a rant/question about "love"

[actinanass]

Here's a story...

I have this cousin thats pretty successful *good job, own house, 2 cars, very independent*. This dude been in love with this same chick for over 10 years. Basically stayed friends for most of the time, however, things went kinda crazy last year. To make a long story short, the chick he was feeling decided to fuck with this dude that just got out of a marriage instead of my cousin *never been married*. Of course, my cousin has a problem with the shit *due to him being a gentlemen and waiting on this bitch*, and decided to try to talk her out of falling for this dude. He ended up just charging it to the game, and trying to go on with his life *so it seems*.

However, instead of this nigga moving on, trying to find him some new NEW, he is stuck on this chick. Everything she does, it effects him. They go to the same church, sit right across from each other, and never speaks. He always calls me about some shit she has done, and why he needs to date another race. When I challenge him to do so, he always says "I'm really thinking about it...because this shit makes no sense". The shit gets on my nerves a lot, and he knows how I feel about the situation *my advice to him is to go get some head, and clear his mind from this bs...something he won't do*, yet he still tell me about this situation.

So, WTF do I suppose to say to this nigga who is stuck on this chick?

 

[AlexandMorgan]

10 Years and no play. Your uncle be carrying it to the next level with his love son. If a woman is about you it will not take her ten plus years to make up her mind.

Will he be on his death bed waiting for her still. He does not need to move on but to move up and be with someone who actually wants to be with him instead of lurking in the shadows waiting for something that may not even be worth it in the long run.

P.S When he moves on he might be surprised to see that now he is no longer available that she might now start to show some interest in him.

 

[p5ych3]

Nothing you can say or do till he gets it into his head to move on.
Leave him be to hit bottom because he clearly isn't taking your advice.
He will work his way back up with a better insight, hopefully.

 

[Adam Knows]

ya need to do something before he becomes that stalker type and does something everyone regrets......

 

[ibobby]

no disrespect but...

some people just do stupid shit. no other explanation.

 

[hottmixx]

But on the real sounds like a soon to be stalker type ninja. He needs counseling.

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[Eva Hornae]

10 Years and no play. Your uncle be carrying it to the next level with his love son. If a woman is about you it will not take her ten plus years to make up her mind.

Will he be on his death bed waiting for her still:smh:. He does not need to move on but to move up and be with someone who actually wants to be with him instead of lurking in the shadows waiting for something that may not even be worth it in the long run.

P.S When he moves on he might be surprised to see that now he is no longer available that she might now start to show some interest in him.

i had to laugh, sorry!

 

[Eva Hornae]

Nothing you can say or do till he gets it into his head to move on.
Leave him be to hit bottom because he clearly isn't taking your advice.
He will work his way back up with a better insight, hopefully.

 

[shanebp1978]

Nothing you can say or do till he gets it into his head to move on.
Leave him be to hit bottom because he clearly isn't taking your advice.
He will work his way back up with a better insight, hopefully.

Basically.

 

[LoneStar29]

There's nothing more you can do or tell him about this situation Actinanass ... he needs to make this decision to move on for himself ... I probably wouldn't even give him any more advice cuz it seems like you are all talked out but let him vent to you if he wants to cuz he still is your fam ... maybe you can just keep him from going psycho but that is about it ... it's cool if he wants to date females from other races I just hope he knows her race has nothing to do with how silly she is acting

 

[YouLikeMyStyle]

did he ever ask her out in 10 years? did he express interest ever?

 

[JCharades]

this seems like he's in need for a helluva wake up call...your cousin is not gonna change because being independent and successful, he's let the window of opportunity slip by letting he and the chick be friends only...he never established and dominance to where he wanted her and no one else should have her therefore he doesnt understand "you win some you lose some" or "there's plenty of fish in the sea"...you cant tell him to get over her because you really wouldnt fully understand why he truly isn't...church can be another reason because he might not subject himself to "sin" and let her do her...he probably think they're soulmates just because of longevity when in fact he's turned himself out to be smitten by her for no apparent reason aside from being cool with her for a decade...


Those days are very much over in these times and i know a lot of people like that but the only thing they can do is worry about themselves and find a way to get away from it to get back to reality IMO...best choice would be a vacation...he's been too crowded around her for so long as well as gotten too used to the women in his area that he's forgot probably how to talk to other women in that sense of just attraction and because of it, he believe he's found his "one true love" regardless of anyone else's saying...if he doesn't do somethin'soon he might be so scorn he'll never want to be with another one but her...

