How many don't communicate with their parents?

[dHustla]

I watched my thoughtful parents lose everything right before my eyes. They were loving, caring and generous. They were protective to me and my siblings. We grew up in a beautiful home..if any of my extended family needed a place or money...without hesitation they granted them a room to sleep with meals. I saw my parents kindness at a very young age....

FAST FORWARD to when they became seniors....

My dad suffered multiple strokes and my mom's developed alzheimers.. They wound up losing the house because of civil issues and not keeping up with the bills. I moved them in with me because they were alone and the vultures in my family kept begging them for money. The hardest part to all this is when I saw my mother wedding ring disappear off her finger and the house was too far gone to catch up. I hired lawyers to protect them and settle the civil matters. That day I got a U Haul and got them out.

It was such a comforting feeling to know they were safe. As my radical father health deteriorated he was bound to a wheelchair. We sat outside many days listening to his Blues. His final stroke was the fatal blow that ended him. I sat with him in the hospital, making calls. No fuckingbody came to say their goodbyes. He held on for a week....The last night I whispered for him to let go, mom will be well taken care of....that night he transitioned.

Mom's in her last stages of this fucked up disease...she has a strong will to stay alive. She gets visits from kin 1000 miles away.
Out of all the siblings and the family my parents cared for and loved only one makes visits.

This is a fucked up pattern that's happening with this disgusting and lost generation. I think it maybe the reason for me to only have one child.

Great post, brother!

Your parents got what they gave 10 fold in having you witness, experience, learn from, & grow from everything they went thru... And THAT is why you should multiply & be fruitful, because all your offspring will be taught better.

How to be compassionate without being taken advantage of.
How to be giving and maintain boundaries.
How to be a good judge of character.
How to be discerning.
How to be a critical thinker.

Them people that didn't show up for your parents gon get what they got coming to em, prolly ten times over.

It's prolly best that they dont/didnt come around, cuz they aint shit.. You & yours dont/didnt need them around during tough times. Fuck em!

 

[Quek9]

I agree it is tragic. I was home this weekend and each time I see them, it refuels me.

Tell my in-laws hi next time you talk to them

I feel you sweetness. Growing up my peeps were cool on the strict side but after I reached adulthood they became the coolest and realist people I know. The rest of my siblings feel the same way. This country has really done a number on us. The black family is supposed to be a source of strength.

Will do on the greetings, make sure you let your peeps know it's ok for us to sleep in the same bed when we are at their house because you are my internet wifey.

 

[shaddyvillethug]

@dHustla

Everything u post be sad

 

[cnc]

My old man is damn near 80 now and I’ve written him out of my life. Just a simple cost of dealing with him versus the benefit I receive; wasn’t worth it. He wasn’t a good father; divorced my mom when I was 6; got remarried (wife #3; he’s on #4 now); fought CS and then just stopped paying; threatened me when I was 9 (pinned me up against a wall by the neck and said he’d wrap a 9 Iron around my head bc I pushed his wife after she’d smacked me with a belt; incident is still clear as day in my mind almost 30 years later) never has been the same since. Tried a few times to make some relationship happen but it always goes back to him talking about my mom and her business and him never taking blame for anything. About four years ago he got to talking reckless and we almost came to blows; at that point I decided I was permanently done. When it feels odds to call someone “dad”, you know it’s a waste of time. Dude has the nerve to ask how his “grandchild” is; motherfucker; you get no claim to anything; I don’t even let my kid know he exists; why set the kid up to be disappointed? If he dies before me, I doubt I even attend his funeral; waste of time.

Mom OTOH, is a Saint; gave all she had and more to get me to a place of good in my adult life. We argue many bc we’re too much alike and Im her only kid but it always gets rectified). She’s slowing down and I might have to move her in with me at some point. Holla at her just about every day to make sure she’s good.

 

[Naha-Nago]

Me and my folks talk damn near everyday.

They have transcended being my parents and I now see them as dear friends.

Yes, I am lucky and blessed.

*two cents*

 

[shaddyvillethug]

She's more of a woman than you are a man breh we all know you've never been that.

