Helping People = TROUBLE (share your stories)

[bigirl]

Regardless of what some of you may think, I am a kind and generous loving and caring person. I love to help people if I can.

HOWEVER, what has happened twice in the last month and also has happened previously is that you stick your neck out to help people and not only does it go unappreciated but you end up getting blamed and accused of bullshit.

This morning I got woken up by this 50 year old computer illiterate "friend" of mine who begged me to help her with her myspace. She didn't know how to do a fucking thing. I spent 2 days sending out friend requests to really good people for her and nicing up her profile. You have no idea the 102 friends I got her. She is trying to start a business and she is blessed with those people. ALL SHE HAS DONE IS COMPLAIN. Now this morning she accuses me of getting her myspace hacked or somthing. She claims she got a message "I'm going to kick your ass bigirl" yet I don't see the message anywhere in there. I ask her to tell me the name of who sent it she says "I don't know". I just got done cursing her the fuck off

Last week I got it from the tenants in the building who I hooked up with my lawyer who blessed us and did our case practically for free. Case been going on over 6 months. All they did the whole time was complain what a shitty lawyer he supposedly is. He got everyone 6 months free rent. yeah thats real shitty. Tenants didnt keep to their responsibilities. I had to constantly run behind them reminding them to go sign papers and stuff. One bitch YELLED at me I was disturbing her school. I told her I don't appreciate being yelled at when I looking out. Now she hates me . yeah I am the bad one. Next dude fucked the lawyer over and I had to hear about it. I called him on it and he too YELLED at me and I cursed him off and now I the bad one again.

WTF IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE???!!!!!

So anyway I ain't doing shit for nobody ever again. Sorry for Colin/Condi length post.

Wondering if any of the rest of you have stories like this or am I the only damn jackass.

HA and you wonder why I VEX so much
Here I was getting ready to have a peaceful and relaxing Sunday and I wake up to this bullshit. My blood is BOILING and it ain't even noon yet

 

[SinaminDelite]

Both of those situations are truly fucked up. Six months free rent, and still complaining? So ungrateful. But I've learned a while ago that people will always mistake kindness for weakness. I've been in way too many situations where I help someone out, be it money, school, household stuff, work, etc, and get shitted on every single time. Human nature is to take advantage of any situation, so people who like to help others just for the sake of being nice usually get played. They will talk shit behind your back, be completely ungrateful and unappreciative, and still want more just to see what they could get out of you. I just don't do it anymore.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

I had a friend of mine that was chronically unemployed. She got a job at a food factory. I lent her $100 of the family grocery money so that she could by a pair of steel toed work boots (they're required by law for all industrial jobs here). Anyway this bitch gets in a fight with her supervisor and quits her job after 4 hours. I ask her for the money back but she won't give it because she doesn't have a job.

I should have known because every time I'd take her shopping she'd try to hustle me. We'd be in the lineup. I'd pay for my groceries she'd put hers down and ALWAYS be short money to pay for them. Not just $5-$10 either. More like $10 or $20. Then she'd put on her sad eyes and ask if I could help her out just a little.

I got more, but I'm done sharing out negative energy for the day.

 

[AlexandMorgan]

I help people if i can and only then.

My former buddy would call me up and ask me for a ride by his girl but because she had a crazy ex-man he would beg me to wait for him while he Talked to her.


He kept me staked out one too many times and never gave me any gas money but he would talk about giving me the money a lot. Now when i do hear him i am always busy or unavailable.

 

[Noir]

...... you stick your neck out to help people and not only does it go unappreciated but you end up getting blamed and accused of bullshit.

WTF IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE???!!!!!

HA and you wonder why I VEX so much
Here I was getting ready to have a peaceful and relaxing Sunday and I wake up to this bullshit. My blood is BOILING and it ain't even noon yet

No, you are not the only one with the problems. I have to deal with people who I provide GIGS of free music to, and aren't even able to fucking load their ipods (and I hate iPods). Do you think they kick in a few bucks for the CDs and DVDs I am burning for them?

Especially at work with the damned computer illiterate people I deal with working for the city, I do not mind showing you how to navigate through Outlook, or how to utilize a spreadsheet or database, but shit, at least make the effort to learn and not ask me the same fucking questions every time ("How do I send an attachment with an e-mail?") I got tired wasting money sending people to training.

I am not even going to go there with helping people with their personal problems. You'd think 40+ year old adults would have left that he said/she said, gossip bullshit behind years ago. I am out of that personal counselor game now, burned too many times.

Damn, Bigirl, you getting me riled up. Now, I have to get up, get dressed and have me some breakfast. I might have to go out tonight, drink and listen to some Jazz, since I am off tomorrow.

