Is she bitter or are y'all fuck niggas?

[freshnclean]

One of my observations is that women like that seldom choose the man with crib, car, and decent job....They will make up excuses to not get with a man who has those resources, and say things like "he is corny, lame, has no swag, etc."

In the same breath, when Pookie walks in the room you already know.

It's like those women are projecting their inability to trust men into it unknowingly. As a result, they choose a man that has the least amount of resources, because it enables them to reinforce their lack of trusting men, and also allows them to control the power dynamic.

Another reason they dont get with men who are going places in life is because they know this man will eventually develop options 10 times better than her, as long as he stays consistent and ambitious with his goals, thus another reason to choose the bum with no ambition.

 

[True Real Info]

Wow you hit on 2 of my personal beliefs on this matter.

I think this quote sums up the 1st part
You mentioned:

“Basically you have testosterone filled boys, raised and socialized by women. That leaves you with female emotion(learned) and male testosterone aggression (biological) with no controlled release overseen by father figure.”



The 2nd part about Mothers trying to train or chase away the father they see in the young men. My man Frank B Kermit speaks on this saying how mothers use a lot of terms to disparage the father in their sons eyes. So much so, these terms have become common or rote sayings such as don’t be mannish; stop smelling yourself and the worse she can use…you remind me of your father or stop trying to act like your father.

What i see are mothers trying to get their needs (for a male presence) from their son. This cuts across socioeconomic status. When the boy starts to become manly via puberty they outsource the energy to sports and entertainment.Black boys especially are never praised for their intellect. The whole point of outsourcing the puberty energy in approved directions (sports and entertainment, education only when its to provide for momma) is to give the child "acceptable" outlets that will keep him active while not preparing him to face his mother as an adult, see her faults/bad choices/character defects and therefore incite abandonment anxiety on her part. Many mothers encourage their sons to pedestalize them as it reinforces their delusions as they age out of the dating market (or are no longer attracted to the men on their level).

 

[guyver]

What exactly are you trying to say here? If you have your shit together, there will be nothing negative to put up with.

I disagree. I'm not sure how you are defining having your shit together but typically people are overall talking about having a good job, going to school or at best not doing anything that can damage future opportunities.

If you are just saying the person is doing well for themselves, I wouldn't say that makes you a good person.an educated person or someone who has a career could have negative traits that could hurt their relationship.

 

[theteacher]

First Errrrrrrr!

Why you worrying about what niggaz is typing up in these group on FACEBOOK?!?!?!

People are just typing up whatever??? This is one of the chicks who will get arrested over a Facebook post. SMH.

 

[theteacher]

I agree 80% with her. The only thing that I don't agree with is that these women need to pick better men...

That's what it is too. Niggaz look for chicks they can control, abuse and take advantage of. They do need to pick better men. It ain't too hard.

 

[freshnclean]

Niggaz look for chicks they can control, abuse and take advantage of. They do need to pick better men. It ain't too hard.

..And women look for niggaz that can control them, abuse them and take advantage of them...

Water seeks its own level

I say that because any woman in her right mind would walk away as soon as a man showed signs of dysfunction.....Unfortunately, not all of them are in their right mind.

 

[POSTERBOY]

fat chick is bitter...

Basically.

 

[guyver]

I don't think she really said anything wrong.our old customs or way of living may not fit the current world.in past generations it made sense for women to be fully responsible for taking care of the house. A lot of them didn't work, so it was the man's sole responsibility to provide the funds for the family.

In today's world it would make sense to share household responsibilities if both parties are working.now some people may still lean toward that traditional route, but that is a discussion that should happen before you enter into a relationship and especially before kids are in the picture.

I didn't really agree with her statements about deadbeat dads. You do have women who use their children as tools to control or get back at man

 

[4 Dimensional]

People have a right. And should speak on what they feel.

That's true. People do have that right, however, not everyone should be heard. Some opinions may not be in the best interest to the person that is listening and easily influenced.

 

[A to Dah K]

I agree 80% with her. The only thing that I don't agree with is that these women need to pick better men...

I agree with most ,expect women not working. Fuck that!

 

[ShortyCumStain]

Smart move , waists of time

Waste.

 

[BDR]

I listened to the first 15 secs.. Just her generalizations alone it's hard to take her serious

 

[jagu]

I disagree. I'm not sure how you are defining having your shit together but typically people are overall talking about having a good job, going to school or at best not doing anything that can damage future opportunities.

If you are just saying the person is doing well for themselves, I wouldn't say that makes you a good person.an educated person or someone who has a career could have negative traits that could hurt their relationship.

More the former, meaning that you consistently make good choices and you actually have an ambition with tools to achieve those ambitions or you have acheived it. You treat people how you like to be treated and you're not influenced by your peers or tv.

 

[guyver]

More the former, meaning that you consistently make good choices and you actually have an ambition with tools to achieve those ambitions or you have acheived it. You treat people how you like to be treated and you're not influenced by your peers or tv.

