What Would You Do?marriage Advice

[PIPN8EZ]

This Is A ? For The Married Cats Or Divorced Folks.if Your Wife Wanted Out Of Your Marriage Only After A Year (lived Together 9yrs)would You Divorce Her?i Think Its Jus Dumb To Part After Being Married For Only A Year.my Homeboy's Wife Bought This Guy From Facebook Some Gifts.the Guy Is In Fl.they Live In Ga.he Snapped She Asked Out.what Would Yall Do?ohh Yeah He Found Out About The Gifts By Her Leaving Up Her Instant Messaging Window.though The Convo States Thet Never Met In Person.

 

[African Herbsman]

Tell "your boy" to get out a.s.a.p. You didn't have to post this question, you already know the answer.

 

[AgentCreed]

file for divorce 1st, get proof she bought the gifts and move all his money to offshore accounts and move to sell the house if its in his name right now.

or go to mexico right quick and get a quickie divorce.

 

[Majik]

mofos today wanna get divorced at the drop of a dime. they need to at least thy n find what the problem is and work it out. thats the big test of marrige seeing how well ppl work through fucked up situations. imo try to work it out if she not feelin that then divorce that hoe.

 

[thetruth]

buying gifts These chicks are crazy My Homeboy I hope its not YOU cuz if it is

 

[rockchild216]

tell that stunt i wear a size 12....and i accept checks and visa...biiiaaaaatttttcchhh!!!!!!!

 

[TRUFICTION]

THAT SHIT IS A NOVELTY RIGHT NOW
AS SOON AS HER AND DUDE HOOK UP FOR REAL
IT WILL BE OVER
BILLS, KIDS, AND LIFE WILL FUCK UP THE FANTASY.

THEN SHE WILL BE RIGHT BACK AT SQUARE ONE LIKE WITH HER HUSBAND.
SHE WILL GET BOARED AND SHE WILL DO IT AGAIN.
THE REAL QUESTION IS WILL SHE DO IT TO HUBBY AGAIN ,
OR WILL SHE DO IT TO THE NEW GUY FOR THE FIRST TIME ?

LIGHTNING WOULD NOT STRIKE TWICE AT MY HOUSE.

I CAN ALMOST BE OK WITH A CHICK GOING OUT
AND GETTIN HIT ON OCCASION
THE SAME AS MEN GO OUT AND GET A LIL ASS.

BUT I CANT RESPECT PEOPLE THAT FALL IN LOVE OUTSIDE THE MARRIAGE
AND I ABSOLUTLY WILL NOT TOLERATE A WOMAN TAKING MONEY FROM MY SHIT TO GIVE TO ANOTHER CAT
TO ME THATS THE ULTIMATE DISRESPECT.

GOTTA GO .......GOTTA GO !

PLUS, I DONT WANT ANY WOMAN THAT DOESNT WANT ME.......

 

[thetruth]

tell that stunt i wear a size 12....and i accept checks and visa...biiiaaaaatttttcchhh!!!!!!!

YOOOOOO YALL NIGGAS IS CRAZY ​

 

[Drayonis]

This Is A ? For The Married Cats Or Divorced Folks.if Your Wife Wanted Out Of Your Marriage Only After A Year (lived Together 9yrs)would You Divorce Her?i Think Its Jus Dumb To Part After Being Married For Only A Year.my Homeboy's Wife Bought This Guy From Facebook Some Gifts.the Guy Is In Fl.they Live In Ga.he Snapped She Asked Out.what Would Yall Do?ohh Yeah He Found Out About The Gifts By Her Leaving Up Her Instant Messaging Window.though The Convo States Thet Never Met In Person.

I've been through a similar situation with my divorce. My wife wanted the divorce and I really didn't. The best thing you can is let the broad bounce. But keep records of everything she does. Don't leave your home to her or anything. Women are really silly nowadays when they get married. They marry thinking it's all about "romance novels" they read and marriages they see on television. When the reality is that marriage is hard. Women file for divorce in 70% of marriages. What you can tell ya boy to do is to go to counseling with her first. If she refuses then just let her go. But don't give her shit.

I'm an advocate for people trying everything before they decide to bounce. Tell her leave with what she came with. That's what I did. I'm still in my house and I own everything I put my money into.

 

[Zero]

THAT SHIT IS A NOVELTY RIGHT NOW
AS SOON AS HER AND DUDE HOOK UP FOR REAL
IT WILL BE OVER
BILLS, KIDS, AND LIFE WILL FUCK UP THE FANTASY.

