BGOL Parents: Question about Playdates and Sleep overs...

[playahaitian]

Being one of the elder bgol statesman I had a few questions on this what seems to ME at least a new phenomenon...

coming up this wasn't really an option

you went over your friends house on occasion to hang out or if your parents were coming home late from work.

but really everyone played outside together.

My peeps never really did this stuff but seems to be a BIG DEAL now.

These play dates are very elaborate and people e-mail each other and make a big deal of who gets asked and who doesn't.

So I wanted to ask if you let your kids participate in these activities and also is there a black/white thing at play here?

 

[Flawless]

One thing I have learnt on reddit its most sexual encounters and molestations happen at sleep overs

 

[playahaitian]

One thing I have learnt on reddit its most sexual encounters and molestations happen at sleep overs

wtf

see when I say this stuff I get called overprotective and paranoid.

I really don't care if its all girls either cause this day and age that don't mean nothing.

 

[Flawless]

sleep overs aren't apart of growing up or being a kid. Don't let anyone peer pressure you into anything

 

[playahaitian]

sleep overs aren't apart of growing up or being a kid. Don't let anyone peer pressure you into anything

I get accused of being old school and I honestly try not to be in many incidences because I don't what any of MY own personal hang ups to hinder my children's development.

But the play date stuff just seems forced to me.

lets not even go into the sleep over...I remember that was some stuff I only on TV.

They see each other in school and after school and dance classes and music classes...what more is there to say to each other?

And why I got share my only free time with my kids with YOU?

And there is also I see more WHITE parents who are always asking about my kids too...

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

Someone was that kid who never got invited to sleep overs......


Anyway

yeah we let our kids do sleep overs and seems like we have a kid staying with us every other weekend....We tend to have a good relationship with the parents...although some of my daughters friends who come to stay I have no clue who they are...some parents are less over protective than others

 

[MadWun]

We have had sleepovers and my daughter has been to some.

But here are the rules we go by:

1. It has to be someone we have known for years.
2. I have to know the parents for years, and trust them.

But, I hate sleepovers. My daughter is 10, and it always ends up with arguments, or someone not being happy about something.

I don't have time for that shit

We have vowed to not host another sleepover no time soon.

 

[playahaitian]

Someone was that kid who never got invited to sleep overs......


Anyway

yeah we let our kids do sleep overs and seems like we have a kid staying with us every other weekend....We tend to have a good relationship with the parents...although some of my daughters friends who come to stay I have no clue who they are...some parents are left over protective than others

i am over protective. Can't deny that.

It wasn't that I wasn't invited it wasn't something that was really done maybe its a island thing...but I do remember being invited but I never went and didn't really have an interest.

But I make sure to know all the parents and trust they KNOW me and they invite the kids all the time a few times they were like you can just drop them off and I was like we can got to the park museum whatever instead.

 

[playahaitian]

We have had sleepovers and my daughter has been to some.

But here are the rules we go by:

1. It has to be someone we have known for years.
2. I have to know the parents for years, and trust them.

But, I hate sleepovers. My daughter is 10, and it always ends up with arguments, or someone not being happy about something.

I don't have time for that shit

We have vowed to not host another sleepover no time soon.

OK I like that...

and its not like her cousins don't sleep over all the time.

But I just weary of outsiders and to keep it real even the play date stuff I'm leery of.

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

It wasn't that I wasn't invited it wasn't something that was really done maybe its a island thing...but I do remember being invited but I never went and didn't really have an interest.

i was talking about flawless though

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

it always ends up with arguments, or someone not being happy about something.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Yeah, this shit is new to me as well.

Community is not close knit as it use to be, so I don't know who I am dealing with all the time.

The play date thing is ok at times, but that sleep over shit is not going to happen anytime soon.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

wtf

see when I say this stuff I get called overprotective and paranoid.

I really don't care if its all girls either cause this day and age that don't mean nothing.

Nope. Our kids aren't allowed in someone elses house unless we know the parents and we have some kind of background info. This has led to about 3 sleepovers with all 8 kids. over the years. And still to my knowledge none of my kids have been improperly touched.

Hubby was NOT having it.

