Black father/parenting question

[yasky777]

Last weekend I took my youngest to another kids birthday party,it was in an upscale townhouse in downtown Chi. The family was black and very diverse and welcoming. My son is 5 and very solid and slightly tall for his age. The age groups varied from 3-7 with mixed races there. During the party 3 white kids aged 4-6 were punching wrestling and being mean to each other and some of the other kids, and not sharing toys. Their parents just let them carry on fucking each other up. They were rude and had bad manners. One inparticular told my son "no he wasn't going to share" a toy that my son had originally, I told mine to just find something else and he'd get his turn again. But sharing is the appropriate thing to do.... Long story short at the end of the party they were all taking pictures with photo booth costumes and they ran out of costumes by the time my son joined the group. Needless to say he was shitty as fuck, and I don't blame him. He refused to take the picture with them and was ready to fuck shit up.

I preach him to share and remain calm and to not punch other kids because he's been taught by me and his older brother how to properly fuck up his peers when necessary.

1 Question is this where white privilege begins... Poor parenting and no rules?

2 if it would have been my kid punching and fucking up shit he'd been labeled the bad lil nigga

3 should I have let him fuck up the other white kid for not giving him the toy back?

 

[ballscout1]

you should have said something to the parents like " if you are not going to straighten your kids out don't say anything when my son beats their ass.

don't worry they would think you rude or crass because you'd be foolish to attend anything else with that group anyway.

it's good you reinforced what you taught your son so that he doesn't treat people that way but he also doesn't have to accept that treatment.....but you should have addressed it first..

 

[trstar]

Some kids are shitty and their parents are blind to it. You did well my having your kid behave properly.

 

[Flawless]

so you start off bragging like you were parent of the year teaching your kid proper manners and to share with other kids then end with how you taught him how to fuck up other kids

 

[D Kline]

You did well getting your son to be cool and behave. Its not just a white issue. I have relatives who's kids I had to jack up coming through and getting their wwf on and hitting my electrical equipment.

Its a poor parenting issue no matter the color. I had an experience like your son I ended up snatching the toy back.

 

[Darrkman]

Last weekend I took my youngest to another kids birthday party,it was in an upscale townhouse in downtown Chi. The family was black and very diverse and welcoming. My son is 5 and very solid and slightly tall for his age. The age groups varied from 3-7 with mixed races there. During the party 3 white kids aged 4-6 were punching wrestling and being mean to each other and some of the other kids, and not sharing toys. Their parents just let them carry on fucking each other up. They were rude and had bad manners. One inparticular told my son "no he wasn't going to share" a toy that my son had originally, I told mine to just find something else and he'd get his turn again. But sharing is the appropriate thing to do.... Long story short at the end of the party they were all taking pictures with photo booth costumes and they ran out of costumes by the time my son joined the group. Needless to say he was shitty as fuck, and I don't blame him. He refused to take the picture with them and was ready to fuck shit up.

I preach him to share and remain calm and to not punch other kids because he's been taught by me and his older brother how to properly fuck up his peers when necessary.

1 Question is this where white privilege begins... Poor parenting and no rules?

2 if it would have been my kid punching and fucking up shit he'd been labeled the bad lil nigga

3 should I have let him fuck up the other white kid for not giving him the toy back?

A lot of parents, Black and white, think their kids are little angels that can do no wrong. When that happens I tell my kid to do what he needs to do and when the other parent has something to say I then let them know about their kid.
The biggest problem with white people is that they are so passive-aggressive they won't say shit even when they know they're fucking up.

 

[gene cisco]

Parents should talk it out in those situations.

 

[phanatic]

Some kids are shitty and their parents are blind to it. You did well my having your kid behave properly.

The worst is parents that let their kids run wild, then cape for them when they are obviously wrong. I see it with a lot of young black women and young to middle aged white women. When your kid is throwing cereal boxes on the ground and you aren't stopping them, but want to step up when someone checks the kid...you're a shitty fucking parent.

 

[yasky777]

I redirected the little Cacs twice and made them shake hands after going to blows. I couldn't believe their parents were just like fuck it.

 

[RoadRage]

Don't for one min assume that just because they are white that your kid should be hanging with them.. This is also the way a lot of black kids turn to Toms and Coons, where they accept being inferior and 2nd class... You need to filter out, a best as possible the kids he hang out with, and no matter what the race, if their parents have no control over them then use your better judgement...

 

[the artist]

They are savages by nature. That's why their parents don't intervene. It's normal behavior to them.
Just a few weeks ago my wife had company. They brought along their 3 or 4 year old grandson. That lil' monster was runing top speed through my house. I'm talking from the living room thru the dining room and into the family room and diving onto my couch. After seeing him do this a few times I realized that I had to sit hill bad ass down. His grandmother wasn't gonna do shit about it. It wasn't until I told him no and sat him down next to her that she wanted to pretend to care. I don't give a shit what you allow in your house but while in mine........