THEN SHE WILL BE RIGHT BACK AT SQUARE ONE LIKE WITH HER HUSBAND.
SHE WILL GET BOARED AND SHE WILL DO IT AGAIN.
THE REAL QUESTION IS WILL SHE DO IT TO HUBBY AGAIN ,
OR WILL SHE DO IT TO THE NEW GUY FOR THE FIRST TIME ?

LIGHTNING WOULD NOT STRIKE TWICE AT MY HOUSE.

I CAN ALMOST BE OK WITH A CHICK GOING OUT
AND GETTIN HIT ON OCCASION
THE SAME AS MEN GO OUT AND GET A LIL ASS.

BUT I CANT RESPECT PEOPLE THAT FALL IN LOVE OUTSIDE THE MARRIAGE
AND I ABSOLUTLY WILL NOT TOLERATE A WOMAN TAKING MONEY FROM MY SHIT TO GIVE TO ANOTHER CAT
TO ME THATS THE ULTIMATE DISRESPECT.

GOTTA GO .......GOTTA GO !

PLUS, I DONT WANT ANY WOMAN THAT DOESNT WANT ME.......

Sad part is, she probably REALLY had never met the dude in person. I've been hearing more and more stories like that lately about folks fucking up their marriages over online bullshit (kinda retarded and crazy if you ask me). MySpace, BlackPlanet and FaceBook have fucked up MANY a marriage.

 

[outlaw]

Real gifts or facebook gifts?


For cats that arent familiar with facebook and its gifts


Facebook is like a more classier myspace
Theres less random hollering as myspace but of course it happens
(give any e-pimp an inbox and they dont know how to act)


A facebook gift is like a stupid e-gift, almost all of them imply something, you can add a note attached to it or not, you can make it a private gift or make it public for everyone to see
They can be as corny as this

or as sexy as this

Facebook gives you 1 free gift, everything after that you must pay $1 for
You said gifts (plural) so regardless of what gifts they were, either way she spending money on some distant fella, I wouldn't be too comfortable with that.

But it is somewhat pointless to throw away 10years over some facebook bullshit

 

[Steelwill2006]

 

[thirst245]

bought a guy she never met gifts???????? yeah right

that shit was over before it begun

cosign

 

[Zero]

I've been through a similar situation with my divorce. My wife wanted the divorce and I really didn't. The best thing you can is let the broad bounce. But keep records of everything she does. Don't leave your home to her or anything. Women are really silly nowadays when they get married. They marry thinking it's all about "romance novels" they read and marriages they see on television. When the reality is that marriage is hard. Women file for divorce in 70% of marriages. What you can tell ya boy to do is to go to counseling with her first. If she refuses then just let her go. But don't give her shit.

I'm an advocate for people trying everything before they decide to bounce. Tell her leave with what she came with. That's what I did. I'm still in my house and I own everything I put my money into.

I was talking to my homeboy about some shit like this. It's easy as fuck to have a good time with a married person when you are not the one that has to deal with paying bills, taking care of kids and whatnot. All you got to do is fuck and have a good time. Same goes for the cheating spouse, the dude at home who is working 60 hours a week to keep a roof over some female's head and trying to budget time between the shorties and the wife can NEVER compete with the dude who buys a dinner once a month, says the right shit (LIES) and lays pipe occasionally if a females head is fucked up and her priorities are wrong. Too much of married life is "all work and no play" so when a cat comes along that is "all play and no work" you got to have a female that ain't all fucked in the head to understand the difference. Online shit is even EASIER. Hell, you can just lie about everything online and STILL get over, even if you fly out and meet the broad once in a blue moon, how hard would it be to keep up some bullshit lie you told on MySpace or IM?

 

[pookie]

I ABSOLUTLY WILL NOT TOLERATE A WOMAN TAKING MONEY FROM MY SHIT TO GIVE TO ANOTHER CAT
TO ME THATS THE ULTIMATE DISRESPECT.

GOTTA GO .......GOTTA GO !

PLUS, I DONT WANT ANY WOMAN THAT DOESNT WANT ME.......