Im going slightly off topic, but your standards of how to treat people may vary from how I feel people should be treated and neither of us would be wrong. In general we are all shaped by our given environment and experiences. For instance you could pro-choice while I'm pro-life.there could be many influences in our lives that created our respective beliefs and educating ourselves on a topic could change our belief or reinforce a belief that was introduced to us as children etc..you may not be easily swayed and you may have formed your final stance on your own, but we are all influence by others throughout our lives.

This goes back to selecting a person based on similar mindsets and not just how well someone is doing in life.I'll never forget someone once telling me "opposites may attract but they also get divorced".granted you will never find someone who agrees with everything you do, you still want to find a person who agrees with your major beliefs.

 

[#blacklivesmatter]

Lol bitter hoe

 

[theteacher]

Basically.

she's not bitter she has a few points. Just like dudes doing those social experiments. Where a chick won't talk to them until they find out he's the driver of a Lamborghini. Niggaz won't be as bitter, but they'll make a video. But this is more of a serious issue. Ehhh, people will have there own opinions.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

That's true. People do have that right, however, not everyone should be heard. Some opinions may not be in the best interest to the person that is listening and easily influenced.

Nah. Cuz everyone has how they feel . telling someone they what they feel shouldnt be heard means this is not a person. In this particular case if shes trying to tell you something you shouldnt treat her that way.

 

[smoovejazz]

Playing vagina's advocate... what if she did actually have her shit together, including having a child?

Do you think she has a valid point in regards to how brother may treat her? I ask this ASSUMING she is a woman with integrity and a healthy value system, which not all woman have of course.

Don't assume...you know what happens when you do that, right?

 

[4 Dimensional]

Nah. Cuz everyone has how they feel . telling someone they what they feel shouldnt be heard means this is not a person. In this particular case if shes trying to tell you something you shouldnt treat her that way.

I don't believe that necessarily means that they are not a person, but more so people not agreeing with what that person has to say or people not wanting to hear what that person has to say. In other words, prejudging.

 

[simonmarcel]

Don't assume...you know what happens when you do that, right?

My troll sense is tingling. Keep your eye on that dude.

 

[kuu]

I'm gonna be blunt. As a dude that "has his own" I ain't checking for a chick that lacks "her own." I slugged it out with these chicks throughout college, grad school, and the job market. These are my competitors and I no longer have the instinct to nurture and protect them, at least not in the way that she wants. When it came to scholarships they caked up on those women only programs, which were meant for white women, but a fraction went to black women. There's so much of that shit that damn near every sista could get something. When it came to the black scholarships it was a bunch of woman dominated committees who damn near only awarded women, or the occasional gay brother. The same shit went on in grad school. A lot of these scholarship programs come with internships and job offers after graduation. I had to do everything the hard way. I had a few small scholarship but most of my education was financed with student loans. After paying the equivalent of a second mortgage, the last thing I'm trying to do is shelter an able bodied woman. It's 2016 and that whole "woman as dependent" thing is over. Hell, part of the reason why rents are so damn high is because you have so many more single women bidding up the prices. Most people can no longer buy houses in middle class neighborhoods with a single person's income. Mortgages for family sized middle class houses used to cost about 25% of the man's income. We have to compete with them for everything. I've had some wins and some losses so I know that they're capable of generating some serious coin. I refuse to pay for OUR NEEDS while she only covers HER WANTS. I'll Netflix and chill for the rest of my life before I let that shit happen. A chick better bring along more than baggage if she wants to be in my life. I don't dangle material wealth in front of women, I dangle advice, and it's only black women that have a problem with that.

I hear you bro. The chick in the video is asking for a lifestyle that makes her look like a lazy hoe. I believe I hear what she's saying about how we TREAT black women as far as our opinions go in regards to saying they ain't shit for xyz. I think we should honor black women more, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be held responsible for the bs they do or neglect.

I definitely feel any women of any race should bring her best to the table. From there we can talk about you being a stay home mother if it makes sense for our dynamic.

You gon suck and fuck regardless though whhooman!

 

[kuu]

One of my observations is that women like that seldom choose the man with crib, car, and decent job....They will make up excuses to not get with a man who has those resources, and say things like "he is corny, lame, has no swag, etc."

In the same breath, when Pookie walks in the room you already know.

It's like those women are projecting their inability to trust men into it unknowingly. As a result, they choose a man that has the least amount of resources, because it enables them to reinforce their lack of trusting men, and also allows them to control the power dynamic.

Another reason they dont get with men who are going places in life is because they know this man will eventually develop options 10 times better than her, as long as he stays consistent and ambitious with his goals, thus another reason to choose the bum with no ambition.

Survival of their ego

 

[kuu]

Don't assume...you know what happens when you do that, right?

I hear you pleighboi

 

[Dr. Truth]

Miserable trashy cunt. Stfu whore.