 

[4 Dimensional]

My daughter doesn't understand why her daddy doesn't deal with those type of white people.

 

[4 Dimensional]

They are savages by nature. That's why their parents don't intervene. It's normal behavior to them.
Just a few weeks ago my wife had company. They brought along their 3 or 4 year old grandson. That lil' monster was runing top speed through my house. I'm talking from the living room thru the dining room and into the family room and diving onto my couch. After seeing him do this a few times I realized that I had to sit hill bad ass down. His grandmother wasn't gonna do shit about it. It wasn't until I told him no and sat him down next to her that she wanted to pretend to care. I don't give a shit what you allow in your house but while in mine........

I will set anyone's kid straight in MY HOUSE. I do not play games with kids misbehaving. Eventually people do not bring their kids back. It's not how I want it, but these new age parents are sensitive as fuck. I don't have a problem with someone telling my daughter to behave if she is misbehaving. Just as long as they do not touch them.

 

[D Kline]

They are savages by nature. That's why their parents don't intervene. It's normal behavior to them.
Just a few weeks ago my wife had company. They brought along their 3 or 4 year old grandson. That lil' monster was runing top speed through my house. I'm talking from the living room thru the dining room and into the family room and diving onto my couch. After seeing him do this a few times I realized that I had to sit hill bad ass down. His grandmother wasn't gonna do shit about it. It wasn't until I told him no and sat him down next to her that she wanted to pretend to care. I don't give a shit what you allow in your house but while in mine........

Bruh East seven mile have You checked them out lately.

 

[phanatic]

I will set anyone's kid straight in MY HOUSE. I do not play games with kids misbehaving. Eventually people do not bring their kids back. It's not how I want it, but these new age parents are sensitive as fuck. I don't have a problem with someone telling my daughter to behave if she is misbehaving. Just as long as they do not touch them.

Fuck that. If you're kid's friends don't respect your house, they don't respect you or your family. Certain behavior is acceptable in certain places. I don't give a shit if people smoke in their cars, but if you get in my wheel and you spark up a cig without even checking with me, that's disrespectful as hell.

 

[ballscout1]

My daughter doesn't understand why her daddy doesn't deal with those type of people.

nobody gets a pass.

I will set anyone's kid straight in MY HOUSE. I do not play games with kids misbehaving. Eventually people do not bring their kids back. It's not how I want it, but these new age parents are sensitive as fuck. I don't have a problem with someone telling my daughter to behave if she is misbehaving. Just as long as they do not touch them.

Fuck that. If you're kid's friends don't respect your house, they don't respect you or your family. Certain behavior is acceptable in certain places. I don't give a shit if people smoke in their cars, but if you get in my wheel and you spark up a cig without even checking with me, that's disrespectful as hell.

they weren't at HIS house....if they were that would be another conversation on why he invited them.

 

[woodchuck]

Just like I did, you should tell your son that, since YOU didn't raise everyone, he's going to encounter some assholes, and to be prepared. It's like my dad told my sisters: "I raised your brothers not to beat on women, but keep in mind, I didn't raise them niggas out there, so you'd better think long and hard before you put your hands on a dude. " You've taught your son how to be a decent human, but don't let him carry the idea that everyone else has been taught the same. I told my son to look for the best in people, but expect the worst. When Obama got re elected, he called to tell me that that lesson hit home for him when he saw the FB posts of some of his closest friends from high school.

 

[REDLINE]

This isn't a "Black" parenting issue, it's a "Parenting" issue. Some kids are assholes and some haven't been taught manners or how to play with others. They're parents are sometimes clueless or don't except that their kid's the "Bad kid"

Your son learned a lesson, all people aren't good people.

 

[phanatic]

nobody gets a pass.





they weren't at HIS house....if they were that would be another conversation on why he invited them.

My quote was a reply to SelfScience good brother.

 

[KA$H]

Yeah I've noticed this same behavior here in CT as well with my kid. I tell my daughter not to fuck with the bad white kid (lack of manners, rude) & focus on the other nice kids. The only problem the white kid loves my daughter & her mom is steady asking for play dates. I'm constantly coming up with excuses as to why we can't do it, bitch still doesn't get the hint.

On the other hand I've seen where 2 older white kids (7&9) where getting rough housed by 2 younger black kids (4&6), not fighting but playing super heroes aggressively (jumping on backs and shit like that). The black mother saw and hopped up to get her 2 younger boys off of the older white boys and the white boys' father stopped her and said basically " let boys be boys, they'll figure it out"...

So maybe it's a culture thing