Nah your answer ITT says all, I never discussed no homos in black community as far as I know so I don't know wtf that is...
i called the grass eaters homos in disguise and a pleasant way of addressing rising homosexuality.
Interesting Article on "Open" Relationships...
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i called the grass eaters homos in disguise and a pleasant way of addressing rising homosexuality.
First off this article is too focused on "God" to be of any relevance to the masses. The view point is narrow - I think she is talking to herself.
If this author is seriously having trouble finding a mate that is monogamous. Chances are there is more to her problem than what other people are doing or not doing.
Most people who are into "Open Relationships" are not like the common people out there looking to get laid.
We first and foremost - Prioritize life at home first with rules and regulations all things major and minor.
Second - We test regularly and only mess with partners that will also test regularly.
Third - They - 9/10 - have a greater sense of emotional control. They do not get angry, envious or controlling with their partners like others do. So it's all touch and go.
Most people want to believe they are damaged. That they are somehow fucked up and that this is their release. While that may be true for some (they are probably fucked before they even started down the "Open Road") it usually not true.
Here is a story from something I experienced.
This chick that I was really digging and I decided to get serious (2 years dating - 1 year just dating each other) - Moving in.
I sat down with her and was like "Look - You and I both have serious sex drives - If you think you are going to step out on me - Let's talk about that now (vice-versa) - In other words - Maybe we should keep it open - I can handle the truth upfront you know - So long as you come back to me and I to you....etc"
She was adamant and was like "We are going to do this - You and I only - We can make this work."
I said - Ok - You sure - Alright let's continue.
One day several months later - She was like - Yo - I am going out with "Female Friend" - Girls night out - I will be back at this time. I was like word - Peace.
Few moments later - Female Friend stops by - I am like
Got a call @ 7:30 PM EST - "Yo I am here with "Female Friend" - This club is popping - See you soon"
I was like - Cool - Female Friend still @ my crib an been trying to get at for the entire time - @ 7:43 PM EST - I had all of my ex-girl's shit packed up. Made a sandwich. Got a metro card with 1 fare on it. Placed all her stuff out my door - Neatly packaged - Changed locks (always have extra locks - Change my locks every 6 months) - Fucked the shit out of her "Female Friend" from 7:54 PM EST to 1:13 AM EST - When she came to the door. Ask her Female Friend to leave - They crossed eyes. - She started to blabber some thing about her ex - Closed my door - Finish reading a novel - Went to bed.
Many people around me was like - How come you not mad? How come this and that? My answer has always been "For What?"
She lied - She lost - I moved on. Never been the type to get emotional over that type of stuff.
Now if I see an injustice, neglected child/elderly/handicapped person and/or things of this nature - Then that is something worth my emotions and actions.
Found someone that is very similar to me and we are making our relationship awesome.
If your mentality is not there - This is not for you. Just as monogamy is not for everyone. Though some people want EVERYONE to do exactly as they do - So that they can feel better and safe
@ bold I'm with you on this shit. Not everybody can handle it this way.
I've had women break up with me, then start crying because I wasn't effected
What the fuck??? How you dump me, but then you start crying because I don't seem to be distraught?@?!?
Baffles me
And to be honest I really didn't understand what she wanted me to do, how she wanted me to act... even till this day.
I never want to be where I'm not wanted or where I'm not appreciated. And I don't want people around me that feel that way either. If a woman feels under appreciated and I'm not willing to compromise, then it is best for us to part ways.
I'm perfectly ok with being alone.
one cant expect monogamy in a relationship.. its just not gonna happen.. humans instinctively mate with several partners. That carnal urge runs much deeper than any societal programming and will never change..
So if you decide you love someone that much you will have to accept that others will mate with them and keep loving that person.
So if you decide you love someone that much you will have to accept that others will mate with them and keep loving that person.
Utter and complete bullshit
Once again people try to use "instinct" and "biology" as evidence for excusing uncouth human behavior.
There is no such thing as a "carnal urge".
There is ONLY an individual's own judgment, expectations, and integrity.
There is ONLY self control
In some people those qualities are stronger than in others.
"Variability of will"
The problem is that people in relationships are mismatched!
i haven't fucked anyone other than my wife since we got married...so i guess we've been monogamous for 2.5 years.
is this because i have no urge to fuck anyone else? no options to fuck anyone else? or i simple have a modicum of self control?
How does mismatching exclude sexually open people pairing up?
In other words how can two people admittantly be, for the sake of argument "promiscuous" and not be willful enough to admit and have a relationship that meets their needs?
I am not sure if I said that right btw
First off this article is too focused on "God" to be of any relevance to the masses. The view point is narrow - I think she is talking to herself.
