Bgol Parents is this true???
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In certain cases he definitely right.. also time period, location play a part to.. people move, and diff eras have different positives and negatives.. kid from the 80s have diff experience than kids growing up in the 90s and so on... so yeah what he says can be true
Its true. Growing up we were a family of 6. Father was a lower rank at the time so money was lower. When i was in high school they were all graduated so now my parents were only paying for me. So I was now the spoiled one, had my own room, new clothes, new shoes every year and father higher rank so he had more money. My siblings had Atari and I had Nintendo, big difference.
Right now my kids are only 14 months apart so they are experiencing almost the same. But its still different as my son does what is right and my daughter is more mischievous so they are treated differently. She is better now but took a minute. We treated our son like a porcelain doll. But when my daughter came around it was she will be alright.
I have a friend her son is fine but her daughter was born with developmental issues. She is almost 2 and still has issues. Her husband was stationed out of state for a few years. So the daughter had more time to spend with the father at a younger age. So both kids have a different childhood.
Right now my kids are only 14 months apart so they are experiencing almost the same. But its still different as my son does what is right and my daughter is more mischievous so they are treated differently. She is better now but took a minute. We treated our son like a porcelain doll. But when my daughter came around it was she will be alright.
I have a friend her son is fine but her daughter was born with developmental issues. She is almost 2 and still has issues. Her husband was stationed out of state for a few years. So the daughter had more time to spend with the father at a younger age. So both kids have a different childhood.
That’s true for relationships in general.
He is certainly right.
I was JUST talking to a close friend about this same exact topic just a few days ago.
There is nothing bad or good about it. Its just how it is.
And in fact it would actually be detrimental to not alter your parenting to fit the specific child.
I was JUST talking to a close friend about this same exact topic just a few days ago.
There is nothing bad or good about it. Its just how it is.
And in fact it would actually be detrimental to not alter your parenting to fit the specific child.
I guess in a way even teaching, ideally, would fall into this category too?
Yes, it does. And honestly, everything, fam. You and everything around you changes all the time. Some areas more than others.
A lot can happen to a person is a short amount of time that will change how they see and navigate life.
Got a cousin with an interesting family dynamic currently. He turns 50 this fall, and his wife is in her early-40s. They have 4 kids. The youngest turns 4 this August, and the oldest is 18 as of this past March. The middle kids are 13 and 15 respectively.
It'll be an interesting change of pace for the parents as the older kids move on to college in the years ahead. Really busy household for years now with games and activities, etc. The little kid will definitely be spoiled in 10 years when he's in high school and his older siblings are off on their own. Or the parents will be like - "We're tired ... figure that shit out on your own. Call your siblings if you have any questions ..."
* Wish my cousin's parents were around to see the family man he's become though. He lost his dad nearly 30 years ago, and his mom just over 13 years ago (glad she was able to meet 3 of the 4 grandkids).
It'll be an interesting change of pace for the parents as the older kids move on to college in the years ahead. Really busy household for years now with games and activities, etc. The little kid will definitely be spoiled in 10 years when he's in high school and his older siblings are off on their own. Or the parents will be like - "We're tired ... figure that shit out on your own. Call your siblings if you have any questions ..."
* Wish my cousin's parents were around to see the family man he's become though. He lost his dad nearly 30 years ago, and his mom just over 13 years ago (glad she was able to meet 3 of the 4 grandkids).
the only problem is you risk alienating the other kids.. thats why holiday dinners and family reunions tend to end fucked up.....
Tyler Perry has made a cottage industry on this topic
Or kids just get over it when they grow up or it is discussed and put into context why that isthe only problem is you risk alienating the other kids.. thats why holiday dinners and family reunions tend to end fucked up.....
Tyler Perry has made a cottage industry on this topic
I can give a perfect example and it’s not actually my parents but the way everyone outside reacted to the difference.. I went more the independent/entrepreneur route after highschool / first job etc.. when I was pursuing my entrepreneur career I got a lot of flack, naysayers, the what if it dosent work out people.. hell my older bro might have been one of my biggest critics.. well a decade later here comes lil sis doing her entrepreneur thing with my assistance and it was oh wow it’s so great that she’s independent, and succeeding, more people should follow in her footsteps, wow she’s making everybody so proud, blah blah.. even my bro is like wow our sis is so amazing.. I’m looking like interesting on how much support she get, yet when I was on my journey I heard mad bullshit.. it’s funny how time can change everything and how people can accept things that they didn’t literally a decade ago
the only problem is you risk alienating the other kids.. thats why holiday dinners and family reunions tend to end fucked up.....
Tyler Perry has made a cottage industry on this topic
No you don't risk that at all.
It called good parenting.
There may be times when it will come up and conflict is par for the course.
But no one needs to be alienated.
Okay ill go this far... even on bgol?
I have to manage many grown men egos and attitudes because I hold a dozen conversations on even more topics simultaneously and have to make sure no one feelings get hurt. Because they DO and I got the PMs to prove it. But they are my brothers and nephews so it works out.
juggling personalities is different from RAISING KIDS.
My kids know I love them first last and everything. So all that soap opera is fine.
Cause no matter what? They know I'm their father. But I can't "father" them all the same. And they know it feel it and understand.
They will still throw a tantrum of course.
But that comes with the territory
Yeah, this is not a revelation. If anything working in insurance has taught me is that there are way more variables that people never consider that make their outcome(price) different than your neighbors, but you can't explain this the average person.
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