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Black cheerleader kicked off team because of her hair speaks out: 'All that I wanted was an apology'
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Updated Tue, February 2, 2021, 8:10 AM


Talyn Jefferson shares her story. (talynjefferson via Instagram)
A Black Kansas college student says she was kicked off her school’s cheerleading squad because of her hair.
Beginning her freshman year, Talyn Jefferson was a member of the Ottawa University cheer team. She tells Yahoo Life that her passion for cheerleading comes from her background in gymnastics and she’s participated in the sport since middle school.
“I love the fact that I have found all of my lifelong friendships through the sport, having done it for the last eight years of my life,” Jefferson says. “The sport is year-round, so it always keeps me busy and entertained. I love the acrobatic aspect of cheer as well.”
But her career came to an abrupt halt on Jan. 5, when the college junior and team captain showed up to a regularly scheduled practice in her bonnet. In messages posted to her Twitter account and rehashed to Yahoo Life, Jefferson says that coach Casey Jamerson told her she needed to take off her bonnet, but the 20-year-old refused because she did not want her long box braids to hit her teammates.
Jefferson alleges that Jamerson said that she was using her “hair as an excuse” and then proceeded to become hostile, yelling, “I don’t understand! I do understand! I do Black people’s hair! I’m a cosmetologist! I lived with a Black girl for five years. I do understand what it’s like to have hair like that.”
Jefferson added that she was then kicked out of the practice. She wrote that the next day, during a meeting with Jamerson and the cheer director, she was able to express her concerns about the interaction, which she felt was discriminatory and displayed “microaggressions.” Jefferson said the coach responded, “I’m not racist. It wasn’t a microaggression, I work with Black people, I do Black people’s hair, I have a weave in my hair right now.”

After multiple meetings with administrators, Jefferson was removed from the roster. “They told me that I needed counseling and that I have ‘anger issues’ and that I defy authority,” she wrote. “I am the opposite of angry. I was just standing up for myself.”
Though Jefferson says she was surprised that her coach reacted in such a manner on this particular issue, she admits that this was not the first time Jamerson had said something inappropriate.
“She once made a remark stating ‘not everyone has long pretty European hair’ — as if a Eurocentric look is the appropriate beauty standard for our sport,” Jefferson recalls.
The incident went viral after several of Jefferson’s friends and teammates posted about it on social media, coming to her defense.
MY FRIEND WAS THE CAPTAIN OF THE TEAM LAST YEAR THE REALLY THE KICKER FOR ME!! If she was so bad in the past why was she captain ? She is a DAMN GOOD CHEERLEADER AND SHE WAS DEDICATED ASF NEVER MISSED AN EVENT !
— JayZee (@tharealjayzee) January 22, 2021
“I honestly did not intend to make this a public matter at all. I told my friends and family, the people I felt it was necessary to tell, and I was going to deal with it and try to move past it. However, the screenshots most everyone has seen, I sent those messages to my friend and she decided to post about it publicly to make it known. However, I am very glad that she did. Still, all that I wanted was an apology, which I still have not received,” she says.
According to Jefferson, though most of the reactions have been overwhelmingly supportive, there have been others that have taken the side of her former coach.
“There are some people who use the fact that I did not want my hair to hit anyone against me, by claiming that my braids really were a hindrance,” she says. “Those people seem to be missing the point that it was not directly about the braids or the bonnet itself, but about the microaggressions and the verbal attack. To those people I ask this: If it were my natural hair that was causing an issue on that day of events, don’t you believe that the coach still would’ve said those exact same microaggressions?”
Ottawa University has since made its Twitter account private, but it released a statement to Yahoo Life on Friday claiming that it is limited in its ability to discuss the matter but has done a thorough investigation.
“The University shared statements with the OU campus community and on social media last week that provided the information we are able to share publicly, while still respecting student and staff rights to confidentiality. In what seems to have become an unfortunate trend in today’s society, social media is replete with misinformation regarding this situation. The University has no further comment on this matter,” the statement read in part.
On Saturday, Jamerson resigned from her position. “As I reflect over the events of the past three weeks, I can only conclude that my further involvement with the program is likely to continue to be a distraction for the team, our coaching and athletic staff, and other members of the OU community,” Jamerson said. “I do not want that for anyone involved. My colleagues and I have built a program of which we are very proud. By stepping away now, it is my sincerest desire that the OU cheer program, especially its student-athletes, will continue to grow and flourish.”
Asked for her reaction to Jamerson leaving, Jefferson reponded, “I would just say that I hope this situation has been as much of a learning lesson for her as it has been for me.” She adds that even with Jamerson gone, she doesn’t want to return to the team.
She hopes the same for the university community at large.
“A microaggression does not mean that someone is racist, but that also does not mean that they are not capable of saying racially insensitive things in disregard of their very own white privilege or white benefit,” she explains. “This situation was very unfortunate, but things like this happen and we should not shy away from admitting our wrongdoings, accepting them and apologizing so we can all move forward in a positive light.”
Jefferson says that the incident has been a blessing in disguise, as she has gotten offers from other schools and has also applied to a historically Black college where she hopes she can resume cheerleading.
 
