PAPA WAS A ROLLING STONE... honestly how did you feel about it when you discovered Pops had kids and/or families other than you?

honestly how did you feel about when you discovered Pops had kids and/or families other than you?

  • I was okay with it..it is what it is...

    Votes: 21 75.0%
  • I wasn't cool with it at first but came around

    Votes: 4 14.3%
  • Wasn't cool then still Not cool now.

    Votes: 3 10.7%

  • Total voters
    28
this hat
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with any one of these suits

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and those white shoes = PUSSY MAGNET!! FROM 1975 TO ABOUT 1981 :roflmao: :roflmao: :roflmao: :roflmao:

You got the years wrong...this is early 70s gear. By the late 70s, shit had gotten pretty nice.

Isn't that Gale Sayers, Bob Griese and some other cat in the pic?

Edit..that's them
 
My Pops left behind some Jazz albums, some jewelry, and a couple of shotguns. I told my half brother he can have all of that shit. I have my own shit.

So he ain't really leave shit. I feel you though minus the shotgun I would of let the other stuff go.


Why care about your Dads property and who gets it? Make your own money so U dont care who gets or does not get what....
You sound like the outside bastard kid. I'll be dam if anyone else gets the assets my Father acquired. I made sure of that.
 
I didn’t find out I had a stepsister until I went to my fathers funeral about 10-12 years ago, I’d actually forgotten about her until I saw this thread. I wasnt even gonna go to the funeral because he hadnt been in my life since I was a baby but my mom kinda guilted me into going. Me and my brother and sister get to the place and they want “his kids” to ride in the front limousine, we get in there and another woman is already in there. No one ever said this is your sister or anything but I was reading the funeral obituary and saw four names instead of three when it listed his kids. We never talked to her at the funeral or at his parents house after the funeral, I don’t even remember her name or even what she looks like. I didnt really feel anyway about it because like I said he hadn’t been in my life since I was a baby
Damn.. I can relate a little
 
My (new) siblings are actually very cool people, so it worked out. We stay in contact. The situation they were born into was not their fault. Wish I'd known them earlier in my life.
I ain't gon lie, I'm resentful after learning about my sperm donor's other children in 2014. I never met him or his other kids, only talked to 2 on phone.

Oldest daughter before marriage (one that reached out to me) 7 yes older than me
Oldest daughter by wife
ME (eldest son)
Son by wife (I think he's a 3rd ie. III)
  • Son by his sister's best friend/friend of family
  • Another son by same (2 years apart)
Last 2 are significantly younger, when I was 18 they were like 4 & 6, or 5 & 7.

After talking to oldest for a few months, I realized that there was a concerted effort by him, and his wife, and my mother moving to another state didnt help... all contributed to me not knowing my siblings.
 
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Did not bother me one bit.

Where I come from most men have children with numerous women. Its the norm. My Dad had kids with 3 women. My Grandfather had 16 kids with 3 wives. All lived in a compound house and each wife had her own house. He was the village chief. I have a friend whose father went thru 7 wives and 40 children.

This Western notion/construction of 1 man, 1 wife and just 1 nuclear family is a construction that often does not apply.
Where are you from?

I wanna have it like your grandfather had the compound
 
I didn’t find out I had a stepsister until I went to my fathers funeral about 10-12 years ago, I’d actually forgotten about her until I saw this thread. I wasnt even gonna go to the funeral because he hadnt been in my life since I was a baby but my mom kinda guilted me into going. Me and my brother and sister get to the place and they want “his kids” to ride in the front limousine, we get in there and another woman is already in there. No one ever said this is your sister or anything but I was reading the funeral obituary and saw four names instead of three when it listed his kids. We never talked to her at the funeral or at his parents house after the funeral, I don’t even remember her name or even what she looks like. I didnt really feel anyway about it because like I said he hadn’t been in my life since I was a baby
It all come out at the funeral and Facebook.
 
We got time..

Basically my Dad was a typical dude back in the late 60's/70's. Had a few kids or whatever then graduated college and was ready to start a new chapter in life. Got married etc and never looked back. Years later a chick in her 40s sent some letters saying she was my Dads daughter. He didn't even say you ain't mine he just ignored her. Well she was kind of persistent and at 40+ years of age sued him for paternity saying she wanted to know.
 
So he ain't really leave shit. I feel you though minus the shotgun I would of let the other stuff go.


You sound like the outside bastard kid. I'll be dam if anyone else gets the assets my Father acquired. I made sure of that.
Did you have a relationship with your father? Was he in your life?

Maybe that's the difference. I'on know... I dont want shit but maybe some property.
 
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:roflmao::roflmao::roflmao: its funny cuz its true!! :roflmao::roflmao::roflmao:

what the hell is it about those shoes that turns women on?? :lol: :lol: :lol:
I was that outside child. I talk to my (half) brother just about daily. :)
The truth is though, he was always envious of me because I am a carbon copy of our father and that's all anyone has ever spoken about in the entire family but we have much love between us.

I'll never forget being brought home with my (deceased) older brother when we found out about one another. Their mother snatched me up and held me as tight as Roger's mama on What's Happening and broke into tears. :inlove::crymeariver::crymeariver::crymeariver:
 
Dad would never wear any shoes like but he did his share of rolling. I never sweated him. Mother in laws never don't belong in your home unless visiting.
 
My half brother was born in January, my sister was born in September of the same year. My half brother's mother got mad at my pops once, so she came to our house at 1:00am, rang the doorbell, jumped in her car and left; leaving my half brother on our porch. He was two years old at the time. My pops brought him in the house, and my mom went nuts. Pop's was like, "What am I supposed to do, she just left him out there."

