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Or should I say your advice.

As some of you might know I'm in the state of north carolina for a while. Me and my lawyer have partnered up and acquired what is called suncomm wireless agent stores to convert to t-mobile stores. For the past few weeks I have been around nc visiting the stores assessing the employees to see if I want to keep anyone or get rid of anyone.

One particular woman has me stumped as of what to do with. She's an abuse case as in bruises and black eyes on a daily basis. So I spoke to her today to hear her story. She's 27 her boyfriend who beats her lives off her is 19.
She's scared to leave because she's scared to be alone. A headcase if you ask me, but I feel pity for her. Your recommendations for what to do to her? Let her go or give her an ultimatum as to what to do to end these problems?
 
Sorry. Not a lady but I will chime in anyways :lol:
Let her go and mind your bizniz. You don't want her crazy ass boyfriend shooting up your store. Also, as a man it's kinda hard seeing a woman being disrespected and abused without wanting to step in and do something to make the situation better. Best bet for you is to think of your business first and let her go. Last thing you would want to do is develop an emotional connection with this woman.

When the ladies respond to this thread, if they don't cosign what I said then don't listen to them. :lol:
 
I would say if you really wanna help, look up some shelters for battered women in your area. Give her the information so that it will be her decision to call. You can't really force someone to want help, they have to want themselves. So I'd leave it at that.
 
Ultimatums don't work. Baby girl is gonna leave that situation only when she's ready to do so. The best thing for you to do is to find out what resources are available for battered women in your community and recommend she utilize them. As for whether or not to keep her on as an employee, abusers usually restrict their actions to private, so it's unlikely that her boyfriend would disrupt your operation in any way. Personally, I say if she's a decent employee, keep her on for the time being. No need to add to her troubles. But then again, I'm not running my own business...
 
Be honest Don, you want to hit that. lol But from your perspective, she could potentially become a liability. At the same time, if she's does her job well, can you as a business owner really fire her on those grounds alone? I recall a black woman being set afire at a T-mobile location a couple years ago. So if this is something that has you worried, then you are should be very well within your reasons of terminating her.
 
Chicutie said:
I would say if you really wanna help, look up some shelters for battered women in your area. Give her the information so that it will be her decision to call. You can't really force someone to want help, they have to want themselves. So I'd leave it at that.
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That's honest. I'm a sucker myself, that's why I work by myself, but I understand you have a job a to do. I couldn't be cold enough to even think about firing or denying a black woman on the basis of her personal issues, but give unto caesar what his due, i hope you think deeply about this and not just pocket wise...
 
Her work has to speak for itself... Don't let her personal life affect your decision.. IF she is a good worker who pulls her weight and you think it'd be better to keep her on, then keep her... but if she's a liability to your business, just shows up to show up... then get rid of her.. As the owner, it's not you're place to make the decision based on her personal life.. Whether she stays on or not, you should def. pass on some info about battered woman shelters and stuff, but like someone else said, she'll only leave the situation when she is ready...
 
i said fuck it and took it out of my hands and put it into my director of sales i promoted and brought down here. the girl was good in sales but she went and gave her the boot. and i'm going to back her decision.
 
Da Don said:
i said fuck it and took it out of my hands and put it into my director of sales i promoted and brought down here. the girl was good in sales but she went and gave her the boot. and i'm going to back her decision.
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SMH ... that's really cold ... now she got personal problems at home AND she's unemployed ... wonder how her little pussy of a boyfriend is going to feel about that ... you guys probably just cost her another black eye ... I mos def don't think it was right for you to fire her based on her personal life ... if she was bringing those problems to work then I could understand it ... but to just straight up fire her based on something that has nothing to do with her work ... SMH ... THAT'S COLD ... I wonder if she could file suit against you for wrongful termination ... have you thought about that since her dismissal wasn't work related??? Not wishing it on you just curious if you thought about that???
 
I have to agree with you director of sales she should have gotten the boot!!!

I would however have offered her this.

Once she got her personal life in order (no more bruises or beatings) then we would welcome her back and find a spot for her.

Being in sales you cant have the abused chick representing your business but like I said once she had cleared up her personal dilemas I would guarantee her a job back with the company.
 
What the fuck are you bitch ass niggas thinking?

Dude, what ass whopping got y'all so mired in self hate that you can't see someone in need of assistance?

I swear to god, I hope this is a bait thread, Da Don....Mr. Carter...
 
owl said:
What the fuck are you bitch ass niggas thinking?

Dude, what ass whopping got y'all so mired in self hate that you can't see someone in need of assistance?

I swear to god, I hope this is a bait thread, Da Don....Mr. Carter...
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C/S that ... kicking someone when they are already down is not a good look for anybody ... not saying that is what was done here intentionally but ...
 