 

[LoneStar29]

I had a friend who was in a relationship with a straight up loser ... I'm talking small time drug dealer going to jail every month never had a job sleeps out every night doesn't take care of their baby ... anyways ... she asked me for advice cuz she found some letters he was writing to females during his last bid ... I told her that he was a loser and that she needed to get rid of him ... my advice was appreciated until she spoke to him again ... he gave her a sobb/con story and she fell for it ... the next thing I know we aren't friends anymore cuz she doesn't like what I said about her man ... I'm like WTF but you asked me??? Anyways she's an idiot and I'm glad to not have her in my life anymore and I stopped giving out man advice too cuz girls NEVER wanna hear the truth about their man(except for me that is)

 

[jucurious]

i had to change the way i help ppl cuz im a perfectionist bcuz i pride myself on quality help but i noticed that i would create a dependency on me.

during undergrad ppl used to come to me all the time to help them with their speeches, presentations and powerpoint projects. i remember one time i was swamped with work and emotion (i was going thru something) and this girl asked me to help her and i told her i couldn't help her start it cuz i was busy and she caught an attitude.


then i remember walkin thru the residence hall and her tryna call me out in front of her group members like...can u help us now or are u still going thru ur shit...and her whole group looked at me. i did my lil sarcastic laugh and was like yeah im busy doing absolutely nothin so go find someone else to help u or maybe actually try doing ur damn project urself.

as long as u let them...USERS will suck u dry



now i only help those who usually help

 

[jucurious]

I had a friend who was in a relationship with a straight up loser ... I'm talking small time drug dealer going to jail every month never had a job sleeps out every night doesn't take care of their baby ... anyways ... she asked me for advice cuz she found some letters he was writing to females during his last bid ... I told her that he was a loser and that she needed to get rid of him ... my advice was appreciated until she spoke to him again ... he gave her a sobb/con story and she fell for it ... the next thing I know we aren't friends anymore cuz she doesn't like what I said about her man ... I'm like WTF but you asked me??? Anyways she's an idiot and I'm glad to not have her in my life anymore and I stopped giving out man advice too cuz girls NEVER wanna hear the truth about their man(except for me that is)

haha yeah i always wondered that...y ask if u don't wanna know or u gonna just disregard

i will admit...i had a lil problem...when i gave advice i expected ppl to use it (which is wrong) but they would come back to me and say i should have listened to u anyway...so i'm like wtf

some ppl learn from bumpin their heads so ehh

 

[Steelwill2006]

You're something else BIGirl. Complain about the men asking women for advice, but here you are venting as if anyone really gives a shit. I like how you made this an open post for discussion too. Very crafty.

 

[SWATLANTA]

I have four friends that I have known since middle school and we are tight like brothers. We were roommates in college and one of my best friends fell in love with a certified freak. It got so bad that he would ignore the obvious signs (inviting her ex to stay with her every now and then at her apartment and sleeping in the same room ). This dude was chopping up any and everything he wanted on campus, but this chick just had him shook. We had to pull this cat aside and have a freak intervention. It wasn't easy, but we finally got him to see her for what she really was.

 

[bigirl]

You're something else BIGirl. Complain about the men asking women for advice, but here you are venting as if anyone really gives shit.

First of all I was complaining about the obviously fake bait threads and the lack of female posters
Second I asked others to share their similar stories and I can vent when where and how I feel like it. If you don't like it click a different thread.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

I had a friend who was in a relationship with a straight up loser ... I'm talking small time drug dealer going to jail every month never had a job sleeps out every night doesn't take care of their baby ... anyways ... she asked me for advice cuz she found some letters he was writing to females during his last bid ... I told her that he was a loser and that she needed to get rid of him ... my advice was appreciated until she spoke to him again ... he gave her a sobb/con story and she fell for it ... the next thing I know we aren't friends anymore cuz she doesn't like what I said about her man ... I'm like WTF but you asked me??? Anyways she's an idiot and I'm glad to not have her in my life anymore and I stopped giving out man advice too cuz girls NEVER wanna hear the truth about their man(except for me that is)

I hear you on this one. Lost so many friends by giving them relationship advice that I had to break it down to two questions. If a person asks me about their significant other I ask them "What do you want out of life?" They tell me some vague goal or other (The ones with the worst relationships always have the vaguest goals) then I asked them "How is this person helping you get that?"

I just went on a blind date with a woman who was pissed off that I wouldn't help her sell her furniture, so I asked her "I'm moving to California in three months. How are you going to help me get there?" That answered the question for both of us and neither one of us called each other again.

 

[AlexandMorgan]

To bigirl. Not that you might really care but see below

I aint mad at cha - Tupac

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[Steelwill2006]

First of all I was complaining about the obviously fake bait threads and the lack of female posters
Second I asked others to share their similar stories and I can vent when where and how I feel like it. If you don't like it click a different thread.

True.


My grievances are with people who don't own a car, and ask you you to take them somewhere and throw you $5 dollars on some gas. Sure, it might cover getting them from point A to point B. But damn, it would cost way more in a cab. Give a brotha a tip, is all I'm asking. Especially if I was busy doing something at that very moment.

 

[dHustla]

I'll read later

 

[4North1Side2]

Everytime I help a person, I'm spoken very highly of...It's very normal for people to put me on a pedestal.