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I'm I wrong for not wanting to date women with kids?
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Not wrong at all. You gotta get it how you live. One thing I learned a long time ago is you may want to sleep with whomever, but you must sleep with one person; yourself. So make sure you're happy with the one you choose.
Go for who and what you want in life. There are plenty of fly honeys even over 30 without kids.
Go for who and what you want in life. There are plenty of fly honeys even over 30 without kids.
no ur not wrong, i had the same standards & stuck with them.. no worries man.. no worries, do u...
naw just recently i made my upgrade to a chick with no kids........and i never been happier
My main bitch was always going thru shit with her childs father and his girlfriend. She would come to my place crying n shit. it was just a on going battle until finally i said fuck it! I broke up with her n got with my younger friend who is issue free n child free.
Then what was even worse was that lil big head nigga destroyed her body tits wasnt even perky no more like what i saw on facebook and not to mention her mop-meat looking stomach because she was so small in petite that base head lil nigga destroyed her stomach
I like my woman slim, skinny, or whatever u call it so when we first hooked up the clothes n pushup bras threw me off she made me wait to fuck and i wasnt tripping but man once i seen her naked i was like
but i still worked wit her until the baby father issues came up
My main bitch was always going thru shit with her childs father and his girlfriend. She would come to my place crying n shit. it was just a on going battle until finally i said fuck it! I broke up with her n got with my younger friend who is issue free n child free.
Then what was even worse was that lil big head nigga destroyed her body tits wasnt even perky no more like what i saw on facebook and not to mention her mop-meat looking stomach because she was so small in petite that base head lil nigga destroyed her stomach
I like my woman slim, skinny, or whatever u call it so when we first hooked up the clothes n pushup bras threw me off she made me wait to fuck and i wasnt tripping but man once i seen her naked i was like
but i still worked wit her until the baby father issues came up
Nothing wrong with it at all. Women with kids are placed in jump off category in my book. I was once dealing with this chick who was divorced with 2 young kids, had a good career the whole nine.... She was bad and my boys were like "yo you need to lock that down" because she had her own crib and a good ass job 
One of my boys was like "she already has a ready made family" but I wasn't trying to hear all that.
Turn's out this chick had 2 different baby father's and her ex was one of those border line stalkers. I could go on and on about dating a chick with kids but the bottom line is you're going to get caught up in some form of drama.
One of my boys was like "she already has a ready made family" but I wasn't trying to hear all that. Turn's out this chick had 2 different baby father's and her ex was one of those border line stalkers
. I could go on and on about dating a chick with kids but the bottom line is you're going to get caught up in some form of drama.
bruh you aint wrong at all. I never dated a chick with kids but I had to consider it at one point because everytime I turned around the chick had a kid(or more). Now Im like fugggg no.
My boy on the other hand. God bless him. He wifed up a chick who had two kids already and the way she would come at him sideways on top of that. I wish him the best but I know its only a matter of time.
My boy on the other hand. God bless him. He wifed up a chick who had two kids already and the way she would come at him sideways on top of that. I wish him the best but I know its only a matter of time.
nope not wrong. I've been in two relationships with chicks who had kid(s). You eventually get attached to the kids but still have to put up with baby father drama even if its HER fault. that shit ain't cool. I never had to come to fight any baby fathers so I'm good on that but still I shouldn't have to accept hearing and seeing arguments and shit. Plus if they wanna get back with the father of the kids, she won't hesitate to do that shit. Leaving you all fucked up!
(sorry, personal shit)
At 26, get your finances in order first and foremost. don't get into any relationships. keep it cordial and simple with these broads especially if that woman has children or even one kid. DO NOT feel sympathy for them either. Let'em find another dude to cuff and babysit.
(sorry, personal shit)At 26, get your finances in order first and foremost. don't get into any relationships. keep it cordial and simple with these broads especially if that woman has children or even one kid. DO NOT feel sympathy for them either. Let'em find another dude to cuff and babysit.
