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BGOL Parents: Do you keep your kids success private?

playahaitian

playahaitian

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Growing up I hated winning awards and stuff and my parents would never tell anyone really.
But other family and friends would constantly be bragging about their own kids.
Recently my kids have won a few awards and I'm torn
Recently after winning a school award I actually caught some parents hating not realizing it was MY kid.
These white people crazy foul talking slick lucky her teacher heard and checked them.
so I wanted to know how the fam handles things like this.
Do you talk about your kids accomplishments?
Post their stuff on facebook etc?
Or are you completely private?
 
Academic stuff I don't post cause my son is only 9 and I don't give a fuck what other people think.

I do post when he moves up in karate class, or when he gets swimming awards cause that's fun shit.

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Being the middle kid I had it fucked up. My parents never paid attention to me unless I was fucking up. When I have kids I am celebrating everything good they do. I was a talented kid, writing short stories, singing, very imaginative, but my parents never cared. I got all of this talent and am sitting on a gold mine, but never got the push. My dad was an ass like Joe Jackson, but didn't give anyone attention but my sister.

Fuck what your parents did, show your kid love or he will wish you did like you wished your parents did.
 
godofwine said:
Being the middle kid I had it fucked up. My parents never paid attention to me unless I was fucking up. When I have kids I am celebrating everything good they do. I was a talented kid, writing short stories, singing, very imaginative, but my parents never cared. I got all of this talent and am sitting on a gold mine, but never got the push. My dad was an ass like Joe Jackson, but didn't give anyone attention but my sister.

Fuck what your parents did, show your kid love or he will wish you did like you wished your parents did.
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But my issue is it also exposes them to hate.
I almost snuffed that cac for talking about my kid.
These new parents are crazy living through their kids
don't get it twisted I took her out to eat and everything pictures went to see her grandparents but no Facebook etc.
it was only family and close friends.
 
I don't. I let him know how proud I am of him but I don't go shouting it from the mountaintops.
He got accepted into Johnson and Wales and I didn't tell my mother for several days.
I want him to understand that he's expected to excel. That every little thing isn't a reason to celebrate.
 
Upgrade Dave said:
I don't. I let him know how proud I am of him but I don't go shouting it from the mountaintops.
He got accepted into Johnson and Wales and I didn't tell my mother for several days.
I want him to understand that he's expected to excel. That every little thing isn't a reason to celebrate.
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I'm more along this line. I reward my kid for good grades but I'm not going celebrate it as it's expected
 
as long as you celebrate it to a certain extent. Good grades are expected, but still you can't just look at it like, "Meh"
 
It's not about it being "your kid." Make sure the kids know you're proud but be an example of humility. Don't teach them that the opinions of others validate their accomplishments and, especially, don't live vicariously through them.
 
Upgrade Dave said:
I don't. I let him know how proud I am of him but I don't go shouting it from the mountaintops.
He got accepted into Johnson and Wales and I didn't tell my mother for several days.
I want him to understand that he's expected to excel. That every little thing isn't a reason to celebrate.
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This too. When I see families with consistent patterns of success,high expectations is one of the common denominators.
 
I have 2 collegiate daughters who are members of 5 Honor societies each. I go to every induction and take pictures and post on FB before I leave the parking lot.
 
jasonblacc said:
I'm more along this line. I reward my kid for good grades but I'm not going celebrate it as it's expected
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Chris lighty - rip - was on 50 cent reality game show and spoke to a contestant about that...she was so proud of her 3.0 and he said if his daughter came home with that she would be embarrassed let alone brag about it and put it on her resume.

I agree about celebration but again I'm talking about letting outside people know about it.

Have you or your kids ever encountered hate jealousy or envy?
 
Yes; too much personal shit is already out there nowadays; I enjoy keeping some thing close to the vest.....
 
Upgrade Dave said:
I don't. I let him know how proud I am of him but I don't go shouting it from the mountaintops.
He got accepted into Johnson and Wales and I didn't tell my mother for several days.
I want him to understand that he's expected to excel. That every little thing isn't a reason to celebrate.
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I'm co-signing. Every kid is different though.
 