 

[actinanass]

did he ever ask her out in 10 years? did he express interest ever?

They've been out plenty of times. She's bought him gifts, and vice versa. He tells me that he has told her that he has interest to take it to the next level. The problem is, they both think more than act. I wish some of ya'll can see how they act at church, the shit don't make any sense.

this seems like he's in need for a helluva wake up call...your cousin is not gonna change because being independent and successful, he's let the window of opportunity slip by letting he and the chick be friends only...he never established and dominance to where he wanted her and no one else should have her therefore he doesnt understand "you win some you lose some" or "there's plenty of fish in the sea"...you cant tell him to get over her because you really wouldnt fully understand why he truly isn't...church can be another reason because he might not subject himself to "sin" and let her do her...he probably think they're soulmates just because of longevity when in fact he's turned himself out to be smitten by her for no apparent reason aside from being cool with her for a decade...


Those days are very much over in these times and i know a lot of people like that but the only thing they can do is worry about themselves and find a way to get away from it to get back to reality IMO...best choice would be a vacation...he's been too crowded around her for so long as well as gotten too used to the women in his area that he's forgot probably how to talk to other women in that sense of just attraction and because of it, he believe he's found his "one true love" regardless of anyone else's saying...if he doesn't do somethin'soon he might be so scorn he'll never want to be with another one but her...

I've told him plenty of times that maybe he just need to get out, and do more. The way she does things, its like she wants him to come and "save" her out of a bad situation. To his credit, he haven't went down that road. The things she would do is she will get with a dude *with nothing to offer her, and plenty of baggage*, and show up to church with him. Then, try to see my cousin's reaction. You know....HOE GAMES. When he tells me about this shit, I'm like "nigga fuck all of that, do you wanna go out pussy hunting?". I'm like that only because I can't stand "HOE GAMES". To me, a chick is either going to come correct, or there's no reason for me to waste my time.

BTW, I think he has become scorned. I try to bring chicks over *I mean st8 dimes, bgol smash approved dimes* his house, and he would go to his room. *now one time he was sick so I give him that pass*

Not to mention, that he knocks me for not trying to get a relationship HIS WAY. My theory about relationships is play by ear, and see where things go. I'm not about this waiting on miss princess to stop fucking with losers so I can save her. If she stop fucking with losers and choose me, then I'll take that risk, but fuck that waiting game. That shit can kick rocks...

 

[DeSiRe]

aww it just sounds like your cousin is a sucka for love

hes gotta expand his horizons...seriously...cause hes not choosing the same ones...i suggest a change of scenery

also it sounds like he needs a self esteem boost along with some swagger lessons...sounds like hes got everything else in order

 

[Shadow]

If he can't even be polite when someone stops by his house (he went to his room) how the fuck does he have his shit in order. How fucking silly is that shit. He didn't have to fuck, but he could have entertained.

Dude is simpin'. Hard.

He's gonna have to get hit upside the head with reality before he get right. It will happen as soon as his "goddess" shows up to church looking swole about the belly area, with some ninja cheesing. looking like Gipp from Goodie Mobb.

Come and get your soul food......

 

[actinanass]

If he can't even be polite when someone stops by his house (he went to his room) how the fuck does he have his shit in order. How fucking silly is that shit. He didn't have to fuck, but he could have entertained.

Dude is simpin'. Hard.

He's gonna have to get hit upside the head with reality before he get right. It will happen as soon as his "goddess" shows up to church looking swole about the belly area, with some ninja cheesing. looking like Gipp from Goodie Mobb.

Come and get your soul food......

I think its more of both of them doing stupid shit. She play games with him, only because *1. she really don't want to see him with anyone else. 2. she wants him to man up and take control. 3. she is a psychotic bitch*. Now, as going for simping, it would be different if this bitch left the church, and my kinfolk was following her. Now if that was happening, then I'll be cussing that nigga out daily. As for me bringing pussy over, I can't knock him because when its all said and done, I got extra pussy that night.... Passing up pussy with me is like passing up weed at a reggae concert, with lady scorpio...