If you're a single man with no kids, dating a woman that already has kids isn't a great idea. I was dead against it when I was young, hit my 30's and said you know what... she only has one. Aside from that, she seems to have her shit together so why not? Then, I quickly learned why not. There's just so many ways the shit can go wrong, but for me it went wrong with the baby daddy. Dude had never shown any interest in his kid, whether it was spending time or financial support. But as soooooooooon as he realized that she was fuckin someone else, all of a sudden he wanted to see his son.
I don't do drama or bullshit, have lived my life avoiding ignorant situations. But, having grown up in Bham, you know in those situations you'd be better off with the iron on you just in case. Dude decided he wanted to show up one day on some ignorant shit. I'm quiet and to myself, but, back me into a corner and I'll flame your ass real quick like. I decided it was better to just call the law and let them deal with it so that's exactly what I did. Otherwise, you'd have likely seen me on one of those bodycam videos on youtube after I just laid someone's baby daddy out on their front lawn.
Only way I'll ever do it again is if the kid is already grown and gone. Bessemer Alabama folks don't have much sense so I shouldn't have had my ass out there to begin with. She was fine though, that's what sucked me in.