I aint a woman but my take on it is as long as her problems aint coming to work then keep her. Now if her crazy ass man come to her job trippin then let her go.​
 
owl said:
What the fuck are you bitch ass niggas thinking?

Dude, what ass whopping got y'all so mired in self hate that you can't see someone in need of assistance?

I swear to god, I hope this is a bait thread, Da Don....Mr. Carter...
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This is business! I promise you that she has atleast one female friend that has told her to run for cover, yet she still stays. People that are abused ain't stupid. They're aware of what's going on. Men get abused just as much as women. Yet, we'll clown a brotha trying to do the right thing bout his family, even though his girl is fucking him over.

Getting fired was probably the last thing she needed, but at 27, she knows fucking better. Bitch ain't between 18 or 22. She can get her own help.
 
Steelwill2006 said:
This is business! I promise you that she has atleast one female friend that has told her to run for cover, yet she still stays. People that are abused ain't stupid. They're aware of what's going on. Men get abused just as much as women. Yet, we'll clown a brotha trying to do the right thing bout his family, even though his girl is fucking him over.

Getting fired was probably the last thing she needed, but at 27, she knows fucking better. Bitch ain't between 18 or 22. She can get her own help.
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What do her personal problems have to do with her work??? If she was working at an abused womans shelter or crisis centre I could understand dismissing her for not practicing what she preaches but she sells cell phones for GOD's sake ... that has nothing to do with what is going on in her life ... my problem is that people love to look down on others when they put themselves in a bad situation ... let her work it out for herself and mind your own business(not you personally but you get what I mean) ... people don't understand that their judging eyes sometimes adds to the problem and makes people wanna hide as opposed to addressing their issues ... I know it's noone's responsibility but hers but DANG a little compassion never hurt anyone
 
I know Da Don I've to his store and he's been to my city (Toronto). I know for a fact, if she was Vietnamese Da Don would have treated her differently. :hmm:
 
Steelwill2006 said:
This is business! I promise you that she has atleast one female friend that has told her to run for cover, yet she still stays. People that are abused ain't stupid. They're aware of what's going on. Men get abused just as much as women. Yet, we'll clown a brotha trying to do the right thing bout his family, even though his girl is fucking him over.

Getting fired was probably the last thing she needed, but at 27, she knows fucking better. Bitch ain't between 18 or 22. She can get her own help.
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Ain't you the same cat me and gameboy used to get our practice on?

Mr. Hundred dollar stacks of ones?


Stand down, blood, you don't want it...
 
Southpaw said:
He's a big dark skin Polar Bear looking mofo with self-hate issues. If she wasn't black he would have helped her out.
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wow that is a serious accusation, especially considering the circumstances


well Da Don...are you going to address such allegations?
 
jucurious said:
wow that is a serious accusation, especially considering the circumstances


well Da Don...are you going to address such allegations?
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Come on, young thought, that's DA DON, if it was going down like that it would have. I called that cat Mr. Carter for a reason...my dude, SOUTHPAW, came through for a reason...when have you ever seen us just go Harold on somebody?
 
LoneStar29 said:
SMH ... that's really cold ... now she got personal problems at home AND she's unemployed ... wonder how her little pussy of a boyfriend is going to feel about that ... you guys probably just cost her another black eye ... I mos def don't think it was right for you to fire her based on her personal life ... if she was bringing those problems to work then I could understand it ... but to just straight up fire her based on something that has nothing to do with her work ... SMH ... THAT'S COLD ... I wonder if she could file suit against you for wrongful termination ... have you thought about that since her dismissal wasn't work related??? Not wishing it on you just curious if you thought about that???
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she has no grounds for a lawsuit. you must not have read up top where my lawyer is my partner on this. she's not physically handicapped which impairs her from working. But her personal life impairs her from working. when your doing nothing but hanging in the back all day because you can't face the public because of bruises, black eyes, etc. that's a problem. i don't pay folks to sit in the back and cry all day. the previous owners may have looked the other way but we cannot. As a matter of fact i can fire everyone and start from scratch, these were not my employees to begin with down here, they came with the stores.

and it was a black woman who made the decision to let her go, FYI.......
 
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Southpaw said:
I know Da Don I've to his store and he's been to my city (Toronto). I know for a fact, if she was Vietnamese Da Don would have treated her differently. :hmm:
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you again must not have read. i clearly stated she was asian.

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my mistake i didn't specify her race. she's asian.


*plus, seeing that everyone who has been to my store has literally gone out of their way to identify themselves as so and so from bgol, i seriously doubt you've been to one of my stores, more or less knew which location i was going to be at. DIH can vouch on that. whenever he needed something he calls ahead to find out which store i'm going to be at.

so try to make a name for yourself with someone else son i'm not the one.....
 