Co-sign to the fullest on these 2 comments. Imagine seeing some dude walking around in something YOUR WIFE has spent FAMILY MONEY on that shhit would be fucked up. If you gotta convince a woman to stay with you when she doesn't wanna then the marriage is never gonna be the same because you're never really gonna trust her after that and she's gonna feel as if she is above you because in her eyes she gonna say that "you begged her to stay"

 

[Zero]

Co-sign to the fullest on these 2 comments. Imagine seeing some dude walking around in something YOUR WIFE has spent FAMILY MONEY on that shhit would be fucked up. If you gotta convince a woman to stay with you when she doesn't wanna then the marriage is never gonna be the same because you're never really gonna trust her after that and she's gonna feel as if she is above you because in her eyes she gonna say that "you begged her to stay"

I know a cat that was having financial problems and could not figure out where his cash was going and found out he had been paying another dude's credit cards every month. Old girl was pulling cash out and buying money orders to pay this dude's bills. Something is WRONG AS HELL with your lady if she is taking money from the dude that supports HER to support a dude that can't support HIMSELF.

 

[Zero]

ONLINE BANKING IS A MUST!!!!!

Fuck monthly statements, CHECK YOUR SHIT DAILY and ask questions. I trust my lady and STILL do that shit because I'm not trying to come up short on my mortgage because she fucked up tracking expenses.

 

[Drayonis]

I was talking to my homeboy about some shit like this. It's easy as fuck to have a good time with a married person when you are not the one that has to deal with paying bills, taking care of kids and whatnot. All you got to do is fuck and have a good time. Same goes for the cheating spouse, the dude at home who is working 60 hours a week to keep a roof over some female's head and trying to budget time between the shorties and the wife can NEVER compete with the dude who buys a dinner once a month, says the right shit (LIES) and lays pipe occasionally if a females head is fucked up and her priorities are wrong. Too much of married life is "all work and no play" so when a cat comes along that is "all play and no work" you got to have a female that ain't all fucked in the head to understand the difference. Online shit is even EASIER. Hell, you can just lie about everything online and STILL get over, even if you fly out and meet the broad once in a blue moon, how hard would it be to keep up some bullshit lie you told on MySpace or IM?

Word. It's sad but true. Too many women are living in "the land of make believe". The first cat my ex ran into when we were separated started spitting game to her. He was making 6 figures drove a Mercedes and lived in the gym. She was all sweating this nicca until 2 weeks after she started dating him she found out he was married and had kids he didn't want to tell her about. Second nigga did the same thing....once she got out there she found out how niggas were really rolling.

Cats will down your husband based on what the wife tells them. They will try to be everything the husband isn't all based on what she tells him Once he gets the draws then the real truth starts to come out....

 

[pookie]

Online shit is even EASIER. Hell, you can just lie about everything online and STILL get over, even if you fly out and meet the broad once in a blue moon, how hard would it be to keep up some bullshit lie you told on MySpace or IM?

Co-sign. WHat i don't understand is you got women on yahoo messenger, myspace, facebook, etc...that you know are getting sweated heavily by niggas in their area constantly but will believe some bullshit some cat off these sites says and will travel miles and miles just to meet them, let them come from another state and stay at their house and even pay for them to come and see them. I used to think they were just bullshitting when i'd see them "type" stuff like that but when you hear them saying it on the phone you're like "she fine as hell but something gotta be wrong with her for her to be wanting to do all this"

Anybody ever have a chick on webcam getting naked and all and then see her man walk in i've seen that happen so many times its crazy and then to make it worse the woman will be back on later talking about how she had to argue or "fight" about what happened

 

[African Herbsman]

I know a cat that was having financial problems and could not figure out where his cash was going and found out he had been paying another dude's credit cards every month. Old girl was pulling cash out and buying money orders to pay this dude's bills. Something is WRONG AS HELL with your lady if she is taking money from the dude that supports HER to support a dude that can't support HIMSELF.

is she still breathing?

 

[thetruth]

I know a cat that was having financial problems and could not figure out where his cash was going and found out he had been paying another dude's credit cards every month. Old girl was pulling cash out and buying money orders to pay this dude's bills. Something is WRONG AS HELL with your lady if she is taking money from the dude that supports HER to support a dude that can't support HIMSELF.

that shit is fucking crazy. that is an ass whoopin point blank

 

[Ming Fei Hong]

 

[Zero]

is she still breathing?

You know what, dude called me like RIGHT when he found out. He hadn't even stepped to her yet and I advised him to just bounce and not do shit to her. Shit is a loose loose anyway and a bitch like that will have NO problem putting her man in jail, even if she is fucking over her own kids in the process. Dude had to think about his seeds and his life, so I told him not to crush her ass and he didn't. He actually was pretty smooth because he let her just leave and move in with the dude (he looked like a gump for a while, but he was the BIG winner). After I think 12 months, he was able to go to court and have her status in the house declared abandonment which meant he didn't have to fight for shit, she forfeited ALL of it. He got the kids, the house and everything she left there that he wanted (he tossed the rest). Now he has a 24 year old little freak on the side that he keeps at arms length and he's raising his seeds in peace. She won the battle, but lost the war BIG TIME.

