BGOL/SOL Cheaters...Let me ask some ?'s

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BGOL&SOL members:
I refuse to believe all black men/women cheat. I know we are not hardwired this way. But in having a conversation with a soon to be married couple I wanted to ask some questions that we were discussing and getting schooled on by her fiance.

1-Really....Sometimes dont you cheat, just because the pussy/dick is available? Not because there is a problem at home?

2-If you got caught-What do you do when your significant other found out?

3-Did the woman(bgol) or men(sol)dump you?

Discuss!
 
1. yes.. and i do it because its new pussy not because its a problem at home

2. Lie.. And stick to my story no matter what. Unless she caught me in the actual act of fucking then it didnt happen

3. No. havent been dumped because i was cheating but then i never actually been busted.. And i'm a pretty good liar...
 
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So why stay in a relationship? Just dump your woman and have all the pussy you want?
1. yes.. and i do it because its new pussy not because its a problem at home

2. Lie.. And stick to my story no matter what. Unless she caught me in the actual act of fucking then it didnt happen

3. No. havent been dumped because i was cheating but then i never actually been busted.. And i'm a pretty good liar...
 
1. I cheated because the woman was someone that I had lustful eyes for for a minute. Everything at home was good, but I was just thinking with the wrong head.

2. I didn't get caught cheating, but my girl at the time did have my phone in her hand when a text from the other woman came through. Thankfully, it was nothing explicit. But seeing another woman texting me about how much she can't wait to see me again was enough for her to flip out. Shit, I played it off like I had no idea why that woman was texting me like that. My old lady cried for a minute, but she got over it after a couple of hours.

3. No, she didn't dump me.
 
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So why stay in a relationship? Just dump your woman and have all the pussy you want?

i did that.. but its odd, when you have a woman more women want you..some women even get off knowing you have a gf. and i think its also the thrill of creeping. now that i'm older next relationship i'm in i wont cheat..
 
i did that.. but its odd, when you have a woman more women want you..some women even get off knowing you have a gf. and i think its also the thrill of creeping. now that i'm older next relationship i'm in i wont cheat..

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So you stayed w/ her, did you end the other fling? Did you have feelings for the other woman? More so your woman who stayed w/ you, Did you respect her for staying?
1. I cheated because the woman was someone that I had lustful eyes for for a minute. Everything at home was good, but I was just thinking with the wrong head.

2. I didn't get caught cheating, but my girl at the time did have my phone in her hand when a text from the other woman came through. Thankfully, it was nothing explicit. But seeing another woman texting me about how much she can't wait to see me again was enough for her to flip out. Shit, I played it off like I had no idea why that woman was texting me like that. My old lady cried for a minute, but she got over it after a couple of hours.

3. No, she didn't dump me.


Interesting-thanks for your honesty! Thats whats up...I guess it was just because you wanted more pussy.
i did that.. but its odd, when you have a woman more women want you..some women even get off knowing you have a gf. and i think its also the thrill of creeping. now that i'm older next relationship i'm in i wont cheat..
 
BGOL&SOL members:
I refuse to believe all black men/women cheat. I know we are not hardwired this way. But in having a conversation with a soon to be married couple I wanted to ask some questions that we were discussing and getting schooled on by her fiance.

1-Really....Sometimes dont you cheat, just because the pussy/dick is available? Not because there is a problem at home?

2-If you got caught-What do you do when your significant other found out?

3-Did the woman(bgol) or men(sol)dump you?

Discuss!


1. yes, many cheat even though there is no problems at home...many of us men just like the feeling of beating a new bitch down...some cheat just cuz of lack of trust in the other person, matter fact I know all of two niggas who have been in relationships where they did not cheat and they were cheated on both times..pretty much everyone I know including myself has cheated at some point :lol:

2. I have lied as well as told the truth :dunno:

3. no, I didnt get dumped :smh:
 
1-Yes, we're not going to leave promised sex for every once in a while sex. Relationships are like jobs, some guys can handle several jobs. Most of the time you don't want your current boss knowing you're looking for other jobs or working other ones. And what most men will say there's nothing like new pussy.