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Southpaw said:
He's a big dark skin Polar Bear looking mofo with self-hate issues. If she wasn't black he would have helped her out.
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jucurious said:
wow that is a serious accusation, especially considering the circumstances


well Da Don...are you going to address such allegations?
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lol

the girl is of Asian descenttranslation: she ain't black.

and the only thing of your description you got right is dark skinned.

only 4 regs on here know me, DIH, luvpussy, sexyscorpio, and only one of those regs from canada and your not miss lead luv.

try again.......
 
Da Don said:
i said fuck it and took it out of my hands and put it into my director of sales i promoted and brought down here. the girl was good in sales but she went and gave her the boot. and i'm going to back her decision.
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DD,

Does your corporation provide EAP? If not, I suggest you do to help provide counseling when needed.

What was her track record as far as being able to do her job? If she rids herself of the problem, would you hire her back?

I think you did the right thing. A personal problem like that is ultimately going to effect how your employee functions on the job and in a sales position, the last thing you want is someone on the floor, walking around with black eyes. :smh:
 
I know many of you have run our own businesses, and know how many headaches you have trying to make an honest buck. This ain't cold; it's business. She's 27 in NC (Don dosen't say what part, but if it's in any of the metropolitan areas, they are all booming!), she can find another job. I'm not saying I would have made the same decision (there are a lot of factors to be considered) but I probably would have. I tell all my proteges: You acquire a client for one reason and one reason only, to make their problem quotient go DOWM. It it stays the same or goes up even the slightest, you are gone!

No applause, Don, but business is business. You made the best decision in light of the big picture.
 
Robeson said:
I know many of you have run our own businesses, and know how many headaches you have trying to make an honest buck. This ain't cold; it's business. She's 27 in NC (Don dosen't say what part, but if it's in any of the metropolitan areas, they are all booming!), she can find another job. I'm not saying I would have made the same decision (there are a lot of factors to be considered) but I probably would have. I tell all my proteges: You acquire a client for one reason and one reason only, to make their problem quotient go DOWM. It it stays the same or goes up even the slightest, you are gone!

No applause, Don, but business is business. You made the best decision in light of the big picture.
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1. I would've ended up making the same judgement myself after all was said and done which is why I support her decision.

2. This store location is up in asheville one of the bigger towns in the west so I'm sure whenever she gets herself together she'll be alright.

3. I'm not a big company so no I don't offer none of that EAP counseling stuff, lol I'm just now eligible to be able to offer decent benefits to everyone now that I have a larger staff.

4. Quoting the person I put in charge:

27 getting her ass handed to her daily by a 19 year old boy? No its more going on with her she has some childish issues to deal with to be going through that.
 
Da Don said:
Quoting the person I put in charge:

27 getting her ass handed to her daily by a 19 year old boy? No its more going on with her she has some childish issues to deal with to be going through that.
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Ashville? She'll be just fine.

What has to be has to be. This is not about "personal life;" it's about the people you select that will directly impact your bottom line. You put someone over this unit because you trust their judgement. As I said, I don't know if I would have done the same thing either, but that's not to say what your manager did is not the right thing to do.

The bottom line is that you are not trying to wantonly hurt this woman, and if you can help her, please do. But that help does not extend to jeapordizing your business.
 
The best joke to me in this whole thread is that you came on asking for the ladies advice ... from what I read we pretty much all said to give her a chance ... but in true BGOL style the men hijack the thread talking about "forget her ... the bottom line is what's important" and then you all band together as usual and pat each other on the back ... LOLOLOLOLOL .... the BGOL Boy's Club ... SMH
 
I want to apologize for getting emotional about the situation, Da Don. It was not my call to make. I do, still, think that that was cold hearted. Business does not have to automatically mean cold.

From what you have stated, nothing she was going through directly effected the sales of your office. I've been the manager and director over many different types of people and projects, financial and otherwise, and you don't always have to sacrifice people for the bottom line.

I understand the uncomfortable feeling that a woman going through that type of situation can cause an office atmosphere, yet I just don't see where letting her go has to be the final decision.
 
LoneStar29 said:
The best joke to me in this whole thread is that you came on asking for the ladies advice ... from what I read we pretty much all said to give her a chance ... but in true BGOL style the men hijack the thread talking about "forget her ... the bottom line is what's important" and then you all band together as usual and pat each other on the back ... LOLOLOLOLOL .... the BGOL Boy's Club ... SMH
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your an emotionally fragile individual aren't you?
 
Da Don said:
your an emotionally fragile individual aren't you?
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:confused:Feeling compassion for someone in a bad situation makes me "emotionally fragile":confused:Sorry if my life doesn't rotate around "the bottom line" ... you can't take any of that money with you to HEAVEN when you die but a kind heart will follow you through many lifetimes ... just my opinion though
 

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