How do you know when it is time to leave the wife?

[Grea818]

Going thru some shit to where wifey does not understand the meaning of respect of a man. I just got out of school and been working in my field of work (Computers) for 1yr. Last time we got into it she said she does not know if she can go thru 1 more year of me not make enough money ( I make 37,000 for now ). I told her i need to put in my time at this job before I get that big money. I'm trying to get a city job. and in my field they start you at 5600 a mth. And just last night we had talk and she started to tell me how she is use to guys paying for everything cause this is how she watched he mom grow up. And than she tells me how my mom is a giver mind she from the real old school and the islands.And that she should not have to come home from work and cook and clean for her man. she wants to be equal in everything. I told her that is fine but when you talk about money and you say we dont share the same view other than our son. The shit that piss me off is how she thinks it is cool to still go to the club in her half-naked outfits. and than sit up there and tell me we dont have fucking chemistry. My question why fucking go to the club and not try and fix your home. Make me fell good that i can trust you around some horny niggas who got money from the street . Oh she makes 60k and from what i know about marriage this shit is team work so if the books are right we got 97,000 together but she said if we paid bills together she will not benefit from only me.

What you guys think? I need advise from guy married. Oh our 2 year anny is next week.

 

[doggish_098]

that why you shouldnt get married at a young age. The days of getting a factory job making good money wifing a dime and having 2.5 kids before your 25 is over.

 

[BUU]

Based on what you said, you should not have married her in the 1st place. She sounds like a gold digger,

 

[BoiScout]

You didn't know these things about her BEFORE you got married? Was this a shot-gun wedding?

 

[LSN]

Do the guys on this board that come asking for advice listen or pay attention to the words/actions of the women they are with or are you just fixated on the pussy...

And just last night we had talk and she started to tell me how she is use to guys paying for everything cause this is how she watched he mom grow up.

...I mean I say this cause it strikes me as odd that you courted this woman...you dated this woman...you married this woman...you had a child with this woman...and "last night" is the first time you caught wind that she is a on some "spoiled princess" shit...

 

[Grea818]

that why you shouldnt get married at a young age. The days of getting a factory job making good money wifing a dime and having 2.5 kids before your 25 is over.

I here you on that I'm 27 now

 

[LSN]

You didn't know these things about her BEFORE you got married? Was this a shot-gun wedding?

Cooosign!

 

[havelcok]

drop her man
she makes more than you
get that alimoney

 

[Grea818]

You didn't know these things about her BEFORE you got married? Was this a shot-gun wedding?

Nope everything changed after the baby and marriage we knew each other for over ten years we dated for 3 year and been married for 2 before i put the ring on the finger she use to run with me when I was out hustling doing my thing when I was a club promoter. I tell you this she only making that money cause she got that BA from ucla. But before hand no she was my ride or die chick. Now it is we can't do this cause we have a baby. Lil man only 1

 

[kurrupt]

Do the guys on this board that come asking for advice listen or pay attention to the words/actions of the women they are with or are you just fixated on the pussy...



...I mean I say this cause it strikes me as odd that you courted this woman...you dated this woman...you married this woman...you had a child with this woman...and "last night" is the first time you caught wind that she is a on some "spoiled princess" shit...

cosign!!
You aint know this b4 u decided to marry her?? U fucked up bruh!!

 

[PussyMan]

When it is time to leave a woman, nobody will tell U....
You will know and you will also be at the point where you cannot put up with her bull any longer.

 

[Grea818]

Do the guys on this board that come asking for advice listen or pay attention to the words/actions of the women they are with or are you just fixated on the pussy...



...I mean I say this cause it strikes me as odd that you courted this woman...you dated this woman...you married this woman...you had a child with this woman...and "last night" is the first time you caught wind that she is a on some "spoiled princess" shit...

You are right on this i was a fool for this cause I should have talked to the mom more before i married her cause I found over the 2 years of being married moms been thru 2 marriages. I do feel like a dumb as but i do have a son and I scared she will take him and run if I leave.

 

[MrBee]

Bro, I went through the similar circumstances, was working in the service industry, making nice coin…decided I was burned out on it…went to school…(computers) when I graduated, and saw what type of money I was gonna be making to get my foot in the door, I was like fuck that, I’ll just stay where I’m iz….

My wife said to me….I’ll get a part time gig to hold "US" down while ur payin your dues…..

Now granted, I started dating my wife when I was 16, and I’m 39 now, and I am not bragging or nuffin….but my wife is down "WITH" me….

Don’t sound like home girl is down with you….Act according

 

[Grea818]

First and foremost go to radio-shack and get a voice activated phone recorder.Next wate get more info.My guess is its out of your hands,Shes unhappy. 9 times out of 10 shes fucking some dude on the side.The kids always suffer get all your info contact a lawyer see what your options are.

I got that shit on my phone just have not used it.

