This is one I'm really scratching my head over. I'm truly lost and don't even know how to approach this one but ima try. But it can be said that if a woman doesn't grow up with her father, she won't know how to engage in a healthy relationship with a heterosexual man. She didn't see it in her house hold so she doesn't know how it works. So how the hell does a lesbian get an idea of how to balance a lesbian relationship? It can't be that easy esp. since a woman truly knows how deceptive a woman is capable of being. I mean do you submit to the stud? Or do you maintain that you have to keep the standards of the black matriarchy? I mean I know some of yall lesbians should be able to relate to us as far as the b.s that some (key word is SOME*) if us go through.