I'm I wrong for not wanting to date women with kids?
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back in the day i would not so much as look at a woman i know got kids....the pussy is just not the same...(wear and tear...).one day i got up and everywhere i looked,women everywhere had kids,shit was like the latest nike or louis hand bag...but i really go out my way to find that tight good good.
You are not wrong, and I had the same thoughts at your age (not like I'm that much older, 28). You're thinking logically. I started thinking the same way after I left my girl and dated a few baby mommas.
How come women can regardless of accomplishments demand a man with paper, degree, house/nice crib, car and no kids.......when her broke ass, taking the bus/train living with roomates/mom, and working on some bullshit medical assistant/billing certificate.
But guess what, it's damn hard finding one that isn't wifed up, ugly, fat, or already so full of herself because she's made it that far without the baby. So I got back with my girl and fucked baby mommas on the side.
The only time I find nice looking women with no kids and their heads on straight is in foreign countries, ie. Dominican Republic. Believe it or not.
How come women can regardless of accomplishments demand a man with paper, degree, house/nice crib, car and no kids.......when her broke ass, taking the bus/train living with roomates/mom, and working on some bullshit medical assistant/billing certificate.
But guess what, it's damn hard finding one that isn't wifed up, ugly, fat, or already so full of herself because she's made it that far without the baby. So I got back with my girl and fucked baby mommas on the side.
The only time I find nice looking women with no kids and their heads on straight is in foreign countries, ie. Dominican Republic. Believe it or not.
No, sir!!!!! I'm at the age where females kids are gone and out of the house. I still wouldn't wife, but if she's cool, we can kick it strong. As for being under the age of 35 with no kids, you should step no whichya way towards females with kids. In fact, stop making them jumpoffs because, that;s how they end up with the next kid by a nigga claiming he wanted no part. I don't fuck with no chick with kids anymore.
You are not wrong. You're not interested in a insta-family. Cool.
No! You go through enough working on a one on one relationship. Throw in disrespectful kids, and baby daddy it’s not worth it. Most chicks with kids don't want more children, so are you so are you to give up your right to procreate. Give up those rights to take care of someone else’s kid. I think these women would be more responsible if captain save a hoe wasn't waiting around like a constellation prize. Your child deserves to be second to no man’s child, and that’s almost impossible when your woman already has children.
Dont be like this dude
Hell n'all and you know why? Because you don't have to. Simply put. If a bitch is mad, ask her, do you like extra fat dudes, or midgets, or dudes with a prostetic, or crossed eyed. Tell 'em like this, when I date a woman, I want to date her and not her kids, I want as few distractions as possible. I love kids, but I just don't think i want to get in a serious relationship with a woman that has them. You have a right to your choices, free world, bitch the choice is made, push on.
You're not wrong but your game shows weakness. Why you care if the chick has kids if you just met? You acting like you wanna marry her from jump. You can't kick it with a chick with a kid because you already imagining being a step daddy? Slow your role homie. You not marrying or moving in so what she has at home ain't gonna change your home. So the Baby daddy came back and stole you girl?
Dude, you're not wrong. You're a very smart man. You're game is not weak. Don't listen to bitch niggas who've made poor decisions in life. ENJOY THE SINGLE LIFE FOR AS LONG AS YOU CAN. You haven't even hit the peek. Trust me, when you hit 30, bomb ass ho's will be lined in front of your door like a Russian bread line.
Keep up the good work.
I ain't mad atcha... and no you're not wrong. Chicks like that are usually looking for a meal ticket and a sponsor, IMO... I dated a chick wit 2 kids and started getting that vibe from her almost immediately. Fucked her twice and she started having random conversations about wanting to settle down and all that shit.... No Deal... she had two C sections so the pussy was still tight.
There are some single moms out there who are good women but the bad apples spoil it for the bunch as far as im concerned.
There are some single moms out there who are good women but the bad apples spoil it for the bunch as far as im concerned.
Aint nothing wrong with that. There's no need to fill in the role of the father for kids that arent yours. Saves you money and saves you from unwanted drama from the mother or the child's real dad. However, if you willing to work something out, you have to keep your options open because if your not down for being serious with the woman, you can get caught up whether you smashed or not.
No, you are not wrong at all. Like dude said, you aren't into the insta-family deal. My cousin did that shit twice. First time she had 4 kids, married her but it didn't work out. This time she had 2 kids and he is still with her. I can't blame him because his father met his mom when she had 3 kids.
Under normal conditions I couldn't do it unless I meet a SPECTACULAR woman. I ain't talking dime, truth be told dimes are some of the most shallow, talentless bitches on Earth because their only "talent" is superficial. They never learned how to cook, clean, be nice, hold a conversation, suck dick properly, fuck you back when you are giving it to them, get their own off of THEIR OWN sweat and tears, or carry their own weight. But they know how to play helpless. "Do this for me (batting eyelashes)". I will take a solid 5-8 with a level head and her shit together.
I met this one chick at work today who has 2 kids (13 and 5) but she has a Masters in public admin and is one quarter from her SECOND Masters in Global admin, plus she is fluent in sign language. A chick like that i could get with. She has her shit together. But your average working at a $10/hour job with one, two or three kids...NO CHANCE IN HELL. You know you fucked up, don't you?