 

[Zero]

You know I'm using this shit, right?

 

[Ming Fei Hong]

You know I'm using this shit, right?

LOL!!!

 

[bromack1]

I've been through a similar situation with my divorce. My wife wanted the divorce and I really didn't. The best thing you can is let the broad bounce. But keep records of everything she does. Don't leave your home to her or anything. Women are really silly nowadays when they get married. They marry thinking it's all about "romance novels" they read and marriages they see on television. When the reality is that marriage is hard. Women file for divorce in 70% of marriages. What you can tell ya boy to do is to go to counseling with her first. If she refuses then just let her go. But don't give her shit.

I'm an advocate for people trying everything before they decide to bounce. Tell her leave with what she came with. That's what I did. I'm still in my house and I own everything I put my money into.

I'm reading the responses to this query.... I agree with most... I've been married and divorced.. I can agree with your comments...

First concern to the "poster".... you "lived" together for 9 years and later married...

Not a good sign....most "traditional" men usually operate within a more narrow time frame...You should "personally" have an idea about marriage after about 2 years... anything beyond that, becomes something "she" wants and she knows how to make this happen because she knows all your "hot" buttons....As a result of your extended "shacking" up time, anything you do is a matter of trying to keep the peace.

What I'm saying is... this is not what you or the other guy wanted... Women study men and how they operate. The longer she stays with you, the more she knows about your conscious and especially "unconscious" tendencies.

Once a woman gets that type of control over you and the relationship, then it becomes "her" relationship and less about something you both created.. Next she has a decision to make... either she can make the relationship better, or she can destroy it....

As it applies to her, it should also apply to you or your friend..my conclusion is... divorce the bitch cause she's now another "tainted" manipulating cold hearted woman...Let her become some other man's problem ...because what she did to you or your friend.... she will easily do to someone else... and that dude might be a lot more difficult or violent than you are (women love to "fix" men... even the dangerous ones)....

 

[Rydawg 3000]

Divorce her azz!!!!

 

[Zero]

... divorce the bitch cause she's now another "tainted" manipulating cold hearted woman...Let her become some other man's problem ...because what she did to you or your friend.... she will easily do to someone else... and that dude might be a lot more difficult or violent than you are (women love to "fix" men... even the dangerous ones)....

Same thing I told my boy when he was contemplating fucking his wife up. No need to fuck your own situation up over her and really not even a need to worry if "karma" will handle her. A woman like that ALWAYS (AND I DO MEAN ALWAYS) produces her own karma and the shit is ALWAYS bad. You may not get the chance to bear witness, but it ALWAYS HAPPENS, 99.99999% of the time, that a female that behaves like the ones in this post gets what is coming to her (subconsciously, that's what she wanted all along). She'll KEEP fucking up OVER AND OVER until she finds the misery she's looking for if she has to, even if it takes 50 men to do so. Broads that consitantly fuck up good things are the WORST kind of damaged goods because they spend their lives trying to punish themselves for God knows what and won't be happy until they feel they have been suitably punished. That's why they don't settle down until it's the jobless ex-con that beats their ass comes along, then they can't leave his ass alone.

JUST BE SURE SHE DOESN'T TAKE YOUR KIDS ALONG ON THE JOURNEY!!!!

 

[idoit4theluv]

I CAN ALMOST BE OK WITH A CHICK GOING OUT
AND GETTIN HIT ON OCCASION
THE SAME AS MEN GO OUT AND GET A LIL ASS.

! That's a new one. I thought only white boy's were into there wives getting fucked by other men! Whew. I applaud you for being different brotha. I'm sure there are plenty of dudes on here willing to accommodate you.

To the dude that posted this: That chick is bugging. She's creating relationships online and shit so obviously there is a void. I didn't know what you meant at first when u said "buying him gifts". I'm too much of a tyrant for that shit though. I would pack her bags for her and send her on her way with cab fare. Leave that truck and car I pay for right in the garage and lemme get those rocks up off your fingers, neck, wrist, and ears as well.

