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How do you define good sex? What really does it for you?

Mo-Better

Mo-Better

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I know men and women think differently on sexuality issues. (damn near everything) So I'm sure there's going to be a wide range of answers to these questions. At first I addressed this to the ladies but these questions really are for everyone.

How do you define good sex? What really does it for you? What makes one sexual experence better than others? The anticipation, personality, forplay, orgasms? Is sex as enjoyable without orgasms? I know the genders differ on this one. :D
 
The mutual desire is big. But I find the best sex I've ever had is when I don't have to say anything and he doesn't have to say anything, it just works. But that is rare indeed.

I have found though that the warmer the dick, the better for me. I mean if it feels hot like an oven, I'm more turned on. I never thought about temperature before but I guess some men are just warmer than others. I suppose that must be the same for men and pussies.

Of course there has to be physical attraction. I also like men who know how to be soft with their touch and when to be rough with it and know what areas of my body needs which type of touch.
 
Like I always say, if I fall asleep you did the job. It usually takes a couple of orgasms. I remember this one brother, after we finished I told him to get dressed and take me to the grocery store. I was so pissed off
 
Well.. If she don't ride, she wack... no if's and's or but's

A woman who is stiff and not really willing to do anything is pretty wack... i just like goin with the flow and when it aint flowing it's usually wack

so many things... Don't want Colin coming tho
 
*sigh*

good sex ... for me... involves some deep long strokes... some kissing.. and not just my lips... my legs.. my shoulders.. everywhere..


But the biggest turn on is anticipation... some mental and verbal stimulation prior .... :yes::yes:
 
femmenoire said:
The mutual desire is big. But I find the best sex I've ever had is when I don't have to say anything and he doesn't have to say anything, it just works. But that is rare indeed.

I have found though that the warmer the dick, the better for me. I mean if it feels hot like an oven, I'm more turned on. I never thought about temperature before but I guess some men are just warmer than others. I suppose that must be the same for men and pussies.

Of course there has to be physical attraction. I also like men who know how to be soft with their touch and when to be rough with it and know what areas of my body needs which type of touch.
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Great answer Femme, but mostly everyone has focused on what "does it for" for them. Has anyone had sex that transended just the physical act? What about the person that without question takes you there? The one that makes cumming an uncontrollable act and it's not exactly because of their physical attributes. Moreso because they're mentally connected to you.

BTW yes there was some pussies that will take a man there. Make you wonder what happened. :yes:
 
I was thinking about what a man can do...but

LeroyDibiase said:
Did I nut?
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I'm going to go with that one. There are things that turn me on but you can't be satisfied without an orgasm. Now there are things that give me a greater orgasm than other things, but I don't know if I can equate such with consistent good sex.
 
when she comes more than once......when the body movements become uncontrollable on her part.....

For me it strokes the ego that I did a good job. That I made her glad to be a woman and that she is glad that she gave me the opportunity...
 
Great sex is when we don't have to explain every little thing. When he's not focused on getting the nut, but is focused on enjoying me...so then I can focus on enjoying him. And it can be transcendent, but it really has to be someone I already have that kind of deep vibe with outside of the bedroom. I can just smell my current lover's scent...just because he's nearby...and get soaking wet. I can stick my nose in his leather jacket and smell him...sends me up a wall. And this is after what, 5 years? What does it? Is he physically a pretty boy? Not really. His vibe, his energy and our friendship have lasted beyond gained weight and lost weight, through bad times and good times. It matters that he likes to have fun and that being physical with me is fun for him...and for me too. It matters that across a room full of people, I catch him looking at me and that the look promises me hours of pleasure as soon as we can get away. What really matters is the mind-fucking. He understands things about me that I'd never really known about myself...and says the same about me.
 
