Ending Negative Associations

[Imhotep]

No one needs negativity in his or her life. No one needs someone who constantly undercuts and opposes his or her attempt at success. No one needs a jealous person throwing obstacles of hindrance before them on the road to accomplishment. People who do these things should be first on the list of disassociation, regardless of who they are, even mother, father, friend or foe.

When the gift of motivation and courage entraps a person so they believe they can achieve whatever they want, there is always someone around to dampen the mood. If the achiever is weak, they will be thwarted in their efforts and will never know what they could have achieved. Then they will themselves, become an obstacle to someone else because they now feel nothing is achievable.

The first sign of recognizing a person who would rather you fail is to take a mental note of their first reaction to a great and achievable idea. If they suggest something otherwise on how they would do it or have any other opposing reaction, jealousy has reared its head. If they begin a story of someone they know who have tried the idea and failed, again, jealousy.

The opposite is also true. If there is a situation requiring a moral and or positive solution and they offer one of the opposite, they do not have your best interest at heart. For instance, a son calls his father for some marriage advice. He wondered what he should do after a major setback happened to his family. The son felt powerless because he was unemployed and could not do anything to provide for his family.

The father suggested the son take time off to rebuild, in other words, leave his family until he got himself together. Now if the son had no ability to reason for himself or had no sense of right and wrong, this advice could have torn up a perfectly good family. However, it was obvious to the son now how he and his siblings became so dysfunctional seeing the father had done the same to his own family.

With advice like that, who needs a father? If a father could pass that kind of advice to his son, imagine what lurks in the hearts of people who do not share the same bloodline. Friends, coworkers, and family are people we must deal with everyday, but we do not have to take their advice, suggestions, and certainly not their negative views about and on life.

If there is something you know you can achieve, no matter how far-fetched the idea may seem to someone else, if you believe it, you can achieve it. Quickly disassociate yourself from people who would rather see you fail and remain with them, and then surround yourself with people of equal and greater vision. Great people did not achieve what they did by associating with pessimistic people; they achieved what they did by surrounding themselves with achievers.

Source
http://afromerica.com/knowledge/psychology/networks/negative.php

 

[1BigMarket]

Hey, Great Post, my friend

This reminds me of a powerful story about motivation I heard years ago. I don't remember where I heard it or even if it was a

true story, but it perfectly exemplifies the human ability to transcend circumstances.

My memory of it is fuzzy, so here's my version....with a twist.

A reporter decided to follow up on an incredible human interest story after hearing of two brothers, one a vicious dangerous

criminal to be locked up for the next ten years for his latest crime, and the other a highly respected university professor.

After the arrest of brother number one, he told the police about his brother, his closest living relative.

After the police discovered who brother number two was, a reporter was given the tip that this could be an interesting story.

Upon interviewing both men a length, the reporter learned that their father was a brutal man. He was a hard drinker. And his

brand of teaching his boys "right from wrong" involved terrible verbal abuse no matter where they happened to be. When they

got "out of line," he hit them with belts, his fists, sticks-whatever was handy.

They both told almost identical stories of extreme cruelty, Neither one was exempt from the old man's anger and drunken rage.

While the boys were 19 and 20 respectively, their father died of a massive heart attack. Shortly afterwards, the brothers had

a falling out and never saw each other again-brother number one moved out of state and sort of fell of the face of the

earth-living his life between jail terms.

Brother number two graduated from college and followed a designed path to living a rewarding life of service to his

community, his church and his family.

The thing that practically knocked the reporter over was both brothers' identical answer to the same question.

After getting the background on both individuals , the question was, "How did you get here at this point in your life ?"

The two answered the question with the same response...

"With a father like mine, how could I be any different?"

One used his father a an excuse, while the other used him as motivation-as training on what not to do.

You see, it's not what happens to you in life that dictates where you'll go and who you'll be. It's what you do with it.

I'll bet right now, you could sit down and make a list of at least a dozen people who have risen up from hellish childhoods,

or who are completely different than anyone else in their families in some significant way. You'll discover that, concerning

the differences, there are completely different belief systems, different ways of "looking at" the situations, diffrent

motivations and reward systems.

So I'm being honest when I tell you there s no reason why you can't achieve your next big goal. None. I don't care how many

times you've fallen on your face.

And stop with excuses. You've been lying to yourself too long.

 

[kenbgco68]

1BigMarket, that sounds like Michael Eric Dyson and his brother. I don't know about their father, but Mike's brother spent a lotta time in prison, and Mike is who he is. I agree with the 'excuse vs motivation' belief, tho.