 

[playahaitian]

Nope. Our kids aren't allowed in someone elses house unless we know the parents and we have some kind of background info. This has led to about 3 sleepovers with all 8 kids. over the years. And still to my knowledge none of my kids have been improperly touched.

Hubby was NOT having it.

But I got a bunch of these white moms damn near BEGGING for my kids to go over to their houses for play dates...

but I'm hesitant for a variety of reasons including I really don't want them at my house either.

But then it looks like I'm being anti-social and too protective of my girls.

 

[playahaitian]

the whole holiday vacation I had to turn down moms left and right...

 

[havelcok]

Not a parent
but not having it.

Most I'd do is I'd let my child go up until a certain time
then pick them up.

No sleep overs.

 

[ballscout1]

never did playdates

and we never called it sleepovers.....it was call spending the night

and it was usually at a cousins house or play cousins. you know the family friends that your parents were so close to you always introduced their kids as your cousins and called their parents uncle and auntie.

never did playdates with any of my kids.

there was just friends that had kids so you took your kids if you was going by their cribs

but it is different today.

kids have hotel parties .

my daughter usually has her birthday weekend at the time share and has a bunch of her friends stay the weekend with her.

Our social shit was more spur of the moment and today these kids plan shit out.

 

[Coldchi]

my daughter has sleepovers damn near every other weekend.
and all of her friends that sleep over (all white girls)....dont want to go home when its time to go.
and my son's friends damn near breakdown when its time for them to go home.
lil punk ass niggaz.....16 years old and cryin cuz they gotta go home.
nigga betta shut tha fuck up and get the hell out my house.
eatin up all my snacks and shit.

 

[playahaitian]

my daughter has sleepovers damn near every other weekend.
and all of her friends that sleep over (all white girls)....dont want to go home when its time to go.
and my son's friends damn near breakdown when its time for them to go home.
lil punk ass niggaz.....16 years old and cryin cuz they gotta go home.
nigga betta shut tha fuck up and get the hell out my house.
eatin up all my snacks and shit.

 

[donhustle]

Yea my daughter has a playdate today,where did this shit even come from? Just telling my girl damn I aint really trying to meet new people unless its about money!

 

[Darrkman]

My son is having a play date right now. One of the kids he used to go to school with moved one town over so they don't go to school with each other. Anyway they're in the other room right now burning up the X Box and talking about Minecraft and Pokeman.

Not ready for the sleepovers yet. Not trusting enough of my fellow man.

 

[lexdiamonnyc]

no problems with play dates.......at my house or the local playground.

sleepovers, I only allow with family.....my kids are fortunate to have tons of cousins, from time to time we'll gather a few of them and they'll have a big ass sleepover....Ive hosted a few and the kids always have a good time, plus I know some of the grown ups appreciate being free for a night and they feel comfortable knowing their kids are with family.

 

[mailboxpimp]

One thing I have learnt on reddit its most sexual encounters and molestations happen at sleep overs

This is true for a variety of reasons....
You do not know what the other kids have been exposed too
You do not know if the other kids are currently being sexually abused/ molested
You do not know if the other kids have been sexualities .. To what degree or if any
Some kids will molest / sexually abuse other kids in he process of showing / teaching them what they have been exposed too...

 

[playahaitian]

* see its bullsh*t like this that gonna have me catch a case out here.

http://chicago.suntimes.com/dear-abby/dear-abby-sleepover-invitations-leave-one-girl-out/

DEAR ABBY: My 11-year-old daughter recently asked to have a sleepover with some of her best friends. She’s part of a “club” with five other girls.

Four of them are her best friends, so she invited them. However, my daughter is not close with the fifth girl, “Debbie.” They don’t hang out at school and barely hang out during their club activities.

When Debbie’s mother found out my daughter had invited the others, she accused me of excluding Debbie intentionally. I received a rude text from her telling me they were quitting the club.

In the past, we have gone above and beyond to keep her daughter included in the club activities, but when it comes to my daughter wanting to hang out with her friends outside of that, I feel she should be able to invite whoever she wants. Should I have made my daughter invite Debbie to her sleepover even though they aren’t really friends? — “MEAN MOM”

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

wtf

see when I say this stuff I get called overprotective and paranoid.

