How do you keep a sexual relationship alive over time?

[LaFamilia]

If you're in a relationship with someone no matter how good they look you're going to get bored, right? After years of fuckin & being with the same person it is inevitable that you will lose sexual attraction. How does a sexual relationship survive the test of time? Has anyone here been through something similar?

Ladies what are your thoughts on this? Men too.

 

[owl]

To be honest with you, and this is probably going to sound contrived, but let it soak a bit, you have to have something else more important than the sex to keep the sex good. If you are sincerely trying to balance an exclusive sexual relationship, there is no way to do it if the sex is the only exciting thing. What else are you guys doing PHYSICALLY together that makes y'all laugh, or gives you two a heightened sense of emotion? What are you two building in common outside of condom receipts?

You cannot build a relationship on money OR sex alone. If neither one of you is doing SOMETHING adventurous or just productive, that the other can be supportive about, and create some type of bond, so y'all can take a break from just smashing each other's pelvic bones , and allow some of that energy to build back up in addition to the new energy from the successes, and ironically failures, too, then the sex ain't going to get better no matter how many toys, edible thongs, or anal beads you experiment with...


Just my dime and nickel...

 

[Izayoi]

To be honest with you, and this is probably going to sound contrived, but let it soak a bit, you have to have something else more important than the sex to keep the sex good. If you are sincerely trying to balance an exclusive sexual relationship, there is no way to do it if the sex is the only exciting thing. What else are you guys doing PHYSICALLY together that makes y'all laugh, or gives you two a heightened sense of emotion? What are you two building in common outside of condom receipts?

You cannot build a relationship on money OR sex alone. If neither one of you is doing SOMETHING adventurous or just productive, that the other can be supportive about, and create some type of bond, so y'all can take a break from just smashing each other's pelvic bones , and allow some of that energy to build back up in addition to the new energy from the successes, and ironically failures, too, then the sex ain't going to get better no matter how many toys, edible thongs, or anal beads you experiment with...


Just my dime and nickel...

That's a priceless 15 cents there. C/S 100%

 

[ladyscorpio]

To be honest with you, and this is probably going to sound contrived, but let it soak a bit, you have to have something else more important than the sex to keep the sex good. If you are sincerely trying to balance an exclusive sexual relationship, there is no way to do it if the sex is the only exciting thing. What else are you guys doing PHYSICALLY together that makes y'all laugh, or gives you two a heightened sense of emotion? What are you two building in common outside of condom receipts?

You cannot build a relationship on money OR sex alone. If neither one of you is doing SOMETHING adventurous or just productive, that the other can be supportive about, and create some type of bond, so y'all can take a break from just smashing each other's pelvic bones , and allow some of that energy to build back up in addition to the new energy from the successes, and ironically failures, too, then the sex ain't going to get better no matter how many toys, edible thongs, or anal beads you experiment with...


Just my dime and nickel...

And there you have it.

 

[Raptor ES]

To be honest with you, and this is probably going to sound contrived, but let it soak a bit, you have to have something else more important than the sex to keep the sex good. If you are sincerely trying to balance an exclusive sexual relationship, there is no way to do it if the sex is the only exciting thing. What else are you guys doing PHYSICALLY together that makes y'all laugh, or gives you two a heightened sense of emotion? What are you two building in common outside of condom receipts?

You cannot build a relationship on money OR sex alone. If neither one of you is doing SOMETHING adventurous or just productive, that the other can be supportive about, and create some type of bond, so y'all can take a break from just smashing each other's pelvic bones , and allow some of that energy to build back up in addition to the new energy from the successes, and ironically failures, too, then the sex ain't going to get better no matter how many toys, edible thongs, or anal beads you experiment with...


Just my dime and nickel...

Co sign.

I am a very touchy feely guy. I love to just hold my girl and cuddle with her. A nice long deep conversation can be more stimulating then sex some times. I do a lot of things outside the bedroom with her as well. I take her shooting with me, we go have picnics etc etc.

It all starts in the mind. Capture the mind and the heart/body will follow.

Want to spice things up in the bedroom? 1000s of things you can do there from simple like candles and rose petals on the bed to elaborate costumes and toys.

 

[SickMyDuck]

To be honest with you, and this is probably going to sound contrived, but let it soak a bit, you have to have something else more important than the sex to keep the sex good. If you are sincerely trying to balance an exclusive sexual relationship, there is no way to do it if the sex is the only exciting thing. What else are you guys doing PHYSICALLY together that makes y'all laugh, or gives you two a heightened sense of emotion? What are you two building in common outside of condom receipts?

