Open marriage: Who's OK With This? Will's wifey is.....

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Will Smith admits to having an "open marriage." I'm curious to know who's OK with this.

I also have 2 questions:

1. Is this the secret to keeping a marriage fresh? His arguments have merit and the fact they've been together for several years an eternity for actors & actresses speaks for itself.

2. Is Jada that strong or is this a sign of her weakness?


Article
Actor and star of "Hancock", Will Smith has told a UK tabloid Now magazine that he and Jada Pinkett-Smith don't fight their attraction urges, and are down with an open marriage.

He told the UK's Now magazine, "I'll tell my wife if I need to have sex with someone else."

Honesty is the cited reason for the couple's approach to their sexual relationship, which may include occasional dalliances with attractive outsiders.

Will Smith, according to Now magazine, says it is "healthy" to be attracted to other people and is okay telling his wife so.

‘Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people,’ Will explains.

‘So sometimes we have the discussion: “Wow, this or that girl is freaking gorgeous”. I’m not going to say anything to my buddies that’s any different than what I say to my wife.’

Now claims Will will tell Jada - and vice versa - if they "need to have sex" with other people.

Each of them, he claims will say: "I’m not going to do it if you don’t approve of it," he tells Now magazine.

Will tells the magazine he would be unsure how to feel if Jada came to him with her feelings for another. "I don’t know how I’d feel,’ he confesses. ‘But I know I would react better than if I found out about it afterwards."

http://www.monstersandcritics.com/p....php/Will_Smith_and_Jada_reveal_open_marriage
 
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Now magazine link, a little bit different take . . .
http://www.nowmagazine.co.uk/celebr...fe-if-i-need-to-have-sex-with-someone-else/1/
 
I don't think I could do it. Some aspects of an open marriage seem great. I would like a man to be comfortable enough with me to tell me his desires and not be afraid that I would be mad. But, at some point, knowing myself, that would get to be tiresome.

I couldn't deal with my man sleeping with someone else.
--But him being upfront and confiding in me about it is more commendable than doing it behind my back.

I think that Jada is not necessarily strong or weak. I think an open marriage is just fitting for their relationship, rather than just be completely faithful. It definitely isn't for everyone, but if it's fitting for them that's great.
 
I don't think I could do it. Some aspects of an open marriage seem great. I would like a man to be comfortable enough with me to tell me his desires and not be afraid that I would be mad. But, at some point, knowing myself, that would get to be tiresome.

I couldn't deal with my man sleeping with someone else.
--But him being upfront and confiding in me about it is more commendable than doing it behind my back.

I think that Jada is not necessarily strong or weak. I think an open marriage is just fitting for their relationship, rather than just be completely faithful. It definitely isn't for everyone, but if it's fitting for them that's great.

I have to agree that confiding is more commendable than sneaking behind your mates back. But what if it was you who had the urge to be with someone else?
 
Open marriage? This shit is a Fluoromoron. :hmm:

Why da fuck get married? :confused::confused:

Just fuck around in tandem n shit ... minus the vows.
 
I have to agree that confiding is more commendable than sneaking behind your mates back. But what if it was you who had the urge to be with someone else?

Honestly. . . I don't know. I was with someone for 3 years and never had the desire to be with anyone but him.

But after 10 years. . 20 years. . I could see the desire may present itself maybe. . . but I don't think I would act on it. Seems like the consequences of a "fling" would be too great, even if the person you are with says they can accept it.
 
Honestly. . . I don't know. I was with someone for 3 years and never had the desire to be with anyone but him.

But after 10 years. . 20 years. . I could see the desire may present itself maybe. . . but I don't think I would act on it. Seems like the consequences of a "fling" would be too great, even if the person you are with says they can accept it.

I think it is something that older people maybe more apt to allow or accept. But when your young NO WAY is that ego going to allow for anyone else.

Open marriages must work since it seems Will and Eva Mendes apparently got together, yet Jada is still hanging in there.
 
Well.....Eva Mendes is GORGEOUS !! :yes::yes:

Yeah Eva Mendes all that and maybe that's the key. If your going to have an open marriage make sure wifey understands. When she sees an Eva Mendes, she might say OK yeah I might want some of that myself. Just don't be doing the nasty with a Whoopi Goldberg. Now your insulting the wife.
 
I don't think I could do it. Some aspects of an open marriage seem great. I would like a man to be comfortable enough with me to tell me his desires and not be afraid that I would be mad. But, at some point, knowing myself, that would get to be tiresome.