2-Never been *knock on wood*

3-See #2.
 
Onyx...

I'm not saying there's a good excuse for cheating but if more women understood that it's a mans natural instinct to chase pussy alot of relationships could probably be salvaged. Some of us have it in check and some of us dont but the shit is natural.

Women usually get bent out of shape when they think their man is creeping because they look at it from the female point of view and automatically think that something is wrong at home.
 
New pussy....But again, why stay in a relationship?
1. yes, many cheat even though there is no problems at home...many of us men just like the feeling of beating a new bitch down...some cheat just cuz of lack of trust in the other person, matter fact I know all of two niggas who have been in relationships where they did not cheat and they were cheated on both times..pretty much everyone I know including myself has cheated at some point :lol:

2. I have lied as well as told the truth :dunno:

3. no, I didnt get dumped :smh:


I am waiting!

Bookmarked for some female comments


:rolleyes:


At least your honest about possibly having some sort of issue;)
no problem, yeah i wanted more pussy but i think its also because i have some deep seeded issues i need to work out
 
1-Really....Sometimes dont you cheat, just because the pussy/dick is available? Not because there is a problem at home?

Yes. A problem at home isn't always the catalyst to venturing out of commitment, more so than it is the solution to, "if I get caught, at least i'll have reason..." but 95% of the time, it's just about beating down some new young pussy.

2-If you got caught-What do you do when your significant other found out?

Deny it. Unless the actual act was caught with her own two eyes, deny, deny, deny. Word of mouth is rarely a deal breaker.

And even in some cases ...

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3-Did the woman(bgol) or men(sol)dump you?

Nope. What occurs in the event that closure kicks into a woman's brain 90% of the time is the infamous, "break." This is the woman's cool down period. The period after the storm where no proof has emerged, but an unsettling feeling of doubt in the woman's mind has made it's way in. 2-3 days is the normal amount of time for her to cool down, understand what happened, and begin talking to you again.
 
Interesting-lets discuss this:

How can you salvage a relationship if someone is cheating on their significant other? Now I can understand men being hardwired to chase pussy, but fucking another woman...Again why not just be single?

Onyx...

I'm not saying there's a good excuse for cheating but if more women understood that it's a mans natural instinct to chase pussy alot of relationships could probably be salvaged. Some of us have it in check and some of us dont but the shit is natural.

Women usually get bent out of shape when they think their man is creeping because they look at it from the female point of view and automatically think that something is wrong at home.
 
Ok I need someone to answer this question......
Why be in a committed relationship if you know you cant be faithful? Why not have all of the pussy you want as a single man?
 
Ok I need someone to answer this question......
Why be in a committed relationship if you know you cant be faithful? Why not have all of the pussy you want as a single man?



The grass may not always be greener. Ol girl might have the best pussy in town, but if her mind, personality & overall chemistry isn't there, it's not worth to leave what you've got at home:dunno:

You might have years invested with your committed partner & don't wanna risk throwing away all of those good times / memories over a fuck session:dunno:

Some dudes just might hate being alone & use their woman at home as a sense of security and stability:dunno:

 
New pussy....But again, why stay in a relationship?



I am waiting!




At least your honest about possibly having some sort of issue;)



No issue here.

I'm so straight forward that it becomes a problem sometimes.


Women cheat emotionally and I don't tolerate that shit.

If you say that you are friends with your exes, you go into the jumpoff box.


What possible value can an ex contribute to your current relationship?


So I have no problems cause I see clearly and have the strength of discipline to cut off women totally, no calls, no text, no emails etc....


Once I'm done, I'm done.

If a woman have problems with this then there are other willing men to tolerate that.....


I keep my world simple.

:cool:
 
Ok I need someone to answer this question......
Why be in a committed relationship if you know you cant be faithful? Why not have all of the pussy you want as a single man?



This I totally agree with.

If I'm single and playing the field and let the women know up front.

If I'm in a relationship then I'm on lock down.

