How Can A Guy Make A Woman More Sexually Expressive? Any Tips From The Ladies?

[Mr. Del]

This was inspired by Femm's response in a thread:

Child, he brought it too. Had mirrors and everything. I guess he's the one that made me comfortable with my body and watching myself in ecstacy.

He made me comfortable watching penetration, strokes, etc.

Mirrors, huh? Hmm, I'm trying to get my girl to be more sexually expressive. She grew up in a strict Christian household which somewhat subdued her sexually. I know she has some freak in her and she's willing to learn, but I would like some tips or tricks on how to get her to open all the way up and get in touch with her sexuality.

So the question is, how/what did a guy do to feel comfortable in your own skin? What tips/tricks do you recommend?

 

[GT2BK007]

Yeah good topic bro. I am curious about the female perspective on this one.

 

[Shadow]

The funny thing with me is, I was the one that was a little closed off sexually.

So before you work on her opening up, make sure you are sexually open as well.

THAT, my brother, is what will truly open the doors for you.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

The funny thing with me is, I was the one that was a little closed off sexually.

So before you work on her opening up, make sure you are sexually open as well.

THAT, my brother, is what will truly open the doors for you.

End of thread

 

[watulove]

My ex had to be patient with me and open me up to new things slowly. It helped that I trusted him with my life, so I was more open to go where he wanted and try new things because I knew that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me (plus he knew that if something hurt me during sex, I was fighting...I don't play that).

 

[AristotlesOwn]

My ex had to be patient with me and open me up to new things slowly. It helped that I trusted him with my life, so I was more open to go where he wanted and try new things because I knew that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me (plus he knew that if something hurt me during sex, I was fighting...I don't play that).

Key phrase, now we can end the thread

 

[Mr. Del]

The funny thing with me is, I was the one that was a little closed off sexually.

So before you work on her opening up, make sure you are sexually open as well.

THAT, my brother, is what will truly open the doors for you.

Dog, no offense, but thats exactly why I made this thread in the first place. That's pretty much why I still hang around BGOL.

I feel what you're saying, but I know I'm already there. I just don't want to get too ahead of myself and say all the wrong things to turn her off. The whole "express yourself sexually" thing is still new to her, you know? Now it's my responsibility to open up and feel comfortable doing so.

 

[Mr. Del]

My ex had to be patient with me and open me up to new things slowly. It helped that I trusted him with my life, so I was more open to go where he wanted and try new things because I knew that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me (plus he knew that if something hurt me during sex, I was fighting...I don't play that).

Yeah I know I have her to the point where she can trust me with her life. But the downside is that she's been programmed to think a certain way about sex since she was young. She's willing to learn, so I want to help "de-progam" her.
I just don"t want to say or do the wrong things.

But her trusting me is what took us this far.

 

[Chicutie]

Yeah I know I have her to the point where she can trust me with her life. But the downside is that she's been programmed to think a certain way about sex since she was young. She's willing to learn, so I want to help "de-progam" her.
I just don"t want to say or do the wrong things.

But her trusting me is what took us this far.

I think patience is the key. For me, I had to build up to the point where I felt comfortable doing certain things even though the trust was definitely there.. . This is not an overnight process. You have to take it slow. One step at a time. Start with something small. . . Have to build up to the freak level.

 

[Jam_Jam]

I think patience is the key. For me, I had to build up to the point where I felt comfortable doing certain things even though the trust was definitely there.. . This is not an overnight process. You have to take it slow. One step at a time. Start with something small. . . Have to build up to the freak level.

I agree. If she is inexperienced it is best to introduce a little bit of freakiness at a time. Don't overwhelm her. Gradually discuss what it is you would like to have transpire between the two of you sexually. Every woman has some freak in her. You can bring it out by being open, honest and patient. Show her that you are a gentle, loving man and you will have her eating out of your hand sooner than you think.

 

[femmenoire]

It takes patience, timing, trust and most of all chemistry.

If all of that is not there, then you are just another ninja trying to bust a nut.

Some women no matter who you are, no matter what you do are just not going to open up.

For some women it may take alcohol, watching a porn, being a little rough, or in some cases totally ignoring the chick to make her want you and be expressive in that manner.

But you also must know how to make a woman feel sexy. It's in your eyes. And when that happens, at least for me, I'm pretty much yours for the taking.

 

[ladyscorpio]

Patience, overstanding and respect. Then to top it off communicate communicate, communicate some more.





Peace