A Must-Read for the Unmarried NO PORN

The average comment goes like this:

"Man, that was the best cake that I have ever tasted"

The Robeson comment goes like this:
"The sapid pastries glorious flavors danced across my palate as Baryshnikov did in Jerome Robbins' famous ballet, Opus 19: The Dreamer."
I realize that most of your linguistics were honed by hip hop, but if English prose looks like gibberish to you, blame your sorry assed teachers, not me. Or maybe you're dyslexic (I know some therapists if you need one). I'm a product of public education, but it must have gone downhill considerably of late...
 
Guess that's cuz I'm just not as smart as you...

That's my point, it's not a contest. It's not about who's the smartest.

Must not be very, you somehow seem to continuously find me worthy of comment.

You're a source of entertainment. Oh wait, lemme put that in your words.

You are an inexhaustible resource of merriment analogous to humorist David J. Chappelle at the zenith of his extraordinary career, which was lamentably derelict through his individual measures. Absit iniuria verbis.

Ab imo pectore,

LD
 
I realize that most of your linguistics were honed by hip hop, but if English prose looks like gibberish to you, blame your sorry assed teachers, not me. Or maybe you're dyslexic (I know some therapists if you need one). I'm a product of public education, but it must have gone downhill considerably of late...

You assume quite a bit for a man that is so intelligent, you know what they say about people who assume...:rolleyes:

Many people on here know me and they will tell you that I am a fan of old school soul more than I could ever be of hip hop...nice try though genius. My academic achievements compare favorably to some of the other intelligent cats on the board, I just have no need to try and impress people with them. You suggested that I should visit a therapist, but you should probably take your own advice because I am sure they could help you with your Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder (my dumb ass made that up :eek:)...



Here is a quick glance at the disorder to help you out when you visit your therapist:



The Disease Perspective
PTypes personality types proposes Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder as a pervasive pattern of unstable, "overtly narcissistic behaviors [that] derive from an underlying sense of insecurity and weakness rather than from genuine feelings of self-confidence and high self-esteem" (Millon), beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by ten (or more) of the following:

1.)seeks to create an illusion of superiority and to build up an image of high self-worth (Millon);

has disturbances in the capacity for empathy (Forman);

2.)strives for recognition and prestige to compensate for the lack of a feeling of self-worth;

3.)may acquire a deprecatory attitude in which the achievements of others are ridiculed and degraded (Millon);

4.)has persistent aspirations for glory and status (Millon);

5.)has a tendency to exaggerate and boast (Millon);

is sensitive to how others react to him or her, watches and listens carefully for critical judgment, and feels slighted by disapproval (Millon);

is prone to feel shamed and humiliated and especially hyper-anxious and vulnerable to the judgments of others (Millon);

6.)covers up a sense of inadequacy and deficiency with pseudo-arrogance and pseudo-grandiosity (Millon);

has a tendency to periodic hypochondria (Forman);

alternates between feelings of emptiness and deadness and states of excitement and excess energy (Forman);

7.)entertains fantasies of greatness, constantly striving for perfection, genius, or stardom (Forman);

has a history of searching for an idealized partner and has an intense need for affirmation and confirmation in relationships (Forman);

8.)frequently entertains a wishful, exaggerated, and unrealistic concept of himself or herself which he or she can't possibly measure up to (Reich);

produces (too quickly) work not up to the level of his or her abilities because of an overwhelmingly strong need for the immediate gratification of success (Reich);

is touchy, quick to take offense at the slightest provocation, continually anticipating attack and danger, reacting with anger and fantasies of revenge when he or she feels frustrated in his or her need for constant admiration (Reich);

9.)is self-conscious, due to a dependence on approval from others (Reich);

suffers regularly from repetitive oscillations of self-esteem (Reich);

10.)seeks to undo feelings of inadequacy by forcing everyone's attention and admiration upon himself or herself (Reich);

11.)may react with self-contempt and depression to the lack of fulfillment of his or her grandiose expectations (Riso).
 
Sis thats the fucking truth for real. I had actually made a thread on here about that some time ago about how men don't like smart women.

well I love smart women.