I am married, now, but I ain't fucking with women with kids. I'm 33, with no kids. I did it, whey couldn't you? Abortions ain't that bad. Somebody needs to start a folks without kids dating website.
www.idonthavekidsUshouldnteither.com
Chick #1 - Had a daughter by a dude that used to hit her. Fought that nigga twice for disrespecting my crib when he'd come pick up his daughter. She hated me for stomping the nigga that used to beat her, and never picked his daughter up when he promised.
Chick #2 - Had a son by a crazy, well-known drug dealer (I didn't know upfront). Got into some shit with a dude that ran in his crew on some "Does (name) know you out fucking around on him?" Girl- "We ain't even together no more, so quit trippin'!" Fought that nigga because, well, he got up in my chest, so blows was thrown! Bounced on that bitch!
Chick #3 - (LOL! Yeah, I know, I know!) Homeboy didn't want to pay child support, plus he saw her with a good dude, so he came back on some "get back together" shit. She decided to give him another chance. He beat her up. Glad I bounced!
Chick #4 -WILL NEVER FUCKING EXIST!
Chick #1 - Had a daughter by a dude that used to hit her. Fought that nigga twice for disrespecting my crib when he'd come pick up his daughter. She hated me for stomping the nigga that used to beat her, and never picked his daughter up when he promised.
Chick #2 - Had a son by a crazy, well-known drug dealer (I didn't know upfront). Got into some shit with a dude that ran in his crew on some "Does (name) know you out fucking around on him?" Girl- "We ain't even together no more, so quit trippin'!" Fought that nigga because, well, he got up in my chest, so blows was thrown! Bounced on that bitch!
Chick #3 - (LOL! Yeah, I know, I know!) Homeboy didn't want to pay child support, plus he saw her with a good dude, so he came back on some "get back together" shit. She decided to give him another chance. He beat her up. Glad I bounced!
Chick #4 -WILL NEVER FUCKING EXIST!
Hey, you gave them three strikes. Those bitches are OUT!!!
Nope not even.
Chick #1 - Had a daughter by a dude that used to hit her. Fought that nigga twice for disrespecting my crib when he'd come pick up his daughter. She hated me for stomping the nigga that used to beat her, and never picked his daughter up when he promised.
Chick #2 - Had a son by a crazy, well-known drug dealer (I didn't know upfront). Got into some shit with a dude that ran in his crew on some "Does (name) know you out fucking around on him?" Girl- "We ain't even together no more, so quit trippin'!" Fought that nigga because, well, he got up in my chest, so blows was thrown! Bounced on that bitch!
Chick #3 - (LOL! Yeah, I know, I know!) Homeboy didn't want to pay child support, plus he saw her with a good dude, so he came back on some "get back together" shit. She decided to give him another chance. He beat her up. Glad I bounced!
Chick #4 -WILL NEVER FUCKING EXIST!
well damn my dude
to the op I agree with you 100%. I to use to be the same way when I was your age, If a chick had a kid I wouldn't do nothing with her but fuck and go.But as time went on and I got older and hit 31 I started to realize that more and more women were having kids and some of them were really cool women and I had to change my way so know I try to mess around with women who only have one and they are doing something with thereselves besides eating off my tax dollars and waiting for the child support check to come in the mail, and I think someone said date outside your race but hell white broads are getting knocked up too. So do you homie.
I already know man. That's how it always is. Honestly I can't lie, I can't put up with the fact that another dude has the legal right to be an asshole and show up at my house(if I move in) whenever he wants. I can see if it's really for the kids and really in good nature but most of those dudes just wanna be funny.
I would do the opposite of what "JD Ocked Twice" says.
C/S A real man handles his own business.
Your absolutely positively not wrong and it's your prerogative to not to date a woman with kids. You have the right to choose what you want from each person.
Women with kids are no longer at the top of the list for mate selection when she has children. Some women can't understand this and feel they are entitled to the same men as single women and your somehow wrong for not lowering your standards. They're determine to have their cake and eat it too.
Don't settle for a woman with kids there are plenty single women out there with kids.
Women with kids are no longer at the top of the list for mate selection when she has children. Some women can't understand this and feel they are entitled to the same men as single women and your somehow wrong for not lowering your standards. They're determine to have their cake and eat it too.
Don't settle for a woman with kids there are plenty single women out there with kids.
I was in this situation....you have to establish your boundries for yourself quickly...as in...let her know what your looking from her and what you won't do or not comfortable playing the "new daddy" role (at least until you decide to take it serious ya see you have to really read the female your dealing with! The single mom that is moving foward in her life will have a lot of things to offer on the table mentally as she is putting her kids life ahead of everything...this is a very POSITIVE and STRONG attribute to have in a woman...granted you know a hood rat hustle when you see it...mainly laying up with nxt dudes real quick and over extending time for men over their child.(hoes looking for a captain...not a mate ya dig?) I'm on the hunt for a childless woman and as I get older its harder to find but don't discount a female before you know HOW she handles HER situation you can miss out on a lot of good options.