You cannot build a relationship on money OR sex alone. If neither one of you is doing SOMETHING adventurous or just productive, that the other can be supportive about, and create some type of bond, so y'all can take a break from just smashing each other's pelvic bones , and allow some of that energy to build back up in addition to the new energy from the successes, and ironically failures, too, then the sex ain't going to get better no matter how many toys, edible thongs, or anal beads you experiment with...


Just my dime and nickel...

NUFF SAID!

 

[Hellfish]

cosign
Here's a dry towel for those that soaked in brother owls knowledge

 

[Winky Wright]

great stuff

 

[LaFamilia]

Damn, close the thread. Owl laid it out. Thanks for the food for thought.

 

[QwietStorm]

I think its supremely ridiculous to say sexual boredom is inevitable. You have sex with a person you are with because of the passion you have for that PERSON. If all you do is fuck, then yea it can get boring, but I love everything about my woman and having sex with her is just a piece of my admiration for her. It doesn't get old, we only learn more about each other every time.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

If you're in a relationship with someone no matter how good they look you're going to get bored, right? After years of fuckin & being with the same person it is inevitable that you will lose sexual attraction. How does a sexual relationship survive the test of time? Has anyone here been through something similar?

Ladies what are your thoughts on this? Men too.

I have to disagree. I've been with my man for almost 6 years now and I've never lost sexual attraction. If the sex isn't there anymore check for emotional reasons.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

To be honest with you, and this is probably going to sound contrived, but let it soak a bit, you have to have something else more important than the sex to keep the sex good. If you are sincerely trying to balance an exclusive sexual relationship, there is no way to do it if the sex is the only exciting thing. What else are you guys doing PHYSICALLY together that makes y'all laugh, or gives you two a heightened sense of emotion? What are you two building in common outside of condom receipts?

You cannot build a relationship on money OR sex alone. If neither one of you is doing SOMETHING adventurous or just productive, that the other can be supportive about, and create some type of bond, so y'all can take a break from just smashing each other's pelvic bones , and allow some of that energy to build back up in addition to the new energy from the successes, and ironically failures, too, then the sex ain't going to get better no matter how many toys, edible thongs, or anal beads you experiment with...


Just my dime and nickel...

what he said

 

[Capt. Cutty]

i've never been in love, so i'm hoping there's more than just sex. . . . but the people that i have been with, i did got bored with the same ol sex after a while. . .





Resurgence of the Soul Sample

 

[Areanabell]

I feel all the responses here. However let's add another layer to this.

You and yours have been together a minute. Kids, hard times, break up to make up, infidelity. You fight and stay through it all.

One feels like they have something to prove the other really wants to be in the relationship.

What do you do when you hear

"we're together the courtship is over, we have no time for us because we have a family and have to provide a life for our kids. Why do we need to do the things we did when we were dating?"

After you get over the intial shock and rage and disbelief what's the next step.

2nd scenerio you and yours are both freaky, but yours has you on a pedestal. Up so high they barely want to you themselves. But they would rather be with or look at someone else or by themselves, than be with you.

Then what.... The courtship does not end once the babies come or you get the ring... relationships are ever evolving things just as we change so do your relationships. The goal is finding someone that is willing to work through it with you

 

[PussyMan]

Variety
Change the parameters. Do things in different places and in different ways.

If U are in a relationship for the long haul, then it is about a lot more than just sex.

 

[b0010100]

To be honest with you, and this is probably going to sound contrived, but let it soak a bit, you have to have something else more important than the sex to keep the sex good. If you are sincerely trying to balance an exclusive sexual relationship, there is no way to do it if the sex is the only exciting thing. What else are you guys doing PHYSICALLY together that makes y'all laugh, or gives you two a heightened sense of emotion? What are you two building in common outside of condom receipts?

You cannot build a relationship on money OR sex alone. If neither one of you is doing SOMETHING adventurous or just productive, that the other can be supportive about, and create some type of bond, so y'all can take a break from just smashing each other's pelvic bones , and allow some of that energy to build back up in addition to the new energy from the successes, and ironically failures, too, then the sex ain't going to get better no matter how many toys, edible thongs, or anal beads you experiment with...


Just my dime and nickel...

Damn! Killed the thread of one post!

the best advice is right there!