I couldn't deal with my man sleeping with someone else.
--But him being upfront and confiding in me about it is more commendable than doing it behind my back.

I think that Jada is not necessarily strong or weak. I think an open marriage is just fitting for their relationship, rather than just be completely faithful. It definitely isn't for everyone, but if it's fitting for them that's great.

your wild ass fronting.
 
Open marriage? This shit is a Fluoromoron. :hmm:

Why da fuck get married? :confused::confused:

Just fuck around in tandem n shit ... minus the vows.

what he said

The idea is there's an understanding that since you both are going to meet some of the most incredibly sexy people alive the temptation will be there to cheat. So why sneak and do it when you can be up front about it.
 
I think it is something that older people maybe more apt to allow or accept. But when your young NO WAY is that ego going to allow for anyone else.

Open marriages must work since it seems Will and Eva Mendes apparently got together, yet Jada is still hanging in there.

Yea.. . I think you are right about this.

If both people can agree to it, then it seems fine. . but in a way it defeats the whole purpose of getting married, IMO. Seems like a huge contradiction.
 
Yea.. . I think you are right about this.

If both people can agree to it, then it seems fine. . but in a way it defeats the whole purpose of getting married, IMO. Seems like a huge contradiction.

It is a contradiction by mainstream American standards. However maybe marriage was never meant to be as it exist today. Our society has things so screwed up who's to say. We all know that some of the interpretations from the bible taught to us as children were wrong. There exist religions and countries where men have more than one wife. Who's to say whose right or wrong. If Will and Jada are OK with it they have my blessings.
 
i don't like open relationships so i damn for sure wouldn't like an open marriage just off the strength of me viewing marriage and a deeper commitment to a relationship

but this makes me curious about what is going on in Jada's head since Will's comments give off the impression that she has yet to ask for sex with another person. as of right now it seems VERY lopsided, like they have 2 different levels of commitment to each other in the same marriage.

-y hasn't she asked for sex w/ another? is she satisfied? is she waiting to pull an ultimate draw 4/ wild card?
-how does she really feel about Will sleeping w/ other chics? does she feel that she satisfies him?

i also wonder about Will
-how would he feel the first time his wife asks for sex with another?
-would it matter if it was a guy or girl?



i'm also curious about how they make this work in general
-are there any rules besides asking? amount/ time period?
-what happens if one of them doesn't approve of the outer marital sex? do they just FIGHT those feelings, keep pressing to sleep with that person or do they cheat?
-what happens if the sex w/ the "other" is better than with your spouse? do you just call it a treat? do you try to teach your spouse the new technique? how does the spouse feel about being taught a new technique based on ur sex with someone else (no honey ur doing it wrong, Eva sucked my dick like this...pay attention :lol:)


yeah damn me for being so curious and for being wide awake at 5:24am



sooooo many questions
 
i don't like open relationships so i damn for sure wouldn't like an open marriage just off the strength of me viewing marriage and a deeper commitment to a relationship

but this makes me curious about what is going on in Jada's head since Will's comments give off the impression that she has yet to ask for sex with another person. as of right now it seems VERY lopsided, like they have 2 different levels of commitment to each other in the same marriage.

-y hasn't she asked for sex w/ another? is she satisfied? is she waiting to pull an ultimate draw 4/ wild card?
-how does she really feel about Will sleeping w/ other chics? does she feel that she satisfies him?

i also wonder about Will
-how would he feel the first time his wife asks for sex with another?
-would it matter if it was a guy or girl?



i'm also curious about how they make this work in general
-are there any rules besides asking? amount/ time period?
-what happens if one of them doesn't approve of the outer marital sex? do they just FIGHT those feelings, keep pressing to sleep with that person or do they cheat?
-what happens if the sex w/ the "other" is better than with your spouse? do you just call it a treat? do you try to teach your spouse the new technique? how does the spouse feel about being taught a new technique based on ur sex with someone else (no honey ur doing it wrong, Eva sucked my dick like this...pay attention :lol:)


yeah damn me for being so curious and for being wide awake at 5:24am



sooooo many questions

how many more words do you need to tell us that you're a freak?
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how many more words do you need to tell us that you're a freak?
.

i'm not a freak

i went to bed early so im up late

and i'm just curious by nature not personal interest...there is a difference

just wondering how they do it...that's all
 
i don't like open relationships so i damn for sure wouldn't like an open marriage just off the strength of me viewing marriage and a deeper commitment to a relationship

but this makes me curious about what is going on in Jada's head since Will's comments give off the impression that she has yet to ask for sex with another person. as of right now it seems VERY lopsided, like they have 2 different levels of commitment to each other in the same marriage.