The fuck up thing about me, if it comes down to me cheating, I'll dump yo crazy ass....
 
I realize that most of your linguistics were honed by hip hop, but if English prose looks like gibberish to you, blame your sorry assed teachers, not me. Or maybe you're dyslexic (I know some therapists if you need one). I'm a product of public education, but it must have gone downhill considerably of late...

dude right now...u sound like this...

 
I'll bump it for you. But maybe it's the niggas that YOU fuck with that don't want smart women. Step ya game up.

CO-SIGN... I can't deal with an bird-brain woman AT ALL. I don't care how cute, how whatever. Its the idiot ones that bring all the EXTRA Bullshit around.

Where the IVORY school bitches at?
 
Dude how old are you??? You do a lot of crying for mess that's not funny. Too bad I'm your role model's role model. P.S. I'm a woman :D

Woman, how old are you?? You do a lot of bitching for mess that's not even serious. Too bad I'm your role model's role model. P.S. I'm a nigga. :D
 
You assume quite a bit for a man that is so intelligent, you know what they say about people who assume...:rolleyes:

Many people on here know me and they will tell you that I am a fan of old school soul more than I could ever be of hip hop...nice try though genius. My academic achievements compare favorably to some of the other intelligent cats on the board, I just have no need to try and impress people with them. You suggested that I should visit a therapist, but you should probably take your own advice because I am sure they could help you with your Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder (my dumb ass made that up :eek:)...



Here is a quick glance at the disorder to help you out when you visit your therapist:



The Disease Perspective
PTypes personality types proposes Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder as a pervasive pattern of unstable, "overtly narcissistic behaviors [that] derive from an underlying sense of insecurity and weakness rather than from genuine feelings of self-confidence and high self-esteem" (Millon), beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by ten (or more) of the following:

1.)seeks to create an illusion of superiority and to build up an image of high self-worth (Millon);

has disturbances in the capacity for empathy (Forman);

2.)strives for recognition and prestige to compensate for the lack of a feeling of self-worth;

3.)may acquire a deprecatory attitude in which the achievements of others are ridiculed and degraded (Millon);

4.)has persistent aspirations for glory and status (Millon);

5.)has a tendency to exaggerate and boast (Millon);

is sensitive to how others react to him or her, watches and listens carefully for critical judgment, and feels slighted by disapproval (Millon);

is prone to feel shamed and humiliated and especially hyper-anxious and vulnerable to the judgments of others (Millon);

6.)covers up a sense of inadequacy and deficiency with pseudo-arrogance and pseudo-grandiosity (Millon);

has a tendency to periodic hypochondria (Forman);

alternates between feelings of emptiness and deadness and states of excitement and excess energy (Forman);

7.)entertains fantasies of greatness, constantly striving for perfection, genius, or stardom (Forman);

has a history of searching for an idealized partner and has an intense need for affirmation and confirmation in relationships (Forman);

8.)frequently entertains a wishful, exaggerated, and unrealistic concept of himself or herself which he or she can't possibly measure up to (Reich);

produces (too quickly) work not up to the level of his or her abilities because of an overwhelmingly strong need for the immediate gratification of success (Reich);

is touchy, quick to take offense at the slightest provocation, continually anticipating attack and danger, reacting with anger and fantasies of revenge when he or she feels frustrated in his or her need for constant admiration (Reich);

9.)is self-conscious, due to a dependence on approval from others (Reich);

suffers regularly from repetitive oscillations of self-esteem (Reich);

10.)seeks to undo feelings of inadequacy by forcing everyone's attention and admiration upon himself or herself (Reich);

11.)may react with self-contempt and depression to the lack of fulfillment of his or her grandiose expectations (Riso).


