Would you rather die first and not have to see your friends/family pass away or be the last one standing?

[godofwine]

Would you rather die first and not have to see your friends/family pass away or be the last one standing?

Last year in August I lost my brother. He was 44, I was 43. He wasn't my actual brother but a neighbor I live next door to since I was 10 months old. I'd known him my entire life and now he's gone

Over the past here we've lost Kobe Bryant, Chadwick Boseman, @stretchwallz , Eric Jerome Dickey, Debo... and they keep coming and coming.

I log into bgol every day wondering if I'm going to see another RIP thread. I've been on this board for over 20 years and I know all of yall in some way or another.

I've been thinking about this for a minute. We all owe a death, that is not debatable. But when?

Would I rather go first so I don't have to witness the friends, the family, the Stars & Legends I grew up watching and admiring like Jerry Rice and Barry Sanders and Deion Sanders and Joe Montana and and Michael Jordan and Eddie Murphy, Babyface, Stevie Wonder...

Or would I rather be the last so I can see everyone go and I say a line from Coming to America and no one knows what the fuck I'm talkin about?

My brothers mother is 84 years old and she's lost two of her Three Sons. My brother's wife is 42 and her entire adult life was spent with my brother Ty.

I hit her up every couple weeks to ask her how she's doing, ask her how she's coping because I hadn't stayed as close to my brother as I should have. I feel bad so I'm paying my brother back I'm making sure his wife is taken care of. I took 2 cases of wine over there a couple months ago

Over the last week, Kobe Bryant's Widow said that sometimes she doesn't want to be alive. I told my sister-in-law that and she agreed and understand exactly what Vanessa Bryant is feeling.

That's a question. Would you rather go first as to not witness everyone you know die around you, or would you rather live to 110 and watch everyone you know pass away?

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My brother Ty

@stretchwallz

 

[Darkness's]

Where da booty at?

 

[godofwine]

Where da booty at?

I'll add some because of course it says BGOL, but I wasn't sure if it was appropriate, but I forgot this is BGOL

Only on BGOL can one post a thread like this and the FIRST THING out somebody's mouth is a Clevon Little-Esque. "where the booty at?"

 

[Darkness's]

I'll add some because of course it says BGOL, but I wasn't sure if it was appropriate, but I forgot this is BGOL

I was joking but this is a morbid subject that id rather not dwell on. Wheter its me dying or a loved one dying before me perish the thought.

 

[godofwine]

I was joking but this is a mod is siubject that id rather not dwell on. Wheter its me dying or a loved one dying before me perish the thought.

This thread had me crying while I wrote it. I felt like John Coffey in Green Mile. "I just had to give you a piece of myself "

 

[Darkness's]

This a morbid subject but these celebrities are dropping like flies. I dont feel bad a out it though because for the elderly ones like ciscely tyson it was just their time. I'm also 43 it makes me wonder if celebrities were dying off like this around the time I was born

 

[ORIGINAL NATION]

Stay alive

 

[tallblacknyc]

Me and 1 of my friends was talking about this a few months ago... we both was like death hits us hard we don’t like funerals.. certain people leaving us we couldn’t imagine..like our siblings and parents.. we was like we rather have everybody grow real old and we go first like in our 70/80s instead of us having to see them go.. definitely the biggest fucked up things about life losing a love 1

 

[william busa]

The sad truth of the matter is, no matter how close you are to someone, whether it's a parent or grandparent, brother or sister, aunt or uncle, cousin, friend or child, you and that person won't be attending each other's funeral.

 

[ballscout1]

I don't want to bury a child or grandchild so I would say I should go before them.

 

[4 Dimensional]

I watched my grandmother bury a child, husband, and sister within 6 months.

In total, she has lost two husbands, two children, 4 brothers, 1 sister, and both parents.

To lose a loved one is a painful experience, but it is what it is.

To live a long life, also means to watch people you love die. And many times, you’re literally watching them die.

That being said, I’d like to checkout before everyone else.

 

[Mo-Better]

I watched my grandmother bury a child, husband, and sister within 6 months.

In total, she has lost two husbands, two children, 4 brothers, 1 sister, and both parents.

To lose a loved one is a painful experience, but it is what it is.