U have my address faggit

I’ll PM it again

Ima sharpen my iron for you

 

[shaddyvillethug]

Me and my folks talk damn near everyday.

They have transcended being my parents and I now see them as dear friends.

Yes, I am lucky and blessed.

*two cents*

You tell them about bgol like u do your friends and wife?

 

[Naha-Nago]

You tell them about bgol like u do your friends and wife?

Since you want to be a smart ass and it's a slow work day I'll answer....

They know their son.

Anything else?

*two cents*

 

[shaddyvillethug]

Since you want to be a smart ass and it's a slow work day I'll answer....

They know their son.

Anything else?

*two cents*

Smart ass?

These your words

YOU made your profile private

YOU chose to tell your wife about bgol

YOU chose to tell your friends to sign up and join bgol

YOU the nigga who changed his name



#welcometothelake

 

[Naha-Nago]

Smart ass?

These your words

YOU made your profile private

YOU chose to tell your wife about bgol

YOU chose to tell your friends to sign up and join bgol

YOU the nigga who changed his name



#welcometothelake

Uhh......

1. My profile has always been private since I've been on here.

2. My wife knows the man she married, lurks on here, and there is nothing I've said on here that I haven't said to her directly. Once again, she knows who she married.

3. Ironically, it was my friends who hipped me to BGOL in 03' while in college. Want a bigger trip? I use to buy vhs from this site in 96'. So I've been involved with bgol in one way or another from over 20 years!

4. Changed my screen name. Oh you mean POGOBOR99? Yeah what of it? I've done such a good job of creating a new identity that I even use the same silly signature at the end of every post *two cents* would it help you if I changed it back?

5. #welcometothelake....and you have issue with me because.....

Hope I cleared all that up.


*two cents*

 

[Shadow22]

U have my address faggit

I’ll PM it again

Ima sharpen my iron for you

Lil fella i have nothing from you. I know u have the heart of a bitch. Just like u take imaginary kids to daycare that don't exist.

 

[shaddyvillethug]

Uhh......

1. My profile has always been private since I've been on here.

2. My wife knows the man she married, lurks on here, and there is nothing I've said on here that I haven't said to her directly. Once again, she knows who she married.

3. Ironically, it was my friends who hipped me to BGOL in 03' while in college. Want a bigger trip? I use to buy vhs from this site in 96'. So I've been involved with bgol in one way or another from over 20 years!

4. Changed my screen name. Oh you mean POGOBOR99? Yeah what of it? I've done such a good job of creating a new identity that I even use the same silly signature at the end of every post *two cents* would it help you if I changed it back?

5. #welcometothelake....and you have issue with me because.....

Hope I cleared all that up.


*two cents*

You good!!!!!!!!!!

Lol

 

[Naha-Nago]

You good!!!!!!!!!!

Lol

You're just doing a heat check to see if I'm legit.

Respect.

*two cents*

 

[older version]

Black people have too less of a culture of our own to be able to upkeep families that are too decentralized.
America is shaping our dealings with one another like it or not, and some people have rotten folks, and
some people are rotten folks themselves and should have never had kids. In expanded families and cultures
there would be a "peoples court" (uncle, brother, grandpa, etc) that got to hear both sides and would have a sense of justice.

 

[TruDat]

Wow first time that I have seen this thread.
Very interesting points from each perspective.

My mother live in my household. After her heart surgery, we decided
she can live with us to recuperate, ever since then she lived with us.
So I talk to my mother everyday.

What is unique my mother and my wife get along really well, rarely do they
even argue. They are involved with a lot of organizations and they are like a one-two
punch; whenever, there something that needs to be organized.
My wife is like a daughter that she never had since she only had sons.

As for my father, I haven't spoken to him in over 21 years and I haven't seen him
in over 23 years. I have attempted on many occasions to get in contact with him
but to no avail. I am not bitter. Shit! Life happens.
I graduated with honors in high school and college
and I provide a comfortable living for my family.

Thank goodness for my grandfather and my slew of uncles for help raising me.

 

[cocobeauty]

No offense

But u not a man.