Of course there would be women who you are attracted to but I see it as not trusting my judgment if I go back on my commitment to my partner.


I practice what I preach, relationship = love + commitment

Just my $0.02


:cool:
 
So a fuck is worth loosing everything?
But you did answer the question to where I understand the males point of view.


The grass may not always be greener. Ol girl might have the best pussy in town, but if her mind, personality & overall chemistry isn't there, it's not worth to leave what you've got at home:dunno:

You might have years invested with your committed partner & don't wanna risk throwing away all of those good times / memories over a fuck session:dunno:

Some dudes just might hate being alone & use their woman at home as a sense of security and stability:dunno:





Kay-
I think you misunderstood my response of "I am waiting".
I meant I was waiting for some of the ladies to post.
But thanks for your input!
No issue here.

I'm so straight forward that it becomes a problem sometimes.


Women cheat emotionally and I don't tolerate that shit.

If you say that you are friends with your exes, you go into the jumpoff box.


What possible value can an ex contribute to your current relationship?


So I have no problems cause I see clearly and have the strength of discipline to cut off women totally, no calls, no text, no emails etc....


Once I'm done, I'm done.

If a woman have problems with this then there are other willing men to tolerate that.....


I keep my world simple.

:cool:
 
Ok I need someone to answer this question......
Why be in a committed relationship if you know you cant be faithful? Why not have all of the pussy you want as a single man?

Because we're greedy. It's as simple as that ma. We wanna have our cake and to eat it too.

We need our emotional side catered to, our mental side, physical side, and any other side we may be missing. Certain women fulfill these needs, while others don't. Wifey may fulfill a good majority of them on a consistent basis, but she'll never fully satisfy the physical side, therefore we hunt for prey all the while maintaing home.

This is why side pieces are just a fuck. Nothing more, nothing less.

Animal-like? Indeed.
 
It was already said. A relationship is more than just fucking. Some women just can't seperate the two like a man can. to us the two is not emotionly connected. Hence most men can see a woman fuck and keep it moving with another thought about her.
 
Kudos to you Kaynation! Thats whats up:yes:
This I totally agree with.

If I'm single and playing the field and let the women know up front.

If I'm in a relationship then I'm on lock down.

Of course there would be women who you are attracted to but I see it as not trusting my judgment if I go back on my commitment to my partner.


I practice what I preach, relationship = love + commitment

Just my $0.02


:cool:
 
Interesting-lets discuss this:

How can you salvage a relationship if someone is cheating on their significant other?
Some can and some can't. My uncle slipped up in the 80's and slept with his ex while engaged. She found out and left. They talked the next week and got back together. Next year they were married. Right now, they are one of the only happily married black couples I know of. I'm not saying every woman should give her man free roam to get all the pussy he wants but I'm saying go into situations understanding the nature of a man. Just like a man should enter understanding the nature of a woman.

Now I can understand men being hardwired to chase pussy, but fucking another woman...Again why not just be single? Sometimes its a mistake because we get caught thinking with the wrong head. Why not be single? Maybe he's trying to build something long term leading to marriage, having a family or both. Plus some nikkas want their cake and eat it too. Want the inhouse pussy, the dinner on the table, the stability and loving relationship + the excitement of the chase, the thrill of creeping and the raw passion of some brand new pussy. Is what it is...
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Because we're greedy. It's as simple as that ma. We wanna have our cake and to eat it too.

We need our emotional side catered to, our mental side, physical side, and any other side we may be missing. Certain women fulfill these needs, while others don't. Wifey may fulfill a good majority of them on a consistent basis, but she'll never fully satisfy the physical side, therefore we hunt for prey all the while maintaing home.

This is why side pieces are just a fuck. Nothing more, nothing less.

Animal-like? Indeed.

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I think these two posts are as honest as you can get:eek:

Because we're greedy. It's as simple as that ma. We wanna have our cake and to eat it too.

We need our emotional side catered to, our mental side, physical side, and any other side we may be missing. Certain women fulfill these needs, while others don't. Wifey may fulfill a good majority of them on a consistent basis, but she'll never fully satisfy the physical side, therefore we hunt for prey all the while maintaing home.

