A Question to the Southern Residing SOL womenfolk

[Adam Knows]

i am curious to know if this is a reoccurring theme with a lot of black males in the south, age ranging from 20-35.(with maybe the exception of ATL, most there are just trying too hard to front an image)


1. no desire to better themselves
2. looking to do nothing more then find a woman to take care of them

it may just be the areas i frequent ( i travel all over the western NC area-Tennessee)but for the majority that's what i witness. In Ohio you see it every now and then but the theme there is to hustle regardless of what it is i'll give all kats in ohio props on that.

 

[DeSiRe]

i currently live in tx

ive lived or visited almost every state (with the exception of dc, maine, sc, nh, and Pennsylvania)

from what ive observed 1. and 2. is a sweeping epidemic all over the country...its bad all over...not just in one place

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Upgrade your surroundings.

 

[Adam Knows]

upgrade my surroundings? irrelevant.

 

[jjUSTAZZ]

i currently live in tx

ive lived or visited almost every state (with the exception of dc, maine, sc, nh, and Pennsylvania)

from what ive observed 1. and 2. is a sweeping epidemic all over the country...its bad all over...not just in one place

I live in TX....Unfortunately I have to agree here... While I do see the exception to this standard on occassion it's definitely not enough.....

 

[Andeyhollawho]

I have jokes but I will reserve them until later.

 

[sean69]

Ignorance, lack of motivation, hopelessness, etc ... thrive in poverty.

When your environment is fucked up, more often than not, so is your attitude and world view.

This is a universal axiom irrespective of race.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Ignorance, lack of motivation, hopelessness, etc ... thrive in poverty.

When your environment is fucked up, more often than not, so is your attitude and world view.

This is a universal axiom irrespective of race.

That's the CAC way of saying....upgrade your surroundings. I live in the South...I don't see it in my milieu.

 

[AristotlesOwn]

I say that the effects of single motherhood have finally caught up with this (my) generation. Look at the movie 'Baby Boy'; it speaks volumes to what you're talking about Don.

Psychologically speaking, it seems that young males are searching for that person who can replace their mother, that next woman who can take care of them. Because many grow up in fatherless situations, and because mama spoiled them when they were younger, rewarding their precious sons without having them put in work, they feel like they don't need to better themselves; the easy money dealt on the streets is more appealing than a job with any real responsibility because that is what they are more or less used to...instant gratification. Hopelessness plays a part in this framework...they believe that nothing will ever change for them, so why should they even try? This behavior isn't exclusive to the south.

This seems to affect girls to a lesser extent because mama was a strong woman and they attempt to mimic this. I notice that girls are generally spoiled less than boys by their mothers, so they tend to try harder and do better for themselves.

Of course, all this is generally speaking...there are plenty of cases to prove the contrary.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Although I hated coming in this thread, I'll support a fellow friend...

I grew up in the South, and currently live in the South. My current city, growing bounds by the second, seems to have this new genre of black men: the black men who have achieved a certain level of success and like to parade it in the faces of everyone. These are the black men who settle down, but like to have their seconds and thirds and fourths...the black men that think that driving a shiny new vehicle will make you feel less than (cause, although your vehicle is new and YOU bought it, they paid more for theirs), and who know that tying down to one woman isn't "cool" when you can have your choice of "good (read: economically successful)" black women...

I chose to ignore these black men and not follow after them because I know the size of your Lexus has nothing to do with the size of your heart...

 

[Adam Knows]

Although I hated coming in this thread, I'll support a fellow friend...

I grew up in the South, and currently live in the South. My current city, growing bounds by the second, seems to have this new genre of black men: the black men who have achieved a certain level of success and like to parade it in the faces of everyone. These are the black men who settle down, but like to have their seconds and thirds and fourths...the black men that think that driving a shiny new vehicle will make you feel less than (cause, although your vehicle is new and YOU bought it, they paid more for theirs), and who know that tying down to one woman isn't "cool" when you can have your choice of "good (read: economically successful)" black women...

I chose to ignore these black men and not follow after them because I know the size of your Lexus has nothing to do with the size of your heart...

r u in western or eastern part of the state?? because what you just described i don't see in carolina.

 

[Adam Knows]

I say that the effects of single motherhood have finally caught up with this (my) generation. Look at the movie 'Baby Boy'; it speaks volumes to what you're talking about Don.

