I Got the Blues..Ladies, I need some Help!

[I-95 Hustler]

Aight, young dude living in the dc area. My friend gave me the axe about 4 months ago. I been trying my hardest to get back with her, but she doesn't want to hear it. During the time we where together, I wasn't the best man to her, but i had other issues going on (fucked up job, barely paying my rent, didn't know what i wanted to do as far as a career.) Now, since then I have been able to get back into graduate school and I am pursueing my masters, life is a little bit better.....
She wants to be able to do her thing now and i am like when i finish with school we can get married and etc...but she tells me now she doesn't want to hear that...What does that mean ladies??
I am sick over this chick because I know i can't have her back, but I still feel like there is hope between the two of us.
Question, if you truely love someone, how can you make her notice and see this?? Should I still pursue or just say fuck it and move on?? Any advice???

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Aight, young dude living in the dc area. My friend gave me the axe about 4 months ago. I been trying my hardest to get back with her, but she doesn't want to hear it. During the time we where together, I wasn't the best man to her, but i had other issues going on (fucked up job, barely paying my rent, didn't know what i wanted to do as far as a career.) Now, since then I have been able to get back into graduate school and I am pursueing my masters, life is a little bit better.....
She wants to be able to do her thing now and i am like when i finish with school we can get married and etc...but she tells me now she doesn't want to hear that...What does that mean ladies??
I am sick over this chick because I know i can't have her back, but I still feel like there is hope between the two of us.
Question, if you truely love someone, how can you make her notice and see this?? Should I still pursue or just say fuck it and move on?? Any advice???

U dating DeSire???? Did she "chunk ypu thr duece"???

 

[DeSiRe]

damn i stay on your mind huh leroy

but...

i was in a similar situation expect on the other side...a guy i was dating kinda fell off and was going thru it...i let him go to give him space to take care of what he wanted to take care of

honestly after i did that i moved on...which is what it sounds like ol girl did...and u cant blame here expecially if u werent treating her right

lemme ask u this...do u want her now cause u really did like her...or is it the fact u might not have her which makes u want her more

if u sincerly like here i would suggest u do things to show her what kind of man u really are...if she is receptive good...if not move on to a woman that will be cause its clear your girl has truly moved on

 

[doggish_098]

how you going to say you truely love someone and you refer to her as "my friend"? Come on dog you had a cut buddy and you caught feelings and she didnt...

 

[I-95 Hustler]

damn i stay on your mind huh leroy

but...

i was in a similar situation expect on the other side...a guy i was dating kinda fell off and was going thru it...i let him go to give him space to take care of what he wanted to take care of

honestly after i did that i moved on...which is what it sounds like ol girl did...and u cant blame here expecially if u werent treating her right

lemme ask u this...do u want her now cause u really did like her...or is it the fact u might not have her which makes u want her more

if u sincerly like here i would suggest u do things to show her what kind of man u really are...if she is receptive good...if not move on to a woman that will be cause its clear your girl has truly moved on

What do u mean receptive?? I have been doing things, sending flowers, going out to dinner, etc...

 

[I-95 Hustler]

Also, if she has moved on, why keep going out with me??? I mean why keep playing with my emotions like that?? I mean what is up with that? And I do really love this girl. So I am like should i let her come to grisp with herself or what??

 

[DeSiRe]

What do u mean receptive?? I have been doing things, sending flowers, going out to dinner, etc...

when i say receptive i mean is she softening up? does it seem like u are winning her over?

or does she give u a sense of obligation....makes u do all the pursing

Also, if she has moved on, why keep going out with me??? I mean why keep playing with my emotions like that?? I mean what is up with that? And I do really love this girl. So I am like should i let her come to grisp with herself or what??

shoot...u dont know how many females go out with dudes for the sake of a free meal or ego stroke

question...does she call u at all...even sometimes just to see how u are doing?

 

[SinaminDelite]

shoot...u dont know how many females go out with dudes for the sake of a free meal or ego stroke

question...does she call u at all...even sometimes just to see how u are doing?

Yup yup. If you offering, 4 outta 5 times a chick won't say no. If all the communication is on your part (you calling her and making plans, just calling to say hi, etc.), save yourself the trouble and leave it alone. I'm going through a similar situation with my ex. He wants what we had before, but I do not feel the same about him. We went through too much, and the thought of going back to that isn't appealing to me at all. I never call him; he calls me all the time to "check up on me". Every time we talk, he throws in that "I love you" crap, and I duck it like a slug. I don't care how much he says it, I will never say it to him, and it won't magically make me fall in love with him again.

If she really wants to be with you, you will know in her actions. If she's not giving you any physical clues about trying to work things out (and I'm not talking about sex or going out with you), it's best to just leave her be.