IvoryOdalisque said:
Great sex is when we don't have to explain every little thing. When he's not focused on getting the nut, but is focused on enjoying me...so then I can focus on enjoying him. And it can be transcendent, but it really has to be someone I already have that kind of deep vibe with outside of the bedroom. I can just smell my current lover's scent...just because he's nearby...and get soaking wet. I can stick my nose in his leather jacket and smell him...sends me up a wall. And this is after what, 5 years? What does it? Is he physically a pretty boy? Not really. His vibe, his energy and our friendship have lasted beyond gained weight and lost weight, through bad times and good times. It matters that he likes to have fun and that being physical with me is fun for him...and for me too. It matters that across a room full of people, I catch him looking at me and that the look promises me hours of pleasure as soon as we can get away. What really matters is the mind-fucking. He understands things about me that I'd never really known about myself...and says the same about me.
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At last somoeone out there knows what I'm talking about. Thanks I was beginning to have my doubts about women and what they were about and sadly where their thoughts are heading. It's good to see there's still some out here who get it right. :yes:
 
Mo-Better said:
At last somoeone out there knows what I'm talking about. Thanks I was beginning to have my doubts about women and what they were about and sadly where their thoughts are heading. It's good to see there's still some out here who get it right. :yes:
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I think it matters that you be with someone around whom you are ok giving up your usual defenses. I don't care if he sees me with my press all fucked up - he's usually the reason and pays to get my hair done. And I don't care if he sees me making crazy faces, or crying or screaming or whatever. He thinks it's hilarious to get up and leave me looking suspiciously like I just got run over by a truck...he doesn't care if I hear him moaning incoherently or screaming like a bitch because I learned something new in my bellydance class and tried it while riding him. The ego is out of the way for the time. Maybe it's the acceptance thing...we ar the people we are and that's it. If he's sweaty and funky from a day at work, that doesn't stop me from wanting to lick him...I like those smells too...There's no shame. That helps. I don't feel guilty about having put on a few pounds or lost a few, neither does he. He likes me even when I don't like myself. And vice-versa. That's the friendship there. You asked an interesting question...

Now: is it possible to achieve this the first time with someone? Depends on how badly you wanted them in the first place and why, doesn't it? If the mind fuck was there to begin with, then it might happen. Helps if each of you has a really positive concept of themselves as damned sexy. If I just want you to be a vibrator and to use you to get myself off, then I don't think it will happen.
 
when the girl can't keep her hands off my dick. Holding it like she won the stanley cup....

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IvoryOdalisque said:
I think it matters that you be with someone around whom you are ok giving up your usual defenses. I don't care if he sees me with my press all fucked up - he's usually the reason and pays to get my hair done. And I don't care if he sees me making crazy faces, or crying or screaming or whatever. He thinks it's hilarious to get up and leave me looking suspiciously like I just got run over by a truck...he doesn't care if I hear him moaning incoherently or screaming like a bitch because I learned something new in my bellydance class and tried it while riding him. The ego is out of the way for the time. Maybe it's the acceptance thing...we ar the people we are and that's it. If he's sweaty and funky from a day at work, that doesn't stop me from wanting to lick him...I like those smells too...There's no shame. That helps. I don't feel guilty about having put on a few pounds or lost a few, neither does he. He likes me even when I don't like myself. And vice-versa. That's the friendship there. You asked an interesting question...

Now: is it possible to achieve this the first time with someone? Depends on how badly you wanted them in the first place and why, doesn't it? If the mind fuck was there to begin with, then it might happen. Helps if each of you has a really positive concept of themselves as damned sexy. If I just want you to be a vibrator and to use you to get myself off, then I don't think it will happen.
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Again this is exactly what I was saying. What your talking about is an unconditional relationship. Most people never experence that. In fact I would say most people have never been in love. Oh yeah you can love someone or they can love you but being in love is an entirely different level. As you stated smells don't even matter because your both on an entirely different level.

There's no need for verbal communication you both just know and it happens, there's nothing special that's done, it's spontaneous, continuous and blissful.