You're right I'm not. What's your point?

 

[cocobeauty]

Who here thinks they might benefit from talking to someone, a therapist or counselor, on a regular basis?


I guess I need to get the most out of this Obamacare before they take it away.

You definitely should. I have before and recently thought about it again.

 

[cocobeauty]

I just went to a former coworker's husband's funeral today. He up and passed away last monday. He was a breh in his 50's local police chief and war vet father,husband and friend. Get ya affairs in order and tell ya peoples if u can u love em.

Stay on that bullshit if u wanna. If u hold grudges you ain't hurting no 1 but yourself.

So true

 

[Darrkman]

So true

Pssssst. If you need someone I'm here for you.

 

[Raeeb7]

What I learned about life is you can't keep trying to deal with people that don't want to deal with you. It's the same as trying to convince a women to love you and she wants to get her hoe on. Family ain't no different and you fuck up other relationships in ya life trying to fill a hole one of your parents may have left in you.
In my opinion it's best to cut your losses. My violent and arguing days are over. If someone brings me to that point I curve them immediately family included. Alot of people don't hold grudges they just chose to love from a distance.

 

[dHustla]

@dHustla

Everything u post be sad

Yea youngin'...

Pray for me daily....

I'll be aight

 

[shaddyvillethug]

You're right I'm not. What's your point?

So you couldn’t see the love that was shown.

U prolly thought they was talking loud too huh

 

[SamSneed]

My old man is damn near 80 now and I’ve written him out of my life. Just a simple cost of dealing with him versus the benefit I receive; wasn’t worth it. He wasn’t a good father; divorced my mom when I was 6; got remarried (wife #3; he’s on #4 now); fought CS and then just stopped paying; threatened me when I was 9 (pinned me up against a wall by the neck and said he’d wrap a 9 Iron around my head bc I pushed his wife after she’d smacked me with a belt; incident is still clear as day in my mind almost 30 years later) never has been the same since. Tried a few times to make some relationship happen but it always goes back to him talking about my mom and her business and him never taking blame for anything. About four years ago he got to talking reckless and we almost came to blows; at that point I decided I was permanently done. When it feels odds to call someone “dad”, you know it’s a waste of time. Dude has the nerve to ask how his “grandchild” is; motherfucker; you get no claim to anything; I don’t even let me kid know he exists; why set her up to be disappointed? If he dies before me, I doubt I even attend his funeral; waste of time.

Mom OTOH, is a Saint; gave all she had and more to get me to a place of good in my adult life. We argue many bc we’re too much alike and Im her only kid but it always gets rectified). She’s slowing down and I might have to move her in with me at some point. Holla at her just about every day to make sure she’s good.

Bring her home, care for her.

It's only right cause remember she did it when you couldn't.

Her last yrs need to be filled with joy. Ask her about when you were a baby.

 

[cocobeauty]

Pssssst. If you need someone I'm here for you.

Lol I'm good, but thank you.

So you couldn’t see the love that was shown.

U prolly thought they was talking loud too huh

Disrespect is disrespect. Has nothing to do with gender.

 

[Shadow22]

Lol I'm good, but thank you.

Disrespect is disrespect. Has nothing to do with gender.

U know shaddy is damn near 50 still living in dad's basement working at o hare airport in real life . I gave him a 20 for carrying my bags. He understands the context. He plays a 19 yr old teen/ bgol's great grand 5'2 nephew.

 

[cocobeauty]

U know shaddy is damn near 50 still living in dad's basement working at o hare airport in real life . I gave him a 20 for carrying my bags. He understands the context. He plays a 19 yr old teen/ bgol's great grand 5'2 nephew.

Even though you pissed me off in that other thread this is funny.

 

[jam hunk]

10 years plus.
She disowned me and will not take my calls.

I didnt talk to my Mom for about 10 years + but made the first move and guess what she was happy to see and speak to me. I am asking if you can try again.

 

[A to Dah K]

I watched my thoughtful parents lose everything right before my eyes. They were loving, caring and generous. They were protective to me and my siblings. We grew up in a beautiful home..if any of my extended family needed a place or money...without hesitation they granted them a room to sleep with meals. I saw my parents kindness at a very young age....

