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DigitalAngel2007
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Oooh it is possible. Yes, it happend to me...And I will leave it there..
Why are you shaking your head in dismay.....I take it this didn't go well?
Have you ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?
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Why are you shaking your head in dismay.....I take it this didn't go well?
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DigitalAngel2007
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Okay Okay....Lets agree to disagree. I gotta save some of this arguing for my man
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DigitalAngel2007
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Noooo not good at all
Well did you pick one or leave them both???
You know the word love is really over rated. Why is it so hard to grasp the concept of having the same feelings for 2 people.
We dislike others mutually on a daily basis.
We admire other individuals at the same time
so why is the concept of loving more than one person so hard to fathom?
Perhaps it's just not as easy for some as it is for others. But do know that loving two people doesn't mean you have to necessarily be with them. People think love is all about being with someone "if you really love her, you won't let nothing stand in the way" I say that's hogwash
I'll come back and touch some more on this at another time, I want to peruse the forum some more...brb
We dislike others mutually on a daily basis.
We admire other individuals at the same time
so why is the concept of loving more than one person so hard to fathom?
Perhaps it's just not as easy for some as it is for others. But do know that loving two people doesn't mean you have to necessarily be with them. People think love is all about being with someone "if you really love her, you won't let nothing stand in the way" I say that's hogwash
I'll come back and touch some more on this at another time, I want to peruse the forum some more...brb
I married my husband........Left the other...
In Love
I feel you can love the world. But you only can share your entire heart with one.
I'd like to say I'm just a romantic at heart.
but...
Lets say we look at this mathmatically
there is one whole person = you
you have one heart
how can you split that up and still come up with 100% on both sides. For the sake of argument say you love them equally you can only give 50%.
DONT GET ME WRONG I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING , BUT I CANT MAKE YOU FEEL WHAT I FELT FOR BOTH OF THEM. I DONT TELL WOMEN I LOVE THEM JUST TO MAKE THEM FEEL BETTER OR JUST TO GET SEX FROM THEM. WHEN I SAY IT I MEAN IT. I ALSO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE FROM LOVING SOMEONE AND BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE. I WAS IN LOVE WITH BOTH OF THEM. BUT I DO UNDERSTAND YOUR POINT , AND TRUST ME I LEARNED MY LESSON WITH THAT ONE.
Well said candee.
Noooo not good at all
Me neither. Not well at all...an emotional train wreck of epic proportions.
Even with Polyamory you have your "primary" and everyone else is "secondary."
Even with Pimpin' you have your "bottom bitch" and everyone else is transitory.
Yes humans are biologically programmed to LUST after multiple partners, but I was raised to believe Love comes from a Divine source and is not of the flesh. So you can love more than one person, but not be "in love" in a mate / give your heart completely to them way.
Go 'head baby. Quotin the Qu'ran and stuff. Dig that!
MAYBE if someone is bisexual I can see being in love with two different people, male and female. But that about it. Otherwise someone is getting hurt, sold short, frozen or phased out.
As the people who answered "yes" in this thread have attested to.
love suffers long as is kind. love does not envy; love does not parade itself, isn't puff up; does not behave rudely; does not seek it's own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things; believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 cor 13: 4-8.
love is deeper than what she can do for me. it's about what i can do for her. it's about my loving her like God loves me. i don't think that u can be truly commited to 2 people.
1 cor 13: 4-8.
love is deeper than what she can do for me. it's about what i can do for her. it's about my loving her like God loves me. i don't think that u can be truly commited to 2 people.
What is being debated is intensity. "In love" refers to degree or intensity of romantic and sexual love.
That's different from admiration, dislike or loving both mom and dad.
To suggest someone can sustain the required intensity to be "in love" with two different people without shorting one or the other just isn't realistic.
Son of a bitch! I was gonna post Corinthians 13 in the Love Poetry thread next
... stealin a nigga's thunder...
Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time? Absolutely.
Do most people have the time and energy to make 2 people feel like they are the object of being in love? Thats much much harder to pull off.
Most people through natural and societal pressures would/will make a choice but it's completely possible to be emotionally in love with 2 people at the same time.
Love is an emotion/emotional state and thus defies logic by it's very nature.
Do most people have the time and energy to make 2 people feel like they are the object of being in love? Thats much much harder to pull off.
Most people through natural and societal pressures would/will make a choice but it's completely possible to be emotionally in love with 2 people at the same time.
Love is an emotion/emotional state and thus defies logic by it's very nature.
Darlin,(with much respect) You are so wrong. Been there, done that, and got some real deep scars behind that shyt!!!
Yeah, three
Me
Myself
and I
j/k no seriously I think it's impossible. Basically your love for the first wouldn't allow you to feel that way about someone else (unless you fall out of love with the current). Hence, you can't obtain a new love while fully loving another.
Unless of course you love them differenty and not COMPLETELY that's a different story.
You know............. while all that sounds really, really.......smart and intellectual, shyt, just happens. And in my case, I worked really hard at not (intentionally )wanting to hurt either of them, hurt them i did. But the pain I walk with daily(knowing the pain I did cause) hurts me a lot. Still think about it a lot and it's been 8 years.
Let the clownage begin.......
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