To live a long life, also means to watch people you love die. And many times, you’re literally watching them die.

That being said, I’d like to checkout before everyone else.

Condolences man much respect.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Condolences man much respect.

Thanks. The curse of having a huge family is watching them pass.

Crazy as it seems, I’m very comfortable talking about death and even facing my own mortality. Death is the ONLY thing that I can think of that is an undisputed ultimate truth and that brings be some type of solace.

 

[PJN]

In my younger days, you couldn't tell me shit to get me concerned about death now in my 40s, I've been thinking about it like the OP. Out of 7 children, it's now left with the last 2, my mother and her younger brother, I can see how depressed she is though she does her best to hide it. I don't want the same for me but I also want to live long enough to see all my kids grow up to be successful, happy and hopefully with happy family, you know, the utopian dream.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Me and 1 of my friends was talking about this a few months ago... we both was like death hits us hard we don’t like funerals.. certain people leaving us we couldn’t imagine..like our siblings and parents.. we was like we rather have everybody grow real old and we go first like in our 70/80s instead of us having to see them go.. definitely the biggest fucked up things about life losing a love 1

I can you’re really close with your family. You don’t seem like the type of person to leave anything on the table when it comes to family. All you can do is love them.

 

[Mo-Better]

Thanks. The curse of having a huge family is watching them pass.

Crazy as it seems, I’m very comfortable talking about death and even facing my own mortality. Death is the ONLY thing that I can think of that is an undisputed ultimate truth and that brings be some type of solace.

Yeah but its even worse for those with small families. Either way we look at it it's not a good time. But I wish I was so cursed.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Yeah but its even worse for those with small families. Either way we look at it it's not a good time. But I wish I was so cursed.

It’s definitely perspective.

When my uncle passed back in 1999, that was my first real hurt from death. After that, I began to separate myself from people because I didn’t want to get close to anyone. I was cool with living a lonely life (I still am), but I have a wife and daughter to think about.

 

[Mo-Better]

It’s definitely perspective.

When my uncle passed back in 1999, that was my first real hurt from death. After that, I began to separate myself from people because I didn’t want to get close to anyone. I was cool with living a lonely life (I still am), but I have a wife and daughter to think about.

I too am considered a loner. I tell people when you grow up without siblings it makes you independent. If there's people around great. No one around that's also good. There seems to be some similar parallels. You probably adjust to and move on from regrettable situations faster than most people.

 

[Drayonis]

What in the fuck kind of 'Highlander' shit question is this @godofwine ?

 

[peterlongshort]

I've had this convo with my wife. If all goes according to plan, best case scenario is I go first. It is what it is. The kids will really like their new stepdad and spending all of the life insurance money and property I leave behind. Cause I ain't burring no kids and I ain't burying my wife.

 

[blackpepper]

I've had some centurions in my family, so I've seen both sides of this. All things considered I'd like to live as long as I can.

 

[peterlongshort]

I've had some centurions in my family, so I've seen both sides of this. All things considered I'd like to live as long as I can.

I had a convo with Jesus, he said I would live to see the Cowboys win another Superbowl. I'm still here.

 

[godofwine]

What in the fuck kind of 'Highlander' shit question is this @godofwine ?

It's been on my mind a lot. Ever since I lost my brother, man...

I know wanting to die first so you don't go through losing everyone else in front of you is selfish because those people have to watch you die.

Those people with large families...fuck.

My grandmother lived to be a hundred two years old, but she had dementia. And one of her moments of lucidity she asked my mother, "Why am I still here? Does God hate me? I don't want to be here anymore"

Like 4 Dimensional, I am a loner, except I don't have a wife and kids to consider, but thinking of a life where I can mimic the scene from Coming To America with the barbershop and nobody get it...fuck "You must be outta your goddamn mind..."

 

[xxironxx]

This some real ass shit here fam. In a perfect world me and my loved 1s all go out together somehow.

 

[Mr. ISM]

I WANNA LIVE FOREVER!
no seriously...

 

[rrebelrrabbi]

To me it’s all life and I’d much rather go than have to lose my loved ones, however, I do want to see the end of one piece......

 

[Coldchi]

all i know.........................is that there better be more of this hoe.....
nigga stop playin......

