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[D Town Redd]

Happiness is not a destination...

nor is it a product.

But people keep treating it as such and the results are all too predictable.... mofos commiting suicide with millions in the bank. People starving for a sense of meaning and purpose while being flooded by unimagined food and abundance...

 

[D Town Redd]

bump for truth

 

[Simply_Black]

Happiness is a destination.

It's not something that naturally happens, it's something that you have to strive and work hard towards.

My pops use to say. "You will never be happy sitting around and waiting for things to happen; you have to get up go out there, build relationships and work towards your achievements."

Of course there are other factors that you have to take into consideration such a health & relationships with family, friends, etc, but even those are things that we have to work at maintaining. So my point is attaining happiness in life is a life long effort of work & self preservation.

 

[TheFuser]

Happiness is a destination.

It's not something that naturally happens, it's something that you have to strive and work hard towards.

My pops use to say. "You will never be happy sitting around and waiting for things to happen; you have to get up go out there, build relationships and work towards your achievements."

Of course there are other factors that you have to take into consideration such a health & relationships with family, friends, etc, but even those are things that we have to work at maintaining. So my point is attaining happiness in life is a life long effort of work & self preservation.

I'd take this a step further and say Happiness is also the journey. There are so many people so focused on the destination, they don't see the beauty of the journey.

 

[Simply_Black]

I'd take this a step further and say Happiness is also the journey. There are so many people so focused on the destination, they don't see the beauty of the journey.

I agree.

 

[knightmelodic]

I think the mistake is thinking happiness is a journey or the destination. It's really neither, it's a by-product of self-examination followed by self-acceptance.

 

[Simply_Black]

I think the mistake is thinking happiness is a journey or the destination. It's really neither, it's a by-product of self-examination followed by self-acceptance.

That as well is true BUT if certain needs in your life aren't met there will never be happiness no matter how much self-examination you go through... The journey and destination toward attaining the feeling of happiness must be experience first before you can be satisfied with your situation.

 

[knightmelodic]

That as well is true BUT if certain needs in your life aren't met there will never be happiness no matter how much self-examination you go through... The journey and destination toward attaining the feeling of happiness must be experience first before you can be satisfied with your situation.

I disagree. Simply because without self-examination and self-acceptance you cannot know what true happiness is for yourself.

 

[Simply_Black]

I disagree. Simply because without self-examination and self-acceptance you cannot know what true happiness is for yourself.

But I never said that those facts aren't necessary; what I'm saying is that the effort towards achievement and self-preservation has to be done first.

Can man who has no means of support and doesn't know where his next meal is coming from he truly happy? Can a man who has no love or friendship in his life be truly happy?

 

[rNubb]

happiness is neither a journey or a destination.

happiness is an unsustainable state of being.

happiness is a lie.

Seek balance.
Seek to be worry-free.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

IMO life is about finding things that make you happy and finding ways to do them more often.

For instance, suppose you find playing guitar makes you happy. You join a garage band, but find that you end up working a job you hate for 40 hours a week.

Eventually you get fed up, quit the band and start playing top 40 at a bar once a week. Now you can put les effort into the job. Your boss notices and fires you. GREAT! now you're on unemployment and can use that extra time to promote yourself. Soon you're playing guitar 3 nights a week.

Another band asks you fill in for a studio session last minute. Now you and your guitar have a pipeline to about source of income.

You eventually need to go back to work, but when you do it's only part time. Especially since your strings, amp, and a lot of shit you would buy anyway are now tax write offs.

You are halfway to being a professional musician and far better at the thing you love to do.

 

[knightmelodic]

But I never said that those facts aren't necessary; what I'm saying is that the effort towards achievement and self-preservation has to be done first.

Can man who has no means of support and doesn't know where his next meal is coming from he truly happy? Can a man who has no love or friendship in his life be truly happy?

In answer to your two questions: depends on the man. You are shifting into philosophical territory which, as we know, has no definitive answers. But when you talk about factual sequence of events, then if said man has no knowledge of himself how can he possibly even know, let alone acquire, happiness? That is my point: a person can't know happiness until they know themselves.

But then we start to get into the "ignorance is bliss" area which is a whole nother barrel of apples. lol

 

[ShortyCumStain]

Props.

 

[D Town Redd]

One of the simplest way to become happy is.... to stop thinking about yourself and practice compassion.

Buddhists have a saying: I have yet to see a truly compassionate person become depressed

Learning to share others' joy is the gateway to real bliss

 

[D Town Redd]

Bump for bruhs who need an alternative vision

 

[jwilliam85]

happiness is neither a journey or a destination.

happiness is an unsustainable state of being.

happiness is a lie.

Seek balance.
Seek to be worry-free.

Yeah balance is the key and balance is something that is maintained not something you achieve one day.