Psychologically speaking, it seems that young males are searching for that person who can replace their mother, that next woman who can take care of them. Because many grow up in fatherless situations, and because mama spoiled them when they were younger, rewarding their precious sons without having them put in work, they feel like they don't need to better themselves; the easy money dealt on the streets is more appealing than a job with any real responsibility because that is what they are more or less used to...instant gratification. Hopelessness plays a part in this framework...they believe that nothing will ever change for them, so why should they even try? This behavior isn't exclusive to the south.

This seems to affect girls to a lesser extent because mama was a strong woman and they attempt to mimic this. I notice that girls are generally spoiled less than boys by their mothers, so they tend to try harder and do better for themselves.

Of course, all this is generally speaking...there are plenty of cases to prove the contrary.

yeah, that's what it is......or what it seems to be....

 

[JofromthaNO]

r u in western or eastern part of the state?? because what you just described i don't see in carolina.

I'm in the Piedmont area (western NC, that is)... the second largest banking area, next to New York City, in this county...

 

[sean69]

That's the CAC way of saying....upgrade your surroundings. I live in the South...I don't see it in my milieu.

Actually it's not. You can put lipsti ...

... aw fuck it.

I'm in the Piedmont area (western NC, that is)... the second largest banking area, next to New York City, in this county...

I thought it was Charlotte?

 

[DeSiRe]

Although I hated coming in this thread, I'll support a fellow friend...

I grew up in the South, and currently live in the South. My current city, growing bounds by the second, seems to have this new genre of black men: the black men who have achieved a certain level of success and like to parade it in the faces of everyone. These are the black men who settle down, but like to have their seconds and thirds and fourths...the black men that think that driving a shiny new vehicle will make you feel less than (cause, although your vehicle is new and YOU bought it, they paid more for theirs), and who know that tying down to one woman isn't "cool" when you can have your choice of "good (read: economically successful)" black women...

I chose to ignore these black men and not follow after them because I know the size of your Lexus has nothing to do with the size of your heart...

you know...ive seen this alot everywhere....not just in the south

i call these men buppies

ive seen men begin to act like this in college....then in my professional circle....and even at the club

its like some men think they are God's gift to earth because they have an education and salary

i would somewhat understand showboating and sticking your chest out to people on an obviously lower socio-economic stadus

but from what ive observed men who act like this dont discriminate...they will look down on almost anyone...ive been around some men where ive came from a higher socio-economic level...and am still at a higher level than them...and they still looking funny

so i act the same way you do....i dont feed into their egos

not all men successful men are like this...but sadly the amount that there is is too large for me

 

[jucurious]

Although I hated coming in this thread, I'll support a fellow friend...

I grew up in the South, and currently live in the South. My current city, growing bounds by the second, seems to have this new genre of black men: the black men who have achieved a certain level of success and like to parade it in the faces of everyone. These are the black men who settle down, but like to have their seconds and thirds and fourths...the black men that think that driving a shiny new vehicle will make you feel less than (cause, although your vehicle is new and YOU bought it, they paid more for theirs), and who know that tying down to one woman isn't "cool" when you can have your choice of "good (read: economically successful)" black women...

I chose to ignore these black men and not follow after them because I know the size of your Lexus has nothing to do with the size of your heart...

i have DEF seen this

i actually have an old co-worker who told me about this, he is not as super flashy but he is a hoe lol...he told me that b/c of who he is and what he has achieved he has many options and he is going to explore them all

1) the educated black women tryna get at him to "keep it in the circle"

2) the "other" chics who want him lustfully and his achievements make it acceptable to go PAST lust at some point

3) and the hood chics who see him as a ticket out the ghetto


but anyway, I have also witnessed Sean's statement

all of this I have seen in the Northeast

 

[sean69]

i have DEF seen this

i actually have an old co-worker who told me about this, he is not as super flashy but he is a hoe lol...he told me that b/c of who he is and what he has achieved he has many options and he is going to explore them all

1) the educated black women tryna get at him to "keep it in the circle"

2) the "other" chics who want him lustfully and his achievements make it acceptable to go PAST lust at some point

3) and the hood chics who see him as a ticket out the ghetto


but anyway, I have also witnessed Sean's statement

all of this I have seen in the Northeast

In Jersey maybe.
Juju, you need to get your Visa so you can cross the Tappan Zee or Verrazano into NYC.

 

[PrincessC]

I thought it was Charlotte?

You're right, but Charlotte is in the Piedmont region.

And there are sorry ass men everywhere. I don't think it's a regional thing.