-y hasn't she asked for sex w/ another? is she satisfied? is she waiting to pull an ultimate draw 4/ wild card?
-how does she really feel about Will sleeping w/ other chics? does she feel that she satisfies him?

i also wonder about Will
-how would he feel the first time his wife asks for sex with another?
-would it matter if it was a guy or girl?



i'm also curious about how they make this work in general
-are there any rules besides asking? amount/ time period?
-what happens if one of them doesn't approve of the outer marital sex? do they just FIGHT those feelings, keep pressing to sleep with that person or do they cheat?
-what happens if the sex w/ the "other" is better than with your spouse? do you just call it a treat? do you try to teach your spouse the new technique? how does the spouse feel about being taught a new technique based on ur sex with someone else (no honey ur doing it wrong, Eva sucked my dick like this...pay attention :lol:)


yeah damn me for being so curious and for being wide awake at 5:24am

sooooo many questions

Wow you are curious, a Colin alert almost went off. Just joking. :D But I wonder who brought up this idea to begin with.

But I agree with a number of points you brought up. How will Will respond when its Jada's turn? Truth is he has no choice but to let her have her fun.

As for Jada's thinking, if she hasn't yet taken advantage of this arraignment I'm sure she'll make it worth her while when she decides to step out. You also have to remember Will's getting over 20 mil a movie. With the money Will is now making that may just be enough to keep her happy.
 
Stupid concept

Why get married?

Why make excuses?

Succumbing to the flesh is the lowest common denominator of distrust.

If I cant trust my better half to not fuck someone else....how could I trust her to have my children, raise my children with me adequately, and stay financially secure and stable?

Why....because she ASKS me to fuck someone else?

What the fuck ever....

Just because Will and jada does this does not make it normal, ok, or acceptable since they LOOK happy.

This is just one option of many....and is not applicable for all couples who marry.
 
I always say I think both Will and Jada are bisexual freaks.I wouldn't put anything pass them.
 
Stupid concept

Why get married?

Why make excuses?

Succumbing to the flesh is the lowest common denominator of distrust.

If I cant trust my better half to not fuck someone else....how could I trust her to have my children, raise my children with me adequately, and stay financially secure and stable?

Why....because she ASKS me to fuck someone else?

What the fuck ever....

Just because Will and jada does this does not make it normal, ok, or acceptable since they LOOK happy.

This is just one option of many....and is not applicable for all couples who marry.

I hear what your saying and I somewhat agree. However everyone is not going to live the life of a saint. Knowing this and embracing it has allowed these two to remain married for several years. How many high profile marriages last half that long. Hell forget high profile marriages, how many marriages in general last several years? :dunno::confused:

This type marriage is not for everyone but for them (at least for now) it's working for them. :yes:
 
hmmm is this type of relationship still a marriage or a form of a union? being that its not traditional in the 1-on-1 sense, is it on the same lines at a civil union but the str8 ppl version?

marriage: (14th century) the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2): the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage

union: (15th century) an act or instance of uniting or joining two or more things into one: as (1): the formation of a single political unit from two or more separate and independent units

open marriage: (1971) a marriage in which the partners agree to let each other have sexual partners outside the marriage

civil union: (1992) the legal status that ensures to same-sex couples specified rights and responsibilities of married couples



* all definitions came from www.webster.com*
 
hmmm is this type of relationship still a marriage or a form of a union? being that its not traditional in the 1-on-1 sense, is it on the same lines at a civil union but the str8 ppl version?

marriage: (14th century) the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2): the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage

union: (15th century) an act or instance of uniting or joining two or more things into one: as (1): the formation of a single political unit from two or more separate and independent units

open marriage: (1971) a marriage in which the partners agree to let each other have sexual partners outside the marriage

civil union: (1992) the legal status that ensures to same-sex couples specified rights and responsibilities of married couples



* all definitions came from www.webster.com*

It's still a marriage. You would not question it if the openess had not been declaired.
 
2 Quotes from me on this subject from previous thread about Will and Jada . . .


Love to see Will Smith together with his fam!
http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?p=4272918#post4272918



I'm not really disagreeing with you, but I think the long and short of it is, social sanctioning. What we are willing to allow, and seeing the bigger picture.