The difference to all this is as you alluded to is the mind. Connecting on a mental level makes all the difference in the world. When the mental connection is there everything else falls right into place. Nothing else really matters.

It's not about ones looks, the money in the bank, the home or anything like that. It's all about that mental connection. So many are hung up on the superficial aspects of relationships and even dating. You can have big bucks today and be broke next week. Looks fade with time but the one thing that if it's there is that metal connection. That takes relationships further than many could ever imagine.
 
Mo-Better said:
Again this is exactly what I was saying. What your talking about is an unconditional relationship. Most people never experence that. In fact I would say most people have never been in love. Oh yeah you can love someone or they can love you but being in love is an entirely different level. As you stated smells don't even matter because your both on an entirely different level.

There's no need for verbal communication you both just know and it happens, there's nothing special that's done, it's spontaneous, continuous and blissful.

The difference to all this is as you alluded to is the mind. Connecting on a mental level makes all the difference in the world. When the mental connection is there everything else falls right into place. Nothing else really matters.

It's not about ones looks, the money in the bank, the home or anything like that. It's all about that mental connection. So many are hung up on the superficial aspects of relationships and even dating. You can have big bucks today and be broke next week. Looks fade with time but the one thing that if it's there is that metal connection. That takes relationships further than many could ever imagine.
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Mo-Better...I like how u think!
 
i like instense, almost animalistic sex. when i'm with a female and we're rippin' each others clothes off, passionately kissing, and groping. getting right down to it, until we're both covered in sweat. i like to switch speeds like bruce lee riding a fuji in a movie. fast then slow, and back to fast. the best part for me is when you're stroking and you're almost trying to split the chick in half. when you're that deep up in it, if you're with someone you dig, you both start moving in synchronization (live wires connect). that's the closest you can get to a woman physically, IMO.
 
Good sex means it starts off passionatley.... both of us cant keep our hands to ourselves or cant stop makin out. then we make it to the room and r tearin off each others clothes and then sweating and breathing heavily.... good sex means that when we're done we can't move or we dont wanna go another round...
 
For me at least, there are a few layers to what can be good sex.

I'm stubborn as shit about anticipation, but I've learned the buildup is really what makes it hot (blame The Art of Seduction). Just the idea of kissing a woman, touching her, her touching me....o.k., time to turn the AC

Another part of it is the desire on both sides - how bad do we want this to be good? I want to make a woman nut as many times as possible, so can she make sure I get a good one? Is she going to suck a brother like a king, or give woodpecker head? Am I willing to do what she likes, no matter how odd?

Sounds. I'm not saying a woman has to scream and moan like she's trying to escape the jaws of a lion, but some moaning, especially when she's trying to catch her breath goes a long way.
 
HoneyDip said:
Good sex means it starts off passionatley.... both of us cant keep our hands to ourselves or cant stop makin out. then we make it to the room and r tearin off each others clothes and then sweating and breathing heavily.... good sex means that when we're done we can't move or we dont wanna go another round...
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:D Sounds right to me, I'm not going to argue with you. :D
 
Cleopatra_J said:
*sigh*

good sex ... for me... involves some deep long strokes... some kissing.. and not just my lips... my legs.. my shoulders.. everywhere..


But the biggest turn on is anticipation... some mental and verbal stimulation prior .... :yes::yes:
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yes.. suck my fingers.. tell me how good my pussy feels.. pull my hair only to turn my head to make me kiss u, or to expose my neck.. kneel in front of me and play with my pussy while you're in there deep.. lean over me and stick your tongue out and let it brush over my nipples while they bounce because of your thrusts.. things of that nature
 
felicity said:
yes.. suck my fingers.. tell me how good my pussy feels.. pull my hair only to turn my head to make me kiss u, or to expose my neck.. kneel in front of me and play with my pussy while you're in there deep.. lean over me and stick your tongue out and let it brush over my nipples while they bounce because of your thrusts.. things of that nature
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Things of that nature...........OK Sounds like a winner to me. :yes:
 

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