If this author is seriously having trouble finding a mate that is monogamous. Chances are there is more to her problem than what other people are doing or not doing.
Most people who are into "Open Relationships" are not like the common people out there looking to get laid.
We first and foremost - Prioritize life at home first with rules and regulations all things major and minor.
Second - We test regularly and only mess with partners that will also test regularly.
Third - They - 9/10 - have a greater sense of emotional control. They do not get angry, envious or controlling with their partners like others do. So it's all touch and go.
Most people want to believe they are damaged. That they are somehow fucked up and that this is their release. While that may be true for some (they are probably fucked before they even started down the "Open Road") it usually not true.
Here is a story from something I experienced.
This chick that I was really digging and I decided to get serious (2 years dating - 1 year just dating each other) - Moving in.
I sat down with her and was like "Look - You and I both have serious sex drives - If you think you are going to step out on me - Let's talk about that now (vice-versa) - In other words - Maybe we should keep it open - I can handle the truth upfront you know - So long as you come back to me and I to you....etc"
She was adamant and was like "We are going to do this - You and I only - We can make this work."
I said - Ok - You sure - Alright let's continue.
One day several months later - She was like - Yo - I am going out with "Female Friend" - Girls night out - I will be back at this time. I was like word - Peace.
Few moments later - Female Friend stops by - I am like
Got a call @ 7:30 PM EST - "Yo I am here with "Female Friend" - This club is popping - See you soon"
I was like - Cool - Female Friend still @ my crib an been trying to get at for the entire time - @ 7:43 PM EST - I had all of my ex-girl's shit packed up. Made a sandwich. Got a metro card with 1 fare on it. Placed all her stuff out my door - Neatly packaged - Changed locks (always have extra locks - Change my locks every 6 months) - Fucked the shit out of her "Female Friend" from 7:54 PM EST to 1:13 AM EST - When she came to the door. Ask her Female Friend to leave - They crossed eyes. - She started to blabber some thing about her ex - Closed my door - Finish reading a novel - Went to bed.
Many people around me was like - How come you not mad? How come this and that? My answer has always been "For What?"
She lied - She lost - I moved on. Never been the type to get emotional over that type of stuff.
Now if I see an injustice, neglected child/elderly/handicapped person and/or things of this nature - Then that is something worth my emotions and actions.
Found someone that is very similar to me and we are making our relationship awesome.
If your mentality is not there - This is not for you. Just as monogamy is not for everyone. Though some people want EVERYONE to do exactly as they do - So that they can feel better and safe
That's good hope my next chick is as open minded, usually takes some time to even bring it up
The problem is women in this society are meant to hide and lie and be MORE sneaky than us guys, for several reasons, so sometimes I don't even think they are trying to be disrespectful and what not - it's just society's conditioning
If your chick is a real bad chick, you gonna spend more time and money preventing her from steppin out then it is worth. Why bother stress yourself, just step out as well and keep her in check if she starts to get out of control
People take "cheating" personally but it's just human nature, no one is perfect everyone agrees, but somehow we expect we can find the perfect one for us
It's a gray area, not black and white.
If your chick is a real bad chick, you gonna spend more time and money preventing her from steppin out then it is worth. Why bother stress yourself, just step out as well and keep her in check if she starts to get out of control
People take "cheating" personally but it's just human nature, no one is perfect everyone agrees, but somehow we expect we can find the perfect one for us
It's a gray area, not black and white.
If your chick is a real bad chick, you gonna spend more time and money preventing her from steppin out then it is worth. Why bother stress yourself, just step out as well and keep her in check if she starts to get out of control
dude, this is bad BAD juju.
a REAL MAN is secure in himself enough to not fret over his woman stepping out on him. fuck i look like running scared thinking my wife is gonna fuck off? hell, she gets rock star attention when we go out. if i walk a few steps behind her, and folks don't see us together, it's SHOWTIME. and you know what? i LOVE THAT SHIT.
if she is gonna fuck off, there's nothing i can do to stop her. our relationship is based on mutual trust, not mutual DISTRUST.
get you a grown ass woman, not some little girl in a woman's body.
I'm with you on this shit. Not everybody can handle it this way.
I've had women break up with me, then start crying because I wasn't effected
What the fuck??? How you dump me, but then you start crying because I don't seem to be distraught?@?!?
Baffles me
And to be honest I really didn't understand what she wanted me to do, how she wanted me to act... even till this day.
I never want to be where I'm not wanted or where I'm not appreciated. And I don't want people around me that feel that way either. If a woman feels under appreciated and I'm not willing to compromise, then it is best for us to part ways.
I'm perfectly ok with being alone.