 

[TooTrilla]

Happiness is what u make it. What u think it is. Not reading on the internet or in a book what somebody else's definition is

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

The only thing that takes away my joy

And makes me a little depressed are cold

Winter months. I had no idea how much it

Effected me untill well in my thirties


But a quick trip to somewhere hot and beachy

Really bring my normal happy levels back..

I also notice the closer to the equator the better I feel..

I think it has to do with melanin it needs sunlight and without sufficient amounts daily it literally will have a negative effect on carbon rich aka melanin rich people....

 

[D Town Redd]

The only thing that takes away my

And makes me a little depresses are cold

Winter months. I had no idea how much it

Effected me untill well in my thirties


But a quick trip to somewhere hot and beachy

Really bring my normal happy levels back..

I also notice the closer to the equator the better I feel..

I think it has to do with melanin it needs sunlight and without sufficient amounts daily it literally will have a negative effect on carbon rich aka melanin rich people....

I hear ya, bruh. Back when I lived in the States, it was too easy to get down and anxious. Now that I live in the tropics, I just catch myself smiling and chilling while working on my business.

 

[papi68]

Love this topic.

Life is a series of peaks and valleys. Don't get too comfortable when you're happy or sad. In fact, I often get very happy when fucked up things are happening around me because I know that good times are coming.

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

I hear ya, bruh. Back when I lived in the States, it was too easy to get down and anxious. Now that I live in the tropics, I just catch myself smiling and chilling while working on my business.

How dare you rub it in my face you

Summabytch...

Just jokes that's real dope bruh..

What part of the tropics are you in?

And what kind of business you run...

Dude I'd be going to the beach every other

Day

Drinking fresh coconut juice.....

When I get sundrenched and my skin is dark

And glowing I feel like a gotdam superman

Sad shit is when I'm on the beach I be the

Only melanin rich person soaking up the sun

Enriching my melanin
.it's a shame how much and many of my people run from the sun..

A gotdam shame

 

[DJCandle]

The only thing that takes away my joy

And makes me a little depressed are cold

Winter months. I had no idea how much it

Effected me untill well in my thirties


But a quick trip to somewhere hot and beachy

Really bring my normal happy levels back..

I also notice the closer to the equator the better I feel..

I think it has to do with melanin it needs sunlight and without sufficient amounts daily it literally will have a negative effect on carbon rich aka melanin rich people....

Fam, growing up in the northeast, I never realized this until recently. During the cold months, I'm more inclined to be in a rut as opposed to when the sun is out and shining.

When that sun hits, I feel energetic and vibrant, ready to tackle the world. When it's cold and dreary though is just "eh."

Crazy

 

[D Town Redd]

How dare you rub it in my face you

Summabytch...

Just jokes that's real dope bruh..

What part of the tropics are you in?

And what kind of business you run...

Dude I'd be going to the beach every other

Day

Drinking fresh coconut juice.....

When I get sundrenched and my skin is dark

And glowing I feel like a gotdam superman

Sad shit is when I'm on the beach I be the

Only melanin rich person soaking up the sun

Enriching my melanin
.it's a shame how much and many of my people run from the sun..

A gotdam shame

I'm in Southeast Asia

I've been to Thailand, Macau, Hong Kong, Malaysia, Singapore, and the Philippines. I'm currently in the Philippines.

I've always had a tough time with COLD climates - my skin gets ashy quickly

In the tropics, my skin is nice and hydrated plus the VITAMIN D sure boosts mood and CLARITY

 

[Mask]

I think the mistake is thinking happiness is a journey or the destination. It's really neither, it's a by-product of self-examination followed by self-acceptance.

Yup
actually I'll like to say it really on you/me/him/her to understand this thing

 

[papi68]

I'm in Southeast Asia

I've been to Thailand, Macau, Hong Kong, Malaysia, Singapore, and the Philippines. I'm currently in the Philippines.

I've always had a tough time with COLD climates - my skin gets ashy quickly

In the tropics, my skin is nice and hydrated plus the VITAMIN D sure boosts mood and CLARITY

D, thank you. I tell anyone that will listen that I'm not going to retire in the US. I can't wait until my son goes to college because I plan on moving shortly thereafter. Won't need as much income. Should still have my law practice but will only come in one week per month. Buy a house cash. What else is needed? Caribbean or Mediterranean but I'm pretty sure it will be in the Caribbean. My wife wants to be in a US territory. Kinda makes sense, kinda doesn't make sense. I want to be away.

I don't want to live and die only knowing one at tomlook at things. Life is about adapting.

 

[BrownTurd]

Happiness is all "perspective". Just like in the science world where "Time" is relative, "Perspective" is just like "Time" in which it is only relative to the person experiencing it.

People who say money can't buy happiness are wrong and they have a messed up or warped "Perspective". Many of us would say "Man if I ever won or had $100 million I would quit my job and never work again". But then you will have someone who had millions in the bank will say "Man I wish I had something to do"

The only thing that has changed in those scenarios is a persons "Perspective" If you are starving without shelter any food or roof over your head with running water would seem like a blessing. But for many our prospective would change soon and we would say "I am tired of eating this food"

This is why I say happiness is all about perspective. If you have food and shelter with clean water then life is not as bad as you perceive.