I share their success and push them to keep achieving.

This is the case where they get props for doing exactly what's expected of them to do!

:yes:
 
Upgrade Dave said:
I don't. I let him know how proud I am of him but I don't go shouting it from the mountaintops.
He got accepted into Johnson and Wales and I didn't tell my mother for several days.
I want him to understand that he's expected to excel. That every little thing isn't a reason to celebrate.
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:yes: "....when you make it to the end zone act like you been there before/..."
 
All of my kids excel in different areas
so much so that I would be putting shit up all the time
I have found that people support it and do give accolades however
I have also found that some people hate that shit and not that they matter
They start to say shit like "youre always bragging on your kid" Or
"Yours is no better than mine" I do brag and am happy too because they are far beyone where my ass was at that age.

I literally have people sitting around (hating ass Family members) waiting for my girls to slip and have a random kid. I also am very careful where I expose my kids because of the levels of nonsense and hate and If someone dislikes me enough it puts them in jeopardy. Two are accomplished classical musicians one of which speaks and writes three languages fluently now working on Mandarin Chinese and has alreadytraveled around the world and only 21. One is a published as well as celebrity photographer ,videographer and web designer . Two graduating College this year and one Graduating H.S. I love to brag on them but I am selective when and where I do. They already know how I feel about their accomplishments and skills so even If I dont put them out there they know the deal.
 
TRUFICTION said:
All of my kids excel in different areas
so much so that I would be putting shit up all the time
I have found that people support it and do give accolades however
I have also found that some people hate that shit and not that they matter
They start to say shit like "youre always bragging on your kid" Or
"Yours is no better than mine" I do brag and am happy too because they are far beyone where my ass was at that age.

I literally have people sitting around (hating ass Family members) waiting for my girls to slip and have a random kid. I also am very careful where I expose my kids because of the levels of nonsense and hate and If someone dislikes me enough it puts them in jeopardy. Two are accomplished classical musicians one of which speaks and writes three languages fluently now working on Mandarin Chinese and has alreadytraveled around the world and only 21. One is a published as well as celebrity photographer ,videographer and web designer . Two graduating College this year and one Graduating H.S. I love to brag on them but I am selective when and where I do. They already know how I feel about their accomplishments and skills so even If I dont put them out there they know the deal.
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I was shocked that the jealousy was even in grade school.
 
"...if you sharing your success and not your struggle you're a fool/..." -Nip Hussle

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TRUFICTION said:
All of my kids excel in different areas
so much so that I would be putting shit up all the time
I have found that people support it and do give accolades however
I have also found that some people hate that shit and not that they matter
They start to say shit like "youre always bragging on your kid" Or
"Yours is no better than mine" I do brag and am happy too because they are far beyone where my ass was at that age.

I literally have people sitting around (hating ass Family members) waiting for my girls to slip and have a random kid. I also am very careful where I expose my kids because of the levels of nonsense and hate and If someone dislikes me enough it puts them in jeopardy. Two are accomplished classical musicians one of which speaks and writes three languages fluently now working on Mandarin Chinese and has alreadytraveled around the world and only 21. One is a published as well as celebrity photographer ,videographer and web designer . Two graduating College this year and one Graduating H.S. I love to brag on them but I am selective when and where I do. They already know how I feel about their accomplishments and skills so even If I dont put them out there they know the deal.
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Damn TRU!

You need a trophy! A HUGE ONE!



:( I ain't got no kids :(
 
Upgrade Dave said:
I don't. I let him know how proud I am of him but I don't go shouting it from the mountaintops.
He got accepted into Johnson and Wales and I didn't tell my mother for several days.
I want him to understand that he's expected to excel. That every little thing isn't a reason to celebrate.
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We are the exact. Same. Way. A few friends...Granny and papa.
 
WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff said:
We are the exact. Same. Way. A few friends...Granny and papa.
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I had a good friend of mine that got into a heated argument with his wife because she was planning a blow out celebration for their son graduating from like 5th grade or something...