 

[Ming Fei Hong]

How to handle this situation? Lesson starts at 2:20

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLtvexUOhAM
[FLASH]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLtvexUOhAM[/FLASH]

 

[bromack1]

Same thing I told my boy when he was contemplating fucking his wife up. No need to fuck your own situation up over her and really not even a need to worry if "karma" will handle her. A woman like that ALWAYS (AND I DO MEAN ALWAYS) produces her own karma and the shit is ALWAYS bad. You may not get the chance to bear witness, but it ALWAYS HAPPENS, 99.99999% of the time, that a female that behaves like the ones in this post gets what is coming to her (subconsciously, that's what she wanted all along). She'll KEEP fucking up OVER AND OVER until she finds the misery she's looking for if she has to, even if it takes 50 men to do so. Broads that consitantly fuck up good things are the WORST kind of damaged goods because they spend their lives trying to punish themselves for God knows what and won't be happy until they feel they have been suitably punished. That's why they don't settle down until it's the jobless ex-con that beats their ass comes along, then they can't leave his ass alone.

JUST BE SURE SHE DOESN'T TAKE YOUR KIDS ALONG ON THE JOURNEY!!!!

Yep... its about Karma... people who live messed up lives, will keep on doing it .... it's like the the old saying goes.... "till they meet they're match"...

Thats why I stay away from women whom I have to make threats of violence just to get them to treat me with respect...I know, somewhere down the line... I'm probably gonna beat the "sh#@t" out of em...

The best move any man in this situation can do is... protect his kids and other resources from going down the drain with that woman..

 

[BlackSmurf]

Let me help the folk who ain't fucked up and married one of these hos yet... DON'T GET MARRIED EVER!!! it will end eventually and when it does you will lose... money and sanity... No matter how good a human (male or female) seems to be, they will cheat eventually... You may not ever know about it.

99% of people spend from 13 all the way to 20 something living the ho and player life then they think they can marry and suddenly all their player/ho desires will disappear... So they fight it for a year or two then they start resenting their husband or wife and that is when tyron at work lends your wife a shoulder to cry on and a dick to sit on.

DON'T worry about why people cheat just be ready to deal with it and avoid being damaged or even destroyed by it.

 

[the_monsterous_monster]

Let me help the folk who ain't fucked up and married one of these hos yet... DON'T GET MARRIED EVER!!! it will end eventually and when it does you will lose... money and sanity... No matter how good a human (male or female) seems to be, they will cheat eventually... You may not ever know about it.

99% of people spend from 13 all the way to 20 something living the ho and player life then they think they can marry and suddenly all their player/ho desires will disappear... So they fight it for a year or two then they start resenting their husband or wife and that is when tyron at work lends your wife a shoulder to cry on and a dick to sit on.

DON'T worry about why people cheat just be ready to deal with it and avoid being damaged or even destroyed by it.

word....I don't think marriage is natural human nature....we're animals, and a large percentage of animals don't mate for life....so why do we fool ourselves and get tied up in the fantasy of marriage....oh yeah, I know why....marriage is big business, as is divorce....alot of revenue is created by both....even going back to ancient times, dowry was paid in order to marry another man's daughter....so shit has always been business....so if you're foolish enough to fall for the trap and get married, get your dumb ass a pre-nup...

 

[bromack1]

DON'T GET MARRIED EVER!!! it will end eventually and when it does you will lose... money and sanity... No matter how good a human (male or female) seems to be, they will cheat eventually... You may not ever know about it.


DON'T worry about why people cheat just be ready to deal with it and avoid being damaged or even destroyed by it.

While we agree that a bad marriage can do a lot of harm.... I disagree with you on the notion of never getting married...I know several people who have marriages and they work without all the flack of mistrust. And they are black couples too...

But I do agree with you 100% on your point about "don't worry" about why people cheat....

 

[bromack1]

word....I don't think marriage is natural human nature....we're animals, and a large percentage of animals don't mate for life....so why do we fool ourselves and get tied up in the fantasy of marriage....oh yeah, I know why....marriage is big business, as is divorce....alot of revenue is created by both....even going back to ancient times, dowry was paid in order to marry another man's daughter....so shit has always been business....so if you're foolish enough to fall for the trap and get married, get your dumb ass a pre-nup...

I think we agree about somethings but I have to disagree with you on humans behaving like animal's

What separates man from animal is his ability to "think." He can reason to the extent that he knows his actions breed certain consequences.

If people don't have good "thinking" abilities... of course they will behave like animals..

So it makes sense to only "associate" with those who have the ability to think and reason as opposed to just simply acting like immature, big babies...or as you say.... an animal...