I was looking thru some old pictures and in them I had some of an old boyfriend. I asked my now-boyfriend if he wanted to look at my pictures and he responded, NO. I thought about it and asked him if he was uncomfortable with the fact that I still had da pics. He said yes and that I should throw them away. So what do you think? What is the protocol for throwing them away. I am in some of the pictures so is there some kind of taboo for destroying pictures that you yourself is in?!
Getting rid of ex-boyfriend pictures
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I think you should either get rid them or if you feel the need to hold on to them maybe put them so where not so out in the open.
I could see how that would make someone new feel bad. . . because honestly if I was with a guy and he had pics of him and his ex girl lingering around. . I'd feel like maybe there was still something between them. I might not say anything. . but I would just kinda wonder.
Brings up a lot of questions. ..
I could see how that would make someone new feel bad. . . because honestly if I was with a guy and he had pics of him and his ex girl lingering around. . I'd feel like maybe there was still something between them. I might not say anything. . but I would just kinda wonder.
Brings up a lot of questions. ..
Keep them if they mean something to you. I still have photos and over one hundred letters from my first boyfriend. I refuse to throw them away. I caught my ex trying to burn them once. I don't understand why a man would be threatened by old letters. I have a lot of them. Some of them are from men that I never dated. I let my daughter read them and she thought I was some kind of playette back in the day. Those letters are a part of YOUR memories and you are entitled to them.
Keep them in a safe place. It's your memories and keepsake, you will regret throwing them out. As long as your current boyfriend is not asking you to get rid of them, it shouldn't be an issue...
Yall he is sitting right here with me reading it with me. He says I left some "very important details" out. So this is his side of the story. We have been together for two years and living together for more than a year. We are talking about getting married. He wants to remind me that the ex left me for another girl. Its not even so much that I want to hold on to memories of him. That is something that i'm going to always have...memories. But that is not something that has restrained me from giving him my love(I could think that all men are dogs!)
100% with you on this one GYH....those are still your memories yes....if they were/are of importance to you then keep them.
Peace
Hell, the pictures are merely images. In different ways, photo images are embedded in your memory and are a part of your experiences; can you throw out the memory and experiences, as well? Which are more dangerous? - the images in your mind are the ones that speak and feel. New Friend has options: worry about the paper images; or get on with supplanting the paper images with his or at least, deeply planting his own indelible images - and if he does so skillfully, you'll put them pics where they belong.
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Dang is it only chicks answering this one? Throw them joint out please. Dude does not want to be reminded that some other dude was bangin yo back out and you was blowin him down. Don't tell him about your past and don't show him. Screw that memories stuff. If you want this dude, GET RID OF THEM.
I wouldn't want my fiancee holding on to pics of her ex-boyfriend, especially if we were about to get married( add the fact that he left you for another chick 
). Who keeps pics of people that hurt them ? I would probably think that you haven't gotten past the hurt from your last relationship. How would you feel if he kept pics of his exes laying around ?
). Who keeps pics of people that hurt them ? I would probably think that you haven't gotten past the hurt from your last relationship. How would you feel if he kept pics of his exes laying around ?We all make mistakes in our lifetimes, if you over him no need to hold on to those. If your new man is all that he should be giving you alot more and better memories! Just think of it like this, would you expect him to get rid of old girlfriends phone numbers in his cell or throw out his old girlfriends pics even if he doesn't call em anymore? Toss em and move on, if you don't have kids by the ex, no need to have em around. When my son was old enough I gave him all the pics I had of me and his pops to have so he would be able to show them to his kids one day, because they are of his parents. Other than that stop holding on to the past, put your energy into the present and if that don't work out learn live and move on.
I wouldn't want my fiancee holding on to pics of her ex-boyfriend, especially if we were about to get married( add the fact that he left you for another chick
AMEN! don't do anything you would get mad at if he did it to you. It's that simple.
I don't believe in throwing photos out. I have in a rage ripped up someones pics before.. but regretted it later. Those are from a time in your life that once made you happy. Don't throw them out... pictures tell a story, and that story made you .. . you.. I keep all my old pics in a shoe box.. or two.... and when i'm older they will go into photo albums like my grandmother has...
I have all the stuff my exes gave me...presents, pics, letters...I don't throw that stuff away, but I don't keep them out in the open either. I think you can keep those things and be over that past relationship, and still be respectful of your current situation.
Throwing that stuff out isn't going to erase the past, so what does it matter if I keep those things or not?
Throwing that stuff out isn't going to erase the past, so what does it matter if I keep those things or not?
Tell him you'll get rid of the pictures as soon as he gets rid of his porn.