An open marriage is sexually based on one thing, the fulfillment of carnal desires. Such desires should be controlled.

Accepting a lack of control, especially concerning sex which is so important, is justifying a lack of control of materialism, run away capitalism, etc, etc, including the embrasure of homosexuality which at it's base is non monogamous and celebrates overindulgent behavior.

An it is hard to control oneself, but marriage is an institution. It deserves it's respect. Why is it being attacked, just don't get married. SIMPLE. Do what you want, but leave something sacred in this world.

What we as a society accept marriage to be, effects us, our brothers and sisters, our children etc. It not only effects personal families, but does and will effect the behavior of our country.



:hmm:

Great photo op of the, " Fam ".

I wonder how that, " Open marriage " thing is working out for them. Really working out. :rolleyes:

Sorry. I can't have to much respect for a MAN that says he can't control himself, and if his WIFE needs to, as long as he approves she can take some dick. Keep her Lick-her-license, share herself sexually with another individual.

Why not just live together and fuck, and NOT have children, it's all good then.

A why do we big up people who disrespect the institution of marriage for their own carnal desires.

Hence faggot marriage is now legal in California.

Goddamn. Just stop fucking with marriage.

Oh well.


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http://www.youtube.com/v/2IkExUOfb9w&hl=en

:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

I can't wait for someone to say it has something to do with, " Being secure with oneself and sexuality ", or, " Confidence ".

:lol::lol:

I dare one of ya'll to pull that shit out your bum.

Will Smith lets other men touch his wife . . . who's really the TOP GUN in this picture . . .

jada-and-will-smith_tom-cruise-and-katie-holmes.jpg

http://www.yourcelebritystuff.com/w...nd-will-smith_tom-cruise-and-katie-holmes.jpg

. . . Right into the . . . DANGER ZONE!!

[flash]http://www.youtube.com/v/iPYF2p-cGx8&hl=en[/flash]
http://www.youtube.com/v/iPYF2p-cGx8&hl=en

:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

Uncompromisingly inferior behavior. :smh:

An I got friends that are swingers. :hmm: Like boy bands, pay attention to how the story ends. :hmm:
 
They DON'T have an "open marriage." Stop spreading this ignorant rumor (based on a purposeful misinterpretation and exploitation of Smith's comments about being "honest" with his partner).

:smh:
 
Now claims Will will tell Jada - and vice versa - if they "need to have sex" with other people.

Each of them, he claims will say: "I’m not going to do it if you don’t approve of it," he tells Now magazine.
 
it's a hollywood marriage, this is the best it could get. i mean come on, will has it made. a bangin, supportive, good ass woman who holds down the fort while he makin that cake! AND he gets to have all the pussy he wants WITH her approval and no sneakin around or payin for hookers. this shit would never work for an average couple so forget it.


:yes:
 
it's a hollywood marriage, this is the best it could get. i mean come on, will has it made. a bangin, supportive, good ass woman who holds down the fort while he makin that cake! AND he gets to have all the pussy he wants WITH her approval and no sneakin around or payin for hookers.

Stop making shit up. All he said was that he would like to think that he'd tell his wife if he was ever sexually interested in another woman, based on the unique bond of trust they have. He'd rather not lie about it. PERIOD. Never said that he ever has felt that way about anyone else or ever would act on it, and he certainly doesn't think she'd ever approve of him carrying out his desires.

It's just amazing how stupid people are when it comes to exploitive TABLOID stories. Such suckers for so-called "dirt." (Makes them feel better about their own boring lives, I guess.)

:smh:
 
Stupid concept

Why get married?

Why make excuses?

Succumbing to the flesh is the lowest common denominator of distrust.

If I cant trust my better half to not fuck someone else....how could I trust her to have my children, raise my children with me adequately, and stay financially secure and stable?

Why....because she ASKS me to fuck someone else?

What the fuck ever....

Just because Will and jada does this does not make it normal, ok, or acceptable since they LOOK happy.

This is just one option of many....and is not applicable for all couples who marry.


I agree with you 100%. Muhfuckas are so infatuated with 'celebrity' life-styles n shit. :smh:

Since when did Will and Jada's 'relationship' or whatever the fuck you wana call it, become a metric for calibrating what is and is not acceptable. Man, fuck boefum.
:hmm:
 
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