This is why side pieces are just a fuck. Nothing more, nothing less.

Animal-like? Indeed.

It was already said. A relationship is more than just fucking. Some women just can't seperate the two like a man can. to us the two is not emotionly connected. Hence most men can see a woman fuck and keep it moving with another thought about her.
 
So you stayed w/ her, did you end the other fling? Did you have feelings for the other woman? More so your woman who stayed w/ you, Did you respect her for staying?

Yes, I stayed with her. We actually lasted about a whole year after that. And the events of that night never came up again after that night. And no, I didn't have feelings for the other woman. It was strictly a sex thing for me. It was about more for her, though. That's why I had to end it. And as far as whether or not I respected her for staying, I'own know. I guess if anything, I had the feeling that I could get over on her if I wanted to. I never took the opportunity to do so, though.
 
It was already said. A relationship is more than just fucking. Some women just can't seperate the two like a man can. to us the two is not emotionly connected. Hence most men can see a woman fuck and keep it moving with another thought about her.

..and the sad thing is that in 2010 alot of women want to be so "equal" to men that theyt try to do the same thing.

The women that I know that try to go the playa route (we used to call them hoes but its different out here now) allllll end up really hurt, or bitter or mentally scarred and exhausted a few years or less into their little lifestyle. Women have a hard time admitting that we are just build differently.
 

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..and the sad thing is that in 2010 alot of women want to be so "equal" to men that theyt try to do the same thing.

The women that I know that try to go the playa route (we used to call them hoes but its different out here now) allllll end up really hurt, or bitter or mentally scarred and exhausted a few years or less into their little lifestyle. Women have a hard time admitting that we are just build differently.

Real talk. :yes:
 
Because we're greedy. It's as simple as that ma. We wanna have our cake and to eat it too.

We need our emotional side catered to, our mental side, physical side, and any other side we may be missing. Certain women fulfill these needs, while others don't. Wifey may fulfill a good majority of them on a consistent basis, but she'll never fully satisfy the physical side, therefore we hunt for prey all the while maintaing home.

This is why side pieces are just a fuck. Nothing more, nothing less.

Animal-like? Indeed.




Not animal-like more like immature like.

Some people remain grown boys and grown girls and never adults.


Humans are supposed to evolve and grow. Growing in self-knowledge and your place in this world............ self realization.

At this point you don't need someone to validate desires of your ego.

At this point you are more directed outward inside of being consumed with the inward desires you have failed to master.

It like a child who has never learned to say no to more food.

It is not normal to NOT grow.


When you are focussed on life and its purpose, you begin to build and as any builder on here will tell you, we don't have time to keep looking behind our backs.

I need a woman who can help me build not a woman that I have to keep an eye on.

Similarly if a woman is a builder, I don't want to become a distraction, I need to compliment her.

Part of the problem is the contracts we sign.

If you are about nothing in life then as they say the devils finds things for idle hands.

Some women find themselves in relationships with men who have the bare minimum (food, clothing shelter, job) and thing that they have hit the jackpot. Similarly for men meeting pretty, have a job women.

The bar is so low now that dysfunctional is now the new normal


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It was already said. A relationship is more than just fucking. Some women just can't seperate the two like a man can. to us the two is not emotionly connected. Hence most men can see a woman fuck and keep it moving with another thought about her.



You would be surprised how women can be and remain disconnected.

You need to talk to women to actually find out instead of repeating men talking points.


How do you think so many men father children that are not theirs?


Think about it................

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bascially a man is as faithful as his options - Chris Rock

so for instance if a bad ass secretary keeps throwing the pussy at you, it will take a Jedi mind trick to not proceed to hulk smash her in the bathroom
 
bascially a man is as faithful as his options - Chris Rock

so for instance if a bad ass secretary keeps throwing the pussy at you, it will take a Jedi mind trick to not proceed to hulk smash her in the bathroom



:smh::smh::smh:
 
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