We can agree to disagree, my parents been married for decades and never have they thought about a divorce even when they went through a lot of shit together.
ehhh - i dont know your parents - but
i mean to keep it a buck all these relationships that we hold up as an examples because "they stayed together so long" are maybe what we want to believe rather than whats actually true -
again - prior to the last few decades or so marriages occurred for VASTLY different reasons for women as opposed to men - women could barely get divorced and expect to keep a roof over their heads and thats into the 1990s.. shit in the 1970 or 80s women couldnt even get a bank account in some instances with out a "husband" or have a hope of having a long term job that would let them earn as much as men .... women were expected to have a husband or a man taking care of them ....because society and culture pretty much stacked the deck to say - you better have a husband or a man to take care of you - other wise you were a failure as women or you were odd or just fucked up.
so them marriages that occured in the 1970s and before - them shits were mostly business arrangements probably moreso for the women rather than the man - dude may have been in love - but for the women dude was a life preserver and if she wanted to live shed batter act like he is the love of her life.... there is PLENTY of pexample of women ust staying with men they didnt like or shouldnt have stayed with at all simply becasue the alternative was all types of fucked up if they left dude. when the 1980s were ending and into the 1990s and 2000s -folk were tired of pretending to be happy .....and thats seems like the case in this Mathis thing too...its fucking 2025 and people are still holding onto ideas about marriage like on a level like believing in Santa Clause or "white Jesus saving" .
everything....even relationships - have a beginning a middle and an end
folk are just salty now because its becoming just as easy ( an acceptable ) to end a relationship as it is to start one....
so grandma and grandpa that stayed together for 30 or 40 years wasnt because they loved each other - its really because one of them were a hostage in the beginning and they just gave up ever being free..or just couldnt be because the alternative was a slow depressing wasting away .... we need to stop telling fairy tales about how youre gonna fall in love and be together forever....that shit is imaginary.
frankly it should be JUST as hard to get married as it now is to get divorced - shit is way backwards.
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... Nigga told her Bye Felicia one too many times