Man that used to bother me then I realized I was doing what was right...why settle when you don't want to. By that I mean you are 26 and don't have any kids => RESPONSIBLE....combine that with Higher Learning- >Smart and Dangerous Brotha - > Women will come after YOU....then you'll be able to choose what you want.
Took me about 5 years but I found that out.
Its so much easier financially when you want to do things or get caught up on bills or further your Education...what I find funny is most the Single Parent ladies I've encountered think they are "ENTITLED"
Took me about 5 years but I found that out.
Its so much easier financially when you want to do things or get caught up on bills or further your Education...what I find funny is most the Single Parent ladies I've encountered think they are "ENTITLED"
Who wants to be the clean up man/beta to someone who already started the family?
Thats the major thing a woman with kids can no longer provide you, to start a fresh family
Also, whose to say she's still not giving the baby daddy a piece every now and then, even if they talk shit about him, he still has the option to come back and smash, weather she's in a relationship or not.
Again, who wants to be the damn clean up man?
Its harsh, but god damn, women who are not selective about the people they mate with, and have kids with are not females you need or want to start families with, its just that simple
Also, in some states, if you stay together for a certain amount of time, that baby momma can hit you up for child support and win on a kid that aint yours, just because she got "accustomed" to your additional standard of living
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Also, in some states, if you stay together for a certain amount of time, that baby momma can hit you up for child support and win on a kid that aint yours, just because she got "accustomed" to your additional standard of living
get the fuck out of here.
Which states please?
We from the the same area try finding one over 17 without a kid
u know what it is out here, we probably ran into the same chicks man
Also, in some states, if you stay together for a certain amount of time, that baby momma can hit you up for child support and win on a kid that aint yours, just because she got "accustomed" to your additional standard of living
I only read the OP's question, not the replies
the answer is NO. fuck that. I've been fucking broads since I was 15 and here i am now, 32 with no kids. Thats because I didn't want any with out being in a real relationship. I don't look down at broads with kids, cause I still knock em out, but when it comes to a wifey, i want someone who was thinking like I was and held off. That's just me.
And don't let weak niggas tell ya "its hard to find a girl without no kids" No its not. You just can't settle for bull shit. If you live in a small ass town, where people get married, have kids and give up on life by 25, get the fuck out. Thats not how life is supposed to be.
the answer is NO. fuck that. I've been fucking broads since I was 15 and here i am now, 32 with no kids. Thats because I didn't want any with out being in a real relationship. I don't look down at broads with kids, cause I still knock em out, but when it comes to a wifey, i want someone who was thinking like I was and held off. That's just me.
And don't let weak niggas tell ya "its hard to find a girl without no kids" No its not. You just can't settle for bull shit. If you live in a small ass town, where people get married, have kids and give up on life by 25, get the fuck out. Thats not how life is supposed to be.
BUMP BUMP...great convo
Yeah and they getting younger and younger with kids.
I don't know what makes them have kids so early,but around here if a chick got potential she either moves quick... or gets knocked up they lock down females quick here lmao
Part of the problem I have is that a lot of these women have children by the most trifling types of men. Niggas on their way to jail, ones who just got out of jail, dopeboys, drug addicts, niggas who have five kids with 5 five other women, and other bullshit. That says something to me about a woman's judgment and intelligence.
Not no, but FUCK NO!!! You most definitely are not.
real talk
get the fuck out of here.
Which states please?
The obvious one is California, listen to some Tom Leykis on this subject on YouTube
New Jersey and Florida have laws where if you live with a female for like 2 yrs, she can hit you up for support
I'm sure the other fam can list horror stories they or others have gone though
fuck that..... i tell women with kids that i dont date women with kids...
that shit is a head ache...... im not helping out with any of the finances related to their kid(s).....in any way shape, form, or fashion.... they hit me wit the face but so what...... on top of that.... i dont think your kids need to be up when i come thru, they dont even need to know we dating/fucking..... some bitches use their kids to help determine if you can date..... then.... you got the possibility of baby daddy / daddies.... returning just cause you there...pluse i want to have kids with someone who doesnt have any!!!!! i think that is a real special thing...... something that you should do with the person that you WILL be with until they die.... there is nothing that you can do to replace the bond with the person that you have your first child with.... when you look @ said kid... you should always recall the feelings that you have / had for the person that you created your children with....