My mom was like, "I don't give a fuck what you do, but he ain't staying here..." So Pops put on some clothes and took my half brother back to his mother. Moms divorced him after that. I remember an attorney came to the house to speak with them about the divorce etc... When o'le boy left, Pops was all sad and shit. He asked her, "Why do you want a divorce?" I'm like 10 years old, and in my head I'm like, "Dude, are you fucking for real, asking her that?"
Exact same scenario in my friend's family except his mom took the baby and raised the boy as her own. She would lie straight to your face if you asked about the baby's origin and tell you she had him naturally even if you knew it wasn't true. She already had 5 kids and my friend was the youngest. She got the rest of the family step in line and love that baby.
She didn't divorce her husband, didn't react in any way negative and "Uncle" Fred became a very predictable homebody since then.
Lil dude is about to be a surgeon
 
Exact same scenario in my friend's family except his mom took the baby and raised the boy as her own. She would lie straight to your face if you asked about the baby's origin and tell you she had him naturally even if you knew it wasn't true. She already had 5 kids and my friend was the youngest. She got the rest of the family step in line and love that baby.
She didn't divorce her husband, didn't react in any way negative and "Uncle" Fred became a very predictable homebody since then.
Lil dude is about to be a surgeon
That's good stuff...

My pops was a chronic cheater though. He wasn't going to stop. Once my mother knew it, she decided to leave and let him do him. He died last year. My half brother, my half sister, his current wife and her daughter were the only people who attended his funeral.
 
Basically my Dad was a typical dude back in the late 60's/70's. Had a few kids or whatever then graduated college and was ready to start a new chapter in life. Got married etc and never looked back. Years later a chick in her 40s sent some letters saying she was my Dads daughter. He didn't even say you ain't mine he just ignored her. Well she was kind of persistent and at 40+ years of age sued him for paternity saying she wanted to know.
Did you have a relationship with your father? Was he in your life?

Maybe that's the difference. I'on know... I dont want shit but maybe some property.

Fucked up thing about it I paid his lawyer fees smh. He paid me back but I actually took the payment to his attorney lol. My Dad didn't go to court either. What I was told the chick was amazed that he had an attorney. It was really a stupid situation. Was my Dad right? Hell no he wasn't but to sue someone for custody rights at like 42 years old is dumb.
 
Basically my Dad was a typical dude back in the late 60's/70's. Had a few kids or whatever then graduated college and was ready to start a new chapter in life. Got married etc and never looked back. Years later a chick in her 40s sent some letters saying she was my Dads daughter. He didn't even say you ain't mine he just ignored her. Well she was kind of persistent and at 40+ years of age sued him for paternity saying she wanted to know.
What else, ninja?
I didn't you could use someone for paternity. So they made him take a paternity test? How is that possible? But yea, how that turn out?
 
What else, ninja?
I didn't you could use someone for paternity. So they made him take a paternity test? How is that possible? But yea, how that turn out?

Yeah it was very strange. His attorney was like this is a pure waste of time. She is just being vindictive about the situation. The chick was like 42 ish years old when she sued him. Said she just wanted to know etc. My Pops said he didn't need to know the DNA results because it didn't matter to him. I felt for ole girl but that wasn't my business. She ended up having to pay a bunch of money because her mom was dead so she had to pay for another kind of DNA test. How it turned out? She found out her was her dad but he didn't care. He still haven't spoken to her. I really don't know what she expected out of the situation. My dad has a will and all.
 
Exact same scenario in my friend's family except his mom took the baby and raised the boy as her own. She would lie straight to your face if you asked about the baby's origin and tell you she had him naturally even if you knew it wasn't true. She already had 5 kids and my friend was the youngest. She got the rest of the family step in line and love that baby.
She didn't divorce her husband, didn't react in any way negative and "Uncle" Fred became a very predictable homebody since then.
Lil dude is about to be a surgeon
Respect! This is how it's supposed to be.
 
That's good stuff...

My pops was a chronic cheater though. He wasn't going to stop. Once my mother knew it, she decided to leave and let him do him. He died last year. My half brother, my half sister, his current wife and her daughter were the only people who attended his funeral.
You didn't go?
 
My biological grandfathers had kids all over the places, but if they were ever actually married to my grandmothers, it wasnt for very long. From my pops, its just me and my sis, unless he got some bastard kids overseas that he dont know about.
 
You didn't go?
No, I didn't attend. My sister didn't either. We weren't mad at him or anything of the sort. We were both indifferent. There was no tears or anything.

It's hard to have feelings for someone who you do not know. I knew who he was as far as being my biological father. But, he was never a "Dad." So those feelings never developed in us. It's hard to explain that to people who haven't lived it.
 
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But on a personal note, found out my pops had a son when I was about seven. My brother is about a year older than me. Moms was a special woman and didn't blame him for being born so he was always around the crib with me and my other siblings and would sleep over during the summers. We were so close I never thought of him as a "half" anything. Moms placed the blame where it belonged and got a divorce. Strangely enough though, my brothers moms and mine became very close friends later in life and remained so.

That's how it went for me, as your family embraced your brother, I was embraced by their family.
I'm the youngest of my father's sons and one daughter. He had a set of twins from his first marriage, who are in L.A., three sons from his second marriage (two are now deceased), who I spent weekends and summers with, and I was the side baby, as it happened.

We're all in contact with one another today and consider one another to be siblings. None of us harbor any sort of hurt or painful feelings about it.
 
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