It seems as though more of the story is coming out. Talyn Jefferson apparently has some blame for why the argument took place. Basically, the coach asked her to remove the bonnet. She said no. They got into an argument in which the student was cursing out the coach. This is when the coach dismissed the student. Not for the bonnet, but for insubordination.

We have to be careful about misusing the race card. One day when someone really needs it, the credibility will be used up.

Anyway, I hate those bonnets.
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If I were the coach, wulda just said no bonnets allowed.

Aint no way you gonna be around me in a shower cap.
You can’t tell women shit. Especially our women. I have the “bonnet/shower cap” discussion and women don’t see the issue. I’m talking high earning, educated women. :smh: I don’t date women with weaves or one who would EVER leave Home in any thing close to a rag or bonnet. May as well pajamas or bring your home pillow to the airport. Societal standards dictate if you slept in or can sleep in It, don’t wear it out.
 
It is one thing if it was a person wearing a bonnet at the mall or traveling through an airport but I think it’s another thing if a bonnet was worn during a closed practice, gym training, or even team travel on a bus.

Some of the brothers here should also realize, wearing a bonnet out is the same thing as wearing a wave cap or doo-rag out in public.
 
It is one thing if it was a person wearing a bonnet at the mall or traveling through an airport but I think it’s another thing if a bonnet was worn during a closed practice, gym training, or even team travel on a bus.

Some of the brothers here should also realize, wearing a bonnet out is the same thing as wearing a wave cap or doo-rag out in public.
Cheerleading squads usually practice outside on the track or in the gym. They are always visible. Regarding cheer leaders, it's an appearance thing. I had a chick I dated who became a cheerleader for the eagles. She had to deactivate all of her social media. Couldn't be photographed with other people unless fully made up. Had to come to practice with make on. Crazy stuff.

Bonnets, du-rags, wave caps, etc. are all at home items. On a related note, I can not stand when people wear pajamas to the store. Geesh!!!
 
I hate to see women in those damn bonnets too but she was at practice. I think the coach went overboard. This is also misleading cause she claimed it was about her hair.
 
It seems as though more of the story is coming out. Talyn Jefferson apparently has some blame for why the argument took place. Basically, the coach asked her to remove the bonnet. She said no. They got into an argument in which the student was cursing out the coach. This is when the coach dismissed the student. Not for the bonnet, but for insubordination.

We have to be careful about misusing the race card. One day when someone really needs it, the credibility will be used up.

Anyway, I hate those bonnets.

You cooning for the other side so it all balances out. Race card played you put on your mask and start defending them.

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You can’t tell women shit. Especially our women. I have the “bonnet/shower cap” discussion and women don’t see the issue. I’m talking high earning, educated women. :smh: I don’t date women with weaves or one who would EVER leave Home in any thing close to a rag or bonnet. May as well pajamas or bring your home pillow to the airport. Societal standards dictate if you slept in or can sleep in It, don’t wear it out.

Bruh, I cant wait for those wigs/weaves have played da fuck out!! I cant stand that fake-azz shit!! We got ladies 30-50yrs walking around with baby hair and the sad thing is their hairlines are behind their damn ears!! I better hit the brakes!!!!
 
Cheerleading squads usually practice outside on the track or in the gym. They are always visible. Regarding cheer leaders, it's an appearance thing. I had a chick I dated who became a cheerleader for the eagles. She had to deactivate all of her social media. Couldn't be photographed with other people unless fully made up. Had to come to practice with make on. Crazy stuff.

Bonnets, du-rags, wave caps, etc. are all at home items. On a related note, I can not stand when people wear pajamas to the store. Geesh!!!

Yeah, those cheerleaders live under a strict ass code!!
 
Bruh, I cant wait for those wigs/weaves have played da fuck out!! I cant stand that fake-azz shit!! We got ladies 30-50yrs walking around with baby hair and the sad thing is their hairlines are behind their damn ears!! I better hit the brakes!!!!
Black men have no standards, thus, it won’t go away until those hoes have no hair left to glue to sew into. Let them hoes look like Stephen A. Smith.
:lol: Black women have no incentive to improve and they won’t, so just choose wisely and stick to your principle.
 
All I know is if a man trips over a chick putting on a bonnet before sex....he got more learning to do.

Them same lames will never understand why they cant bring the freak out of her. :lol:
 
Black men have no standards, thus, it won’t go away until those hoes have no hair left to glue to sew into. Let them hoes look like Stephen A. Smith.
:lol: Black women have no incentive to improve and they won’t, so just choose wisely and stick to your principle.

Right on, write on bruh!!
 
All I know is if a man trips over a chick putting on a bonnet before sex....he got more learning to do.

Them same lames will never understand why they cant bring the freak out of her. :lol:

Fuck that bonnet, I'm trying to pull some hair but I'm not sure how this relates to the OP lol
 
All I know is if a man trips over a chick putting on a bonnet before sex....he got more learning to do.