AAAAAAAAAAND some women equate & confuse having children with being in love or solidifying love... especially the ones with daddy issues / abandonment issues........ FUCK THAT!!!!!! BITCH BE GONE!!!!! YOU & YA KIDZ!!!!!!!!!!!! CHRIS BROW THAT HOE...."DEUCES"!
my friend seems to only enjoy dating bitches wit kids ALREADY....... every bitch he's been with , married to had kids already...... he even married a bitch that was pregnant lmbao......
...... he admitted ly had mommy & daddy issues..... he attempts to give the kids what he missed growing up.... fuck that!..... he got a bitch 26 yrs old now wit 2 kids...... 1 he dont like & has told her several times ... but she still wont leave... real talk he is the best thing that has ever happened to her......ever.......oh... he's 42......... i guess the pussy was good.....thats on top of the 2 kids that he has + those kids brothers & sisters........ his ex wife got her lil 5 yr old girl thinking thaqt he's her father.... she was fucking off on him b4 they got married found out & still married the bitch the same day his mother got married......in the same church.....fuck a bitch wit kidz!!!!!!!!!!!
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Yeah and they getting younger and younger with kids.
I don't know what makes them have kids so early,but around here if a chick got potential she either moves quick... or gets knocked up they lock down females quick here lmao
it like they get pregnant if u just look at them
aint no chick living with me unless their my wife, one had a key 2 come thru but not livegood post man
It's funny that most dudes are coming to a consensus on this of all things. But that's good.
No, you are not wrong for having a standard. Stick with your standard, it's a good standard to have. There is nothing wrong with not wanting a woman that already has kids. Some females don't want anymore kids after the one or two they already have, and where does that leave you? Especially if you want kids of your own. Out the door...or you're simpin'.
I used to believe it's ok to date a woman with kids, but not anymore. I started to notice a pattern. Here's the pattern: She's a nice chick, if she's smart she won't introduce you to the kid(s) right away. That's to get you comfortable. It's just you and her...that'll only last for one or two months tops. You will get comfortable, you'll be beatin it up....one day you'll be sleeping over and some bullshit'll happen.
Whether it's drama with the baby daddy or the babysitter....something's going to happen where you're going to get sucked in. Your plans will be ruined and you'll either be babysitting some kid you don't know or you'll be taking them along with you whereever you were planning to go. While we are on drama....peep how she treats the baby father. That's going to be you in the future. Ask her can you talk to dude....if she agrees, ask him all about her, that nigga will tell you the truth! If she doesn't agree...you know something is wrong with her.
You still with this? I ain't done....it gets worse. You just went from getting pussy regularly to getting pussy parttime in like 3.2 seconds. Now that she thinks you're cool with the kid prepare for the kid being around ALL THE TIME! Now your relationship went from "Getting to know you" to "Family time" so you skipped over an important step, that's exploration. So now you got a family with a chick you hardly know.
Peep how she interacts with the kid. Does the kid run all over her? Is the kid spoiled? Is it a little boy? Does he act like a bitch? Do you want to punch him in the chest? All of this matters because again...this is your life now.
Does any of this appeal to you? Because that's pretty much what being with a chick with kids is like.
No, you are not wrong for having a standard. Stick with your standard, it's a good standard to have. There is nothing wrong with not wanting a woman that already has kids. Some females don't want anymore kids after the one or two they already have, and where does that leave you? Especially if you want kids of your own. Out the door...or you're simpin'.