 

[BoiScout]

Nope everything changed after the baby and marriage we knew each other for over ten years we dated for 3 year and been married for 2 before i put the ring on the finger she use to run with me when I was out hustling doing my thing when I was a club promoter. I tell you this she only making that money cause she got that BA from ucla. But before hand no she was my ride or die chick. Now it is we can't do this cause we have a baby. Lil man only 1

It's funny how niggas say their girl "changed" after they got married. Let me tell you...your girl changed WHEN SHE WAS DATING YOU! The way she is now, is the way is always was. If you think you can handle that child support, bounce. 'Cause it doesn't sound like it's gonna get any better.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Do the guys on this board that come asking for advice listen or pay attention to the words/actions of the women they are with or are you just fixated on the pussy...



...I mean I say this cause it strikes me as odd that you courted this woman...you dated this woman...you married this woman...you had a child with this woman...and "last night" is the first time you caught wind that she is a on some "spoiled princess" shit...

All of these personality traits should have been evident before you got married, so I can't see how you got mixed up with her. Why would a person making 60k want to not work and be taken care of because that's really what she wants, to not work. I wouldn't ordinarily be bothered so much by the going out but when she's complaining "chemistry", she's still on the hunt.

I'm all about families sticking together and marriages staying together but this will not get better. You are two people who have, not just different, but opposing views on life. Cut your lossed now, the longer this takes, the more expensive it will be.

 

[kurrupt]

Bro, I went through the similar circumstances, was working in the service industry, making nice coin…decided I was burned out on it…went to school…(computers) when I graduated, and saw what type of money I was gonna be making to get my foot in the door, I was like fuck that, I’ll just stay where I’m iz….

My wife said to me….I’ll get a part time gig to hold "US" down while ur payin your dues…..

Now granted, I started dating my wife when I was 16, and I’m 39 now, and I am not bragging or nuffin….but my wife is down "WITH" me….

Don’t sound like home girl is down with you….Act according

Fam, u hit the lotto with that one. Cause what u got going is extinct these days. You have to do some real C.S.I work when you decide to shack up officially. THere are too many horror stories we all hear about...and this thread is just one of many

 

[Grea818]

Bro, I went through the similar circumstances, was working in the service industry, making nice coin…decided I was burned out on it…went to school…(computers) when I graduated, and saw what type of money I was gonna be making to get my foot in the door, I was like fuck that, I’ll just stay where I’m iz….

My wife said to me….I’ll get a pert time gig to hold us while ur payin your dues…..

Now granted, I started dating my wife when I was 16, and I’m 39 now, and I am not bragging or nuffin….but my wife is down WITH me….

Don’t sound like home girl is down with you….

Thanks for the advise so tell me if you think this is the right move for me. I was going to sit her down with my mom and her mom and go over this with her one more time and if she does not get the picture i'm turning in my ring.

 

[Supernatural0981]

Well on the bright side if you check out you get alimony right?

 

[Upgrade Dave]

You are right on this i was a fool for this cause I should have talked to the mom more before i married her cause I found over the 2 years of being married moms been thru 2 marriages. I do feel like a dumb as but i do have a son and I scared she will take him and run if I leave.

Okay, this is where you have to be smarter and more patient than your triflin' ass wife (being honest you were still blind to not see this). If she ain't cheating now, she will be. Catch that bitch and divorce her ass. Fight for custody, throw every fucked up trait she's got in her face, including her adultery and constant drinking (you gotta play dirty), and you can get your child AND some child support. This is a time to start thinking how women think.

 

[216thug]

Going thru some shit to where wifey does not understand the meaning of respect of a man...

Key word is RESPECT! Yeah it may sound like some Aretha Franklin shit, but when one or both parties begin or totally lose respect for each other, it's a clear, bad sign that the marriage wont last. If a woman losses respect for a man, it's from difficult to damn near impossible to get it back, especially if it's as superficial as big money = respect.


Get you a farm girl that's used to washing and sewing her clothes by hand bro! j/k

Desert Survivalist

 

[kurrupt]

Okay, this is where you have to be smarter and more patient than your triflin' ass wife (being honest you were still blind to not see this). If she ain't cheating now, she will be. Catch that bitch and divorce her ass. Fight for custody, throw every fucked up trait she's got in her face, including her adultery and constant drinking (you gotta play dirty), and you can get your child AND some child support. This is a time to start thinking how women think.

Sounds like a good idea cause..

 

[Upgrade Dave]

I just let my wife read your post and she's says your wife is fucked up. Fuck that mini-conference and start getting your exit plan together. There are plenty of other women out there that will appreciate a seemingly decent brother like you.

 

[glueguy]

good luck man. sounds like you are going to need it. shit like this is why i am in no hurry to get married.

 

[Grea818]

Okay, this is where you have to be smarter and more patient than your triflin' ass wife (being honest you were still blind to not see this). If she ain't cheating now, she will be. Catch that bitch and divorce her ass. Fight for custody, throw every fucked up trait she's got in her face, including her adultery and constant drinking (you gotta play dirty), and you can get your child AND some child support. This is a time to start thinking how women think.

