society as a black person that totally fucks you up, and while in here I do see a lot of intellectual life, as a people we are at present pretty fucked up. But the little ones always have a shot. They are the embodiment of our dreams, don't forget that.

Thanks for the post.
 
You never can tell by the thread title ;) I almost didn't come in here! Great read....now I have to find that movie. I know some kids and some grown folk who need to see it :yes:
 
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