Can a substantial/real relationship grow from...

jucurious

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a one night stand?

cheating and then trying get with the person you cheated with?


my apologies if this is a repost but i just got finished talkin to my boy and he seems a lil confused about it.

talk to me SOL
 
ok...well what about from a one night stand? both parties are single...so what about in that situation?

Possible but a little difficult. Movies make it seem so easy but for some of us it aint. Depends on the two persons involved i guess.:dunno::dunno:

Theoretically sex is supposed to be the culmination of a relationship between two lovers but if you did what was first last, then some people have difficulty trying to now get to know someone who they done had their genitals in one another mouths.

It makes them feel like they are walking backwards. But some people prefer to know if the sex is good before they commit to someone so to each their own.
 
ok...well what about from a one night stand? both parties are single...so what about in that situation?

Damn thats a tough one. Sometimes you are just feeling somebody like that and 2 grown people shouldn't have a problem with hooking up when they think it is right. I personally would rather wait than do it on the first date but if the feelings are undeniable I am not going to be scared to go forward.
 
One night stand? Depends on if both parties respect each other after that. Usually, it's the male that will look at a woman different afterwards.

Cheating? Only if they can trust one another. Trying, ain't gonna cut it.
 
I think it can. It depends on the people involved. If there was more involved than just sex and there actually was a real connection there, why couldn't cheating move forward to real relationship?
 
:smh: I'll have to take this quote from a friend of mine. He once said "I take girls as they come." Pretty much meaning if she first came to him just wanting to fuck then I'll never take her seriously as a gf type.
 
I think it can. It depends on the people involved. If there was more involved than just sex and there actually was a real connection there, why couldn't cheating move forward to real relationship?

You are just asking to be walked on in life.
 
You are just asking to be walked on in life.

I'm not saying that I would be willing to be with someone who had someone else.

That's not what I meant. The reason I said what I did is because I've been in a situation where I was the person cheating and me and the person I was cheating with ended up having a long term relationship.

I'm not saying that it's likely and that it would happen in every cheating/one night stand situation. But in my case it did end in a relationship. And in the relationship there was never any trust issues or anything.
 
a one night stand?

cheating and then trying get with the person you cheated with?


my apologies if this is a repost but i just got finished talkin to my boy and he seems a lil confused about it.

talk to me SOL

Anyone who offers a blanket answer is full of shit. This would have to be evaluated on a case by case basis. It's probably not likely to happen, but you could well hook up with a person with whom you are infinitely more well suited than you are with your current significant other. If that is the case, make a clean break and go for what you know. Life is too short to stand on ceremony.
 
Anyone who offers a blanket answer is full of shit. This would have to be evaluated on a case by case basis. It's probably not likely to happen, but you could well hook up with a person with whom you are infinitely more well suited than you are with your current significant other. If that is the case, make a clean break and go for what you know. Life is too short to stand on ceremony.

:yes: Exactly my point.
 
Anyone who offers a blanket answer is full of shit. This would have to be evaluated on a case by case basis. It's probably not likely to happen, but you could well hook up with a person with whom you are infinitely more well suited than you are with your current significant other. If that is the case, make a clean break and go for what you know. Life is too short to stand on ceremony.

Aye, who can argue with this?

For real, shit the pyramids were built on sands, some are better master architects than others....

In real life different things happen for different people...
 
Anyone who offers a blanket answer is full of shit. This would have to be evaluated on a case by case basis. It's probably not likely to happen, but you could well hook up with a person with whom you are infinitely more well suited than you are with your current significant other. If that is the case, make a clean break and go for what you know. Life is too short to stand on ceremony.

agreed :yes:
 
The "cheating" situation, that's up in the air. I'll just say that that's not the ideal way to start a relationship.
the second one(one night stand) wouldn't be considered a "one night stand" if you see them more than that one night. If you mean sex up front, that can work. Y'all just might be feelin' each other that much that you take it to that level right away. But, don't get it twisted, don't get good sex mixed up with wether or not this is the person for you. I say that to say, don't move too fast on it just 'cause she rocked you the first night. take it slow still. and don't get that mentality that "if she did it with me, she might do it with anybody the first night". Hell, she could say the same thing about yo ass.
 
how old are you?:hmm:

old enough to know to check a person's public profile before posting questions with answers that are readily available ;)

now back to the thread


thanks for the replies

i showed him this thread and he admits that he def is suffering from the "if she did it w/me what will stop her from doing it w/ the next dude" thing that one of you posted about.

ehhh w/e, I know him, he is still gonna mess w/ the chic. I just hope he breaks it off w/ his girl of 2yrs 1st...she crazy as hell but I don't think anyone deserves to be cheated on.
 
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