Hmm
I threw away pics of my ex gf and now regret it. I am single now so there is no jealously issue- but I can see how people could be envious
Hey, if you are single, why don't we hook up?
I threw away pics of my ex gf and now regret it. I am single now so there is no jealously issue- but I can see how people could be envious
Hey, if you are single, why don't we hook up?
Chunk them shits. 
Nah. Do what makes both of you comfortable. If you don't want to throw them then you should sit down and come to a compromise. That's how married folks are supposed to do it so why not start now.
Nah. Do what makes both of you comfortable. If you don't want to throw them then you should sit down and come to a compromise. That's how married folks are supposed to do it so why not start now.
Sounds like you need to get rid of that man, square biz. He is your boyfriend, NOT your husband. What if you throw them away and the nigga cheats on you and leaves?? Then you're out memories and a man. What type of bitch nigga cares?? Unless you're the type of woman that sits and reminisce and throws it in his face, he shouldn't care. If anything, that should motivate him more to fuck the memories out of you.
2nd thoughts tho
Look Honestly..... Throw them out!! Your memories are imbedded in you.
1. Many women DONT want their current man to have not a damn near anything or rememberance about ANY woman. Some even envy you lovin ya momma too hard. When you are with them or better yet together, you guys focus on EACH other and EACH OTHER only. Women..... it's time to practice what you want... You want him, be about him!! Leave your baggage behind. Do what you want done to you! It's not a one way or a control thing. It's together and pure. RESPECT what you are in and who you are with. PERIOD!!!
2.If you need them soooo damn bad then you just need to be with that person that you holdin those memories on to. Be free. Less Stress, No mess! Respect who ya wit!!
Stop this play play bullshit and get real. You don't want it done to you so don't do it.
Final!!!
At these days and time it's not good to hide anything and be sneaky. When the real comes out it's much more harder to try and repair, especially when you then realize you just fukked up a damn good thing.
1. Many women DONT want their current man to have not a damn near anything or rememberance about ANY woman. Some even envy you lovin ya momma too hard. When you are with them or better yet together, you guys focus on EACH other and EACH OTHER only. Women..... it's time to practice what you want... You want him, be about him!! Leave your baggage behind. Do what you want done to you! It's not a one way or a control thing. It's together and pure. RESPECT what you are in and who you are with. PERIOD!!!
2.If you need them soooo damn bad then you just need to be with that person that you holdin those memories on to. Be free. Less Stress, No mess! Respect who ya wit!!
Stop this play play bullshit and get real. You don't want it done to you so don't do it.
Final!!!
At these days and time it's not good to hide anything and be sneaky. When the real comes out it's much more harder to try and repair, especially when you then realize you just fukked up a damn good thing.
*sigh*
I don't mind a women saying something about an ex as long as she's not comparing me with him or talking about him excessively.
Doesn't have anything to do with being insecure.
but i think it just goes back to people being naturally competitive.
you can't compete with memories and old emotions.
*Tangent*
And women fail to tink about how it makes their new partner feel when they express old hurt.
Shit like:
"When he left me he took a piece of my heart or my soul."
"It took me half a year to get over him. He broke my heart. He was my first love."
blah blah
Shit like that doesn't make your significant other feel any better about you or your ex partners.
I wouldn't want to marry an incomplete woman with half a heart or 75% of her soul.
That other nigga really fucked you up that bad?
you still holding on to those memories.
After all the effort your new SO put into the relationship he still failed to complete you.
I wouldn't marry a women like that.
*End tangent*
You're talking about to getting married. I think u should take it all to your mommas house and leave it there if u really feel that u need to have a tangible part of your past and memories.
If you're building a home and new life together, just the two of you.
No one really wants or needs that type stuff chillin' in da cut or lining the walls of their home.
Bad Vibes.
Disrespectful.
So not right.
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The decision whether to keep an ex's pictures is yours alone. While people are stating that you should rely just on your memories, pictures along with other items (books, yearbooks, songs, gifts, etc) are triggers to our memories and emotions of our past. Women (NOTE: IMHO) are more greatly connected to memories and emotions, thus they lend more importance in retaining objects from their past.
Even though the breakup with an ex may have been terrible, we all tend to focus on the positive aspects of a relationship when reminiscing about the past. We tend to focus on what attracted us to that person to begin with, that person's positive qualities, and good times we had with that person.
However, consideration for a current relationship should be considered. Yes, your partner may not mind that you occasionally mention about an ex in passing, but we do not want to have it thrown into our faces, or in detail.
I am not in favor of discarding pictures, books, etc., from our past, but I think they should be stored away with other keepsakes. Once in a while you and your current partner could go through it and see where each of you have traveled in your respective histories. Also, one day in the future you should share your memories with kids/grand kids.
