The Average Black Man:
The Average Black man is an underachiever.
Although the average black man possesses intellect and talent beyond measure to excel at whatever he commits to, he won’t fully apply himself. He expects his woman to treat him like his mother.
“My mama used to work, clean the house, and cook dinner everyday.”
I ask “Is that something for a black man to be proud of?” perpetuating a system that denounces his manhood.
The average black man has expectations of everyone expect himself. He wants his money like his women, fast, easy, and sometimes sleazy, so he’s willing to get his hustle on – have a kid or two, somebody else’s wife will do – as long as he’s not required to break a sweat or pay a debt like child support because he’s too worried about the black woman getting ahead of him.
‘I don’t know what she’s doing with my money.”
“Try being a man and raising your own kids, honey.”
He doesn’t realize the black woman was ahead of him well before she met him.
The average black man will do more for the white man than he’ll ever do for the black woman, all along despising both because neither respects him, primarily because he doesn’t respect himself. A lie is easier to tell than the truth. Abusing his woman is the fastest way to raise his self – esteem. It’s easy for the black man to become a user, using his mother, wife, family, friends, women and strangers for one common purpose, all to meet his needs.
When the truth is the average black man doesn’t know what he needs, let alone wants. “I want her, and her, and her, and her, but I don’t want her to find out about her so I’ll lie to them all because I love my wife.”
The average black man substitutes his needs with greed to by any means necessary buy a fancy car to get classy women who are foolish enough to pay the note in order to let some other woman take the ride, all along kidding herself into believing that she’s his prize until she’s “surprised”
The average black man cultivates his own demise. “I’m the king of my castle”, he might say when his name is nowhere indeed on the deed, I'm the king of my throne” he may shout, but if the black woman puts his ass out, he's gone, alone, and has no home. So what he does is use another black woman to have his back.
“If I need a place to stay can we shack?”
When whats he’s really saying is, “Just in case the one I’ve got finds out about you, you’ll have to do until I find somebody new.”
The average black man has got to, like Spike Lee said in School Daze, “Wake up! Wake up! Wake up!” And since the average black man won’t read this message because he’s sleep walking though his life, I have to speak to the sistas and say it’s time that you find “a man” who will love, cherish, and respect you, but you must first respect yourself. You see when the black woman stops settling, the average black man will rise above minimum wage, denounce his minimalist attitude, stand tall, proud, and take center stage.
The average black man is a king..king..king..king. But he doesn’t act like royalty.
I wish I could write a play about the average black man, but this is all too real. I sincerely hate the way I feel when I tell the average black man he’s not good enough. No, no, no, no in no way am I stuck up, but I refuse to let him fuck up or fuck me. For free. They say shit comes in threes, and if dissolution, more than disillusion, of marriage can dissolve before my eyes, to Halle, to Terry, then I know it can happen to any woman.
You see I refuse to settle for the sour milk in the average black man’s cheddar. I don’t need to repeat someone else’s mistakes because I know I can do better, or shall I say the average black man can do better? But he won’t, if we don’t require him to.
These days I’m a hella direct, almost to a fault. I don’t like wasting my time, so I ‘ll look a man in his eyes and say upfront, “If your not paying for our dates, don’t ask me out.” If he can’t afford the meal, he can’t enjoy the thrill.
I’ll also say drop your drawers I need to do a dick check. I’m checking for a few things: Length, thickness, responsiveness, and ultimately cleanliness. Three out of four won’t do. I am going to do the sniff test, place my hand directly in front of my fact and inhale. No sour balls allowed. He might say what the heck? But like it or not I gets my respect. He’ll come correct or he won’t cum at all. Its not what you do, its how you do it. I love having fun so I'm quite comical at times.
Ladies, before that first date, get a few questions off your plate:
• What’s your vision for life?
• You got a wife?
• Cohabitating?
• Involved in a relationship?
• Live with your mama?
• Got any baby mama drama?
• How many kids do you have?
• Have you ever let a man fuck you in your ass?
Girlfriends don’t be afraid to question men. Chances are, the average black man has more excuses, justifications, hesitations, and falsifications than direct answers. So, I say unto my sistas, stop lying for the black man because we are partially to blame for enabling them. And if you’re like me, you're handling all the responsibilities, financial, and otherwise, on your own, so don’t take on any additional liabilities.
The average black man will abandon his woman, then say it was her fault that he left. Sistas, be smart about your money. Please do Not share bank accounts with your man, never again put your money in his hand, do not freely hand him the keys to you car, and please do make sure you get paid before he gets laid.
The average black man is quick to lay claim to all your material things and he’ll gladly lend you his name if you buy the rings. But let him get a dollar and all you’ll hear is “Holla at a playa when you see me on the street,” on his way out the door. Why deal with infidelity and insecurity, then turn around and get married? There are too many married women housing “Single Husbands”, but that’s a whole book I’m working on.
As for right now, my sistas, its time for women to become empowered. Don’t hesitate to overlook the average black man, because the average black man doesn’t give a damn about you. Think I’m lying? File for a divorce. Ask for child support without taking him to court. It’s time to cross over to a real man (black or other) who will love you for you. From this day forward, quit digesting bullshit.