I know she is up to something cause whenever she does go out she always tells me I have to stay home with my son. I'm like I have a mother who will love to watch him why cant i roll with you. she says girls night. I think she forgot I was a club promoter and I know what pops off in the club. Think I should pay for a PI?

 

[King of Pain]

My advice, having gone through TWO divorces..."you can't change anybody". She is who she is, I agree and understand all of the brothers on here saying what you should have done, but that doesn't help now. My first wife and I were married when I was eighteen, too young, but it could have worked, but she too was the flossy selfish type as you've described your woman to be. I did everything I could but it didn't last. The second was a rebound situation, but I also found traits in her that weren't the most admirable. Finally, I ended up looking at myself and wondered why I chose these types of women. All is well now. Business is good, personal life is good. But the lesson I took from all of this "understand who you are choosing to marry/live with". The wrong choice could cause you to waste alot of time.

 

[BoiScout]

I know she is up to something cause whenever she does go out she always tells me I have to stay home with my son. I'm like I have a mother who will love to watch him why cant i roll with you. she says girls night. I think she forgot I was a club promoter and I know what pops off in the club. Think I should pay for a PI?

Why pay for somebody to tell you what you already know? Start getting your shit together to leave this chick

 

[ankhheru]

it sounds like she is in her attention whore phase and when you was doing shows she enjoyed the club scene because of the attention she used to and still gets from the club dudes. yes she is fucking and you need a "home dna kit" but dont tell her and turn that dam phone recorder on for god sakes. she is looking for a way out and you need to recognize that and act accordingly so you can protect yourself. stop crying to her to get down on your team and spend that time and effort getting your ducks in order.

 

[Grea818]

I just let my wife read your post and she's says your wife is fucked up. Fuck that mini-conference and start getting your exit plan together. There are plenty of other women out there that will appreciate a seemingly decent brother like you.

I guess it is hard I'm trying to work things out cause I dont want my son to grow up with some other dude. but I feel you i just want the best for him.

 

[MrBee]

Thanks for the advise so tell me if you think this is the right move for me. I was going to sit her down with my mom and her mom and go over this with her one more time and if she does not get the picture i'm turning in my ring.

Fam; I cannot tell you what to do, but I will always share what I can with a younger bother, I know your young because ur bringing ur moms in it (no Diss)

When I was a young buck, I was a selfish fucker…every penny I had was spent on me (grew up poor…u know the deal) when I was dating my now wife even as teenagers….she would do for me before she did for herself….me thinking I was a pimp, I was like hell yeah….took me some years and seeing other people I knew relationships, with their selfish gold digging, what have you done for me lately girlfriends to realize how good I had it.

So when I got the hint and started acting accordingly, we grew as a team….the whole is greater than the sum of its parts type of deal….

The chances that you will change a person’s nature are slim…however I did change….

Grain of salt

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[TEE HEE]

Only you can know when it's time to leave. But get legal advise first. Don't let her destroy your self worth.

 

[MrBee]

Fam, u hit the lotto with that one. Cause what u got going is extinct these days. You have to do some real C.S.I work when you decide to shack up officially. THere are too many horror stories we all hear about...and this thread is just one of many

Yeah bru...after this thread and the "are you happy with the women you got preggo" thread....i'm thanking God right now....

1Love

 

[alexw]

Man you already know what you have to do

Bruh, if shes going to club wearing the sluttiest outfits money can buy.....shes fuckin other cats

Ailmony is your friend....its time to change the game on these broads

what usually works for them...will work for you

shes money thirsty.....lets see what happens when she has to truly support...you!!!

that should wake her ass up

my advice....sit down and have own final real conversation with her

find out if there is still any love their on "her" part

It appears that she has lost all respect for you

and this mainly comes from her peers( jealous bitches will ruin shit)

the warning signs have all ways been there, youre just a typical bgol simp who marries hoes off of their looks alone

its deeper than that bros

if she wants to be gone, let her go

dont even fight it

fight for your son by whatever means you can

but sadly you already know how the sytem works

research it, get your visitation rights if she doesnt get her shit together

and most importantly move on!

 

[alexw]

My advice, having gone through TWO divorces..."you can't change anybody". She is who she is, I agree and understand all of the brothers on here saying what you should have done, but that doesn't help now. My first wife and I were married when I was eighteen, too young, but it could have worked, but she too was the flossy selfish type as you've described your woman to be. I did everything I could but it didn't last. The second was a rebound situation, but I also found traits in her that weren't the most admirable. Finally, I ended up looking at myself and wondered why I chose these types of women. All is well now. Business is good, personal life is good. But the lesson I took from all of this "understand who you are choosing to marry/live with". The wrong choice could cause you to waste alot of time.

the gospel

 

[dopemcee]

u know when to leave the wife when the body is charring from the flames you set on her.


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