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

I'm in Southeast Asia

I've been to Thailand, Macau, Hong Kong, Malaysia, Singapore, and the Philippines. I'm currently in the Philippines.

I've always had a tough time with COLD climates - my skin gets ashy quickly

In the tropics, my skin is nice and hydrated plus the VITAMIN D sure boosts mood and CLARITY

Nice I plan on spending a good month touring South asia

You are right by the equator...

Dope

I wanted to do some traveling this year but got hit with some tax penalties set a brother back...

I'd figure in two years I'd be doing the south Asia thing

Are you a bruh? If so how's life out there for us?

I've heard different perspectives most are good tho

 

[4 Dimensional]

None of this shit really matters in the ultimate end. most people ain't dying with a smile of there face. Likely suffering with some illness or random body function failure that causes them to die abruptly and painfully. Everyone I know that passed away was suffering a certain way. Or people that suffers constantly in life to no fault of theirs. So in this life, happiness is only temporary and some state of mind that helps give purpose to ourselves. We create all sorts of realities to help us cope with life. We build our own bubbles of delusions to help feed this state of mind we called happiness. And for what reason? Just to get through and cope with life as our current physical state of being allow us to?

Fuck happiness. Shit doesn't matter in the end. It's extreme. Not even really that positive. Suppose to make people feel good. It annoys me because happiness is a front most of the time. people just go around fronting on their happiness. It's a mask because that's what people do to hide certain truths. Happiness doesn't mean positive. I can be a murderous villain and be totally happy with it. What is positive anyway? Perspective. Who would tell me differently? But I ain't going to be happy starving or suffering in life because that's what my life was meant to be. Most of use are lucky to even be able to enter that state of mind and make it a positive vibe. The humanoid needs theatrics, fantasies, delusions,
and lies, to reach this temporary state of mind. Very few can be happy knowing the truths of this life and world.

by they way. Great responses from y'all. I'm just bullshittin. Don't what y'all to think I'm a depressed maniac sociopath. I'm very comfortable where I'm at. But I do see the world, life and truth in a very pessimistic way. Hence way it's lonely world at times. I don't tell this to my wife or daughter, by the way. I'm truthful, but not like this. Lol. I do realize with the humanoid, you have to play on some of their delusion. The truth isn't meant for everyone to handle or embrace. Some can't handle it. I even have a problem handling certain truths.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Fam, growing up in the northeast, I never realized this until recently. During the cold months, I'm more inclined to be in a rut as opposed to when the sun is out and shining.

When that sun hits, I feel energetic and vibrant, ready to tackle the world. When it's cold and dreary though is just "eh."

Crazy

We need that vitamin D. Long winters from black folk can cause us to mentally and physically deteriorate.

I love the cold though. Not prolong periods of it, but I do like it.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Love this topic.

Life is a series of peaks and valleys. Don't get too comfortable when you're happy or sad. In fact, I often get very happy when fucked up things are happening around me because I know that good times are coming.

I attribute those peaks as your zen and the valleys as a destruction of truth and reality.

Every valley we go through is character building and usually comes with different perspective on the world when you reach zen again or if your able to. It's unfortunate that the valleys can be really deep for most and the peak is only short lived and hard to achieve.

 

[A to Dah K]

I hear ya, bruh. Back when I lived in the States, it was too easy to get down and anxious. Now that I live in the tropics, I just catch myself smiling and chilling while working on my business.

Where do you live?

 

[A to Dah K]

Fam, growing up in the northeast, I never realized this until recently. During the cold months, I'm more inclined to be in a rut as opposed to when the sun is out and shining.

When that sun hits, I feel energetic and vibrant, ready to tackle the world. When it's cold and dreary though is just "eh."

Crazy

Same here
I was born in jamaica tho, prob has something to do with it

 

[LennyNero1972]

A really good discussion.

 

[D Town Redd]

Nice I plan on spending a good month touring South asia

You are right by the equator...

Dope

I wanted to do some traveling this year but got hit with some tax penalties set a brother back...

I'd figure in two years I'd be doing the south Asia thing

Are you a bruh? If so how's life out there for us?

I've heard different perspectives most are good tho

Yeah, I'm a brh.
Let me tell you, many Asian women love bruhs. The secret? Go for darker skinned asians. The chinese/light skinned asians are half/half on the bruh attraction thing.

Can't complain. Love the weather and like I said, the HUMIDITY is great for my skin and my mood.

When I lived in the States, once AUTUMN hits, my skin starts acting up and seasonal mood swings can sometimes be a bitch. Thank goodness for the Holiday season but even then sometimes the low Vitamin D and low sunlight can be a problem

 

[Mello Mello]

When you don't mind the problems and obstacles you encounter in life you are truly happy.