I used to believe it's ok to date a woman with kids, but not anymore. I started to notice a pattern. Here's the pattern: She's a nice chick, if she's smart she won't introduce you to the kid(s) right away. That's to get you comfortable. It's just you and her...that'll only last for one or two months tops. You will get comfortable, you'll be beatin it up....one day you'll be sleeping over and some bullshit'll happen.
Whether it's drama with the baby daddy or the babysitter....something's going to happen where you're going to get sucked in. Your plans will be ruined and you'll either be babysitting some kid you don't know or you'll be taking them along with you whereever you were planning to go. While we are on drama....peep how she treats the baby father. That's going to be you in the future. Ask her can you talk to dude....if she agrees, ask him all about her, that nigga will tell you the truth! If she doesn't agree...you know something is wrong with her.
You still with this? I ain't done....it gets worse. You just went from getting pussy regularly to getting pussy parttime in like 3.2 seconds. Now that she thinks you're cool with the kid prepare for the kid being around ALL THE TIME! Now your relationship went from "Getting to know you" to "Family time" so you skipped over an important step, that's exploration. So now you got a family with a chick you hardly know.
Peep how she interacts with the kid. Does the kid run all over her? Is the kid spoiled? Is it a little boy? Does he act like a bitch? Do you want to punch him in the chest? All of this matters because again...this is your life now.
Does any of this appeal to you? Because that's pretty much what being with a chick with kids is like.
I know a guy who married a woman with 3 kids by 3 different guysand he dont have any kids of his own
Is her name Angel?? Is she from Jersey?
thats like saying am i wrong for not dating girls with fake hair, or white women?
choice is yours playa. you dont have to answer to anybody but yourself out here.
choice is yours playa. you dont have to answer to anybody but yourself out here.
You're asking if you're wrong about wanting a female who doesn't make rash and stupid decisions like having one kid out of wedlock and then repeating that same action again, possibly with yet another man?
Read that twice and you have my answer.
Read that twice and you have my answer.
Man do your thing. Trust me your not wrong. They choose so why cant we. At 26 your young, you can find a chick with no kids just be patient. Now once you hit bout 32 or 33 you might then want to consider a chick with 1 kid if you have to. . Im goin thru this now at 36 but im about to be married so its all good. . TAKE YOUR TIME AND PICK WISELY
Nope
It's funny that most dudes are coming to a consensus on this of all things. But that's good.
No, you are not wrong for having a standard. Stick with your standard, it's a good standard to have. There is nothing wrong with not wanting a woman that already has kids. Some females don't want anymore kids after the one or two they already have, and where does that leave you? Especially if you want kids of your own. Out the door...or you're simpin'.
I used to believe it's ok to date a woman with kids, but not anymore. I started to notice a pattern. Here's the pattern: She's a nice chick, if she's smart she won't introduce you to the kid(s) right away. That's to get you comfortable. It's just you and her...that'll only last for one or two months tops. You will get comfortable, you'll be beatin it up....one day you'll be sleeping over and some bullshit'll happen.
Whether it's drama with the baby daddy or the babysitter....something's going to happen where you're going to get sucked in. Your plans will be ruined and you'll either be babysitting some kid you don't know or you'll be taking them along with you whereever you were planning to go. While we are on drama....peep how she treats the baby father. That's going to be you in the future. Ask her can you talk to dude....if she agrees, ask him all about her, that nigga will tell you the truth! If she doesn't agree...you know something is wrong with her.
You still with this? I ain't done....it gets worse. You just went from getting pussy regularly to getting pussy parttime in like 3.2 seconds. Now that she thinks you're cool with the kid prepare for the kid being around ALL THE TIME! Now your relationship went from "Getting to know you" to "Family time" so you skipped over an important step, that's exploration. So now you got a family with a chick you hardly know.
Peep how she interacts with the kid. Does the kid run all over her? Is the kid spoiled? Is it a little boy? Does he act like a bitch? Do you want to punch him in the chest? All of this matters because again...this is your life now.
Does any of this appeal to you? Because that's pretty much what being with a chick with kids is like.
they passed right by this.