Nicca, has your research in this field been peer reviewed? :hmm:
Where did you publish? :hmm:
Didn't you just get dunked on? :hmm:


:eek: OOOOOOOOOOOooooooooh Shit!!!! Dayum homey, in high-school you was da man homie. :(



I swear, I know a couple muhfukaz on here that fit into the category of number 9. :lol:
 
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Nicca, has your research in this field been peer reviewed? :hmm:
Where did you publish? :hmm:
Didn't you just get dunked on? :hmm:


:eek: OOOOOOOOOOOooooooooh Shit!!!! Dayum homey, in high-school you was da man homie. :(

I can know a couple muhfukaz on here that fit into the category of number 9. :lol:


The last time we met it didn't go so well for you my friend...:D



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That shit is bullshit. At least I don't know anyone in my circle who cares whether their wife is smarter than them or not. As far as they are concerned is that she knows when to yield. Now it would be rather fucked up if you have a dumb wife who wont give in when she is wrong. Or keeps nagging the crap out of you for no good reason. For every smart woman I know, they will admit that their husbands are better at something than them and they have no intention or desire to upstage him. In my immediate family circle, the women are somewhere in medical field or had more schooling than the men. One of my grandfathers was a principal but none of them ever thought the other was less smarter. They all have different specialization.

With all of that said. I always think/thought I was smarter than all my girlfriends and I think I am smarter than all the women on BGOL. At the end of the day I learned that they were more skilled at manipulation than I was so it didn't matter that I was smarter because they counted my smart as being their smart. So I guess in the grand scheme of things she/they were more smarter. My smarts + their smarts makes them smarter.


I understand that. The hypocrisy and double standards that many men have in regards to sexuality is mind boggling and IMO, stupid.

I was specifically talking about number 7. Why would anyone want to be with someone who is not as smart as them. "That way when we cheat we are less likely to get caught." :confused: How can that really be taken seriously?
 
Those of you ladies with kind, loving and involved fathers know exactly what it is. He's been molding you from the day you were born. He may not have said the words, "If you do that, no one's going to want to marry you." But, trust me, it was the motivation behind almost everything he ever said and did for you.

Even us progressive fathers who teach our daughters that marriage is not a life goal but something that some people are blessed to experience, also do not want our daughters to become the kind of women who are unmarriable.

very very good read...thanks for posting :)

the list was very interesting...but the above stands out also

im blessed to have an amazing father thats been in my family's life....he never has told us "no" and spoiled us rotten

as a little girl my father used to tell me........."do not settle for thing less than what i do for you, your sister and your mother"

as a teenager and young adult he would be highly critical of everything from hair...clothes...to makeup....i would think to myself..."ugh!! my daddy says that stuff cause doesnt want me with ANYONE...he has these impossible expectations and standards...why wont he just let me do me!"

now i realize that he was doing exactly what this article said....trying to mold me into a woman that would make a good wife

i remember when i was 19 he found my porn stash under my bed....he sat me down and gave me a lecture....he didnt tell me not to watch porn...but to make sure its something "mommys and daddys should do together"...again more pearls of wisdom that went over my head at the time

im gonna pass this along to my sister...thanks for sharing:D
 
So is anybody with a normal human intellect. It's just that I realize I am, as opposed to most black folk that have bought the artificially constructed fait accompli of their intellectual inferiority (I am virtually certain you have read "Mis-Education of the Negro"). Just look around you, on this board an elsewhere. You are surrounded by folk who have accepted the myth that they are "dumb." I make no apologies for not doing so.

Now some of the younger dames seem to think thety are special because they are doing well in school wnd in their careers while the brothers are often catching cases and making time. They are too young to understand the game is designed that way, in that nobody is in the least threatened by a black female with a PhD or an MD, whereas a black man with such a credential is an absolute fucking threat. It is a game that has been intentionally designed and deployed, and more than a few of you on the board are aware of this (I would name names, but then I would be kissing ass). I have had enough intelligent exchances with real thinkers (I don't care about their educational level, they are well informed and think through shit) to warrant setting expectations for all of ya'll. If you don't meet em, that's okay because I ain't nobody's daddy, but I will have the expectations nonethelesss (even for you, LD, who I figure is one of the brighter cats on here). Obama, by the way, has totally fucked the game up forever, and had better watch his back at all times.

I like threads like this, it points out how much black folks have swallowed the game like a hungry big-mouth bass.

This kind of shit seems to really piss you off. Why? It only looks like I'm showing off because I won't pretend to be a coon or a bufoon. Never liked that role, and will never accept it. Anyone that doesn't like it can kiss my highly intelligent ass...
great post
 
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