He basically said he SUPPOSED to graduate!!!

she came back with every moment is precious and we are not promised tomorrow and she loves her baby and wants the world to know how proud she is of him and no one one will ever love and support him like his momma.

So the party went on..

a few years later they got divorced.
 
playahaitian said:
I had a good friend of mine that got into a heated argument with his wife because she was planning a blow out celebration for their son graduating from like 5th grade or something...

He basically said he SUPPOSED to graduate!!!

she came back with every moment is precious and we are not promised tomorrow and she loves her baby and wants the world to know how proud she is of him and no one one will ever love and support him like his momma.

So the party went on..

a few years later they got divorced.
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2 things... his wife is a nut. One. 2. This is why you have to peep who you marry from jump. And you have to be extra careful of who you just fling your sperm around too. My wife lovvvvvvvvves to celebrate any thing and everything. It's never NOT a good time to have a party to her. But she's old school so she abided by our husbands decisions.

There shouldn't be no ridiculous fuckin 5th grade fuckin graduation. For fucks sakes. One of our sons was supposed to GO to a 5th grade graduation and we said no. No to that nonsense. His friends mother called 1 of us and asked why he couldn't come. She told the woman flat out. Why are you celebrating something that's SUPPOSED to happen? Why are you celebrating something so minimal in life. That means every little thing the kid is supposed to get a pat on the back and a attaboy?

My oldest boys would look at you crazy if you were like "OMG You got into college that's great!" Because it's shit they were fuckin supposed to do. It's not hard. Hubby instilled that in them big time. If This guy can do it? you can to. No excuses.

Your friend should've had that discussion with that woman who was really celebrating HERSELF. Before they even got close to discussing marriage. That's dumb on his part. Especially if it was a woman who didn't abide by what he the husband said. But then honestly...How am i going to respect your wishes when you've shown me something in yourself that isn't respectable? Tell ya boy to improve himself and be without reproach and he'll get a woman who'll mind-*as my country ass wife would say*
 
WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff said:
2 things... his wife is a nut. One. 2. This is why you have to peep who you marry from jump. And you have to be extra careful of who you just fling your sperm around too. My wife lovvvvvvvvves to celebrate any thing and everything. It's never NOT a good time to have a party to her. But she's old school so she abided by our husbands decisions.

There shouldn't be no ridiculous fuckin 5th grade fuckin graduation. For fucks sakes. One of our sons was supposed to GO to a 5th grade graduation and we said no. No to that nonsense. His friends mother called 1 of us and asked why he couldn't come. She told the woman flat out. Why are you celebrating something that's SUPPOSED to happen? Why are you celebrating something so minimal in life. That means every little thing the kid is supposed to get a pat on the back and a attaboy?

My oldest boys would look at you crazy if you were like "OMG You got into college that's great!" Because it's shit they were fuckin supposed to do. It's not hard. Hubby instilled that in them big time. If This guy can do it? you can to. No excuses.

Your friend should've had that discussion with that woman who was really celebrating HERSELF. Before they even got close to discussing marriage. That's dumb on his part. Especially if it was a woman who didn't abide by what he the husband said. But then honestly...How am i going to respect your wishes when you've shown me something in yourself that isn't respectable? Tell ya boy to improve himself and be without reproach and he'll get a woman who'll mind-*as my country ass wife would say*
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completely agree.

I posted her exploits before...

she was also a BIG supporter of the prom in elementary school and somehow SHE also bought a matching dress for herself.

http://www.bgol.us/board/showthread.php?p=15242513#post15242513

I am generally private about those things anyway but I also feel like the MORE you do PUBLIC adulation it can have the REVERSE effect. Because some kids can take failure REALLY hard and can't differentiate a low mark on ONE test compared to failing for the year.

Also then you expose them to haters...like I mentioned earlier another parent was JEALOUS of my kid who is 5 years old!!! She damn near wanted her grades recalculated.
 

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