Them same lames will never understand why they cant bring the freak out of her. :lol:
If a woman puts on a bonnet for sex she is more concerned about her hair than being a wife/lover. You stop the action to grab a condom not a goddamn hairnet. :smh: Who wants to fuck a bitch who purposely looks like she ready for bed? Consider the pic of the simp who took his Jordan’s off so he wouldn’t crease em when he got down on one knee and proposed to his girl. He immediately made the shoe the most important thing in that moment. Y’all need to stop dealing with women care more about hair than being in the moment. Hair bonnets, du-rags, turbans are from sleep. Nothing else.
 
If a woman puts on a bonnet for sex she is more concerned about her hair than being a wife/lover. You stop the action to grab a condom not a goddamn hairnet. :smh: Who wants to fuck a bitch who purposely looks like she ready for bed? Consider the pic of the simp who took his Jordan’s off so he wouldn’t crease em when he got down on one knee and proposed to his girl. He immediately made the shoe the most important thing in that moment. Y’all need to stop dealing with women care more about hair than being in the moment. Hair bonnets, du-rags, turbans are from sleep. Nothing else.

Or the broad who took IG pictures of the expensive meal but not the guy who took her on the date
 
If a woman puts on a bonnet for sex she is more concerned about her hair than being a wife/lover. You stop the action to grab a condom not a goddamn hairnet. :smh: Who wants to fuck a bitch who purposely looks like she ready for bed? Consider the pic of the simp who took his Jordan’s off so he wouldn’t crease em when he got down on one knee and proposed to his girl. He immediately made the shoe the most important thing in that moment. Y’all need to stop dealing with women care more about hair than being in the moment. Hair bonnets, du-rags, turbans are from sleep. Nothing else.

From my experiences, women who rushed to put on the bonnet were down to get their faces painted.

I dont know about all that other shit, I just know they got glazed.

Some of these cats can only get vanilla sex from their woman, and arent intuitive enough to know how to bring the freak out of these broads.
 
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If a woman puts on a bonnet for sex she is more concerned about her hair than being a wife/lover. You stop the action to grab a condom not a goddamn hairnet. :smh: Who wants to fuck a bitch who purposely looks like she ready for bed? Consider the pic of the simp who took his Jordan’s off so he wouldn’t crease em when he got down on one knee and proposed to his girl. He immediately made the shoe the most important thing in that moment. Y’all need to stop dealing with women care more about hair than being in the moment. Hair bonnets, du-rags, turbans are from sleep. Nothing else.

Well said, brotha!!
 
From my experiences, women who rushed to put on the bonnet were down to get their faces painted.

I dont know about all that other shit, I just know they got glazed.

Some of these cats can only get vanilla sex from their woman, and arent intuitive enough to know how to bring the freak out of these broads.
Your experience seems to be with dusty bitches who don’t wanna wash their hair until their next appointment. I’ve dated across the spectrum and ONLY the ashy black women put a helmet on like a crash test dummy for sex. :smh: I ain’t sexin any woman with a shower cap on her head unless I woke her up to get some. But keep working hard for loser females and proving my point about black men having low standards.

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It seems as though more of the story is coming out. Talyn Jefferson apparently has some blame for why the argument took place. Basically, the coach asked her to remove the bonnet. She said no. They got into an argument in which the student was cursing out the coach. This is when the coach dismissed the student. Not for the bonnet, but for insubordination.

We have to be careful about misusing the race card. One day when someone really needs it, the credibility will be used up.

Anyway, I hate those bonnets.
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My side chick put me on to the power of the Bonnet. She showed me some hair from my other side chick, this cooly girl. dawg she dropped off a box and was like make sho all yo hoes where this at all times in house. I had no clue how much these hoes be shedding. Side chick saved my marriage and my hoeing. Im pro bonnet lol.
 
Your experience seems to be with dusty bitches who don’t wanna wash their hair until their next appointment. I’ve dated across the spectrum and ONLY the ashy black women put a helmet on like a crash test dummy for sex. :smh: I ain’t sexin any woman with a shower cap on her head unless I woke her up to get some. But keep working hard for loser females and proving my point about black men having low standards.



A black man has low standards because his woman puts on a cap to protect her hairdo?...What if he paid to get it done for her?.....

The better she protects it, the longer it will stay intact. The longer it stays intact, the less you gotta shell out to get her hair done again.

Perhaps you are too broke to understand the importance of maintaining a woman's upkeep when she represents you.
 
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A black man has low standards because his woman puts on a cap to protect her hairdo?...What if he paid to get it done for her?.....

The better she protects it, the longer it will stay intact. The longer it stays intact, the less you gotta shell out to get her hair done again.

Perhaps you are too broke to understand the importance of maintaining a woman's upkeep when she represents you.
You sounds moist. “You must be broke”. Only women say that, so either you’re female or a tender ass dude. I don’t pay for women’s hair or nails. That’s what her paycheck is for, simp. What straight man ever talks about protecting her hair? As a woman, her job is to maintain her beauty not mine. Women with real hair and the ability to maintain it don’t have to look like Allen Iverson during sex. Y’all just week and cape for ashy hoes with Taiwanese weave. My standards are pretty level so I don’t deal with hoes who pump the brakes and run for a du-rag. Lmao!!!! When you bout to smash does she say “We talmbout practice! Practice? Not a game. Not a game! Practice!”

:lol:
 
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