Memories are nice, but a partner in the present never wants to be in the position of having to compete with them.
Even though the breakup with an ex may have been terrible, we all tend to focus on the positive aspects of a relationship when reminiscing about the past. We tend to focus on what attracted us to that person to begin with, that person's positive qualities, and good times we had with that person.
However, consideration for a current relationship should be considered. Yes, your partner may not mind that you occasionally mention about an ex in passing, but we do not want to have it thrown into our faces, or in detail.
I am not in favor of discarding pictures, books, etc., from our past, but I think they should be stored away with other keepsakes. Once in a while you and your current partner could go through it and see where each of you have traveled in your respective histories. Also, one day in the future you should share your memories with kids/grand kids.
Memories are nice, but a partner in the present never wants to be in the position of having to compete with them.
I made a couple of flicks of me and my ex when we were together. I kept them untill I found my current and last boo. I had to get rid of those movies because they don't really fit into what I have going on now. You can't erase your past but holding on to those pictures or in my case movies after you've began a new love life just seems a lil cluttered.
I still want to know how the OP would react to her fiancee looking at pics of his old girlfriends all the time ? What if he kept thumbing through his old pics and telling you how good her head game was while showing you her pics. I give a damn what anybody says, if you are reminiscing over pics of a nigga who shit on you for another chick, then you haven't moved on. What kind of bitch nigga sits back and lets his fiancee reminisce and compare her old relationship (with a nigga that dogged her) with her current one...
I'll like to keep a pic or 2 of my ex-gfs{as terrible as some of them have been} and I wouldn't want anyone to tell me to dispose off them.So, I'll not care if she keeps hers too.....but mind you no too much stories of him everytime though.keep the pictures and shut up about him. That I dont want to hear.
I still want to know how the OP would react to her fiancee looking at pics of his old girlfriends all the time ? What if he kept thumbing through his old pics and telling you how good her head game was while showing you her pics. I give a damn what anybody says, if you are reminiscing over pics of a nigga who shit on you for another chick, then you haven't moved on. What kind of bitch nigga sits back and lets his fiancee reminisce and compare her old relationship (with a nigga that dogged her) with her current one...
I agree with this too. It really depends on what she has. If it's pictures, then you know that's cool. Letters is a little much because therein lies the EMOTIONAL attachments, moreso than the PHYSICAL, and women are more EMOTIONAL. Buttnaked movies??? Hell no. But Pictures are cool. I got pictures of me and my ex's around. Shit I got a framed pic on my wall.
And you know how she would react.
Keep them if you want, but you were wrong for asking "do you wanna see my ex?". Hell the fuck NOI don't. Some things we just do not want to know, same way I wouldn't show off my past women to my current woman.
"Hey honey, look at my ex Michelle, she had a phatter ass and prettier face then you!"
"Hey honey, look at my ex Michelle, she had a phatter ass and prettier face then you!"
I'm not one to keep pictures or anything sentimental. IMO holding on to these things means that they are important to you. Some people are packrats and keep stuff just because and honestly forget they have it. This is not your case though.
If they're important enough to keep even though your boyfriend gets mad they must mean a lot.
If you're going to keep em, put em somewhere out of the way. I dont think you would want to see pics of your BF's exes...
If they're important enough to keep even though your boyfriend gets mad they must mean a lot.
If you're going to keep em, put em somewhere out of the way. I dont think you would want to see pics of your BF's exes...
This sums it upKeep them if you want, but you were wrong for asking "do you wanna see my ex?". Hell the fuck NOI don't. Some things we just do not want to know, same way I wouldn't show off my past women to my current woman.
"Hey honey, look at my ex Michelle, she had a phatter ass and prettier face then you!"
Keep them someplace tucked away. Maybe in that dusty box on the top shelf of your closet that you haven't touched in a year. That's a part of your life that made you happy at some point, no matter how it ended.
If y'all are getting married I would say it is time to get rid of them. But if you two aren't then I say you keep them(tucked away somewhere out of sight). If he has a problem with it then he has some jealousy/insecurity issues that he needs to deal with. Man Up homey.
I have an ex who got mad and ripped up some pics of me a another chick. Granted the one that ripped up the pics wasn't even my girl. I get heated every time I think about it.
I have an ex who got mad and ripped up some pics of me a another chick. Granted the one that ripped up the pics wasn't even my girl. I get heated every time I think about it.
This. I would maybe consider tossing shit if I / we were getting married.
Although I do toss ex-GF shit if I feel a way about how I was treated, but then thats MY decision.
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