I really don't care if its all girls either cause this day and age that don't mean nothing.

Can't believe you hadn't heard of this.

 

[playahaitian]

Can't believe you hadn't heard of this.

hold on you talking to me again?

 

[tallblacknyc]

But I got a bunch of these white moms damn near BEGGING for my kids to go over to their houses for play dates...

but I'm hesitant for a variety of reasons including I really don't want them at my house either.

But then it looks like I'm being anti-social and too protective of my girls.

white moms??? oh fuck no..i'd def trust no cac with my kids..never kno what kinda disgusting habits they have or kinda weird shit they into..nothing wrong with being over protective with ur daughters..more predators in the world looking at females as prey..my lil sis never did none of that sleepover shit or visa versa..only people we ever truss like that is blood

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

* see its bullsh*t like this that gonna have me catch a case out here.

http://chicago.suntimes.com/dear-abby/dear-abby-sleepover-invitations-leave-one-girl-out/

DEAR ABBY: My 11-year-old daughter recently asked to have a sleepover with some of her best friends. She’s part of a “club” with five other girls.

Four of them are her best friends, so she invited them. However, my daughter is not close with the fifth girl, “Debbie.” They don’t hang out at school and barely hang out during their club activities.

When Debbie’s mother found out my daughter had invited the others, she accused me of excluding Debbie intentionally. I received a rude text from her telling me they were quitting the club.

In the past, we have gone above and beyond to keep her daughter included in the club activities, but when it comes to my daughter wanting to hang out with her friends outside of that, I feel she should be able to invite whoever she wants. Should I have made my daughter invite Debbie to her sleepover even though they aren’t really friends? — “MEAN MOM”

Yep. Excluding anyone for any reason is cause of racism. When this happened to my lil girl's time i told her invite everyone or invite no one. If the friend is that bad she'll see for herself. But YOU will not discriminate. And my street has so many kids on it. there's no such thing as playdatess. Outside to play all day long. And be happy. That's an order.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

hold on you talking to me again?

When was i not? I must have gotten mad at you but....i didn't stop talking to you lol

 

[playahaitian]

When was i not? I must have gotten mad at you but....i didn't stop talking to you lol

just last you called me a faggit when I asked you about that new show ATLANTA and I was SHOCKED to hell!

 

[Confucius]

fuck a sleepover, nothing good can come of it

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

just last you called me a faggit when I asked you about that new show ATLANTA and I was SHOCKED to hell!

No i didn't Show and prove. I can't believe i did anything like that. I need receipts on this. Calling someone a faggit isn't in my nature. Or my lexicon.

 

[playahaitian]

No i didn't Show and prove. I can't believe i did anything like that. I need receipts on this. Calling someone a faggit isn't in my nature. Or my lexicon.

It's funny. Stop being weird nigga!!! I ain't no faggit!

I aint perfect I'm a LOT of things

but I'm not a liar

and as long as we have spoken on bgol I aint came out my face and talked to you sideways.

always respectful debate.

never used those terms to YOU or ANYONE on here

unless SERIOUSLY provoked and even THEN?

That aint my pedigree.

ever

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

But I got a bunch of these white moms damn near BEGGING for my kids to go over to their houses for play dates...

but I'm hesitant for a variety of reasons including I really don't want them at my house either.

But then it looks like I'm being anti-social and too protective of my girls.

I didn't see this. No white people. Nope. And my lil one tells them too. "white people aren't allowed at my house"....Send them lil heiffers crying. Last year she had a pied piper moment when she lead a BUNCH of white kids to my house to play on her jungle gym. The school is right down the street and someone the caretaker missed a bunch of a damn 5 year olds. Next thing i know us in the house and see lil white kids. Shocked the shit out of us.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

just last you called me a faggit when I asked you about that new show ATLANTA and I was SHOCKED to hell!

Naw i went back and read that...it said i ain't no faggit. And i can't believe i wrote that......that's very weird. Very very weird indeed. And seemed like an overreaction. Nah there's something fishy goin on. I didn't call you one tho.