I'm I wrong for not wanting to date women with kids?

[ArsenalCannon357]

It's funny that most dudes are coming to a consensus on this of all things. But that's good.

No, you are not wrong for having a standard. Stick with your standard, it's a good standard to have. There is nothing wrong with not wanting a woman that already has kids. Some females don't want anymore kids after the one or two they already have, and where does that leave you? Especially if you want kids of your own. Out the door...or you're simpin'.

I used to believe it's ok to date a woman with kids, but not anymore. I started to notice a pattern. Here's the pattern: She's a nice chick, if she's smart she won't introduce you to the kid(s) right away. That's to get you comfortable. It's just you and her...that'll only last for one or two months tops. You will get comfortable, you'll be beatin it up....one day you'll be sleeping over and some bullshit'll happen.

Whether it's drama with the baby daddy or the babysitter....something's going to happen where you're going to get sucked in. Your plans will be ruined and you'll either be babysitting some kid you don't know or you'll be taking them along with you whereever you were planning to go. While we are on drama....peep how she treats the baby father. That's going to be you in the future. Ask her can you talk to dude....if she agrees, ask him all about her, that nigga will tell you the truth! If she doesn't agree...you know something is wrong with her.

You still with this? I ain't done....it gets worse. You just went from getting pussy regularly to getting pussy parttime in like 3.2 seconds. Now that she thinks you're cool with the kid prepare for the kid being around ALL THE TIME! Now your relationship went from "Getting to know you" to "Family time" so you skipped over an important step, that's exploration. So now you got a family with a chick you hardly know.

Peep how she interacts with the kid. Does the kid run all over her? Is the kid spoiled? Is it a little boy? Does he act like a bitch? Do you want to punch him in the chest? All of this matters because again...this is your life now.


Does any of this appeal to you? Because that's pretty much what being with a chick with kids is like.

they passed right by this.

 

[Day_Carver]

theres a plethora of women in the "a" without kids...but that doesnt mean there arent a lot of women with kids as well..

 

[xspade7]

I feel the same way, I have none so I expect she not to have none.

 

[geist]

they passed right by this.

Yup, one thing I forgot though. When you get to the stage where she starts to tell you about the drama her baby father is putting her through, she will most of the time try to make you feel like you need to step it up for the kid(s).

Her: ......

You: What's wrong?

Her: ....nothing it's not your problem.

You: Just tell me.

Her: *sigh* It's just that a) X won't come to see his son b) X won't buy his son what he needs. (pick one or something similar)

 

[freshnclean]

naw just recently i made my upgrade to a chick with no kids........and i never been happier

My main bitch was always going thru shit with her childs father and his girlfriend. She would come to my place crying n shit. it was just a on going battle until finally i said fuck it! I broke up with her n got with my younger friend who is issue free n child free.

Then what was even worse was that lil big head nigga destroyed her body tits wasnt even perky no more like what i saw on facebook and not to mention her mop-meat looking stomach because she was so small in petite that base head lil nigga destroyed her stomach

I like my woman slim, skinny, or whatever u call it so when we first hooked up the clothes n pushup bras threw me off she made me wait to fuck and i wasnt tripping but man once i seen her naked i was like but i still worked wit her until the baby father issues came up

@ mop-meat