FAST FORWARD to when they became seniors....

My dad suffered multiple strokes and my mom's developed alzheimers.. They wound up losing the house because of civil issues and not keeping up with the bills. I moved them in with me because they were alone and the vultures in my family kept begging them for money. The hardest part to all this is when I saw my mother wedding ring disappear off her finger and the house was too far gone to catch up. I hired lawyers to protect them and settle the civil matters. That day I got a U Haul and got them out.

It was such a comforting feeling to know they were safe. As my radical father health deteriorated he was bound to a wheelchair. We sat outside many days listening to his Blues. His final stroke was the fatal blow that ended him. I sat with him in the hospital, making calls. No fuckingbody came to say their goodbyes. He held on for a week....The last night I whispered for him to let go, mom will be well taken care of....that night he transitioned.

Mom's in her last stages of this fucked up disease...she has a strong will to stay alive. She gets visits from kin 1000 miles away.
Out of all the siblings and the family my parents cared for and loved only one makes visits.

This is a fucked up pattern that's happening with this disgusting and lost generation. I think it maybe the reason for me to only have one child.

Bless u brother
Stay strong

 

[The Untouchable GDFOLKS]

I talk to my moms EVERYDAY!!!! you only get 1!
She lies like 2 trains on the same track!!!! She is exactly like tony sapranos mother. but I love her just the same

Does she know that you are a gay?

 

[mailboxpimp]

Does she know that you are a gay?

i keep telling you we dnt have the same mother & yes my mother knows you & ya father are faggots .... along with the rest of the GD's you run with pussy hole.

 

[Quek9]

Lol I'm good, but thank you.

Disrespect is disrespect. Has nothing to do with gender.

Yea she is good...

 

[The Untouchable GDFOLKS]

I do a serious DO and eyebrows

Did you reveal to your father that you were gay before he passed away from AIDS?

 

[kain]

I didnt talk to my Mom for about 10 years + but made the first move and guess what she was happy to see and speak to me. I am asking if you can try again.

I have tried several times only to be driven away.
I'm too old to be chasing dreams.
I will live my life without her.

 

[John Mickens Jr.]

My old man is damn near 80 now and I’ve written him out of my life. Just a simple cost of dealing with him versus the benefit I receive; wasn’t worth it. He wasn’t a good father; divorced my mom when I was 6; got remarried (wife #3; he’s on #4 now); fought CS and then just stopped paying; threatened me when I was 9 (pinned me up against a wall by the neck and said he’d wrap a 9 Iron around my head bc I pushed his wife after she’d smacked me with a belt; incident is still clear as day in my mind almost 30 years later) never has been the same since. Tried a few times to make some relationship happen but it always goes back to him talking about my mom and her business and him never taking blame for anything. About four years ago he got to talking reckless and we almost came to blows; at that point I decided I was permanently done. When it feels odds to call someone “dad”, you know it’s a waste of time. Dude has the nerve to ask how his “grandchild” is; motherfucker; you get no claim to anything; I don’t even let me kid know he exists; why set her up to be disappointed? If he dies before me, I doubt I even attend his funeral; waste of time.

Mom OTOH, is a Saint; gave all she had and more to get me to a place of good in my adult life. We argue many bc we’re too much alike and Im her only kid but it always gets rectified). She’s slowing down and I might have to move her in with me at some point. Holla at her just about every day to make sure she’s good.

That’s terrible. You almost fought him at 76? Yea you should move on. Still sad tho

 

[cnc]

That’s terrible. You almost fought him at 76? Yea you should move on. Still sad tho

He’s really reckless with his mouth, blames everyone but himself for everything, but he tried to get at my wife on something and was upset when she didn’t respond the way he wanted, forcing me to step to him and tell him to ease the fuck up; he didn’t like that and wanted to play the “Im your father, you respect me” card; when he got told how lousy of a father he was and how he didn’t even earn the respect to be viewed as my old man; it got a little tight.