 

[roots69]

godofwine... Bruh, thats a tough question???

 

[godofwine]

all i know.........................is that there better be more of this hoe.....
nigga stop playin......

Bro, that ass is phenomenal. I wish I could do a CSI, but I get a whole bunch of pictures offline to add to posts or threads or tweets and I don't remember where I get them all from

 

[4 Dimensional]

It's been on my mind a lot. Ever since I lost my brother, man...

I know wanting to die first so you don't go through losing everyone else in front of you is selfish because those people have to watch you die.

Those people with large families...fuck.

My grandmother lived to be a hundred two years old, but she had dementia. And one of her moments of lucidity she asked my mother, "Why am I still here? Does God hate me? I don't want to be here anymore"

Like 4 Dimensional, I am a loner, except I don't have a wife and kids to consider, but thinking of a life where I can mimic the scene from Coming To America with the barbershop and nobody get it...fuck "You must be outta your goddamn mind..."

We are not allowed to live without suffering. “It’s our lot in life.” -C3PO

We are a country that worships a God that gave his son up to be tortured and killed all because he was dissatisfied with his own creations.

To suffer is to live. We were never given the choice not to because society has sold us that happiness can be obtained on a regular basis and be within our control. When truthfully, we have no control over any of this stuff.

My brother and I was with my father when he was dying, and I remember my brother saying “this isn’t fair.” And I remember thinking, “Fair? What world is he living in to think that death was suppose fair?”

 

[Drayonis]

It's been on my mind a lot. Ever since I lost my brother, man...

I know wanting to die first so you don't go through losing everyone else in front of you is selfish because those people have to watch you die.

Those people with large families...fuck.

My grandmother lived to be a hundred two years old, but she had dementia. And one of her moments of lucidity she asked my mother, "Why am I still here? Does God hate me? I don't want to be here anymore"

Like 4 Dimensional, I am a loner, except I don't have a wife and kids to consider, but thinking of a life where I can mimic the scene from Coming To America with the barbershop and nobody get it...fuck "You must be outta your goddamn mind..."

All jokes aside I feel you.

Bruh. Since my mom passed I've thought about mortality every damn day. And it's gotten worse since Covid started. People dying left and right. On my social media I've seen people in ICU's and dying and losing family. You start to wonder when it will be your turn.

 

[TooTrilla]

Id like to outlive everyone except my kids....Im cool with that.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

I want to be the last one standing.

I'm at an age now where it's very tempting to get caught up on nostalgia. To believe that the past was some sort of golden age and that now we've somehow lost our way. I need to where people pretend that the music, tv, sports, food, and public decency was so much better than it is now.

I call bullshit!

The past only seems golden because we associate it with turning points in our lives. the song that played at your high school dance, your favorite Saturday morning cartoon a sports hero that you posted all over your bedroom wall.

Strip off the nostalgia and a lot of that stuff was pretty trash. most of our heroes turned out to be terrible people. Even worse, some of them turned out to be normal human beings.

Losing family is incredibly painful, but the more it happens, the more skilled you get at dealing with it and moving forward.

just remember that every time somebody lays a casket in the ground there's always space for one more. It's just a matter of whether or not you want to lay in the box. I don't!

 

[tpotda]

Idk about that, I'm 36 yrs old and really think the 2000s was the best decade

I want to be the last one standing.

I'm at an age now where it's very tempting to get caught up on nostalgia. To believe that the past was some sort of golden age and that now we've somehow lost our way. I need to where people pretend that the music, tv, sports, food, and public decency was so much better than it is now.

I call bullshit!

The past only seems golden because we associate it with turning points in our lives. the song that played at your high school dance, your favorite Saturday morning cartoon a sports hero that you posted all over your bedroom wall.

Strip off the nostalgia and a lot of that stuff was pretty trash. most of our heroes turned out to be terrible people. Even worse, some of them turned out to be normal human beings.

Losing family is incredibly painful, but the more it happens, the more skilled you get at dealing with it and moving forward.

just remember that every time somebody lays a casket in the ground there's always space for one more. It's just a matter of whether or not you want to lay in the box. I don't!

 

[mrdiego2020]

I WANNA LIVE FOREVER!
no seriously...

me too