If I knew then what I know now, I would...

[JofromthaNO]

Taken from the thread on BGOL about the brother turning 25 in a few days, what is some advice, ladies (and gents ), you wish you knew a few years ago that may have changed your actions then?

Basically, what's some good, solid advice for ladies that you'd like to share?

 

[Mo-Better]

For starters understand and avoid the trappings in life that have derailed the dreams of so many mainly sex.

You want to have sex do so but protect yourself. Today there's no margin for making a poor decision. Getting pregnant today is the least of a young woman's problems.

Focus on your dreams - Let nothing stop you from achieving your goals. That's not to say don't enjoy your youth, your only young once. But be smart about what you do.

Lastly put as much distance between you and negative people as possible.

 

[classydread]

Things I wish I did:

-Good credit is very important, pay your bills on time!

-Don't take a break from taking classes, you could've had your Masters by now, and making lots more $.

-Stay in better contact with friends, and relatives. Tell them how much you love them before it's too late, and they pass away.

-It's ok to be expressive, and amd tell people how you feel.

-If he doesn't call, or make any attempt to contact you, he's not feeling you. Don't make excuses, move on. If you're important to him, he'll make time for you.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Things I wish I did:

-Good credit is very important, pay your bills on time!

-Don't take a break from taking classes, you could've had your Masters by now, and making lots more $.

-Stay in better contact with friends, and relatives. Tell them how much you love them before it's too late, and they pass away.

-It's ok to be expressive, and amd tell people how you feel.

-If he doesn't call, or make any attempt to contact you, he's not feeling you. Don't make excuses, move on. If you're important to him, he'll make time for you.

Oooh, you ain't said nothing but a word there, boo

 

[JofromthaNO]

For starters understand and avoid the trappings in life that have derailed the dreams of so many mainly sex.

You want to have sex do so but protect yourself. Today there's no margin for making a poor decision. Getting pregnant today is the least of a young woman's problems.

Focus on your dreams - Let nothing stop you from achieving your goals. That's not to say don't enjoy your youth, your only young once. But be smart about what you do.

Lastly put as much distance between you and negative people as possible.

Good advice...thanks for stopping by

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Make him do less work, and go on vacation more. I would have started his diet earlier. I would have never gone to culinary school.

 

[Izayoi]

- I would definitely say don't have a scarcity mentality when it comes to men. You only need ONE good one so don't waste time on bullshit.

- Don't expect people to love the shit about you that you can't love about yourself.

-Don't be naieve.My father told me once not everybody has to see your heart and I really wish I had listened. Be observant and play your shit close to the vest as the saying goes.

- Own your sexuality.Sex is GOOD. Our irresponsibility and madonna-whore complexes are what is bad.

- If you hate sex, then you probably don't know your body or your man sucks in bed. Either way- that's a lose/lose situation. Fix it.

- Travel, travel, travel. The world is big.

- Have a fulfilling career that allows you to take care of yourself. That way you can marry for love and not for some trick to take care of you.

- The way you start a relationship is usually how it will end.

Finally (also from my dad)

- If you don't have your health, you don't have anything. Don't treat your body like a dumpster. Exercise, eat well, and don't be in denial about getting fat. No, those pants didn't shrink.

The only things I really wish I did was to go to acupuncture, osteopathy, or chiropractic school in my 20's AND spent more time with my dad. The rest is neither here nor there. It's just life.

 

[melonpecan]

Internship

More discipline

Never take intro to comp science

Listen to your gut

Macadamia cookies are evil

More discipline

 

[largebillsonlyplease]

don't feel right don't do it
take others advice into consideration but in the end listen to yourself because you have to live with the consequences
if you aren't making it like you think or feel you should be then its your own damn fault.
make money everything else will take care of itself

 

[classydread]

Bump

 

[sherminator]

- I would definitely say don't have a scarcity mentality when it comes to men. You only need ONE good one so don't waste time on bullshit.

- Don't expect people to love the shit about you that you can't love about yourself.

-Don't be naieve.My father told me once not everybody has to see your heart and I really wish I had listened. Be observant and play your shit close to the vest as the saying goes.

- Own your sexuality.Sex is GOOD. Our irresponsibility and madonna-whore complexes are what is bad.

- If you hate sex, then you probably don't know your body or your man sucks in bed. Either way- that's a lose/lose situation. Fix it.

- Travel, travel, travel. The world is big.

- Have a fulfilling career that allows you to take care of yourself. That way you can marry for love and not for some trick to take care of you.

- The way you start a relationship is usually how it will end.

Finally (also from my dad)

- If you don't have your health, you don't have anything. Don't treat your body like a dumpster. Exercise, eat well, and don't be in denial about getting fat. No, those pants didn't shrink.

The only things I really wish I did was to go to acupuncture, osteopathy, or chiropractic school in my 20's AND spent more time with my dad. The rest is neither here nor there. It's just life.

Hey never too late for chiropractic I'm in school now in Marietta I'm in my late 20's but some of my fellow classmates are older ......way older its never to late plus I bet you would help my days pass easier

 

[mnstrmouf]

SAVE SAVE SAVE SAVE SAVE SAVE SAVE!!!!!!!!!!!! Whatever you can! I dont care if its a dollar a month do it!! You will thank yourself later.

 

[Izayoi]

Hey never too late for chiropractic I'm in school now in Marietta I'm in my late 20's but some of my fellow classmates are older ......way older its never to late plus I bet you would help my days pass easier

Thanks Sherminator!
I toy with the idea and perhaps one day but I have so much going I have to weigh whether taking out more time and money for school is going to get me where I think I need to be OR is not having that schooling stopping me from doing what I want to do. Honestly, right now in my life no (except bill insurance for my side biz, but that's not a deal breaker). You never know though!

I know a few people that went back to medical school REALLY late in life so you are right it is never too late.

 

[Efil4Zaggin]

Thanks Sherminator!
I toy with the idea and perhaps one day but I have so much going I have to weigh whether taking out more time and money for school is going to get me where I think I need to be OR is not having that schooling stopping me from doing what I want to do. Honestly, right now in my life no (except bill insurance for my side biz, but that's not a deal breaker). You never know though!

I know a few people that went back to medical school REALLY late in life so you are right it is never too late.

That last sentence is golden.

A friend of mine has 2 felonies and got out of prison and went back to school and is now a doctor.

I'm going to start taking my prereq's and then eventually apply to veterinarian school.

Never too late. Wish it didn't take me so long to figure that out.

I'm 32 btw

 

[owl]

After reading the Forbes columnist, Gene Marks' discussion about what he would want to do if he were a "poor black child" I thought about this question. There is a lot of great advice here. I suppose I could do for a refresher course in giving detailed guidance, huh? All I can think of is be true to your Self. Hahahah!

Anywho...um...what would I do differently at 25 if given the chance...um...


- Pussy is great but, um, looks(pulchitrude) can be confusing, every body you enter shouldn't become a home, and discipline is an art we should all learn to appreciate.

- Money. It is a big thing. Learn how to make your own. Jobs become tedious, careers become obsolete, and family becomes bitter. At the end of the year, it is just about the creation of a viable trade. Figure out your side hustles early.

-Read. Read often. Write. Even if you don't become Walter Mosley, you have a vehicle for expressing exactly who and what you are without the need to apologize. Reading provides an avenue to the world's that might not be explored without a book.

-Fear is for the children, like Marcus Garvey said. Earth is a big place, like Izzy wrote, and...in that entirety comes challenges and adventures that aren't always going to provide for safe lifestyles. Be cautious when applicable, but never let your cowardice trump your courage for the sake of being a coward. It is a long life, and we live with every move tattooed on our souls.